Recently, there have been a lot of questions here about REALLY. BASIC. CONCEPTS. and I realize that as intricate as I like to be with my posts, I need to write something very simple that gals (and guys, if they elect to read it) can understand, outlining the potential differences as far as the dating game between the genders.

I mean, seriously.. If women don’t understand that guys are going to tell y’all *ANYTHING* to get laid, we don’t even have a foundation upon which to BEGIN a conversation about dating. :D

I think many of us get into trouble thinking we’re gonna ‘convert’ somebody, or we let our egos tell us we’re just so special that somehow the dude won’t be able to resist and he’ll change.

What we have to start understanding is that what you see is what you get, and a majority of dudes, like Bill says will tell you anything to see the panties fly off. Different strokes for different folks…let the ‘buyer’ beware whether they’re paying in ‘dollar bills’ or ‘warm fuzzies’ we all have a choice…we either see the reality or what we ‘want’ to see…the latter is asking for trouble.

I believe in free will. Other than that, people make verbal contracts with each other and claim they’re going to do certain things that they either uphold or they don’t. There’s no benefit to me in saying to some chick “You’re my girlfriend” in order to get her to hook up with me. Even if I did, relationships are instantaneously dissolved as quickly as they’re created. It’s all bull****.

It’s the same thing with your actual friends. You can call yourselves friends as much as you want, but time and circumstances will tell whether you’re really friends or not. It doesn’t matter what you say. It matters what you do, and it matters even more what you do when it really counts.

I agree with your statement that gals try to retain their “relationships” to guys by using sex and/or kids. In general, it doesn’t work. They either corral a guy that hones his skillz at cheating on her behind her back because he never would have committed to her other than the kid, or the whole thing just backfires and he bounces. There are definitely situations where this ploy ends up in actual long-lasting relationships though.

In general, you’re right. The chick that isn’t giving it up is going to lose out to the chick that IS giving it up 99% of the time. Holding out just means that dude’s gonna take it down the street to get laid and spend time with you when he’s not concerned with hooking up. Unfortunately, this sets an awful precedent in case they actually end up getting married, because he’s very well used to getting laid behind her back and there’s no reason he should stop, since he’s been getting over with it for their entire relationship.

Personally, I would advise women that are going to try to “buy men” with sex to keep their pants on. Just about the worst thing you can do (other than not having any redeeming value whatsoever) is anchor your value to someone on something as common as sex. If that’s your selling point, you’re easily outdone by the next chick that’s willing to give it up and looks better than you or has more tricks up her sleeve than you or is more of a freeky-deek than you (assuming that’s what floats his boat).

Sometimes, it’s better to stay single until a guy comes along that actually values you for some unique traits of yours instead of T&A and how good ******* you is.

This isn’t very PC to say but the sad fact is that A LOT of women try to “buy” long term relationships with men by having sex with them before they’re really comfortable doing it. There aren’t a huge number of women who would sleep with men outside of a relationship if the market would bear it (ride or die chicks excluded). Since it doesn’t, women are sort of forced to pay themselves…with sex. That’s kind of the exchange — money and sex, and I really don’t care who has a problem with me saying it out loud. You see it with beautiful women & rich guys all the time, and both things are a form of currency in the relationship market.

So I’m saying not just men are having to pay, women do too.