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Buying Women
I’m not into buying women. I wouldn’t pay a chick one thin dime to spend time with me. Not a dime. I wouldn’t give her a dirty penny that I spotted on the floor and picked up. This is because I know the difference between how it feels to have a gal want to spend time WITH ME vs having a gal around that’s trying to use me to fulfill some type of agenda.
This is why I don’t spend any money in strip clubs. It doesn’t mean anything to me for some chick to spread her legs because I handed her some American currency. *yawn*
It doesn’t mean anything to me for some chick to attempt to pretend to like me. It doesn’t mean anything to me for some chick to pretend she’s sexually attracted to me. This is because I have the real thing, all the time.
A lot of guys don’t have any women that are attracted to them at all. These guys have to work to overcome incredible obstacles in order to pull chicks. I’m attacking from a completely different position. I’m merely making selections (and rejections) from a pool of women that are already attracted to me. I wish I could accurately explain how this feels. The closest I can get is to say that I can FEEL her liking me.. or I can feel that my presence is positively affecting her mood & demeanor… perhaps even her sexuality or sensuality.
I’ll describe the difference as a campfire. If a chick isn’t interested in you, there’s no fire. Nothing. If you brought matches and lighter fluid (verbal game, gimmicks), you might be able to start one. If a chick IS interested in you, the fire’s already there, regardless of how much she tries to cover it up. If you’ve ever been in the dark, near a campfire that’s almost all the way out, you know that you can still VERY CLEARLY see the orange and yellow from the fire and you can hear the leaves & twigs snapping & crackling. If you’ve ever attempted to revive one of these almost-out fires, you know that with a little attention and TLC (adding dry wood, blowing lightly on it…) you can easily create an inferno without using any gimmicks at all.
This is why life isn’t fair. Most guys are trying to start fires in girls that aren’t feeling them at all. The rest of us are merely cultivating the attraction & desire she already has for us.
This is why I’ll LOOK my ass off in strip clubs, because if the owner has any taste, the chicks are FOYINE! :D .. but I’m emotionally clear that there’s no fire there. Not only weren’t they hired to be actresses (they were hired because they were willing to spread their legs for money and do whatever’s required in the back room), but even if they had the technical skill to pretend, they can’t fake what’s obviously missing. GIving them money on top of all that would only make me LESS into the situation instead of more.
This is also why I’d never pay a chick to spend time with me. It’s emotionally worthless. On top of that, I’m in New York City, New York, USA and it’s 5:12am and I could go outside and find a girl Right. This. Minute. Right now. The clubs just closed @ 4:30. The chicks are at the all-night diners eating. They’re still stumbling around outside the clubs that they just finished drinking at for the last six hours on some guy’s dime that was trying to prove how much of a baller he is and get them to come home with him.
They’re having drinks in their girlfriends’ living rooms while they commiserate and gossip about the evening before falling asleep and waking up for brunch together tomorrow. There’s no reason to buy chicks when they’re always around… ALWAYS around. :)
Having said all that, I thoroughly enjoy spending money on my friends in an attempt to return to them some percentage of the pleasure I derive from their honest, genuine friendship and the good times we share together. There’s a major difference between facilitating a good time for people that deserve it and bribing people to spend time with you.
So, fellaz… If your girl’s not down for you but she sticks around because you put her on the payroll, spend some time thinking about what might happen if a) you run out of money, or b) somebody with more money, a better ride and a better crib than you steps to your girl with a better retirement package. It’s better to be with a gal that’s feelin’ you A LITTLE BIT than one that’s not feelin’ you AT ALL. If you can’t tell the difference, good luck TO ya.
And Ladies!… Stop tryin’na use brothaz for their cash! :D It might seem like a better idea than partying as much as you can every other week when you get your check from McDonald’s (how much *IS* minimum wage these days, anyway?), but if a guy figures out what you’re doing, YOU might get used worse than HE does. Leave the playboys alone and go get yourself a nice, sincere minimum-wage boyfriend that honestly cares about you and wants the best for you. Spend some quality time with him over pizza & brews instead of “poppin’ bottles” with dudes that don’t give a flying **** what your name is so long as you’ve got a nice ass.
~ Bill Cammack | @BillCammack
“It doesn’t mean anything to me for some chick to attempt to pretend to like me. It doesn’t mean anything to me for some chick to pretend she’s sexually attracted to me…” – As you say, strippers chat you up because you have money. MONEY. M-O-N-E-Y.
I guess if a dude’s got nothing else going on and he’s flush and lonely that kind of attention is better than hanging around at home. For some dudes. I think if you can’t find a woman to look your way, be attracted to you, and voluntarily have an engaging conversation then you need to change up what you do and put some damn work into it instead of whining. Or move out of your personal Alaska. Or fix your relationship.
