Ladies… Don’t you just hate it when your man calls out another woman’s name when y’all are doin’ the do? Well, before you start throwing tantrums and throwing keys and cell phones out of Lamborghini windows, let’s think about why this might be ALL. YOUR. FAULT! :D
Did you dye your hair?
Your man gets used to certain things about you. He’s used to your body type, because that’s what prompted him to talk to you in the first place. He’s used to your demeanor, how you like to dress, etc.
Now, if you recently dyed your hair, depending on what you were doing to him at the time………. Your man could have made a PERFECTLY HONEST MISTAKE in calling you some other woman’s name. :D
I’m just sayin’… Guys aren’t that smart. You have to keep things consistent. If you were already dying your hair red when he met you, keep doing that throughout the relationship in order to avoid situations like this.
Same thing goes with length. If your hair was long the whole time, don’t suddenly cut it short and risk reminding him of that secretary at his job he fantasizes about tapping every chance he gets.
FELLAZ!!!.. The easy way around this is to only date one chick of each hair color/length. If one of them changes up on you, hold off on the sex until you can draw up a new chart. Writing all of their names/hair colors on the inside of your wrist is risky, but, you know… do what you gotta do.
Was it dark?
Women are notorious for having low self-esteem and not wanting to see their own bodies… ESPECIALLY while they’re gettin’ it on. A typical workaround is having sex with the lights off.
Unfortunately, while YOU’RE not seeing you, HE’S not seeing you either. You’re making it EASIER for him to imagine he’s laying up with a chick he actually WANTS to have sex with, as opposed to the one that’s available to him at the time.
The only way around this is to put them bon bons down, get in the gym and get yourself into a shape that YOU think is sexy so that YOU’RE willing to look at YOURSELF during sex and can leave the lights on.
An added bonus is you get to do “woman on top” and play the “Say My Name!” and the “Whose %&$# is this?” game while you watch his eyes roll up in the back of his head.
Did you gain skillz?
Speaking of games, styles & techniques… Let’s say you’re wack at sex, right? If you go watch a podcast or a DVD or something and you figure out something new and exciting that you can see yourself doing to your man, don’t spring it all on him at once.
See, if your man is used to feeling “meh” about having sex with you and all of a sudden you amp up your skillz, you might cause him to temporarily forget about you completely and think he’s with a chick that actually knows what she’s doing.
The workaround here is that regardless of what you learned from that movie or that sleepover you and your girls had with the fruits & vegetables, only introduce your new skillz *GRADUALLY*, and not all at the same time. This way, your man feels like you’re getting better at sex and isn’t surprised when you unfurl the whole shebang and try to knock his socks off.