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Continued from Analyzing “The Rules” [Part 01] & Analyzing “The Rules” [Part 02]

Reader Steve asked for a tactics post in the DatingGenius Suggestion Box, so I thought I’d critique the Top 10 Rules.

7) If he does not call, he is not that interested. Period.

This is a high-percentage possibility. There are also a few low-percentage possibilities:

1) He was drunk when he met you so when he looked at your number he couldn’t remember what you looked like or what you talked about that evening.
2) He’s trying to look “in demand” just like YOU ARE by following “rules”, so he’s avoiding calling you so quickly that he looks like he’s riding your bra strap.
3) He met six other chicks that night and hasn’t gotten around to you yet, in decreasing order of physical attractiveness.
4) You wrote your number on his hand, and his drunk ass washed his hands before he sobered up.
5) You wrote your number on a napkin and he blew his nose with it and threw it away by accident.
6) His girlfriend found your number in his phone and erased it.
7) His pre-paid cellphone ran out of minutes, and he has to wait until payday to get another phone.
8) He saw your Facebook pictures and changed his mind.

8) Close the deal – Rules women do not date men for more than two years

If you’ve followed The Rules, your man probably loves you and wants to marry you. Your problem is not if he marries you, but when! If it’s been more than a year, see less of him and think about dating others. You’ve already spent more than a year waiting for him to propose; do you have another year to wait?

Similar to their advice on women fantasizing about relationships, this is a hit or miss, depending on whether you actually have any more wins other than the man you’re currently dating. This advice is akin to “If you’re on the Titanic, jump off and into the water, because it might hit an iceberg”. That’s all well and good except that a) you might drown and b) the Titanic might *NOT* hit an iceberg, in which case you feel like an ASS for having to swim all the way to New York City on your own.

For the analogy-impaired, what I’m saying is it’s good advice to dump a guy that hasn’t married you within two years…. IF you have other options. If you don’t, it’s in your best interest to make a quick physical and career-wise self-assessment and figure out whether you’re going to be able to pull a better man than you’re with right now.

Were you hitting that gym for the last two years or eating bon bons with the remote in your hand, flipping from “Oprah” to “The View”? Were you advancing in your career, or did you “take some time off” while your man handled the bills? Did you have kids with this guy in the meantime? Did you move with him far, far, far, faaaaaaar away from the rest of your support group? Do you have your own car? Is it already paid for? How much is rent where you plan to live?

If you’ve got all that covered, go ahead and boot him! SSSSSSSSSSSSEEYA!!! :D … “Don’t let the door hit’cha… Where the Good Lord split’cha!” :D … “You ain’t gotsta go HOME!!!……. But you gotsta get THE HELL OUTTA *HERE*!!!” :D

Countermeasure: This rule is easily circumnavigated by buying your girl an engagement ring. *yawn*

Cubic Zirconia
If you think about it, the expenditure is entirely worthwhile. Assuming you don’t go the SMART route and buy her a Cubic Zirconia for mere pennies on the dollar, let’s say you drop $3,000 on a ring for your woman. Now she’s all happy and showing it off to her friends and telling them about how she’s getting married, yadda yadda and meanwhile, nothing’s changed at all as far as you’re concerned.

I’m not sure if “The Rules” includes time limits for marriage after engagement, but let’s assume that’ll buy you at least an extended warranty on your girl akkin’ right for another two years after your “marry me in two years, or else” deal expires. Assuming you get that extra two years, that means you only paid $1,500/year for 24-hour access to your woman! :D I mean, that’s FANTASTIC!!!… People pay more than that to park their car for a year in Manhattan.

Plus, think of all the money you save. You don’t have to go out on dates. You don’t have to buy chicks drinks at the bar. You don’t have to…. Actually, she’ll most likely want to move in with you, which means that with the rent you save, you’ll actually get your money RIGHT BACK! :D

um… Of course…. Take the hit on the $$,$$$ and *DON’T* let her move in with you if you don’t actually intend to marry her afterwards. You’ll be sooooooorryyyyyyyy! :D

9) Buyer beware – observe his behavior so you do not end up with Mr. Wrong.

