I agree with you entirely that while I attempt to be as general as possible when I’m writing most of my posts, a) my ideas don’t come anywhere CLOSE to applying in all situations, and b) lots of my personal ideas become apparent in my writing, sometimes deliberately and sometimes by accident.

Yes. I consider myself lucky, fortunate, blessed, what-have-you that I make money when I feel like it AND that I’m doing something I really enjoy when I’m working. I graduated in Information Systems and was initially a computer programmer, but I got bored of that immediately and eventually quit. The money I was making wasn’t bringing me happiness compared to the time I was wasting while getting that money.

So, Yes.. I know what you mean about having to schedule things. When I was a 9-5er, all I had of my own was my after-work hours and some time on the weekends and then it was back to giving all my time away to get some money. I personally still didn’t make plans at that point, however, I was restricted to spending time with people that were in play if I elected to go somewhere after work, which most times I didn’t.

I’ve never been the type of person to say “YAY! I’m going to go play paintball next month on the 24th!!! :D”.. Stuff like that never floated my boat. I understand why people do it though and I understand why they enjoy looking waaaaaaaay forward to things.

As far as the women, I guess that depends on what you mean by “involved” hahaha ;) I suppose you mean in some kind of relationship that restricts my personal ability to exercise my free will, in which case, I agree with you. Most women don’t trump “Every woman in the world” or even “Every woman in New York City” or even “Every woman in this neighborhood”… so I’m not inclined to make promises I have no intention of keeping. :)

Does it work out great for me? I’m not so sure. There’s a difference between enjoying The Game and not being impressed enough with any particular chick that I’ve met to retire from The Game. I was out of it for several years while I had that, that situation ended and I’ve been single ever since. Fortunately for me, I don’t need an actual relationship for anything. I just need attractive women to spend time with and I’m surrounded by literally millions of women in NYC, so it’s merely an issue of walking out the door or going to an event or a bar I’ve never been to. I’m enjoying myself, definitely, but there’s definitely something to be said for feeling impressed/obsessed…

I don’t know that I can classify what you describe as “A guy hating on a guy who chooses to have a girlfriend” as “sexist” :), but I see what you mean.

You actually bring up a good point there. I don’t have any problems with guys that actually FEEL that way. I don’t have any problems with just about anybody that actually FEELS like doing whatever they’re doing. It’s their lives and they need to do whatever’s going to be fun & interesting for them before they croak.

There are lots of guys who are only “dating” in order to find one exceptional female that they can select to spend time with ad infinitum. That’s a valiant thing to strive for, IF that’s what actually floats your boat.

What I was saying about the PBs reading books with their girlfriends was definitely a “dig” on my part, haha you’re right about that, but I had a valid point. If you watched “Jersey Shore”, Mike hooked up with Sammi first but then he kept kickin’ it to more chicks and she wasn’t going for it, so when Ronnie, her SECOND CHOICE made it clear that he was going to sell out the rest of his summer to spend time only with her, the two of them became an item.

For the rest of the show, Mike was struggling every night to pull chicks that by ever account of everyone in the house were ALL less attractive than Sammi. Meanwhile, Ronnie had what he wanted every single day. Did he miss out on lots of chicks he could have pulled? Yep. However, if you match them up day for day, Ronnie always pulled a better-looking chick without even having to work for it.

Anyway, if a guy meets a chick that’s all he wants in life (or at least all he wants today), more power to him. :D Good Luck that he gets to enjoy her as long as he wants to. We should all be so lucky! ;)

About meetups with friends and feeling it: “feeling”. Sometimes I used to keep appointments with people out of obligations – now I’m a “feelings” kinda girl – don’t feel like it, don’t go, feel like it, just go :).

However, what you say doesn’t exactly apply in every situation:

A: Work-related. You’re lucky that your job allows you a certain amount of independance. I would absolutely love to work at my own time and pace! Most don’t. I work as a trainee solicitor, and if I don’t schedule/plan, I may as well pretty much forget ever making a living!

B: Relationshipwsise. You like to meet lots of women, don’t become involved with them easily. Now that seems to work out great for you.
But all folks are different. I detect more than a little sexist hating on men who choose to have a gf – “pair bonders reading books in bed”. That’s a bit of a generalisation.

Apart from that, nice points.

But is your optimism really the only reason for your not bothering to pair-bond? Can’t help but remember this:

“I also love women who don’t love me. There’s nothing “boo-hoo” about that. It’s just a fact. I know how I feel about them and I carry that with me.”

Loved the “I carry that with me” part, by the way. I know how that feels.

In exchange for the new things to consider, maybe you could do me a favour some day and explain in one of your articles the benefit of having sex with almost complete strangers.

There is no chance in hell I will ever try that myself (when someone’s physical presence is too unfamiliar, I don’t want them to enter my personal space, which kind of puts a kibosh on sex), but I do realize that lots of people do it and find it enjoyable and I would like to try see past “being me”. Mentally walk a mile in your moccasins….

Just write about it whenever you feel like it. I can wait. ;-)

1) http://billcammack.com/2008/11/16/dating-a-narcissist/
2) http://billcammack.com/2008/11/13/dating-for-misanthropes/
3) http://billcammack.com/2007/02/01/alliance/

Besides that, thanks to serial monogamy, there’s an endless supply of single females in New York City. Actually, I just found out this morning that one of my long-time girlfriends just came back on the active list, having broken up with her recent boyfriend. C’est La Vie! ;)

To Be Fair (as the Brits say), that makes me a take-it-or-leave-it type of guy that isn’t an appealing prospect to women looking to lock a guy down, which is what “relationships” are all about, the gaining of exclusive access to someone else. So I remain stable while my homegirls enjoy the revolving door of being in and out of so-called relationships with guys that usually last a few months, tops. *yawn* If you think about it, I’m kind of like The Library, and dudes borrow chicks from me like books until they return them. :D

As far as sex with complete strangers, that’s an interesting exercise. I’ll enjoy attempting to explain the reasons why… at least from the male side of things. Maybe I’ll pull Lindz into that discussion and see if she has anything to say for the females.

haha.. In a minute, I’m going to need a section called “Fishingrod Wants To Know…” hahahaha Cheers! :D