Why R&B Music Works On Women

R&B Music (Rhythm & Blues) is a well-known and oft-utilized tool for getting women to do what you want them to do without putting in any work yourself.

Fantasy vs Reality

B.C. & L.C.Lots of women have difficulty separating fantasy from reality. They’re also willing to make leaps of faith that defy logic and don’t make any sense whatsoever.

Justin Timberlake does not know you. You’ve never met him. He’s never thought about you a day in his life. He did not write that love song about YOU. It’s. Virtually. IMPOSSIBLE!

On the same tip.. Your boyfriend didn’t write that love song about you. He probably hasn’t written a song in his entire life. Prolly cain’t sing worth a damn anyway.

However… For some reason….. If your boyfriend can get you to listen to that R&B song,

he knows *HE’S* gonna get laid, NOT Justin Timberlake. He knows that you’re going to listen to a song that wasn’t written about you AT ALL and you’re going to take it personally and start to feel sexy…

Meanwhile.. He’s looking at his watch, waiting for you to bend over so he can blank you in the blank and thinking about that sporting event he’s going to watch after he’s had his fill of you.

So R&B music comes in handy, because if he had actually told you what he wanted to do to you, you wouldn’t have gone for it and would have denounced him for how unromantic “Hey… You’re looking good today… I’d love to blank you in the blank right now” sounds coming out of his mouth.

Solution

Next time your man tries to get you to shut up and spread your legs by throwing on some R&B, turn it off and tell him to TELL YOU how he feels about you. (YIKES!!!)

If he can sit/lay down with you, look you in the eye and tell you something that actually moves you and makes you feel like giving him some, go ahead and do that. Do not accept substitutes. Guys are famous for regurgitating R&B lyrics that have gotten them laid in the past. If he’s telling you he’d pull the stars from the sky or drink a tub of your bath water, he’s still trying to get over. Make sure he’s sincere and what he’s telling you comes from his heart…. Even if he sincerely just wants to blank you in the blank.

Look on the bright side. If you don’t hear the right things from your boyfriend, you can always go find Justin and tell him how moved you were when you heard the song he wrote about you.

~Bill

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25 thoughts on “Why R&B Music Works On Women”

  1. Hi Bill,

    thanks a lot, that was fun to read! 🙂

    But seriously, I don’t think women have difficulty separating fantasy from reality. We have just learned to make do with very little. I mean, how many of you guys can sing? How many of you guys out there can write poetry that does not make us cringe?

    So, when a guy puts on an R&B song with the intention to get laid, at least that reveals he has cared enough to listen to the lyrics at some point in time, and given it some thought. That is better than nothing.

    When we give you some just based on that, it does not mean we are stupid. It means we are extremely generous. 🙂

    By the way, I don’t find the “Hey… You’re looking good today… I’d love to blank you in the blank right now” approach all that bad. Of course it should be delivered in a deep, manly voice. Not some rattish squeak. 🙂

    1. Hey Fishingrod. I laughed for A WHILE at “learned to make do with very little”. HAHAHAHAHA I know quite a few women that would agree with your statement wholeheartedly! 😀

      That’s really an INTERESTING way to think about the situation. You’re not mistaking who it is that deserves the props, but instead augmenting your man’s natural lack of abilities by having someone else handle the business!

      …….

      Most of the time when women do this, it’s called “CHEATING”!!! 😀

      But seriously, folks…

      This is great. You can’t sing, but you picked the record with the lyrics that do the trick, so you get credit for that. I’m going to have to try this. I’ll go to Central Park and tell some chick “That should be me and you out there in those pedal-boats… You would be sunbathing while I fed you grapes…” and see how much I get for at least THINKING about doing that with her! 😀

  2. So i had read this post a while back (actually its the post that turned me on to your blog) but this morning something happened that made me remember it. so i was visiting my aunt who some how convinced me to go to pta meeting in her place at her sons high school because she couldn’t make it.
    Fast forward 20 minutes into the meeting and something caught my attention (which was previously focused on surfing the internet from my phone), Music selections and logistics for the upcoming Halloween/Homecoming dance. so people start about how close the kids can dance whats appropriate vs not blah…. blah. Some body had a brilliant idea before hand that the DJ should come to the meeting so the parents could pre screen what he was going to play. so as we briefly skim through the play list i start to notice that a lot of the rap songs are being thrown out. when i asked why they said it was to limit the kids dancing inappropriately so i took a look at the list and guess what except for a couple of top 40 songs this list was almost all modern R&B. so i quickly pointed out what i thought was obvious which is that R&B will only increase the very thing you are trying to avoid.

    p.s

    just to give you an idea of some songs the left on there (take you down by Chris brown & A night off by Drake ft Lloyd you’ll get the idea when you hear them)

    1. Thanks. 🙂

      This is just another example of how stupid the general population is and how little they understand about what makes people do what they do.

      The rap songs are being taken off of the listing because of explicit lyrics.. Not explicit as in curses, that too.. But mainly because rap music says directly what they plan to do. Go to the party, meet a chick, get blown, kick her out in the morning, etc.