Spot-on advice! :D Women tend to dismiss what they see with their own eyes while they’re dating a guy, because they figure they’re going to change him or he’s going to change on his own once they “get serious” with each other. Well, SERIOUSLY, you need to pay attention to what he’s doing right now, because that’s what he LIKES to do, and that’s what he does naturally.

Love may be blind, but Rules girls are not stupid! How does he act in the relationship? Is he cheap on dates? Is he critical of you? Remember, The Rules are not about marrying the first man you are attracted to who calls you by Wednesday for Saturday night and buys you flowers. It’s about marrying your own personal Mr. Right — a man whom you love and whose character you admire and can live with.

ok, Well… They didn’t pick the BEST things to look out for, but the principle is correct. “Is he critical of you”? hahaha Do you NEED to be criticized? :D Do you show up for dates looking like a bum? Do you belch in public? Do you FAIL to look both ways before you cross the street? Well then, you’re gonna get CRITICIZED! :D It’s really in your best interest and for your own good that your man looks out for you when you just can’t tell that those jeans don’t fit you properly.

Anyway…. Pay attention to what he says and does BEFORE he makes any deals with you. Does he take care of his kids *NOW*? Then what makes you think he’s going to take care of kids he has with YOU? Does he aspire to live in the country *NOW*? Don’t cry about it down the line when he doesn’t want to move in the future either. Is he ambitious about business and career advancement *NOW*? Then don’t complain when he’s still working in the sock factory and buying you Cubic Zirconia rings a few years from now. Does he wash his own clothes *NOW*? Then don’t expect him to wash his clothes when you move in with him, and ESPECIALLY don’t expect him to wash YOURS! :D hahaha Does he like to feel you up in public *NOW*? Then don’t expect him to become some sort of civilized gentleman down the line.

10) Keep doing the RULES even when things are slow

Ice Cream & DVD Movies, SUNNNN.. Ice CREAM, and D.V.D. MOVIESSSS! :D Hold it down. Hold your head. Main-TAIN, sistah… MAIN-TAIN!!! :D hahaha

Take care of yourself, take a bubble bath and build up your soul with positive slogans like “I am a beautiful woman. I am enough.”

Soap, Water & Affirmations. That’s the ticket!……. Even though you’re going to be lonely as #&%$, once you decide to play that “in demand” role, you have to keep the facade up. Look at the bright side, you’ll have time to read the book again while you’re in the tub. Hey! Here’s another affirmation for you:

“I’d rather be in the tub…. than in the club.”

hahaha To be fair, they also advocate going out in Rule #10:

You must learn to accept that, as an adult, you can’t always rely on a friend to do things with you. Even if you don’t meet Mr. Right, going out — whether it’s a restaurant, lecture or party — is a chance to meet new people and practice The Rules.

So… There you have the top 10 “Rules”. As I discussed with reader Sonja in part 01, I’m a fan of building people up instead of giving them gimmicks to try to trick people with. From what I saw of the top ten “Rules”, there’s a little building and A LOT of gimmickry. Overall, it’s probably fun for women to mentally mull over tactics they can use against men, since we have so many tactics that we use against them every day, and like I said in part 01, I’m sure there are LOTS of women who have relationships now because of doing “The Rules” that would just never have had ANYTHING in their entire lives, so that’s a good thing. :)

If you’ve read all three parts, you’ve seen that it’s insanely simple to feign compliance with these rules and eventually become “verified” by a “Rules Girl” without actually ‘deserving’ the qualification. This is why it’s better to build her intelligence, confidence, self-esteem & sense of self-worth than to leave her mentally as-is and give her some gimmicks that are supposed to only leave her exposed to worthwhile men (whatever that means for the individual reader). “The Rules” definitely weeds out the guys that aren’t willing to put in work to get laid, but it’s not going to deter the real sharks for a second.

It’s kind of like with chess. You learn how to play chess by… playing chess. You don’t learn how to play chess by buying a book of openings and learning how to do “Queen’s Gambit” & “Ruy Lopez”. You might look all *NICE* for the first 8-10 moves of the game, but right after that, you get you ass handed to you by a REAL player.

~Bill

Related Post(s): Analyzing “The Rules” [Part 01] | Analyzing “The Rules” [Part 02]

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