Comments on: Women’s Guide to NYC Dating http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/ Mon, 08 Sep 2008 10:05:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Why Guys Catcall | Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-17070 Why Guys Catcall | Bill Cammack Fri, 25 Jul 2008 17:32:13 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-17070 [...] an endless supply of chicks in this town. By one report, there are 210,820 excess single women in NYC. This means that when it comes to kicking game, women are completely expendable. You can ruin a rap [...] [...] an endless supply of chicks in this town. By one report, there are 210,820 excess single women in NYC. This means that when it comes to kicking game, women are completely expendable. You can ruin a rap [...]

]]> By: Don’t Play Yourself | Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-16806 Don’t Play Yourself | Bill Cammack Sat, 21 Jun 2008 20:28:01 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-16806 [...] there were a bunch of unattractive females with lame personalities = you lose business. There are literally too many extra women in this town to interact with unintelligent or crabby females…. 210,820 extra, to be [...] [...] there were a bunch of unattractive females with lame personalities = you lose business. There are literally too many extra women in this town to interact with unintelligent or crabby females…. 210,820 extra, to be [...]

]]> By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-16527 Bill Cammack Wed, 04 Jun 2008 21:01:58 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-16527 Thanks for the comment, nycmaiden. I've yet to post about "online dating", because it's clearly THE WORST! There's no reason AT ALL someone that types to you on a keyboard or sends text messages to you would necessarily feel any goodwill towards you whatsoever. There's no real connection between you. Also, there's no sense of potential loss. If they mess up the rap to you... who cares? They're kicking it to at least 20 other chicks anyway and whatever pans out pans out. The best bet in dating is to date people who friends of yours already know. Checks & Balances. That way, if the person's a jerk, your friends can tell you so off the bat. Also, they're less likely to cross personal boundaries of yours because besides not getting on with YOU again, they lose face in front of their friends that know you and the rest of their community. NYC isn't just a haven for freaks and liars. It'a a haven for ACTORS. There are a lot of people here who try to live into roles that aren't natural to them. Unfortunately, the only way to tell what's what is to hang out with someone and find out what they're really like. Don't believe all that you heard Or half of what you see It's a waste of time To criticize Don't De-Rock ME! :D ~<i>Tesla</i> Thanks for the comment, nycmaiden.

I’ve yet to post about “online dating”, because it’s clearly THE WORST! There’s no reason AT ALL someone that types to you on a keyboard or sends text messages to you would necessarily feel any goodwill towards you whatsoever. There’s no real connection between you. Also, there’s no sense of potential loss. If they mess up the rap to you… who cares? They’re kicking it to at least 20 other chicks anyway and whatever pans out pans out.

The best bet in dating is to date people who friends of yours already know. Checks & Balances. That way, if the person’s a jerk, your friends can tell you so off the bat. Also, they’re less likely to cross personal boundaries of yours because besides not getting on with YOU again, they lose face in front of their friends that know you and the rest of their community.

NYC isn’t just a haven for freaks and liars. It’a a haven for ACTORS. There are a lot of people here who try to live into roles that aren’t natural to them. Unfortunately, the only way to tell what’s what is to hang out with someone and find out what they’re really like.

Don’t believe all that you heard
Or half of what you see
It’s a waste of time
To criticize
Don’t De-Rock ME! :D
~Tesla

