Comments on: Who’s The Leader In Your Relationship? http://billcammack.com/2009/05/28/whos-the-leader-in-your-relationship/ Thu, 18 Mar 2010 10:04:37 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Frank http://billcammack.com/2009/05/28/whos-the-leader-in-your-relationship/#comment-23278 Frank Mon, 22 Jun 2009 19:08:18 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=5188#comment-23278 I think the first place a woman needs to start understanding her position is at the check out! So u married up, your man makes a hundred a year and you are there buying that big screen TV that he is "allowing you get" with that huge smile on your face! Oh yeah, my man makes that money and thats what society has told me all my life... GET A MAN WHO CAN PROVIDE! Did anyone think to raise their hand and say provide how?? What if you met a guy who only makes 65yr? Hmmm... with your 60 thats now 125 grand to play with. You may not have married up but you have moved up. Now that you contribute equally, its no longer his decision on how the finances are run, how the kids are raised. Physically he will probably always lead but the two of you can always walk side by side not because he lets u but because you can. He may lead the introductions at his office party but its your way at yours. No one leads! Everyone gets to step up as needed! and at its root isnt this the purpose behind marrying an equal or someone "better"? Having the opportunity to step up life and not be pulled around?? So ur man makes a hunned, your bff's man makes only 65 but she is happier! where do you want to be?? PS: I love a girl who is confident enough to reach for the check, hold the door for me, say hey i got my CC/$/Debit cards with me, get it. you can pay me back later. Even if I dont take her up on that offer, I know!! I think the first place a woman needs to start understanding her position is at the check out! So u married up, your man makes a hundred a year and you are there buying that big screen TV that he is “allowing you get” with that huge smile on your face! Oh yeah, my man makes that money and thats what society has told me all my life… GET A MAN WHO CAN PROVIDE! Did anyone think to raise their hand and say provide how??
What if you met a guy who only makes 65yr? Hmmm… with your 60 thats now 125 grand to play with. You may not have married up but you have moved up. Now that you contribute equally, its no longer his decision on how the finances are run, how the kids are raised. Physically he will probably always lead but the two of you can always walk side by side not because he lets u but because you can. He may lead the introductions at his office party but its your way at yours. No one leads! Everyone gets to step up as needed! and at its root isnt this the purpose behind marrying an equal or someone “better”? Having the opportunity to step up life and not be pulled around??

So ur man makes a hunned, your bff’s man makes only 65 but she is happier! where do you want to be??

PS: I love a girl who is confident enough to reach for the check, hold the door for me, say hey i got my CC/$/Debit cards with me, get it. you can pay me back later. Even if I dont take her up on that offer, I know!!

]]> By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2009/05/28/whos-the-leader-in-your-relationship/#comment-23060 Bill Cammack Wed, 03 Jun 2009 19:08:32 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=5188#comment-23060 Yeah, well, women have historically gotten the short end of the stick, so there's no wonder that the constant inequality has produced detrimental psychological effects in them. If someone tells you it's not a privilege being a guy, they're lying, just in the simple fact that we can walk down the street without people trying to meet us every 15 steps we walk down the block. The real problem here is that women seek out men "stronger" or "better" than they are by default. There's no point in a woman hooking up with a guy weaker than she is. He's not bringing anything to the table. There's no reason to commit to him. For that reason, they choose guys that they think are better than they are, but, unfortunately, guys know that women are looking for this, so they "act as if". A lot of women end up dating pretenders, because guys know how they're supposed to act to pull chicks. My point in this post is that if the ladies figure out that their man isn't who he claimed he was, it's in their best interest to step to the left and get a guy they REALLY want to follow. If the guy isn't worth following, THE GAL should be the leader, and if he can't get with that program, he needs to kick it with lesser females that he's actually better than. Yeah, well, women have historically gotten the short end of the stick, so there’s no wonder that the constant inequality has produced detrimental psychological effects in them. If someone tells you it’s not a privilege being a guy, they’re lying, just in the simple fact that we can walk down the street without people trying to meet us every 15 steps we walk down the block.

The real problem here is that women seek out men “stronger” or “better” than they are by default. There’s no point in a woman hooking up with a guy weaker than she is. He’s not bringing anything to the table. There’s no reason to commit to him.

For that reason, they choose guys that they think are better than they are, but, unfortunately, guys know that women are looking for this, so they “act as if”. A lot of women end up dating pretenders, because guys know how they’re supposed to act to pull chicks.

My point in this post is that if the ladies figure out that their man isn’t who he claimed he was, it’s in their best interest to step to the left and get a guy they REALLY want to follow. If the guy isn’t worth following, THE GAL should be the leader, and if he can’t get with that program, he needs to kick it with lesser females that he’s actually better than.

]]> By: steve http://billcammack.com/2009/05/28/whos-the-leader-in-your-relationship/#comment-23059 steve Wed, 03 Jun 2009 18:37:38 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=5188#comment-23059 Wow, this was pretty interesting! Men are only "better" than women because we tell them what they can't do all the time. There are still inequalities in pay, stay at home moms are looked down on because they don't have a job associated with a check (zero props for ensuring our successors aren't feral), and the fancy high heel shoes they wear (ostensibly to compete with their peers but really to attract men) are only vaguely functional (guess who designed them) and many feel that the only way they can attain high status in the corporate world is if they're even more aggressive than the men are which comes with fallout of its own! If I was a woman I'd just be flat pissed off at dudes all the time. Wow, this was pretty interesting!

Men are only “better” than women because we tell them what they can’t do all the time. There are still inequalities in pay, stay at home moms are looked down on because they don’t have a job associated with a check (zero props for ensuring our successors aren’t feral), and the fancy high heel shoes they wear (ostensibly to compete with their peers but really to attract men) are only vaguely functional (guess who designed them) and many feel that the only way they can attain high status in the corporate world is if they’re even more aggressive than the men are which comes with fallout of its own! If I was a woman I’d just be flat pissed off at dudes all the time.

]]> By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2009/05/28/whos-the-leader-in-your-relationship/#comment-23019 Bill Cammack Sat, 30 May 2009 23:13:46 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=5188#comment-23019 You're welcome, Melie. :) However, I wish it WEREN'T so important and it was more common for people in relationships to understand where each other's coming from. Thanks for the comment :D You’re welcome, Melie. :) However, I wish it WEREN’T so important and it was more common for people in relationships to understand where each other’s coming from.

Thanks for the comment :D

]]> By: melie http://billcammack.com/2009/05/28/whos-the-leader-in-your-relationship/#comment-23015 melie Sat, 30 May 2009 18:08:47 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=5188#comment-23015 wow. so important to have male perspective and insight such as this. thank you! wow. so important to have male perspective and insight such as this. thank you!

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