So I’m talking to an intelligent female friend of mine the other day and she says something to the effect of she can’t bring herself to read my blog because I have all these stories about stupid women. 😀
After I finished laughing, or at least I wasn’t laughing so loud that I could hear her speaking again, she says something like “Why do guys even DATE dumb women? I just don’t get it.”
Being that I thought that this was obvious to everyone on both dating ‘teams’, I never really thought to get into this.
In order to understand how guys or gals are going to select “significant others”, you have to understand what they do when they don’t have a girlfriend or boyfriend. The SO is going to REPLACE whatever it is that they normally focus on. The only reason to stop what you’re currently doing is to do something BETTER. Does that make sense? 😀
So.. Women, for instanceâ€¦ What do they do when they don’t have a man? Shop & Eat. That’s about it. Of course they go to work, but I’m saying what they do with their leisure time. If you’re still reading this, bear with meâ€¦ I’m getting to the point. 😀
Meanwhileâ€¦ What are the fellaz doing? Chasing chicks or checking out some format of hard- or soft-core pornography, including eye-candy-with-no-actual-content chicks on YouTube.
When you combine these two groups, you get people who SEEM to be looking for the same thing, but they’re actually notâ€¦
The women are looking for someone to eat, shop & read books with. Sex is actually an incidental issue.. It’s like a fringe benefit if her boyfriend knows what to do with her body. It’s not even the chocolate icing on the chocolate cupcake.. It’s the one, single, curly line of frosting that goes down the middle and over the top. It’s like a surprise or something if the sex is actually good.
Meanwhile.. The guys are looking for someone to replace their porno collection.
That’s about it.
We already have people to have intelligent conversations with and to do our hobbies with, like Video Games, Paintball & Chasing Chicks…â€¦ Those are called OTHER GUYS.
Lack Of Communication
And now we arrive at the answer to my friend’s question. 🙂 Guys end up dating dumb women because a) Being smart isn’t in her job description and b) The only way we would know if she were intelligent or not would be to actually listen to what she’s saying.
If you’ve ever noticed, there’s no speaking in porno. I mean some of them have a script, yesâ€¦ but you see how the so-called “actors” don’t even TRY to make it realistic? That’s because the speaking is only used to set up the scenario for the sex.
This is how it works in real life, too.
When a guy’s speaking to a gal that he likes, he’s merely setting up the scenario for the sex. It won’t SEEM like a setup to her because most guys don’t know what they’re doing and are just running their mouths until they get a chance to kiss her, and the guys that DO know what they’re doing aren’t going to SEEM like they’re doing what they’re doingâ€¦ Capisce? 😉
Same Game, Different Rules
This is the disconnect my intelligent female friend (I’m just repeating this so you know who I’m talking about without my saying her name. It’s not like I’m saying my ONE intelligent female friend. I have several.) has with this situation. Being that she’s female, she actually pays attention to what guys say. If the guy were an idiot or a narcissist or a misanthrope or a sociopath or whatever, she’d exclude that person from her pool of viable guys to date. That’s not how it works with guys. As Spike Lee said in “She’s Gotta Have It”, You donâ€™t throw away a Rolls Royce because it has a dent in it.
The defining factor for guys in selecting females is whether y’all turn us on or not. Period. Everything else is a fringe benefit. If you happen to be smart? Good for US! 😀 .. doesn’t matter, though. You’re not crazy? (at least you haven’t been certified by an actual psychiatrist) Good for US! 😀 .. doesn’t matter, though. You know how to cook? balance a checkbook? juggle bowling pins? play Ms. Pac Man? make a shawl out of two pairs of shorts and a bowtie? GOOD FOR US!!! 😀 â€¦â€¦ doesn’t matter, though. 😀
If you need evidence of this, search the blogs for career women who can’t understand why their man “cheated” on them with some sexy female burger-flipper. All this clamoring about how accomplished she is and how the new chick dropped out of college, yadda yaddaâ€¦ Here’s a tip: Unless the guy’s a leech and considers you his sugar momma, nobody cares about how much money you make or how successful you are. If the intern’s about to get under the desk with the cigar, it’s about to be ON and POPPIN’! 😀
~ Bill Cammack | @DatingGenius