Comments on: Why Your Boyfriend Dumped You http://billcammack.com/2008/12/12/why-your-boyfriend-dumped-you/ Thu, 24 May 2012 05:50:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Sexless Marriage? AWWW HELLLS NAW!!! | Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2008/12/12/why-your-boyfriend-dumped-you/#comment-23753 Sexless Marriage? AWWW HELLLS NAW!!! | Bill Cammack Mon, 27 Jul 2009 01:27:49 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=2655#comment-23753 [...] in the bedroom? … But I bet it’s not cool if the next chick comes along and gets her Monica on, right?… uh [...] [...] in the bedroom? … But I bet it’s not cool if the next chick comes along and gets her Monica on, right?… uh [...]

]]> By: Steve http://billcammack.com/2008/12/12/why-your-boyfriend-dumped-you/#comment-18623 Steve Fri, 12 Dec 2008 17:57:33 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=2655#comment-18623 Yeah, Bill. You're right about her hearing something she didn't want to hear from her friend. I'm too OMG about your third paragraph to even comment politely. Thinking about it now it's no surprise that when they were actually together my man was trying to get enough in the bank in one day to make it last 'til next week. What happened next may have been THE warning sign, other women started catching his eye, "maybe she has what I need..." Sadly we'll never know if he was already "moving on" before he flagged the relationship... Anyway the dude hung in for a year... and it sounds like they were both waiting for the other side to take care of it without too much discussion. One or the both of them should rent 2 Days in Paris. Yeah, Bill. You’re right about her hearing something she didn’t want to hear from her friend.
I’m too OMG about your third paragraph to even comment politely.

Thinking about it now it’s no surprise that when they were actually together my man was trying to get enough in the bank in one day to make it last ’til next week. What happened next may have been THE warning sign, other women started catching his eye, “maybe she has what I need…” Sadly we’ll never know if he was already “moving on” before he flagged the relationship…

Anyway the dude hung in for a year… and it sounds like they were both waiting for the other side to take care of it without too much discussion. One or the both of them should rent 2 Days in Paris.

]]> By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2008/12/12/why-your-boyfriend-dumped-you/#comment-18622 Bill Cammack Fri, 12 Dec 2008 17:24:56 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=2655#comment-18622 @Steve: Absolutely. She DEFINITELY grasped the "problem" off the bat. So much so that she failed to mention that he used it as a part of breaking up with her. The first time she mentions a breakup is in HER response to what he said. But that's just the point. She KNOWS she's not adequate for what he's looking for, but she doesn't want to be dumped for it. That's why she asks her married homegirl and gets the answer she didn't want to hear. Her girl hannles her bidnezz in the bedroom so she's not going to get dumped anytime soon. People would be surprised how many women want to have boyfriends without having sex with them. I'm not just talking about the natural golddiggers who have zero sensuality about them anyway, never intended to have sex for their entire lives and are into guys so they can get paid and not work. I'm talking about regular chicks that just BELIEVE that's how things go. Why in the hell would a guy elect to NOT have sex with every other chick on the planet if he wasn't being satisfied by his girlfriend or wife? According to that conversation, she wasn't even PHYSICALLY AROUND HIM three times a week!... HUH??? :/ @Steve: Absolutely. She DEFINITELY grasped the “problem” off the bat. So much so that she failed to mention that he used it as a part of breaking up with her. The first time she mentions a breakup is in HER response to what he said.

But that’s just the point. She KNOWS she’s not adequate for what he’s looking for, but she doesn’t want to be dumped for it. That’s why she asks her married homegirl and gets the answer she didn’t want to hear. Her girl hannles her bidnezz in the bedroom so she’s not going to get dumped anytime soon.

People would be surprised how many women want to have boyfriends without having sex with them. I’m not just talking about the natural golddiggers who have zero sensuality about them anyway, never intended to have sex for their entire lives and are into guys so they can get paid and not work. I’m talking about regular chicks that just BELIEVE that’s how things go.

