Comments on: Cynic’s Guide to Dating http://billcammack.com/2009/06/07/cynics-guide-to-dating/ Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:09:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2009/06/07/cynics-guide-to-dating/#comment-29672 Bill Cammack Thu, 15 Jul 2010 12:02:49 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=5276#comment-29672 TOTALLY Stress-Free! :D Expect people to screw up and if they do the right thing, it's a pleasant surprise. :) I meet too many people to adopt the softcore approach. I routinely meet 4-10 new people at every event I attend, which probably averages to 15 new people a week. Like you said.. I don't have time to figure out who's bout-it bout-it and who isn't. I just assume they aren't and keep rollin' until I have reason to believe that they <em>are</em>. Same thing goes for lateness. If someone's always 10 minutes late, that's one thing. If they show that they've been an hour late or more, their word becomes TRASH as far as meetup times and I'm not likely to even START getting ready until I hear from them that they're walking out their door. If they have to wait, too bad for them because that's what they get for being verbally unreliable as far as what time they're going to be somewhere. But yeah, it's much better. :D The cynical view is often the closest one to the truth anyway, so it keeps you efficient in doing what YOU need to do without getting tripped up by making something depend on unreliable people because you assumed they were reliable for no reason at all from the giddyap. TOTALLY Stress-Free! :D Expect people to screw up and if they do the right thing, it’s a pleasant surprise. :)

I meet too many people to adopt the softcore approach. I routinely meet 4-10 new people at every event I attend, which probably averages to 15 new people a week. Like you said.. I don’t have time to figure out who’s bout-it bout-it and who isn’t. I just assume they aren’t and keep rollin’ until I have reason to believe that they are.

Same thing goes for lateness. If someone’s always 10 minutes late, that’s one thing. If they show that they’ve been an hour late or more, their word becomes TRASH as far as meetup times and I’m not likely to even START getting ready until I hear from them that they’re walking out their door. If they have to wait, too bad for them because that’s what they get for being verbally unreliable as far as what time they’re going to be somewhere.

But yeah, it’s much better. :D The cynical view is often the closest one to the truth anyway, so it keeps you efficient in doing what YOU need to do without getting tripped up by making something depend on unreliable people because you assumed they were reliable for no reason at all from the giddyap.

]]> By: Jevon Nicholson http://billcammack.com/2009/06/07/cynics-guide-to-dating/#comment-29657 Jevon Nicholson Thu, 15 Jul 2010 02:22:38 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=5276#comment-29657 "The only thing you can trust about people is that they’re going to do what they want to do when they want to do it." This is one of my credos. It makes life SOOOOO MUCH SIMPLER/STRESS FREE. No time or energy wasted on who's doin what with who; if they wanted you to know, they'd tell you so, why kill yourself making up plausible to implausible scenarios in your head? I'm more of a softcore cynic myself, I believe you until you give me a reason or I discover a reason not to believe you. I don't have time to be wondering about what is or isn't true. “The only thing you can trust about people is that they’re going to do what they want to do when they want to do it.”

This is one of my credos. It makes life SOOOOO MUCH SIMPLER/STRESS FREE. No time or energy wasted on who’s doin what with who; if they wanted you to know, they’d tell you so, why kill yourself making up plausible to implausible scenarios in your head?

I’m more of a softcore cynic myself, I believe you until you give me a reason or I discover a reason not to believe you. I don’t have time to be wondering about what is or isn’t true.

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