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Unattractive Women’s Relationship Advantages
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So.. Like, every day, guys have to hear stuff like “I’m not a piece of meat” and “I want him to like me for me”, which doesn’t make any sense, because a woman’s looks are a PART of her “me”, so if a guy likes you for your looks or your body, stop trying to dismiss that like it doesn’t count for anything.
Having said that.. If a guy DOESN’T think you’re cute and/or your body ISN’T sexually inspirational to him and he dates you anyway, you might just have a long-term boyfriend on your hands…
Long Term Relationships
Attractive women are at a SEVERE DISADVANTAGE when it comes to LTRs, because they’re not going to look like that forever. ‘Matter of fact, I’ve met gals that looked completely different six months after I met them, so women that get the rap based on how they currently look have a tough row to hoe. If they cease to maintain their looks, dude might be outtahere like Belvedere.
That’s why I find these television shows really funny where chicks run around giving themselves props for their looks. Good Luck with that. :) It’s these same chicks that roam the subway stations looking like confused zombies once their looks are gone and they become has-beens and actually have to depend on their underdeveloped personalities to make friends and influence people.
Personality Development
Unattractive women have it way better. :) Their personalities are way more developed because guys don’t approach them for sex so the conversations are completely different. Guys make plans to get together with unattractive gals to watch the Yankee game and actually WATCH the Yankee game! :D It wasn’t just a ploy to get her alone so they could hit it.
If a guy ends up attracted to her, it’s for traits that are way less fleeting than looks. She’s likely to be just as cool as she is today next year. She’s likely to be just as intelligent and witty next year. She’s likely to be just as caring and attentive as she is right now for years to come. Meanwhile.. Women who got the rap for their looks are in peril of losing their man to the next better-looking female that comes along. Guys that date for looks are notorious for trading chicks in for the newer, hawter model like happens with cars.
Ease Of Maintenance
Another benefit to unattractive women is that nobody else is trying to kick it to them. :) You don’t have to work so hard to maintain your relationship with her because there aren’t guys lined up around the block trying to steal your girl.
I remember one time, this friend of mine started dating this girl and we all laughed our asses off about it because she was clearly busted, except the problem was that we hadn’t realized that she always dresses down. Months later, we saw her actual body and we were like “HOLY ****!!! :O”. We were like NO WONDER he had hooked up with her and he was suddenly heralded as a gold miner instead of a fool with zero taste in women. The point is that my friend was living on Easy Street because HE knew what was under the hood and nobody else did.
Trickle-Down Theory
Unattractive women don’t have to work as hard to meet men. This is because attractive women will bring them out partying so they can perform the duties of the DUFF, which is similar to a wingman, but not really. The DUFF’s job is to step in and cockblock when she sees that a guy’s trying to lay the attractive chick. The second part of the DUFF’s job is to make the attractive chick look even hotter, merely by standing next to her.
The DUFF’s payoff for performing her duties is that she gets all of the trickle-down.. The guys that didn’t get the rap to the attractive chick and are willing to settle for less or attempt to back-door the situation by making friends with the DUFF, getting her number and getting invited out for another shot at the attractive chick in the near future. Basically, by being “The Woman Next To THE WOMAN”, the unattractive woman gains access to hundreds of guys that would never have spoken to her at all, had she gone to that same bar by herself.
An added benefit to the trickle-down is that in most cases, the DUFF actually has a STELLAR personality compared to the attractive chick. Hawt chicks get hit on all day, every day and it gets on their nerves and causes them to react in a “Let Them Eat Cake!” fashion when a guy steps to them and tells them how beautiful they are for the 20th time since they walked into the club. A lot of guys are tired as hell of this and when they accidentally get deflected to the DUFF, they realize that she’s actually much cooler, smarter and much better company than the chick they meant to kick it to. This is why a lot of insanely attractive women are dumbfounded about how come they don’t get as many relationship offers as women who clearly rolled out of bed just before coming to the party.
Random Advantages
If she’s so inclined, it’s easier for unattractive women to cheat. This is because nobody would believe that someone actually hit it other than the dude that was “desperate enough” to date her in the first place. When she claims she was at home eating Häagen-Dazs, no questions are asked, even though she had actually been at the club all night shaking her ass, making out and getting numbers.
