If the guy “fed her” alcohol until she was incoherent, he’s potentially liable for whatever happens between them.

If she incapacitated herself BEFORE hooking up with him, *SHE’S* potentially liable for whatever happens.

If they both got drunk individually, that’s a third situation.

The problem with this entire scenario is that once you’re drunk, your recollection is suspect. You can’t say for sure that you said “no” if you simultaneously admit that you don’t remember what happened.

People, especially women, think that how they would act when they’re sober is how they act when they’re drunk, and that’s just not the truth.

There are chicks that I know that when they’re sober around me, nothing happens. As soon as they get drunk, they get horny and start feeling me up. It’s a pattern. It’s historically documented. People have seen it.

These same women would say to their friends (or boyfriends or whatever) “No.. I’d never mess with him”, but that’s not worth anything, because as soon as they get drunk again, they’re down with the situation.

So, your advice is valid. Women, in particular, need to not drink anything that they didn’t WATCH. THE. BARTENDER. MAKE., and they need to take responsibility for themselves, to not incapacitate themselves from drinking, as if some dude isn’t going to attempt to “take advantage” of the situation.

Also, don’t put the burden on your girlfriends to babysit you all night, cockblocking dudes from hooking up with you because you got trashed and started flirting with them, climbing up on them, and making out with them.

Basic, simple advice, but, unfortunately, incessantly necessary, because situations occur all the time where people think they can pass out drunk at a party, bar, or club and nobody’s going to see that as an opportunity to have a good time at their expense.

However, at the same time, like I said.. If you don’t know how you act when you’re drunk, don’t accuse people of wrongdoing when you’re sober… This chick claimed to her boyfriend that several dudes had raped her, and when they pressed charges, she recanted because one of the dudes that hit it had been videotaping the event, and she was clearly down with it, not being taken advantage of. http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/17/nyregion/17hofstra.html

A few guys (in college) do crazy things like willfully spiking drinks with nasty substances on top of the alcohol, but some women use this as an excuse to cover up their bad behavior and excessive drinking in regular bars even when there is no illegal added substance. My advice to college going girls in the friends and family circle is simple; never drink out of the bulk jar of drink, but rather to get a fresh bottle/can of say beer and then stop at one; something along what Bill is saying on this post.

However.. Like I said.. When someone’s a grown-ass man or a grown-ass woman, you either know you can handle your liquor or you know that you can’t.

If you know you can’t handle it, don’t get drunk around people you might hook up with in violation of some agreement you made.

If you know you CAN handle it, you knew what you were doing when you hooked up.

Neither one is good.