Comments on: 10 Reasons He Wants To Be “Just Friends” http://billcammack.com/2009/10/17/10-reasons-he-wants-to-be-just-friends/ Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:09:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Emma http://billcammack.com/2009/10/17/10-reasons-he-wants-to-be-just-friends/#comment-49283 Emma Sun, 01 Jan 2012 04:06:42 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=6758#comment-49283 Hi Bill, I get all the reasons you evoked (in my case it's reason 9: our friendship is more important for him). However, this person will hit on me at parties and elsewhere (telling me I'm beautiful, taking my hand, hugging me, randomly telling me he didn't hook up with anyone when I didn't even ask, etc), thus sending me mixed signals. By the way he's the one who told me he liked me first; that was four months ago and this ridiculous "game" is still going on.. It's too hard for me to see him only as a friend, and to be honest I'm not interested in being just friend with him. So what should I do? Move on -stop seeing him completely, explaining to him that I just can't do it anymore ("it" being "just friends")? Hi Bill,
I get all the reasons you evoked (in my case it’s reason 9: our friendship is more important for him). However, this person will hit on me at parties and elsewhere (telling me I’m beautiful, taking my hand, hugging me, randomly telling me he didn’t hook up with anyone when I didn’t even ask, etc), thus sending me mixed signals. By the way he’s the one who told me he liked me first; that was four months ago and this ridiculous “game” is still going on..
It’s too hard for me to see him only as a friend, and to be honest I’m not interested in being just friend with him.
So what should I do? Move on -stop seeing him completely, explaining to him that I just can’t do it anymore (“it” being “just friends”)?

]]> By: emily http://billcammack.com/2009/10/17/10-reasons-he-wants-to-be-just-friends/#comment-49263 emily Fri, 30 Dec 2011 00:31:24 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=6758#comment-49263 1 more thing , when I am try to get out from are date he just won't let me go.. but when I be a stupid like feel sad of something he don't know, and then he start to say the same thing about us, about this is not gonna work, everytime when we far awau be apart he always do like that.' why? 1 more thing , when I am try to get out from are date he just won’t let me go.. but when I be a stupid like feel sad of something he don’t know, and then he start to say the same thing about us, about this is not gonna work, everytime when we far awau be apart he always do like that.’ why?

]]> By: emily http://billcammack.com/2009/10/17/10-reasons-he-wants-to-be-just-friends/#comment-49262 emily Fri, 30 Dec 2011 00:27:56 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=6758#comment-49262 I dating someone and he said he might in love with me, and very like me. but he nit see the future together .. What is that MEAN ? I just don't know what ti think any more.. Now I thinking that he might just play with me or he just get out of married ? I dating someone and he said he might in love with me, and very like me. but he nit see the future together .. What is that MEAN ? I just don’t know what ti think any more..

Now I thinking that he might just play with me or he just get out of married ?

