So in other words, BE What women want. Don’t be yourself. So much of diversity hunh? If you are male and you do not fit into “what women want” you are socially excluded from society. From even the possibility of having a relationship, right? yet, we often hear about women’s sufferage. Talk about oppression man. I am sorry that men do not have the right to be themselves. But I guess we can see how people like Adolf Hitler and other horrors in history were embraced and even worshiped. So long as “he has money”. Or “The personality”, he’s A OKAY. Right? men must mold themselves into what other people want. Right? Just so women will accept us. because there is so much out here against being a man. We must reaasure ‘women’ that we are okay, ‘safe’, so whatever you do, don’t be an artist or anything that will make you ‘different’ in women’s eyes. Because that will give you a distinct disadvantage. Plus as the author said, women are raised to “receive gifts based on their looks”. So given that that reflects an equal and just society. One must embrace that fact and know that in order to get ahead a man must cater to that fact of privledge that is ‘given’ to women o nthe basis of their gender. Yes, this all makes a lot of sense. No wonder VA tech happened and a number of other shootings. It’s not hard to see the almost insane levels of societal pressures placed on males in this joint. It’s pretty sad. What’s worse is the amount of male complacency and female support for this institutionalized system of male degradation.

In fact, if you scroll up in the comments, reader “Randy” said the same thing here => http://billcammack.com/2008/03/16/why-dont-women-approach-me/#comment-18229 and I replied to him here => http://billcammack.com/2008/03/16/why-dont-women-approach-me/#comment-18229 which I will copy and paste, and then address your particular statements:

Essentially, you’re absolutely right, Randy. I was attempting to offer a ray of HOPE! :D

You will notice, though, that before that statement, I said “So, the first thing you might want to recognize is that you’re not ‘fly’, so chicks aren’t SUPPOSED to be approaching you”.

Nice guys definitely finish last. I know this because I’m a nice guy, haha and I’ve “finished last” to some INSANELY INFERIOR dudes because they were the ones who were more aggressive with their raps. I mean, on paper, visually, physically, mentally, across the board, I should have easily “gotten the girl” instead of them, but technique won the day, as the guys knew what bullshit to feed the chicks to get them to lay down and then summarily discarded them, as was their plan all along. :D

The reason the “narcissism soft-side” technique works is that chicks like to believe that they’re special. It’s better for their self-esteem to feel like they pulled a guy that’s extremely discriminating when it comes to women than it is for them to believe that either he’s a stone-cold player or that he’s just trying to get some from any gal that will give it to him.

Also, as you mention, it presents the guy as a challenge, and we all know how women LOOOOOVE to change things, so they’re thinking about how they’re going to “make him theirs”, when, in reality, he’s running the same game on as many chicks as he met in the last week. :D

Now.. :D Let me attempt to elaborate on what I was saying, because I agree with you that it’s kind of vague and seems to imply that Nice Guys don’t finish last, which they most definitely do.

The first point is that that particular advice was for someone that is ALREADY. LOSING!!! :D .. If you’re already not getting any girls, it’s in your best interest to try ANYTHING that might improve how they perceive you… and, Yes.. That includes doing something that would normally get you run over by chicks like a truck. You’re *already* getting run over… If I suggest for you to roll over on one side, either you get run over again, like you’ve already been getting run over, or MAAAAAYBE something changes for you.

The second point is, and this just came up on Facebook yesterday, Nice Guys are intimidated by attractive women. Sharks are intimidated also, but they’re willing to throw their hat in the ring because they know it’s a numbers game, and it’s better to get rejected by 60 chicks and pull 1 than it is to get rejected by 0 and pull 0.

Because of this, attractive women meet A. LOT. OF. JERKS.

There’s no reason for a guy to treat a gal like she’s special if he has another 59 women he wants to meet to see if he can get some. Whatever he doesn’t like about her, he’s just going to bounce and spend time with a different chick. He doesn’t even have to pretend to like her as a person. He doesn’t even have to play it off that the only reason he’s talking to her is so he can get laid, and that if she’s not down with the program, this conversation is over.

THEREFOOORREEEEE :D … If you’re already losing, and you’re already not getting any raps, and no girls like your physical presentation, I say (that’s my story, and I’m stickin’ to it! haha) that being nice to them (whether you actually feel that way or not) is at least an opportunity for you to differentiate yourself from the wolfpack that’s always trying to tag up on her ass.