      The R&B songs are being left on because if you read the lyrics on paper, they’re SUGGESTIVE, but they don’t actually SAY what they’re actually going to do….. which is the exact same thing the rappers are going to do. 🙂

      An interesting point about the Chris Brown / Rihanna beatdown fiasco was that CB’s music stays in heavy rotation for that very reason. The music isn’t vulgar, so it’s played a lot at proms and dances, which leads to a lot of people having fond memories of stuff they did while his songs were playing and leads to more sales/downloads. I’m surprised that more labels aren’t smart enough to start making music that the general public’s willing to let their kids listen to so they can make more money. \o/

      But yes, you’re right. The R&B is going to have the effect of making people get cozy with each other and making chicks feel “weak in the knees”. That’s still way better than hearing some dude describe actual sex acts over the speaker system while your daughter shakes he ass with her hands up in the air as if she doesn’t care! 😀

      1. “But yes, you’re right. The R&B is going to have the effect of making people get cozy with each other and making chicks feel “weak in the knees”. That’s still way better than hearing some dude describe actual sex acts over the speaker system while your daughter shakes he ass with her hands up in the air as if she doesn’t care! :D”

        Sorry bill im going to have to disagree with you i understand what your saying about the rap songs with dirty vulgar lyrics but take this in. I go clubbing often usually on weekends so i have experienced this first hand any time those rap songs are playing only a few girls are dancing “dirty” with guys usually its just booty shaking for the girls and for guys just 2 stepping or whatever. AS soon as one of the songs i mentioned or any slow r&b song comes on then things change. I have experienced all kinds of crazy sexually explicit dancing thanks to these “not vulgar” songs. I kid you not i have been practically molested by females that i have never seen before just because i happen to be walking by as these songs come on. the moral of the story is that people dance to the beat and melody and not the lyrics. so you can have your daughter shaking her ass with her hands up in the air or you can have her shaking her ass all over some random guy while The-Dream plays over the sound system.

        P.S: keep in mind these are highschool juniors and seniors.

        1. I can go for that explanation.

          Since that’s the case, they actually lucked out that you were there to say something about the situation at all.

          Unfortunately, they’re still going to play R&B, because there isn’t much variety that HS kids are going to like. You can’t break out the Miley Cyrus, you know. 😀

          1. Lol @ miley cyrus. but it maybe the only way to obtain the end result that parents want.

            unfortunately its not going to change the result anyways i mean you pack in 100’s of hormonal teenagers what do you expect?? all im saying is that every body under estimates the power of r&b.a couple years back when i was a freshman in collage and we went to parties dudes always wanted to know how i pulled so many girls on the dance floor even though i wasn’t that good of a dancer. It’s all in the r&b baby and the funny thing is i learned it from a good female friend of mine. Which goes back to the importance of platonic female friends they are absolutely indispensable despite what chris rock says.

            1. Yeah.. The parents will NEVER obtain the end result that they want. They forget that they were kids too and that R&B music is the reason why they have kids TODAY. 😀

              As far as the dance floor, people completely underestimate or fail to understand the importance of physical touch and body movement when it comes to pulling chicks. You can talk all the game you want, but if she feels something when you hold her, it’s a WRizAP! 😀

              Since dudes never practice dancing, or rather, expressing themselves to women physically instead of verbally, they SUCK when they get on the dance floor and it doesn’t make her wonder and start thinking about how you might move if she ever got you alone…..

              1. “You can talk all the game you want, but if she feels something when you hold her, it’s a WRizAP!”

                finally somebody that understands such a simple topic your a wise man bill :). When i first started reading this blog i used to think your were some crazy far fetched dude but the more i read the more you start sounding like me Lol.

                i actually had a bet with a friend over this exact issue. He was going through some Pick up Artist or whatever phase basically trying to verbally trick girls into getting with them .I to him trying to girls is useless especially in the club so long story short i proved it to him (thanks you R.kelly).

                P.S:
                Maybe you can make a post on that i would love to hear your opinion on these so called pick up artists im sure they are a plenty in NY. i would love to hear your opinion on this.

                1. PUA skillz are a back-up plan. You need stuff like that if you aren’t naturally attractive to women or if you can’t do anything that actually turns women on.

                  Dancing’s one of those things. Women get a lot out of it if you dance with them. A lot more than if you tell them yadda yadda that’s supposed to guarantee that they drop their drawers. 🙂

                  Having said that, some of PUArtistry is based on NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, which is a legitimate psychological attack. Lots of women fall for this stuff easily because they take what guys say as “word is bond” instead of focusing on what guys actually DO. If you carefully select what you tell and don’t tell a chick, you can have whatever you want from her.

                  Looking good, dressing well, smelling nice, carrying yourself as a gentleman, dancing well, being intelligent and witty will ALWAYS win the day over psychological tricks. The problem is that there aren’t a lot of guys that just “have it like that” that they can just BE THEMSELVES and pull chicks, so in a lot of cases, resorting to gimmicks and tactics is their best bet if their goal is to get laid.

