What if you don’t have much in common with your “significant other”? O_o
Reader Alexis brought this up, and I think it’s a good question. It’s also a question that people tend not to think about until it’s too late, and they’re already involved in a so-called ‘relationship’.
At some point in your relationship, you’re going to get tired of having sex with your SO all the time and then you’re actually going to have to hang out with them. Horror of Horrors! Oh, the Humanity!!! :O
This is a problem because a lot of people treat SOs differently from actual friends. That’s because they’re NOT friends. They’re in a mutually beneficial relationship. Sometimes, a mutually parasitic relationship.
Well.. Besides the fact that you should figure out whether you’d actually hang out with someone BEFORE calling them your bf/gf… The key is balance… IF you can get it. What I mean by that is that now and then, you’re gonna have to take some shorts and do stuff you don’t want to do, in trade for your SO doing stuff that THEY don’t want to do that you enjoy. Trade her half a day of playing !GOLF!! so she’ll sit down and STFU while you enjoy the football game.
The alternative to compromise and balance is starting a new relationship with someone else. This isn’t often a viable alternative for people currently in relationships. They’re just not willing to expend the energy it takes to dump one person, get back in shape, get back in the dating pool and start all over again.
Actually, there IS another option. It’s called “It is what it is”. If the only thing you have in common with someone is sex, enjoy that. Don’t try to make it more than it actually is. When each of you wants to do something the other doesn’t enjoy?.. PEACE!.. Seeya when I Seeya. Most people enter relationships for more of a connection than that, though.. so it’s looking like trade and compromise is the more likely route to feeling ok about the situation.