I’m not saying I haven’t been and I haven’t enjoyed, but someone pretending to be attracted and aroused by you for cash gets kinda’ creepy. If you have lots of money she’ll stay and drain your wallet all night? Thanks. That’s awesome. Want my ATM card too? No problem.
I’m not saying I don’t get the visceral appeal – it’s definitely more interactive than a magazine. And heaven help you if they remember your name if you ever come back… but just like a waitress at a slow restaurant, they have a long evening to kill.
And don’t get me started on these “gentlemen’s clubs”! Fools and their large amounts of money being easily parted… I’m wondering what the ratio of coupled to single guys is in these joints when it’s not a bachelor party gang or something. I bet it’s like 3:1.
And why do guys go in groups for this?
A.) Enjoy the view
B.) Feel like they’re still in the hunt (if they’re married up – I know there are some guys that are stuck where they are)
C.) Show other men they can exert control over a woman with what they have in their wallet
D.) Other beta male reasons
I’d rather fly solo, get a couple of drinks in me, and possibly chat a real person up. That’s not my ideal but it’s sure what I’d do if the next step down is the go-go bar.
Or stay home – ice cream’s cheaper. :-)
Those are good points. Feel like they’re still in the hunt and show they can exert control over a woman.
I dont have those problems because I hunt whenever the hell I feel like it and as long as you put the right physical moves on a woman, she’ll control HERSELF so there’s no need to control her. :D
First, you don’t pay a whore to STAY you pay a whore to leave. (some men like detachment)
Secondly, it’s not cool to want SOMEthing for NOthing.
Lastly, Unless you are making millions…no one is trying to “use a brotha for they cash”. That’s a myth! Stop spreading it.
Live on.
lol, Agreed on the first two, but sorry. Broke chicks are trying to get ANY ducats they can get. This is why guys cash their checks on payday. They’re broke as a joke, but on that particular Friday & Saturday, they have enough money to get a chick to do what they want them to do, so GAME ON! :D
I agree with this, but I also have noticed you have no problems with sleeping with women you’re not in relationships with. I’m not saying this is your fault — take advantage of whatever you want as long as they’re in agreement but I just want to point something out.
This isn’t very PC to say but the sad fact is that A LOT of women try to “buy” long term relationships with men by having sex with them before they’re really comfortable doing it. There aren’t a huge number of women who would sleep with men outside of a relationship if the market would bear it (ride or die chicks excluded). Since it doesn’t, women are sort of forced to pay themselves…with sex. That’s kind of the exchange — money and sex, and I really don’t care who has a problem with me saying it out loud. You see it with beautiful women & rich guys all the time, and both things are a form of currency in the relationship market.
So I’m saying not just men are having to pay, women do too.
To be clearer about the situation, I don’t believe in relationships at all.
I believe in free will. Other than that, people make verbal contracts with each other and claim they’re going to do certain things that they either uphold or they don’t. There’s no benefit to me in saying to some chick “You’re my girlfriend” in order to get her to hook up with me. Even if I did, relationships are instantaneously dissolved as quickly as they’re created. It’s all bull****.
It’s the same thing with your actual friends. You can call yourselves friends as much as you want, but time and circumstances will tell whether you’re really friends or not. It doesn’t matter what you say. It matters what you do, and it matters even more what you do when it really counts.
I agree with your statement that gals try to retain their “relationships” to guys by using sex and/or kids. In general, it doesn’t work. They either corral a guy that hones his skillz at cheating on her behind her back because he never would have committed to her other than the kid, or the whole thing just backfires and he bounces. There are definitely situations where this ploy ends up in actual long-lasting relationships though.
In general, you’re right. The chick that isn’t giving it up is going to lose out to the chick that IS giving it up 99% of the time. Holding out just means that dude’s gonna take it down the street to get laid and spend time with you when he’s not concerned with hooking up. Unfortunately, this sets an awful precedent in case they actually end up getting married, because he’s very well used to getting laid behind her back and there’s no reason he should stop, since he’s been getting over with it for their entire relationship.
Personally, I would advise women that are going to try to “buy men” with sex to keep their pants on. Just about the worst thing you can do (other than not having any redeeming value whatsoever) is anchor your value to someone on something as common as sex. If that’s your selling point, you’re easily outdone by the next chick that’s willing to give it up and looks better than you or has more tricks up her sleeve than you or is more of a freeky-deek than you (assuming that’s what floats his boat).
Sometimes, it’s better to stay single until a guy comes along that actually values you for some unique traits of yours instead of T&A and how good ******* you is.