“The Rules” is a set of gimmicks that allow women to front as if they’re in demand when they’re really not. 😀
Now, First of all… I’m not knocking “The Rules” AT. ALL! hahaha I think “The Rules” is a fantastic guide for women that are completely clueless about how to carry themselves in relationships or when trying to start them. FANTASTIC! 😀 I’m sure there are LOTS of women that would have had ZERO romance in their lives, whatsoever, that ONLY got some because of following “The Rules”.
Having said that, it’s really a bunch of gimmicks. “The Rules” basically says “Even though you feel like doing THIS, do THAT instead”. It’s pretty much the same thing as telling guys to buy a Porcshe in order to get women. That’s a gimmick. Learning how to hypnotize women so they’ll have sex with you is a gimmick. Going around asking women “Did you know I played The Millipede in “The Spirit’s Day Off?” is a gimmick…. hehehe 😀
Buying flowers for a woman in order to “get out of the doghouse” is a gimmick…
The problem with gimmicks is that they’re only temporary fixes. They’re designed to get you over a hump… but they don’t help you long-term.
Similary, lots of women have turned to “The Rules” and gotten good use out of them. Let’s take a look at the top ten gimmicks:
1) Be a Creature Unlike Any Other (CUAO)
ok… The #1 “Rule” basically amounts to “Be who you aren’t”. :/
Here’s an excerpt from Rule #1:
Being a creature unlike any other is really an attitude, a sense of confidence and radiance that permeates your being from head to toe.
You see the problem here, right off the bat, right? 😀 That only works for women that actually FEEL and CARRY THEMSELVES that way. That would be like if I wrote a book called “Bill Cammack‘s Rules”, and rule #1 was “Be The Type Of Guy That Takes Pictures With Multiple Women”.
Cold Lampin’ w/ Michelle, Marissa & Lindz
See how dumb that is? 😀 You can’t BE that guy unless you ARE that guy. Also, if you already ARE that guy, you don’t need to read a book to find out how that type of guy carries himself.
Is “Be a CUAO” good advice? Absolutely… As long as you ARE a CUAO. Otherwise, that advice amounts to “Fake It ‘Till You Make It”.
Hold your head up high, although you actually feel depressed. Smile, even though you feel like frowning or crying. Stand like this. Walk like that. Gimmicks.
Here are some more gimmicks: Tell her you love her, regardless of what you think of her. Buy her flowers, even though you know she’s completely wrong, so she’ll STFU. Take out the garbage once in a while so maybe she won’t interrupt you so much (or AT ALL) while you’re watching the game. “Babysit” your own kid so she can’t claim you never do anything (when you really don’t). Gimmicks.
2) Show up to parties [etc] even if you do not feel like it
Still a gimmick, since it’s advocating unnatural actions (such as a guy taking a gal to see a “chick flick” in order to feign sensitivity with the ultimate goal of getting laid faster), however this is valid and useful advice.
Even here, in NYC, I hear women complain ALL THE TIME about how they never meet men they want to date. So then, when I ask them what they do on a regular basis, it’s 1) go to work, 2) go to the gym/yoga/pilates/whatever, 3) go shopping, 4) go out to eat, and maaaaaaaybe 5) go to bars with girlfriends. For the most part, women only expose themselves to men they work with and see every day. You can add to that the few platonic male friends they have in their social circles, but basically, women never meet any men because women never TRY to meet any men. 😀
Y’all fell for the okey-doke from those John Cusack movies where you’re walking with books and he bumps into you on the street and you drop them all and he helps you pick them up and your eyes meet and you know right now that you’re in love with this guy…… Sorry. That was a script! 😀 Fantasy! 😀 Your next boyfriend is waiting for you at some meetup or tweetup or co-working or social event or apartment party or ski trip or WHATEVER IT IS that you didn’t do because you didn’t feel like it.
You don’t have to do the entire RAP, but you DO have to make yourself available, so Rule #2 gets the thumbs-up! 😀
3) It’s a fantasy relationship unless a man asks you out
um……. This one seems a little obvious… But then again, I’m a guy. 🙂 haha just kidding, hahaha (sort of)
Don’t waste time on a fantasy relationship. You may have a good rapport with your doctor, lawyer or accountant, and you may find yourself wondering if he is interested in you romantically. How can you know for sure? If he’s never asked you out, then he’s not interested!
Not “wasting time” on a fantasy relationship is 50/50 good advice. If that’s all you can get, FANTASIZE AWAY, LADIES!!! 😀 …. Otherwise, yeah, don’t languish in limbo wondering whether you can get on or not. If you want to know, MAKE MOVES to find out.
As far as a guy not being interested unless he asks you out, that’s complete bullshit. MOST guys are SCARED TO DEATH to ask women out! There are MILLIONS of guys that are interested in particular women, but they’re afraid of rejection or think they’re not good enough or in some cases are even afraid of being involved in a loving, caring, successful relationship.
What’s even dumber about that particular statement is look who they chose for women to rap to… Your Doctor? Your Lawyer? Your Accountant? That’s SOOO STUPID because even though you’re still a WOMAN to them… you’re also $$,$$$ to them. Capisce? Jeez! A guy might want to blank you bent over the blank with your leg up on the blank until you blank all over him and he’s not going to say AAAAAAAAAAAAAAANYTHING about it that’s gonna mess with his cash flow.
So the better advice here is that when you want to know about some Fantasy Crush you’re having, make sure you look GOOD and then make sure HE KNOWS you’re down with the program.
Unfortunately, hahaha The whole idea behind “The Rules” is to make it look like you’re NOT down with the program, in order to make guys feel like they’re attempting to bag an unattainable chick… so, Good Luck with that! 😀