You bring up a very interesting and complicated topic, actually.

The issue for you isn’t merely where to go, but dealing with a different rap style altogether.

I’ve “suffered” from being relatively non-aggressive in meeting women, because I don’t have to be, because a) I meet women all the time, and b) it’s no big deal.

Compared to hyper-aggressive suitors, I seem to be less interested or disinterested.

I found this out one day when I was describing to a friend of mine that I didn’t appreciate that a chick didn’t accept my advances, and when I told him what I had done, he shook his head and was like “She probably didn’t even know you were interested in her.”

I’ll have to think about a specific answer, but the general answer is that your best dating pool is derived from your social circles. Friends of Friends.

The best place to meet people is at intimate social events like apartment parties.

Going to the usual places won’t work, because a) the usual people are there, and b) the sharks are always the first to attack, while the “nice guys” chill and see what happens.

How does can a lady go about dating different men than she’s used to (i.e. white boiyeeez)?

I’m not saying one race of men is better than another, I just want to cast my net far and wide. I’ve dated predominantly Black men (God I love em!), some Latino men, but outside of that – nil. In my experience it seems White men generally are more timid in terms of approaching women (or are they just being “discerning?”). I’m used to being approached by guys a lot and I know men in general find all kinds of women attractive, but is there some trick for letting WB’s to approach? Do I have to be the aggressor? Ladies, feel free to chime in as well. I hope no one has been offended by my post. I’m basically trying to make some new friends and say, “yo, where the white boys at???” ;)

I try not to say anything that I know is false.

What I mean by that is that sometimes, I say things just because I think they’re funny, but they’re always based in SOMEONE’S version of the truth.

If I say a dude might get a vasectomy without telling his wife, that’s because I know dudes that have done that, or I’ve heard about that from credible sources.

My goal is to present the other side of the coin. Without seeing both sides, you never know whether you’re being cheated or not.

Guys can see both sides.. What’s really going on, and what she THINKS is going on.

Women let their fantasies blur their vision and thoughts because it feels good.

Sometimes, the two “realities” are the same.. Other times, they aren’t.

Now that you have some experience, you should be better able to see the pitfalls and avoid them.

The trick is to recognize reality without becoming jaded and bitter about it… It is what it is. Stay in the game until you meet someone that you enjoy a mutually-beneficial relationship (FWB or otherwise) with, and know that you won’t get much for “settling”, but you’ll get a lot from carefully vetting your suitors and making an educated decision. :)

Don’t worry about it, you’re back on top of your game now! ;)

On With The SHOW!!! >:D