Why in the hell would a guy elect to NOT have sex with every other chick on the planet if he wasn’t being satisfied by his girlfriend or wife? According to that conversation, she wasn’t even PHYSICALLY AROUND HIM three times a week!… HUH??? :/

]]> By: Steve http://billcammack.com/2008/12/12/why-your-boyfriend-dumped-you/#comment-18620 Steve Fri, 12 Dec 2008 17:07:42 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=2655#comment-18620 People leave (sooner or later) when they don't think they're getting what they need. It doesn't matter whether it's a right, wrong, or valid need from the other's perspective. If the dissatisfied part doesn't leave sooner they are in for "dealing with" the suffering and long brewing bitterness until it blows up. And then they leave. I think there's a third route where a compromise is made but that's really tough with needs versus wants. Back to the blog: The writer quickly grasped what the problem was and she's actually the first one to say it, “You’re breaking up because you’re not getting enough sex." So she KNOWS they're not physically compatible. She also references his calls for relief later on but hasn't done anything about it except ignore HIS problem and hope he'll stick around? What choice was he left with? Like he's probably not seeing her to get something else to offset it, in which case, even if she were some sexual camel she should've been around him more so she could've showered him with whatever else she can bring to the table. Maybe she's an incredibly warm and open person, but he ain't getting that either. Now I've had a friend say to someone I know, let's call him Mr. S. But it's not me, it's some other guy with the same first initial (no really!)... that he was the kind of person where sex *meant* something to him and in his mind it was an integral part of a relationship. Like boyfriend from the blog. Who knows why? Maybe he got hugged too much as a kid or something and equates touching with love... there are worse reasons. Therefore, Mr. S.’ friend postulated, as much as Mr. S. liked sex he would mess up a booty call situation because he'd start looking for more from it. To which he should've responded, "You are correct in your assumption, you amoral ho." Instead he floundered briefly, while he spackled his pride, because surely every real man should be capable of casual sex, right? Well no, and yes. Mr. S has an ego with rules already in it that say no to that kind of thing. It sounds titillating, exotic, and strange, yet empty (see - already looking for more before the, er, ball even drops). Also yes because overriding those rules can occur under duress and of course he's physically capable if he's healthy. I'm gonna’ summarize in simple terms: I think the blogger was taking more than she was giving by treating her bf like more like a frequent date but only on her terms. Like, you can be around me, but only when I want you to be and my man felt like, damn(!) he ain’t getting paid one way or the other for sticking around. WORD, yo. :) People leave (sooner or later) when they don’t think they’re getting what they need. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a right, wrong, or valid need from the other’s perspective. If the dissatisfied part doesn’t leave sooner they are in for “dealing with” the suffering and long brewing bitterness until it blows up. And then they leave. I think there’s a third route where a compromise is made but that’s really tough with needs versus wants.
Back to the blog:
The writer quickly grasped what the problem was and she’s actually the first one to say it, “You’re breaking up because you’re not getting enough sex.” So she KNOWS they’re not physically compatible. She also references his calls for relief later on but hasn’t done anything about it except ignore HIS problem and hope he’ll stick around? What choice was he left with? Like he’s probably not seeing her to get something else to offset it, in which case, even if she were some sexual camel she should’ve been around him more so she could’ve showered him with whatever else she can bring to the table. Maybe she’s an incredibly warm and open person, but he ain’t getting that either.

Now I’ve had a friend say to someone I know, let’s call him Mr. S. But it’s not me, it’s some other guy with the same first initial (no really!)… that he was the kind of person where sex *meant* something to him and in his mind it was an integral part of a relationship. Like boyfriend from the blog. Who knows why? Maybe he got hugged too much as a kid or something and equates touching with love… there are worse reasons.
Therefore, Mr. S.’ friend postulated, as much as Mr. S. liked sex he would mess up a booty call situation because he’d start looking for more from it. To which he should’ve responded, “You are correct in your assumption, you amoral ho.” Instead he floundered briefly, while he spackled his pride, because surely every real man should be capable of casual sex, right? Well no, and yes. Mr. S has an ego with rules already in it that say no to that kind of thing. It sounds titillating, exotic, and strange, yet empty (see – already looking for more before the, er, ball even drops). Also yes because overriding those rules can occur under duress and of course he’s physically capable if he’s healthy.

I’m gonna’ summarize in simple terms: I think the blogger was taking more than she was giving by treating her bf like more like a frequent date but only on her terms. Like, you can be around me, but only when I want you to be and my man felt like, damn(!) he ain’t getting paid one way or the other for sticking around. WORD, yo. :)

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