Unattractive women are also more likely to give unattractive guys a chance to date them. This means that they’re selecting from a much larger pool of men and are way more likely to hook up with someone that is actually SINCERE about wanting her to be his boyfriend. Attractive women are busy being selective and trying to date the most attractive, richest, most popular guys… which means they’re way more likely to get used and dumped, because there’s no reason that guys like that should settle for one chick. All guys SOUND sincere when we’re trying to get laid. It’s just not true, though. Unattractive guys can promise the moon and the stars to attractive gals and get no dap. No light. Nada. After enough crashing & burning, guys start to want something real and lower their visual standards while raising their personality standards. This is where unattractive chicks clean up. :D
Unattractive women look the same in the morning………
I wouldn’t be surprised if unattractive chicks have more kids on average, being that their boyfriends/husbands aren’t worried about potentially messing up her stellar physique. Dunno. \o/
Anyway… You can see the myriad advantages that unattractive women have when it comes to relationships. Attractive women can get INTO relationships easier, but unattractive women can REMAIN in relationships easier because they were probably selected for qualities that are going to LAST throughout the years. Keep that in mind next time you see a DUFF chillin’ at the bar, smiling because she’s consistently looking like a HERO for being cool, funny, interesting & caring towards dudes that her attractive homegirl just finished haughtily rejecting.
~ Bill Cammack | @BillCammack
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yep, very true. my chick is not attractive but I certainly am. so I know she isn’t going anywhere, plus her personality rocks!
hehe Way to go, Ken. Hold it down! :D
Hi, I like your perspective on this. Keep giving your in depth views on different facets of relationships. It is always an interesting read.
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Thanks, Sheeba. Cheers! :D
and there are the semi-hot chicks who aren’t getting many raps because they are rolling with three very hot friends of theirs. But they have good personalities and with a little motivation after you enter a relation ship yo can transform them so to speak then boom! you know have a hot chick just like your friend.
Well, that’s a trick of the trade, my man! :D Finding the so-called “diamond in the rough” and transforming her into what she could have been if she a) had the confidence to be that and b) even understood that she could be a killer like her girlfriends, except with the added bonuses of humility, decency and actually bringing something worthwhile mentally to the table.
Also, there are chicks that rock the wrong style for their personalities. They try to dress up like their beauty pageant girlfriends instead of rockin’ that plaid shirt and those black jeans and sneakers that really mesh with their way of being and make them look like grunge ROCK STARS instead of beauty pageant WANNABES! :D
Having said that, I’ve had to condition myself against focusing on the hottest chicks in packs. It’s really tough because of their magnetic attraction. Lots of times, it’s that chick sitting there quietly sipping her drink that’s the one you’re gonna spend the most time with this year. :)
I enjoyed your post very good info. It’s good to see that someone else see what I see. Why do you think the good girl always finish last?
Hey Dsheray. Thanks for the comment! :D
The good girl always finishes last because she’s brainwashed to believe that her goodness is going to land her exclusive access to a man. The trend has been for women to play down their sexuality and sensuality so he’ll “like her for her”. This means that the guy’s gonna have other women on his roster that he gets his kicks with because he thinks they’re HAWT (not necessarily hawt-looking, but they’re sexy and they turn him on and he’s inclined to spend time with them again).
In a lot of cases, guys opt to either keep all of their women while promoting one of them to some kind of girlfriend/fiancee/wife status or they dump the main girl and keep the ones that really turn them on.
Since the good girls aren’t focused on this aspect of relating to men since they think it’s over because this is now 2009, they take themselves out of the game and it doesn’t matter how accomplished they are, they’ll never wrest complete control over a guy from some cashier that serves him at a fast food restaurant that happens to have a fat ass and a nice smile for him.
Hey, this is right on target in the relationship world. It is “bang-on”, you could say.
And I love your style – witty by observation of reality.
Thanks, “Online”! haha Cheers! :D
(I know you’re right – I’m kind of a plain jane and I’ve been with this gorgeous man for 5 years now and our relationship is deep, rich, intimate and he even cooks sometimes and does the dishes).
Play On, Playette! :D
That’s probably because your man got tired of the superficiality of chicks wanting to hook up with him because he was visually attractive and decided he needed more than that if he was going to be in a serious relationship.
The saddest part is that many of the attractive women dont get it!!! How many times have we heard a real attractive, fine azz, “sweety, you should be a model” chick disgustedly ask “why he with that ugly/fat/hairy (take your pick) bitch?? well whatever, his loss!” First thing they remember is “he was looking at me first…she got him because I LET her…blahblahblah…” Its like they take it as a slap in the face that after getting all done up and CHOSE to be a bland conversationalist (and dead fish if you got that far), the man would still choose the lesser of the lookers. I pick my woman like I pick my friends… If we cool we cool. If dude is wearing suspenders and a bow tie BUT i can have fun with him, then thats my peoples. I could care less for the cool azz, cant break a sweat, wanna look like he has a starring role in Twilight, self absorbed guy whose idea of fun is to sit there and look like a mannquin while attracting the same type of female. Give me a beer, a funny chick, some homeys and my own table-we good.