]]> By: nycmaiden http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-16526 nycmaiden Wed, 04 Jun 2008 20:45:20 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-16526 For those that troll the internet for fast, easy hook-ups, NYC has by far anything and everything to be had sexually...even depravity. However, for those of us who truly want to find a lasting mate to share life with, relate to, to feel comfortable and safe with, NYC is virtually a cesspool of players, liars and sex exploiters. These men lurk on conventional dating sites as well, not to mention the alternative sex sites that are cropping up all over the place. I had an experience that has left me scarred. We met on a site while he was in LA...started out as long-distance. He explained his desires as being mutual for a long-lasting relationship, mentioning all the niceties that a woman wants to hear. Sharing, similar goals, etc. We chatted every few days, then daily. This went on for 3 months. He was BRITISH, in the fashion business and traveled extensively around the world and seemed sincere. ALOT of text messaging every day...how impersonal. We finally agreed he come to me in Denver. He initiated the conversation about getting tested for STDs. It was too good to be true...we had SO much in common. All seemed glorious. It was VERY clear he had much sexual experience. Another 3 months of daily communicating and I agreed to see him in NYC. When I arrived tho, he seemed extremely nervous. My instincts by this time were becoming louder. I had already experienced the gut feelings and little red flags, but when endorphins take over, the brain gets muddled. That weekend in NYC, I found out purely by accident, he had a daughter in London and he was a fetishist. This was clearly not what I signed up for...so watch out and be safe...lying freaks in NYC are plentiful! For those that troll the internet for fast, easy hook-ups, NYC has by far anything and everything to be had sexually…even depravity. However, for those of us who truly want to find a lasting mate to share life with, relate to, to feel comfortable and safe with, NYC is virtually a cesspool of players, liars and sex exploiters. These men lurk on conventional dating sites as well, not to mention the alternative sex sites that are cropping up all over the place. I had an experience that has left me scarred. We met on a site while he was in LA…started out as long-distance. He explained his desires as being mutual for a long-lasting relationship, mentioning all the niceties that a woman wants to hear. Sharing, similar goals, etc. We chatted every few days, then daily. This went on for 3 months. He was BRITISH, in the fashion business and traveled extensively around the world and seemed sincere. ALOT of text messaging every day…how impersonal. We finally agreed he come to me in Denver. He initiated the conversation about getting tested for STDs. It was too good to be true…we had SO much in common. All seemed glorious. It was VERY clear he had much sexual experience. Another 3 months of daily communicating and I agreed to see him in NYC. When I arrived tho, he seemed extremely nervous. My instincts by this time were becoming louder. I had already experienced the gut feelings and little red flags, but when endorphins take over, the brain gets muddled. That weekend in NYC, I found out purely by accident, he had a daughter in London and he was a fetishist. This was clearly not what I signed up for…so watch out and be safe…lying freaks in NYC are plentiful!

]]> By: Be Original & Useful | Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-16491 Be Original & Useful | Bill Cammack Mon, 02 Jun 2008 14:22:02 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-16491 [...] or thought. I might use other people’s material as a foundation for what MY point is, like in Women’s Guide to NYC Dating, but I make a CLEAR distinction between what someone else posted and what’s coming directly [...] [...] or thought. I might use other people’s material as a foundation for what MY point is, like in Women’s Guide to NYC Dating, but I make a CLEAR distinction between what someone else posted and what’s coming directly [...]

]]> By: “Significant” Others | Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-16484 “Significant” Others | Bill Cammack Sun, 01 Jun 2008 14:26:22 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-16484 [...] as if what they’re doing has ANY meaning, whatsoever. I was hanging out with one of the 210,820 extra chicks in this town last night, and, as usual, there were numerous packs of 3-5 chicks scampering around the city from [...] [...] as if what they’re doing has ANY meaning, whatsoever. I was hanging out with one of the 210,820 extra chicks in this town last night, and, as usual, there were numerous packs of 3-5 chicks scampering around the city from [...]

]]> By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-16120 Bill Cammack Thu, 24 Apr 2008 17:14:35 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-16120 Thanks Ian. :) 'Tis true. Around here, the song remains the same. Supply and demand is not in the women's favor around here, but a lot of them still act like it is. It's only *their* loss when guys don't want to kick it with them because of how they carry themselves. PS - Thanks, <a href="http://lindseychen.com/" rel="nofollow">Lindsey</a>, for the reblog haha ;) Thanks Ian. :)

‘Tis true. Around here, the song remains the same. Supply and demand is not in the women’s favor around here, but a lot of them still act like it is. It’s only *their* loss when guys don’t want to kick it with them because of how they carry themselves.

