I was a little vague.. What I should have mentioned was that when I’m in a situation to meet new chicks, I want to work the room BEFORE settling. What I’m trying to avoid is saying “There are five chicks here I want to meet” and then placing them in totem pole order and then whichever the best one is that I get to talk to, I completely forget all the others.

It’s just not good technique. Yes, it leads to your getting to know more about the ONE chick you’re kickin’ it with, but you could do that on private time. Meet her, find out if you’re compatible, close, step. The way I see things, it’s better to end up with several “ok” contacts after an evening than just ONE good contact.

“One good contact” works if you’re trying to retire, because it’s a good sign that she’ll spend so much time with you. Other than that, you’re wasting time that could be better spent expanding your sphere of influence.

its not that counter productive actually see what i was refering to was locking on to 1 target from the get go before you even begin a rap to anyone. Once your kicking it a little lock on is actually good and keeps you sharp however just avoid developing tunnel vision.

one more thing that came to mind is knowing when to close. i always feel like you can never close to early every thing after “hello” or “what yo name is” is just the clock ticking down til closing time. also after you get the contact info i find it always helps to take like 30 seconds and make full use of that expensive smart phone by actually inputting some key points about the chick, it doesn’t matter what where she works, where shes from anything that stands out.

Planning out raps should be done generically, not specifically. You’re right that planning what to say to one chick is a waste of time when you’re most likely going to have to bail from that situation and go back to the drawing board.

It’s also a waste of time to be as witty and funny and gentlemanly as you wanna be… and the chick never cared from the giddyap. :) Figure out what time it is ASAP, and then decide whether to move to the next level or the next chick.

I’ve done that “lock-on” thing you mentioned and needed to train myself against doing it, but it’s REEEEEEALLY tough not to lock onto the chick that moves me the most, to the exclusion of all the rest of the chicks in the room. It’s really weird, haha if I’m talking to her, it’s like it’s just us sitting there and everything else is a buzz of meaningless noise and a blur of incomprehensible color.

It’s a totally counterproductive way of being. It’s better if I’m not talking to her because I’m checking her out wherever she is in the room, but I’m still aware of other options.

It’s also funny along those lines how chicks can replace other chicks as the primary target and my focus automatically and completely shifts. That happened to me a while back.. I was hanging out with this one chick but met another one when I headed to the bar by myself to re-up. Next thing I know, I’m chatting up this new chick and I had to be like “What the **** are you doing?.. ‘Book’ this chick and BOUNCE!” :D Then I got her contact information & my drinks and headed back to the first chick.

That’s REALLY a tough one, the lock-on. It’s so hard not to focus on the chick that’s currently most attractive instead of the one that’s most enthusiastic or interested in YOU. It’s especially upsetting when BOTH chicks are hawt according to your standards, but I just couldn’t see the forest for the trees because the less-interested chick just happened to edge out the more enthusiastic one BARELY, looks-wise. I’m gonna have to work on that some more. :)