Comments on: Dating A Narcissist

By: Denise

Denise — Mon, 05 Mar 2012 21:01:19 +0000

But Bill, why does it seems like i cannot get this man out of my thoughts? Even though he has done so much bad things to me, why can’t i just walk away from it. I have walked away from relationships before without even thinking twice about it. This one keeps me up all hours of the night, unable to concentrate on my studies, unable to function properly at work, and the list goes on. I know everything about this man now, why he treats me the way he does and everything, but somehow i stil find myself wanting him although i know that if i continue with this, it can be real crazy for me.

Do i have to get counselling to let this go? What do ou think? What can i do?

By: Bill Cammack

Bill Cammack — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 23:30:13 +0000

Thank you, Denise. :)

Glad you got something out of it. :D

By: Denise

Denise — Mon, 20 Feb 2012 17:15:25 +0000

I love this, it is not only true but to the point without much ado about anything.

Bill, it seems as if you were talking to me straight. I like it a lot.

Thanks

By: Bill Cammack

Bill Cammack — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 11:42:25 +0000

Thanks for sharing that, Mary. :)

In fact, you’re right. Both of y’all were all about y’all’s selves. :D

There’s nothing wrong with that, but that doesn’t make a relationship. That makes two people that happen to be in the same location.

There’s nothing wrong with your being a narcissist or having a high opinion of yourself or a low opinion of others. You just need to learn to not project that onto other people and make them feel poorly about it for being “lesser beings”. :D

It’s possible to be like “I’m Really Great!!!!! :D” and still have a decent relationship to someone else. The trick is separating how you feel about yourself from how you act towards other people.

Good Luck! :D

By: mary

mary — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 15:45:53 +0000

OMG can I relate to this. i am a recovering lady narcissist. I had a child and this was the best reason to change. It was hard but I am on the road to recovery. I was so self absorbed that time would pass and I would not even realise it. I did not think I treated guys badly,k but then my self absorbtion prevented me from seeing them as individuals and eventually they got fed up and left. However, recently I met this guy. He seemed so interested at first, called me his princess and I was hooked!!! yes me the narcissist. I could not get enough of him. He was not that good looking, but I did not care, I was the pretty one in the relationship so it did not matter. As i said i am a recovering narcissist, but boy did this set me back. I was like a female wolf licking my lips for the prey. But he turned the tables on me. We only knew each other a short time and he wanted to move in, spend our lives together and all that. I really thought he was genuine as he came across as humble and very kind. I decided to definately get help. I told him of my narcissistic traits and to go slowly as I really wanted to have a healthy relationship. the first few dates were lovely and we did hit the sack and boy was he good in bed. things started to go downhill after that. He did not text as often, kept cancelling dates saying he was very busy at work. then last weekend he cancelled again, and I challenged him (very mildly and told him how cancelling the dates made me feel) I did not freak out on him. He ignored my calls and texts. He then send me a text me saying how he did not like my behaviour, me not liking how he cancelled dates! Not once did he validate my feelings but kept going on how I had to convince him that I worthy of being his girlfriend etc and how fussy he is. Well the narcissist in me rose again hopefully for the very last time and I told him how I thought of him. Me proving my worth I told him where he could shove it!!!! He was the lucky one peasant that he was to be with me. He should be so lucky to have a hot chick like me!!!! I have not heard from him and then only reading your website, I too was dating a narcissist!!! that is the irony. I am now taking my therapy and healing very seriously as I do not want to be a narcissist anymore. It hurts people and eventually oneself. When I am healed I will meet a lovely ordinary man as I will be a lovely ordinary lady. I thought I would never hear myself say that. thanks this feels good as I written all of this. God bless you my friend