Comments on: Why Dating Is Confrontational

By: Bill Cammack

Bill Cammack — Wed, 13 Apr 2011 23:01:52 +0000

Hey Thomas. :)

I don’t think it’s a “Better Man” issue, but rather that everyone learns at their own pace, and depending upon the stimulus they receive… In NYC, I can get rejected by 5 women in 10 minutes! :D haha Now, *THAT’S* PRACTICE! :D

Do that for a day, or a week, or a month, or a summer, and you’ll learn so much from just trial & error that it’s ridiculous… The patterns become obvious, and eventually, the ways to circumnavigate typical issues becomes obvious also.

The fact that she doesn’t care has nothing to do with you, personally, but rather the fact that like 17 dudes asked her out for the same night, and whether she meets up with YOU or not makes no difference to her at all.

It’s all a numbers game. Stay in the trenches and keep your eye out for, like they say in “A Bronx Tale”, the Good Ones! >:D

By: Thomas C

Thomas C — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 06:19:05 +0000

“This becomes immediately obvious to guys as soon as their plans with a woman are disrespected or cancelled at the last minute or not cancelled and she just doesn’t show up, because “who cares?.”

i currently have this exact problem haha. if i were a better man id know how to get smart and get what i want.

By: Bill Cammack

Bill Cammack — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 18:50:23 +0000

Good point, UFC. You don’t want to go outside of that respectable range in either direction. You don’t want to overspend OR underspend on women.

Overspending, you take the chance of looking like you’re trying to buy her.
Underspending, you’re not doing the little things that show her you’re thinking about her.

By: UFC

UFC — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 17:20:48 +0000

It’s all about respect. If you respect yourself you’ll gain respect from others.

A lot of guys either go way over the top opening their wallet or just don’t do it enough.. if you can’t get the balance just right you are in for a world of pain :D

By: Rob O.

Rob O. — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 19:49:46 +0000

Again, I realize that the media is a symptom, but if the record labels weren’t raking in boatloads of cash for the tripe that the artists put out, they wouldn’t renew their contracts. Young Jeezy wouldn’t be on tour if nobody was buying his exorbitantly-priced tix.

But sadly, there’s no shortage of apathetic parents who blindly give their kids wads of cash that they in turn spend to support these scumbag artists via album sales & concerts.

And the blame doesn’t rest with the guys alone. Most female R&B & Hip-Hop artists look much, much more like skanky prostitutes than singers in their videos. They’re perpetuating some nasty stereotypes & attitudes too. Look at Mary J. Blige – she sends out a fairly positive message and has some talent to accompany it, but sometimes her appearance & videos uncut her efforts to encourage stronger, smarter women.