]]> By: Tiffany http://billcammack.com/2009/10/17/10-reasons-he-wants-to-be-just-friends/#comment-48267 Tiffany Wed, 30 Nov 2011 14:46:05 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=6758#comment-48267 I just want to add how much I LOVE your blog!!! I need your advice!! I very recently 'agreed' (for lack of a better explanation of my stupidity) to be in a friends with benefits relationship. The guy I got involved with is a very valued friend who I talk with about any and everything in detail. He is seeing someone in another state (he portrays it as serious to some and not so much to others which is also hard to figure out- I guess it keeps him from looking stupid for flying across the country to get some 3 or 4 times a year) and it was very clear that this would be nothing but a physical thing between friends. In my mind fwb's call, hook up, leave....but that wasn't how this went down. He texted and emailed all day and evening every day of is own accord (and I did not text or email him first). Time was drawing near for him to visit his 'sweetie' and I was talking to him at work in his office and he gave me a really yummy hug and even a little 'peck' before I left - then suddenly dropped the communication completely. I Didn't hear from him for 2 1/2 days until I emailed him first. It was when I missed hearing from him that I realized I 'could' care more for him than I thought I would and I would have no control over it and it completely upset me. I think he realized the same thing (though he would never ever admit it in this life time) and that's why he withdrew so suddenly. That and maybe a little bit of guilt if a guy like this can even feel guilt. I told him his own feelings, thoughts and actions freaked him out too...when I dont return his calls, he gets real upset. We discussed it at length before hand - especially the part about how we were worried it would hurt our friendship but we 'did it any way' - we both went into it with eyes wide open....or so we thought. Anyhow, he visited 'her' and the day after he got back the emails and texts started again - and he said he was wondering when we were going to be able to get together again. WTF?!?!? These texts - full of innuendo - went on until the weekend and then - Poof - don't hear from him. Is he really this big of a jerk, a player, a womanizing creep, so much so that I just fell into the same category as any other Bimbo he's messed with over the years? BUT If his other relationship was as real as I thought it was he wouldn't have resumed the texting stuff as soon as he got back....and she can't be much if he started that crap 2 days after visiting her. But, I bet she thinks she is. He was just checking to see if I would still be available if he decided to hook up again, I'm sure. Do I feel stupid? Yes. Do I have regrets? No and Yes. No -I wouldn't have missed being that much closer to him for anything in the world. (Is that confusing or what?) And the guy I thought I could talk to about any and everything and always seemed to shoot straight with me - well, his demeanor is very different - almost guarded and strained now. Now I miss him more than ever. What do you think?? I asked him if he ever considered taking it further and he just said that he might change his mind about me in the future, but for now he wants to be friends. I do feel he is being real & sincere with me and I get the feeling he knows hes a "bad" guy and he likes me enough not to hurt me...because the last time we were "together", he jokingly told me he was too "dangerous" for me. I have seen his girlfriend and she is a zero compared to me, I am a 10!! I dont get why the ugly chick gets the title & not me. Do you think he wants to be friends and develop into something more, or what?? I just want to add how much I LOVE your blog!!! I need your advice!! I very recently ‘agreed’ (for lack of a better explanation of my stupidity) to be in a friends with benefits relationship. The guy I got involved with is a very valued friend who I talk with about any and everything in detail. He is seeing someone in another state (he portrays it as serious to some and not so much to others which is also hard to figure out- I guess it keeps him from looking stupid for flying across the country to get some 3 or 4 times a year) and it was very clear that this would be nothing but a physical thing between friends. In my mind fwb’s call, hook up, leave….but that wasn’t how this went down. He texted and emailed all day and evening every day of is own accord (and I did not text or email him first). Time was drawing near for him to visit his ‘sweetie’ and I was talking to him at work in his office and he gave me a really yummy hug and even a little ‘peck’ before I left – then suddenly dropped the communication completely. I Didn’t hear from him for 2 1/2 days until I emailed him first. It was when I missed hearing from him that I realized I ‘could’ care more for him than I thought I would and I would have no control over it and it completely upset me. I think he realized the same thing (though he would never ever admit it in this life time) and that’s why he withdrew so suddenly. That and maybe a little bit of guilt if a guy like this can even feel guilt. I told him his own feelings, thoughts and actions freaked him out too…when I dont return his calls, he gets real upset. We discussed it at length before hand – especially the part about how we were worried it would hurt our friendship but we ‘did it any way’ – we both went into it with eyes wide open….or so we thought. Anyhow, he visited ‘her’ and the day after he got back the emails and texts started again – and he said he was wondering when we were going to be able to get together again. WTF?!?!? These texts – full of innuendo – went on until the weekend and then – Poof – don’t hear from him. Is he really this big of a jerk, a player, a womanizing creep, so much so that I just fell into the same category as any other Bimbo he’s messed with over the years? BUT If his other relationship was as real as I thought it was he wouldn’t have resumed the texting stuff as soon as he got back….and she can’t be much if he started that crap 2 days after visiting her. But, I bet she thinks she is. He was just checking to see if I would still be available if he decided to hook up again, I’m sure. Do I feel stupid? Yes. Do I have regrets? No and Yes. No -I wouldn’t have missed being that much closer to him for anything in the world. (Is that confusing or what?) And the guy I thought I could talk to about any and everything and always seemed to shoot straight with me – well, his demeanor is very different – almost guarded and strained now. Now I miss him more than ever. What do you think?? I asked him if he ever considered taking it further and he just said that he might change his mind about me in the future, but for now he wants to be friends. I do feel he is being real & sincere with me and I get the feeling he knows hes a “bad” guy and he likes me enough not to hurt me…because the last time we were “together”, he jokingly told me he was too “dangerous” for me. I have seen his girlfriend and she is a zero compared to me, I am a 10!! I dont get why the ugly chick gets the title & not me. Do you think he wants to be friends and develop into something more, or what??

]]> By: Why Consensual Affairs Are More Damaging Than Sexual Harassment | Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2009/10/17/10-reasons-he-wants-to-be-just-friends/#comment-48262 Why Consensual Affairs Are More Damaging Than Sexual Harassment | Bill Cammack Wed, 30 Nov 2011 13:37:10 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=6758#comment-48262 [...] for “sexual”, and he says that it wasn’t, and that they’ve been “Just Friends” for the past 13 [...] [...] for “sexual”, and he says that it wasn’t, and that they’ve been “Just Friends” for the past 13 [...]

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