To answer your question I guess it depends on the situation or how much you care about the other person. If the relation ship is not that serious (i.e your just waiting for your turn to make the next pick at the draft) Then keep faking it. OTOH if your really in a serious relationship you have to risk it’s all in the way you approach it.

Anyone who has read the various postings by the One, Mr. Cammack, might recognize my name and pretty much know that I tend to chime in with hard held “facts” based on my own opinions and/or personal experiences. I will deviate from that for a brief moment as I do have questions that could use some answers. For instance faking it till you make it, when does that stop and who is expected to stop?? Better yet, why is the man expected to continue faking it but the woman can suddenly find the righteous and honest side of her personality?

For instance: “Honey does this dress make me look fat”? What’s the right answer?
“Not at all sweetie, that cheeseburger you just ate makes you look fat”, NO!
“What? No No, that extra chin makes you fatter than that dress ever could”, NO!
“Baaaaaby, the azz that has no starting point and the back that has no ending… That’s what makes you look fat.”, again NO!!

The correct answer “No my love it doesn’t.” AND even this response will open the door to the next argument of the day “How do you know?? You didnt even look!!”!

Now, that would require me to keep faking it at a time which should see our relationship in a position to be able to withstand a little honesty or criticism. After all, its her love and appreciation for us that makes her be brutally honest even when we DON’T ask

For instance: “Uhm, baby… those pants look tight on you. When was the last time you wore them?”. Expected answer “Thank You love, what would I do without you?”.
“Don’t get carried away, I seen/had bigger/better…”. Expected response “ok, you right. I was getting a little too big for my own good.”
(Can you imagine telling HER that you seen a better body or had better sex??)

A woman is prone to poke your gut even if you havent gained a pound since the two of you met BUT dont get caught noticing that she may have gained some “happy” weight. Shyt, if its happy weight then you should be happy I noticed!

Basically we all understand that we all put on an inflated perception of who we are when trying to snag the other person, Faking it ’till you Make it!! But the questions beg to be asked, how long does the faking continue and why does it not apply evenly to both??

Penelope… Bill…????

Men care about so little that it’s going to be tough for a woman that just wants to run her mouth (or does it without knowing she’s doing it) to hit relevant topics that he might authentically engage her in. Of course, he’s going to murmur “Uh Huh”, “Yeah?”, “Oh Yeah?”, “Really?” to make her feel like he’s paying attention to her when he obviously never turned his head away from the television with the game on (which she never noticed, because she’s too busy talking incessantly). I think this adds to the problem.

Tough Love would be to inform her that he doesn’t care about what she’s talking about and give her a list of viable topics.. Football, Chicks, Beer, you know… Good stuff. Useful stuff. If she wants to talk about that, they’ll both enjoy it. Otherwise, she can keep it to herself.

Unfortunately, this usually results in the woman keeping SEX to herself, which negates your reason for spending time with her in the first place. This is why guys don’t say anything about chicks babbling about nothing. It’s all a means to an end. “Go Along to Get Along”. It still creates a spiral of non-communication because the guy keeps ignoring her so she keeps giving it up.

I think men are LESS annoyed by women at work, because there are relevant things for the women to talk about. As annoying as it is to hear about how their day was or what happened when they went shopping, I can listen to an INTELLIGENT woman speak about her field of expertise ALL. DAY. LONG! :D Women have no idea how great it is to be able to “talk shop” with them. It’s such an anomaly, it’s just FANTASTIC! :D

So I think talking with women at work would be way better than talking with women that don’t have any particular career and are basically unskilled laborers. ULs didn’t actually DO anything today, so they shouldn’t have anything to SAY about today. :D … BUT NOOOOOOOO! Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak Yak….

Thanks for the comment, Brian! :D