Comments on: Players (Dating) http://billcammack.com/2009/10/12/players-dating/ Thu, 11 Mar 2010 10:22:05 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2009/10/12/players-dating/#comment-25330 Bill Cammack Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:50:30 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=6693#comment-25330 Actually, your hypothetical example from "back in the day" may or may not be evidence of the dude being a Player. If the sister felt like giving it up, that's on HER. That could be achieved via charisma and zero manipulation whatsoever. She just felt like hooking up with her sister's man. Ish Happens. The Playerism comes into play if the guy had professed to his girlfriend that he was only having sex with her and wasn't hooking up with any other chicks. If he did, then he's "at fault" for allowing the sister to hit him off. He went back on his own word to his girlfriend, regardless of who the other chick happened to be. If he DIDN'T tell his girlfriend he was exclusive with her then anything goes. It would be an issue between the sisters as far as whether either one was going to keep the guy, they'd both share the guy or neither of them would mess with him because he's a cad. This is why it's best to lay your cards on the table with a chick instead of tricking her into hooking up with you with false professions of fidelity. That way, when something equivalent or better comes down the line, you don't have to worry about how your GF's going to react *IF* she finds out about it. You already told her what time it was, she understood what you were saying and if she doesn't like the reality of it, she's free to step to the left. Actually, your hypothetical example from “back in the day” may or may not be evidence of the dude being a Player.

If the sister felt like giving it up, that’s on HER. That could be achieved via charisma and zero manipulation whatsoever. She just felt like hooking up with her sister’s man. Ish Happens.

The Playerism comes into play if the guy had professed to his girlfriend that he was only having sex with her and wasn’t hooking up with any other chicks. If he did, then he’s “at fault” for allowing the sister to hit him off. He went back on his own word to his girlfriend, regardless of who the other chick happened to be.

If he DIDN’T tell his girlfriend he was exclusive with her then anything goes. It would be an issue between the sisters as far as whether either one was going to keep the guy, they’d both share the guy or neither of them would mess with him because he’s a cad.

This is why it’s best to lay your cards on the table with a chick instead of tricking her into hooking up with you with false professions of fidelity. That way, when something equivalent or better comes down the line, you don’t have to worry about how your GF’s going to react *IF* she finds out about it. You already told her what time it was, she understood what you were saying and if she doesn’t like the reality of it, she’s free to step to the left.

]]> By: Frank http://billcammack.com/2009/10/12/players-dating/#comment-25317 Frank Mon, 12 Oct 2009 20:31:37 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=6693#comment-25317 Hmmmmm, so you are saying that if a young man happens to be dating a certain young lady and without trying, he happens to have her sister perform a certain sex act on him he is not a "player"/"playa'"...... Well technically I agree. He didnt try and wasnt angling!!! But of course you do know when that bit of info got out, he was the worst thing since "crack" way back!!! The full story was that she kept grabbing his crotch area and he finally said "unless you gonna do something with that you need to stop", fast forward a whole TEN minutes and, well... hahaha, thats a story I heard about! Women experience the exact opposite. If she is comfortable in her skin and comfortable with her sexuality...well we know she is a <a href="http://billcammack.com/2008/11/18/sluts-whores/" rel="nofollow">HOE</a>. These labels are so misused. Women drop the ball because they assume that "playing the game" means Im trying to get over. Its like they have no clue. If I listened enough to the babble and pick up on the fact that you like certain things, why am I a player if i acted on the info??? Of course the flipside would be when her friends ask if she saw me again and she says no because I *WASNT* paying attention. I prefer to be called a participant... Your game is to get a man to act how you want with the reward being what I was gonna get anyway. I'll take that challenge... I'll participate. Hmmmmm, participating does mean that I "played' along... Hmmmmm, so you are saying that if a young man happens to be dating a certain young lady and without trying, he happens to have her sister perform a certain sex act on him he is not a “player”/”playa’”…… Well technically I agree. He didnt try and wasnt angling!!! But of course you do know when that bit of info got out, he was the worst thing since “crack” way back!!! The full story was that she kept grabbing his crotch area and he finally said “unless you gonna do something with that you need to stop”, fast forward a whole TEN minutes and, well… hahaha, thats a story I heard about!
Women experience the exact opposite. If she is comfortable in her skin and comfortable with her sexuality…well we know she is a HOE. These labels are so misused.
Women drop the ball because they assume that “playing the game” means Im trying to get over. Its like they have no clue. If I listened enough to the babble and pick up on the fact that you like certain things, why am I a player if i acted on the info??? Of course the flipside would be when her friends ask if she saw me again and she says no because I *WASNT* paying attention. I prefer to be called a participant… Your game is to get a man to act how you want with the reward being what I was gonna get anyway. I’ll take that challenge… I’ll participate.
Hmmmmm, participating does mean that I “played’ along…

]]> By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2009/10/12/players-dating/#comment-25315 Bill Cammack Mon, 12 Oct 2009 15:33:14 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=6693#comment-25315 Thanks, Duchess! :D Let's catch up soon! ;) Thanks, Duchess! :D Let’s catch up soon! ;)

]]> By: The Duchess http://billcammack.com/2009/10/12/players-dating/#comment-25314 The Duchess Mon, 12 Oct 2009 14:48:48 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=6693#comment-25314 I enjoy everyword of your writing Bill. Always striving to get it right. with love, The Duchess I enjoy everyword of your writing Bill. Always striving to get it right.
with love,
The Duchess

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