                2. Not to drag this convo on forever but i agree with you that stuff like NLP is a wa for non brad pitt dudes to increase there chances. That being said unattractive dudes usually adapt quit well to their situation and pull chicks on a regular because they no exactly what their problem is and they address it weather its ugly fat or shot or whatever else. However the PUA community prays on those alright looking dudes who have developed a low self esteem thus by being rejected or from some other early life issue, and instead of addressing the core problem they convince them that it’s not their fault but that actually they just dont know the system and then they proceed to give them these step by step down to the minute routines in the form of classes that these poor dudes chuck out a hundred sometimes thousands of dollars for. It works but only when everything goes according to plan so when it doesn’t work like it was supposed to these pua instructors tell the students that they just weren’t in the “right state”. So in the end they are just systematically getting lucky and playing the same numbers game that every other avarage joe plays. that being said however some off the stuff the tell you is potentially useful.

                3. Interesting points, and I believe valid points as well. I’ll throw in my two cents about this at some point and include your comment above as a starting point. 🙂

                4. “Looking good, dressing well, smelling nice, carrying yourself as a gentleman, dancing well, being intelligent and witty will ALWAYS win the day over psychological tricks.”

                  Except for “looking good” and maybe the “being intelligent and witty” part, all those things you listed can actually be LEARNED by almost anyone. And you forgot the most important thing: Attention. Showing (or at least, pretending) that you are interested in the other person. Active listening. Focus. So easy to learn that I really don’t understand why not more guys give it a try.

                  Instead, so many guys hold monologues, trying to impress us. A long time ago, someone tried to convince me that he was a great lover and I should not miss the chance to have sex with him. While he was going on and on about his preferences and qualities, I listened, slightly bored and confused. I could not understand why he spend so much time and energy to convince me of something that I already knew, just because I had watched him put food on his plate at a dinner party. The way he arranged that food so beautifully, the colours and everything…. well, it made me want to draw a still life of it. It told me not only that he enjoyed food, which is always a plus, but also that he was a sensual man with an eye for proportions and aesthetics. What more do I need to know?

                  And then he bored me with that monologue. He did not pay attention to me paying attention to him. He never asked any questions, I never told him about my observations and the fact that I would have liked him so much more without the aggressive self-marketing.
                  Needless to say, the sex never happened. 😉

  3. re: Fishingrod’s comment:

    haha You’re absolutely right. 🙂 I wasn’t trying to make a comprehensive list, but paying attention to a woman’s vital in making her feel special. I’m going to have to make a post about that and include your comments as a jumping-off point 😀

    As far as the dude that fumbled, haha Too Bad, So Sad that he didn’t get to get on! 😀 hahaha

    You’re also right about monologues. I’ve seen it lots of times. Guys think they have to get in as much information as possible about what they own or what they do or CAN do for a chick so they can get laid, so they just keep talking and talking without noticing whether they’re getting closer to getting some or farther away.

    It’s not their fault, really. It’s all they know. Being that they don’t know anything about women, they try what they read in magazines, having nothing better to do. The thing they don’t realize is that the guy with the Porsche could have gotten laid WITHOUT mentioning his Porsche, because he never checked if the chick just liked him off the bat. There are lots of guys with fancy cars that STILL don’t get on because their presentation’s horrid. There are lots of guys with MetroCards (passes to get on the New York City subways) and no car at all that will steal your girl in the blink of an eye and replace her before you even noticed she was missing.

  4. “If he can sit/lay down with you, look you in the eye and tell you something that actually moves you and makes you feel like giving him some, go ahead and do that. Do not accept substitutes. … If he’s telling you he’d pull the stars from the sky or drink a tub of your bath water, he’s still trying to get over. Make sure he’s sincere and what he’s telling you comes from his heart…. Even if he sincerely just wants to blank you in the blank.
    Look on the bright side. If you don’t hear the right things from your boyfriend, you can always go find Justin and tell him how moved you were when you heard the song he wrote about you.”

    Can’t agree more! I always say the same thing to my girl friends to the point that some guys who learned of what I’m telling (or should I say “reveal”) to them brands me as a “traitor to the male ‘race'”.

    Especially the part: “If he’s telling you he’d pull the stars from the sky or drink a tub of your bath water, he’s still trying to get over.” And here I thought I was the only guy who thinks that way… it makes the world lonely (and super evil than it already is).

    1. lol.. Yes, you are a traitor to dudes, JC! 😀 haha and so am I.

      That’s one of the reasons so many people read my blog! 😀 => http://www.quantcast.com/billcammack.com haha it’s not GUYS reading this stuff.. It’s CHICKS! >:D

      Nobody wants to talk about this stuff, because it’s not in guys’ best interests for women to know what we actually do to them and what we actually think about them.

      Doesn’t matter to me, because I’m always going to have more women, regardless.

      However, guys don’t need to worry about stuff that you tell women or stuff I tell women, because only the smart ones get it and apply it to their lives… The rest of them think I’m making up stories and discussing anomalies… until what they read on my blog happens to them, and then it’s like “Damn.. I should have listened to The Kid! :/” hehehe 😀

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