Comments on: Ladies: How To Tell He Has A Girlfriend

By: anna

anna — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 22:04:31 +0000

and what I meant by I when I got him all hot and bothered…I teased him to the point he couldn’t handle it and wouldn’t give in to him. that’s when he started asking if I even found him attractive and told me I’m cold lol but he was clearly lying to me about what was going on

By: anna

anna — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 20:48:46 +0000

annaI just want to share my somewhat odd, and amusing experience with this one guy “friend”. Met him through mutual friends who had known him awhile…he had just broken up with his long time girlfriend after she cheated. She got pregnant about the same time she had cheated, so no one knew who the daddy was. Anyway….after knowing him about six months things got weird. He had just announced he was the father of the baby. Then about a week and a half later he sent me a instant message on facebook but I didn’t realize it til the next day. So about a week later I saw him online and said hey…he signed off really quick. So I text him and he replied a few minutes later with “I really miss you…you up to hanging out???” I said I can’t because my car wasn’t working right. We talked for a few more minutes, he asked me several questions about how I’m doing, ect then out of the blue he said “I have to go bye” and disappeared. Soo, about an hour later I was going through my friends list and he’s gone! I text him again ” you mad at me why did I get deleted?” And he had some odd excuse that didn’t make sense, but then he asked me,again, to come see him. We talked for about two hours and he was saying stuff like “do you see me as a friend or more?” I said “friend” and he said he don’t see me like that because he can’t “control” himself when I’m near. His behavior just got even stranger….our other mutual friend ended up getting deleted a few days later. She was really annoyed and told me to ask him why, he said his sister hacked his account and did it. Wtf lol. So he added her back…I guess my curiosity started to kick in, so I asked if he had a girlfriend. He said “no single and very lonely” lol. He still begged me to come over, my friends said to just go over and see if you can figure out what is up with him. So I agreed and we were supposed to meet on Tuesday. Monday I’m scrolling through my fb messages and seen a his message he sent, but realized there was no default pic. I clicked on it, and I realized I was blocked! so I text him, asking “we still hanging out tomorrow?” He answered right away and said yes. I demanded to know why I was blocked..he said his “ex” hacked his account and deleted almost all the girls on his page and locked him out. I asked all our mutual friends to see if they got deleted and they had, all except for one who he never talked to. We went on his page and noticed most of the females were gone and he had opened his wall back up. So I go to meet him, and he still stuck to this story! He tried to seduce me too…but being really annoyed since he must think I have the intelligence of a fly, I got him all hot and bothered til he almost cried. then he asked me what he is doing wrong, and do I find him attractive, and then flat out said “you don’t want me do you”. So I told him that’s not true I just have a lot on my mind…I did feel kinda bad about it. Afterall I did consider him,at one time, a friend….so.a few days later I sent him a text saying it was nice seeing him the other day. He didn’t respond til after 5 and said his “ex” read the text and flipped out. I said I was sorry, and asked again if they are together and he still denied it. I apologized again, we talked for a few minutes, and he said “its ok, ill text you this time lol” I haven’t heard from him since, but a few months later I did get a random text from someone using his phone asking who I was lol. i did check his fb about a month later and he had him and his ex cuddling in his default pic.Let this be a lesson learned on what a guy should NOT do if he is trying to be a player….lol. and girls, just because he invites you to his house doesnt mean he is single! And if he only contacts you at certain times, or hides his websites from you beware. Oh and this guy is in his 20′s, not highschool by the way. and for some weird reason I do miss him but I realize what kind of person he is now.

By: Bill Cammack

Bill Cammack — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 19:18:04 +0000

Jane hit *SEVERAL* nails on the head right thurrr, Jade.

Make sure you read what she wrote several times and commit it to memory.

As far as the blood, that’s no big deal. That’s what condoms are for.

By: Bill Cammack

Bill Cammack — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 19:14:17 +0000

Jade: The reason Frank’s story might apply to you is that if dude already has at least one other chick, and potentially several others, his interest in whether *YOU* come over or not is going to wax and wane.

Also, between the time that you offer to make plans with him and the time those plans roll around, he might have something else to do, or, like, if you said you were coming over tomorrow and some other chick comes over tonight, she hasn’t left yet, or he’s spent enough “chick time” for now, and he’s doing other things and will get back to you when he gets back to you.

Like Frank said, that might have nothing at all to do with your particular situation, but it’s a possibility.

By: jane doe

jane doe — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 00:34:03 +0000

Jade, I just wanna send a reply to you. You sound extremely lost when it comes to understanding guys which in different ways many of us females are…its not just you. We are the reason for msg boards like this lol. Do yourself a favor and read EVERY SINGLE BLOG BILL HAS EVER WRITTEN about relationships and men. Then, after you have read them all, go back and read them again lol. I think “the roster” will do you some good! I don’t know that I ever expect to fully understand men, maybe we simply aren’t built to understand them, and that itself is probably a lot of what makes cat and mouse so fun and addicting even when it becomes an unhealthy situation. You’re 19 and certainly don’t need to be so invested in a guy who is acting “standoffish” towards you. If there’s anything I do know about men, if they give a shit about you, and trust me the reasons can vary and be kinda shallow/strange/hella temporary, then they will show you attention in a consistent manner. In addition, they will show you some courtesy and respect simply because they value you in that particular era of time at least and don’t wanna F a good thing up. If he’s blowing you off sometimes its probably cuz he doesn’t give a ish and he knows you’re available for him to pick right back up where he left off at anytime. And men don’t routinely have the ability to decline P especially when its being thrown at them so I’m guessing he has a nice steady supply coming from elsewhere, meaning, another chick is breakin him off and well lol. My advice, let yourself indulge in whatever it is you get from this experience. Jock him as you can’t resist doing and just see what happens. In the end, you’ll eventually snap out of your feelings for him. Most of what you feel for him is what you created in your head about him, when you realize that, you’ll start to see him for his true qualities or lack there of. It’s a lot better to experience this type of thing while you’re young rather than later, trust me. Stop giving him money though, you can be a fool for love but never give a guy money under these circumstances!