“Never argue with a woman” is advice that’s been handed down from men to boys from generation to generation. This is because guys never figured out how to WIN the arguments. Well… The Kid‘s about to let you in on Secret Tip #1 on how to improve your success when you’re mentally jousting with a female! 😀
I was reading Jess’ article, “On Pornography, Feminism and Women’s Desires”, and she says:
Jess: “Half the porn I watch strikes me as gross and vaguely disturbing because it is made by men for men.”
See that? This is the same problem that guys have when they’re discussing stuff with chicks. They act like they’re talking to another guy. Stop it. Your style, delivery and focus are as obvious as pornography is to a feminist.
If you think about that….. Porno is obviously made BY guys FOR guys. If it were made for women, the chicks in the movies wouldn’t be portrayed as vapid, brainless and only good for their looks, T&A, or because they’ll do stuff on camera that your current girlfriend won’t let you do to her IRL.
hmm… I think I’ll have to get into that sometime…… um… the CONVERSATION… not Pornography for Women! 😀
The point is… Arguing with a chick as if she’s a guy is just as useful as trying to make her feel sexy by sitting her down in front of a movie where the guy’s some HERO who bangs like 8 chicks in 25 minutes and all you hear from the females is “yes”, “uh-huh” and “PLEASE!”. You’re making things tougher for yourself rather than easier. Stop.
What you NEED to do is realize that women have special needs… such as feeling unique and feeling respected. You’ll notice that I didn’t say BEING unique and BEING respected. 🙂
BEING unique is demonstrating that she speaks five languages and has a PhD in physics, or she thinks up great business plans or philosophies, or that she’s an athlete or a stuntwoman…
FEELING unique is when you’re at the club and the DJ yells “THROW YOUR HANDS IN THE AIR IF YOU’RE AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN”, and regardless of whether she’s successful at ANYTHING IN LIFE or not, every single chick starts screaming as if she’s the CEO of some successful startup, when in reality, she’s the CFO at McDonald’s.
Chief Fry Officer.
So that brings us to honorable Secret Tip #1 for arguing with women:
Make her FEEL LIKE she won the argument. 😀
See that? See how simple? 😀 Just like the DJ ‘made’ that minimum wage burger-flipper feel special for that moment in time… that’s your goal when you’re arguing with a woman. Do whatever you were planning to do in the first place, but make sure she FEELS loved and FEELS respected and FEELS listened to by the end of the argument. Also, do what you can to make her believe that what you were going to do in the first place and never planned to change regardless of what she said is actually HER idea that SHE came up with during the argument! Bonus Points if you can pull THAT ONE off! 😀
For example… Let’s say you play a whole hell of a lot of video games, and it’s getting on your girl’s nerves that you won’t waste an hour and a half watching “How Stella Got Her Groove Back” with her. Um… #*&% THAT! 😀
So, Boom… Now she’s mad, and the argument jumps off. What YOU do… as an idiot (don’t feel sad… you’re not the only one), is you start arguing with her as if she’s a guy… DEFENDING your right to play video games. It’s your time and your money. You put the food on the table (unless you took Bill C.‘s advice last year and Married Rich!… in which case, you need to HOP-TO and stop wasting time reading my blog when you *NEED* to start cooking her dinner for when she gets home from work! 😀 ). You do chick-stuff with her, so now it’s time for some guy-stuff for YOU, and it’s time for her to bug off and mind her own business….. Oh… and… “Don’t let the door hit her where the Good Lord split her”.
So instead of that, argue with her as if she’s a woman. She doesn’t CARE that you’re playing video games. She CARES that you’re not paying attention TO HER. She CARES that she’s not “better” than HALO or SOCOM. She’s UPSET that you’re CHEATING ON HER with video games! :O
And this turns out to be the key to winning your argument. 😀
Instead of defending your right to do what YOU want to do WHEN you want to do it… Make her aware that there are lots of guys that DON’T play video games for hours. What are they DOING for hours? Who Knows? 😀 CERTAINLY, their girlfriends or wives don’t know…… hehehe. ALLLLL of a sudden, your girl starts to see the merit in having you right there in the crib where she can see you. You’re not taking phone calls. You’re not texting a bunch of other chicks to meet you at the happy hour. You’re not screwing her sister. Playing video games is actually a testament to the strength of your relationship and how committed you are TO HER!
You win the argument, because you keep playing your games, like you were going to do ANY OLD WAY… She wins the argument, because she feels better about herself as a person and she feels better about her relationship to you… AND you got the bonus points because NOW she feels like having you at home playing video games while she brings you brews is in HER best interest.
So now that you’ve handled your business PROPERLY, Not ONLY is she no longer mad about what she had claimed to be mad about before, but next thing you know, she bought you that new steering wheel and racing game that she knows you don’t already have… or even better… She’s bought herself the same system so she can put on HER headset, grab HER brew and make herself useful on the battlefield! YA HEARD??? 😀