I’ll check out your site! :D

Don’t get me started on how rude and spoiled people are who *come* here (no offense to you, tatiana, Im mostly thinking of the men who vacation here or even the bridge and tunnel crowd who treat Manhattan like a college campus). My family has been in NYC for nearly a century, working, socializing, getting married and raising children. It just shouldn’t be that hard. I’m trying to get my mom to move down here when she retires…with the recession everyone in my family has been pretty much priced out and left with a generally bad taste in their mouths regarding the homeland of our ancestry. Well, I guess it’s time to move on right..

The trouble with this premise is that it presupposes that whether or not men are seeking relationships to begin with is simply due to the availability of hot chicks. While the statistics may be part of it (hell it’s hard for *me* to keep looking at my boyfriend sometimes when I’m overrun with young male hotties everywhere! Oh MAN is it nice to have the tables turned!) — I have a sense that alot of how men view relationships has to do also with other aspects of their environment, upbringing and individual psychology. What they learned to expect, their previous experiences and how they’ve learned to view women in general. Many men have friends who are married, or sisters and try to act in a way that would be fair to them, and are taught to treat women a certain way since they were children, and many of them try hard to keep us happy so we don’t cheat on *them*. It also has to do with how you vibe with that person, how happy you are with them and how great your connection is. It’s only logical to expect that psychology plays a part in how willing men are to commit; to discount this is the height of denial.

Other women have brought up this point, and I will again assert that not all men are the exact same. This is pretty misandrous and I don’t buy it anymore than *all* women always love babies and romantic comedies and doing our nails while chatting about how Heidi Montag ruined her looks. Personally I’d rather kill myself. Sure I like dressing up and doing my hair but give me a book about mushrooms or a Nova episode about the ancient Mayans and I’m happy. Neither men nor women are entirely the same, not even about our sexuality or romantic desires. Some of us even *gasp!* care about having a partner!!!!!

My boyfriend actually hasn’t dated in years, and had some qualms about ‘committing’ after being hurt a long time ago, but look how easily he fell into it after meeting me, as long as we were moving a bit slow at first. Maybe he didn’t have any interest in sleeping around with random women, maybe he’s careful and responsible, maybe he’s sensitive…maybe he sensed that I’m not going to abandon him….maybe because we’re very compatible??