FYI: Not that Im proud of this (winkwink) but I have gotten with some real high-post (their shyt dont stink) chicks just to say “I did her”! Ive doen it when I have known that there would never be a 2nd time. If the impression I got upon meeting her was that she thought “i would never…” in regards to me, uhm well lets see how committed to your own beliefs you are. Im real committed to mine. :)
Yeah, chicks don’t recognize that looks just get them in the door. Personality’s what keeps them in position.
Better-looking gals just have more opportunities to demonstrate personality to guys. It’s the not-so-fly chicks that have a lot more going for them under the hood that always get the callbacks and repeated invites to go out and chill.
Fine, empty-headed girls are a “taste”.. You have to be in the mood for that. Up until you actually get your hands on some chicks, these girls SEEM like the best ones. The cream of the crop! :D Once you detect their crabby attitudes and lack of use for anything other than getting you into the club without waiting on line, you see they’re all style and no substance.
That’s fine for the hit-n-run, but nobody wants to think about being in a protracted relationship with someone that they don’t enjoy spending time with.
As far as “I would never”, hahahaha I hear you man. The thing is that chicks think they know what they want… until they run into a guy that has what they didn’t know they wanted.
hahah this make me laugh hysterically but hes got a point that unattractive women will get more action merely cuz they want it for those men out there that dont even care they will take the action that “handed” to them the point im trying to make is tho if u get a man and wnt give it up to him fairly quick within a month or 2 hes gonna get bored and hes gonna leave i mean lets face it men like sex =D theres no getting around it its just the way it is we like sex when u expect a guy o wait 3-4 months for a lil bit of poon(idk if thats not allowed but still) u better be checking his phone and making sure hes not with someone on the side but anyway bill i like the website and these tips and such but can i ask y did u decide to start a website like this??
Hey Dark. Glad you enjoyed. :)
You’re absolutely right that women’s dating leverage as far as sex is absolutely gone, haha Look at Tiger Woods. He was hooking up with more chicks than you could knock down with one bowling ball! :D
I actually find that phenomenon fascinating, where women think they get to control whether a guy gets laid or not. All they actually control is whether THEY give it up or not. The next gal’s ready to prove her worth and knock that girlfriend/wife out of position for the win.
Thanks for the props on the website. :) That’s actually a good question, why I wanted to start a dating blog particularly like this…
I started out doing what I called “Don’t Try This At Home”, which was supposed to be humorous dating advice that didn’t necessarily do you any good, which was why you shouldn’t try it at home.
What happened along the way was that I have a lot of female readers and they have a lot of the same questions. I got tired of making up funny ish and decided to try to do a public service by attempting to enlighten women so they can WAKE THE **** UP and see how easy it is for us guys to game them. It’s honestly too easy. They always fall for the same damned tricks. :D
On top of that, there are so many stupid things that guys do and stupid things that gals do that never get addressed on dating blogs. The advice is always “Buy her flowers”, “Say you’re wrong”, “Always agree with her”, “Take out the trash”, “Take her out on Valentine’s Day, blah blah blah blah blah.. Meanwhile, nothing ever gets solved, because both sides are keeping what they REALLY think to themselves.
I’m watching that MTV show “Teen Mom” and this one dude obviously doesn’t give a flying **** that his girlfriend got pregnant and now he has a son. I mean it’s OOOOBVIOUS. You just look at his face and he’s like “How did I get in this situation? :(“, “This sucks. :(“, “I don’t want to babysit this kid. :(” and then they drag the show all the way through the season and he has another argument with his girl and FINALLY blurts out that he doesn’t care.
This is the type of thing I’m talking about. Why should it be obvious to some dude watching television and NOT obvious to the girl that was with this guy, laid down with him and had a kid by him that he just doesn’t care? Granted, she’s a teen, but it doesn’t get any better as women get older. I just got really sick of seeing all these situations where women were obviously taking shorts and decided to post about them. I’ve been doing this for years already, and sometimes I get really tired of being redundant but then something new happens like some sportscaster screws some busted intern or production assistant and women are all like “:O HOW COULD HE DO THAT TO HIS WIFE?”.. Meanwhile, the fellaz are like “Is that a girl? He couldn’t get a better chick than THAT?” :D
Most of us see the world in general and dating in particular from such a different perspective that it’s frustrating and annoying to run into YET ANOTHER clueless female because she’s still operating from the brainwashing she received as a small child that there’s someone for everyone and that when a guy hooks up with her, it’s because he likes her as a person and cares about what she thinks and says as opposed to he felt like having sex with her, so he made that happen.
So, Yeah.. I try to mix it up between humor and rants, and I’m extremely happy for the women that have gotten something out of my blog that allowed them to see REALITY in their own relationships and create a stronger dating stance for themselves with a better grasp of the situation and higher self-esteem, but for the most part, the song remains the same.
All I know is that for the last few years, I’ve tried to do my part as far as humor and education. That’s really all I can ask from myself.
Cheers! :)