PS - Thanks, Lindsey, for the reblog haha ;)

]]> By: Ian Jenkins http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-16119 Ian Jenkins Thu, 24 Apr 2008 16:54:57 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-16119 Awesome article. It's a shame though, because I know nobody will use that great advice :) Awesome article. It’s a shame though, because I know nobody will use that great advice :)

]]> By: Calling all single women in NYC (and other places too!) « Urban Updater http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-16118 Calling all single women in NYC (and other places too!) « Urban Updater Thu, 24 Apr 2008 15:37:21 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-16118 [...] Read this awesome post by Bill Cammack on a Woman’s Guide to NYC. [...] [...] Read this awesome post by Bill Cammack on a Woman’s Guide to NYC. [...]

]]> By: 6 Reasons New York City Is The Neverland Of Dating (For Da Fellaz) | Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-16105 6 Reasons New York City Is The Neverland Of Dating (For Da Fellaz) | Bill Cammack Tue, 22 Apr 2008 00:18:41 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-16105 [...] good looking girls per capita… it’s merely by population density. As I mentioned in the women’s guide to NYC dating, NYC happens to be THE PLACE TO BE with an excess of females to the tune of 210,820 more single [...] [...] good looking girls per capita… it’s merely by population density. As I mentioned in the women’s guide to NYC dating, NYC happens to be THE PLACE TO BE with an excess of females to the tune of 210,820 more single [...]

]]> By: Derek http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-15620 Derek Sat, 05 Apr 2008 16:19:50 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-15620 Alas, Bill, I brought sand to the beach when I lived in NJ. I'll just have to take your words for it. ;-) Women have to be tougher to live in the east coast than the west. Maybe they like the challange of getting men also. Alas, Bill, I brought sand to the beach when I lived in NJ. I’ll just have to take your words for it. ;-)

Women have to be tougher to live in the east coast than the west. Maybe they like the challange of getting men also.

]]> By: Liz http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-15619 Liz Sat, 05 Apr 2008 16:10:18 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-15619 Hey, the chicks look good in LA LOL. Odd tho, I get way more raps in NYC than I do in LA. It should be the other way around, right? Maybe the NYC heads sense my Cali glow. Hey, the chicks look good in LA LOL.

Odd tho, I get way more raps in NYC than I do in LA. It should be the other way around, right? Maybe the NYC heads sense my Cali glow.

]]> By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-15617 Bill Cammack Sat, 05 Apr 2008 15:33:02 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-15617 Good point, Derek... about "single by choice". However, that makes it a guy's responsibility to make the woman choose HIM over being single. Also, her being single doesn't mean a guy can't get on. It just means you still don't have a so-called "relationship" with her after doing the deed. :) As far as "Sex and the City" (the series, not the movie), Carrie's problem was that she was chasing "Mr. Big" but never realized she was expendable. NYC is the capitol of the planet. :D We probably have women from every single country here, hahaha It's one thing for her to get him to mess with her. It's an entirely different ballgame to try to get him to NOT mess with other chicks. Having money, looks and opportunity, why should he choose? Good point, Derek… about “single by choice”. However, that makes it a guy’s responsibility to make the woman choose HIM over being single.

Also, her being single doesn’t mean a guy can’t get on. It just means you still don’t have a so-called “relationship” with her after doing the deed. :)

As far as “Sex and the City” (the series, not the movie), Carrie’s problem was that she was chasing “Mr. Big” but never realized she was expendable. NYC is the capitol of the planet. :D We probably have women from every single country here, hahaha

It’s one thing for her to get him to mess with her. It’s an entirely different ballgame to try to get him to NOT mess with other chicks. Having money, looks and opportunity, why should he choose?

]]> By: Derek http://billcammack.com/2008/04/04/womens-guide-to-nyc-dating/#comment-15616 Derek Sat, 05 Apr 2008 15:18:13 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=802#comment-15616 Love this topic. But, one thing to ask? "Single" could be "single by choice". May not mean "eligible" or "available." Are you saying that ALL those gorgeous women I seen when I lived on the EastCoast were "available"? But, this article could explain the "Sex in the City" show. Love this topic. But, one thing to ask?

“Single” could be “single by choice”. May not mean “eligible” or “available.” Are you saying that ALL those gorgeous women I seen when I lived on the EastCoast were “available”?

But, this article could explain the “Sex in the City” show.

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