Now… I’m not saying that’s going to get you laid. I’m saying that’s going to get you CONSIDERATION, which is the first step to getting laid… Women are strange like that. If you look busted, but then they really, really, really, REALLY like you, you have a chance of somehow becoming sexually viable to them. I can’t understand this at all, because no matter how much I like a chick’s personality, she still LOOKS the same to me, and I’m not going to be more physically turned on by her without a change in her body type, dressing style, whatever.

On top of that, not only do you have your foot in the door with this one chick, but who do you think is going to get the call to roll to parties where all her girlfriends are going to be? o_O the dude that stepped to her, didn’t get on, told her to go screw herself and then bounced, or the guy that actually talked to her and that she considers a “friend”?.. See how that works? You might get stuck in the Friend Zone with this one chick, but that means all of her homegirls are fair game. You walk in the door ENDORSED by a chick whose opinions about guys they respect. Does that mean you have to be “friends” with any of the rest of them? Nope. But the point is, you showed up at the party with an automatic entourage instead of by yourself, as usual, or with one or more OTHER GUYS that don’t know what they’re doing when it comes to rapping to women.

So it’s a “Try to get up out of the road so you don’t get run over again” last ditch effort. It’s a kickstart. It’s like when you’re in the hospital and they shock you with the pads. :D

As far as the rest of what you said, you’re talking about LONG-TERM NICENESS! hahaha Of course, that’s not the way to go. I talked about what happens to Long-Term Nice Guys in my safe sex video:

So, to review… :D

If you’re already losing, do whatever you can to try to improve your image. This includes all the stuff you SHOULDN’T do, which is buying girls drinks http://billcammack.com/2008/03/05/buy-a-girl-a-drink-somehing-for-nothing/ using gimmicks, borrowing your friend’s car (or, at least, getting him to let you drive it past the club while he sits in the passenger seat, HAHAHA!), lying, talking about jobs you don’t have or record companies you’re not affiliated with, and, Yes… BEING NICE, because if you don’t do anything differently, you’re going to get what you’ve BEEN GETTING, which is NOTHING.

However.. Only get involved in relationships with chicks that have mutual respect for you. That’s YOUR job, to figure that out before you commit. Dudes don’t know when to turn it off with the “niceness”/gullibility. If a chick is using you for your money, she’s going to keep doing it as long as she can, or until she meets a richer guy to leech from. In fact, she might keep both of y’all, haha Now That’s Pimpin’!!! >:D

So yeah.. You gotta do like my man Swayze in “Road House”:

I want you to be nice…
..untiI it’s time to not be nice.
Well, how’re we supposed to know when that is?
You won’t. I’ll Iet you know.
You are the bouncers. I am the cooIer.
All you have to do is watch my back and each others’.
Take out the trash.

That point was to really get a woman’s interest a guy needs to be “nice”.

No No and No

Guys who are “nice” are the ones who oftentimes in life finish last.

“Nice” guys are the ones left with a huge mortgage, Alimony, not seeing their kids etc while the wife they were nice too is shacking up with her boyfriend after divorcing the “Nice” guy.

“Nice” guys are the ones sulking off home with no play after laying down a few bills on dinner, a Broadway show and flowers…while the woman he just treated “Nice” is calling up another dude…who is not so “Nice” to give her the loving the “Nice” guy did not get.

Come On Bill…we need you to stay strong my brother and don’t go soft…keep telling it like it is and don’t start those guys who don’t have as much experience and play as you to mess up their life (love life, finances etc) by being nice…

In some situations you’re right. In the worst-case scenario, every female available to you wants things that you don’t have now and are never going to have. That’s a messed up situation, for sure.

Second worst-case is that all the women YOU WANT want things that you don’t have and aren’t ever going to have. In that situation, all you need to do is lower your standards, and there are lots of women available.

You also might need to change locations. If you live in the sticks, and there are only like 15 girls available, you’re short. It’s all a numbers game, man. The more the merrier. I know it seems like a large brick wall and that women all SEEM the same after a bunch of the same experience with them, but the game you need to play is finding that needle in the haystack.

Good Luck! :D