Funny thing about this post is that it wasn’t supposed to be a “post”. It’s just that I needed to respond to Sophia and it needed to NOT be buried in the comment section of a thread some people will never read.

To me, this post was a complete throwaway, but I’ve gotten really good responses from it so I’m glad people got something out of it. :)

The problem with writing my particular style of blog (which is why I’m the only one that does it) is that you’re starting off from scratch with a population that doesn’t believe what you’re saying. When I say that guys are primarily interested in how gals look and whether they want to hook up or not, women don’t want to believe it, even though guys come up to them in crowded bars and introduce themselves. He didn’t hear what you were saying. He doesn’t know your name to Google you and find out that you’re smart (or not), so why is he coming over?.. Because of how you look and what he wants. It’s so simple and right in women’s faces, but they’re already properly brainwashed to maintain the fairy tale.

I agree that the value is in the comments, because when I’m writing the post, I’m telling a particular story without input from anyone else. The comment section is where the DISCUSSION is and where we get blessed with Real-Life Situations that look like ducks, walk like ducks and so far, have mostly turned out TO BE ducks. All I’m trying to do is react on the fly to what I perceive to be the issue based on the data given…

Now that I’m thinking about the comment sections, I’m just now noticing that it’s been mostly women that have the questions. I totally appreciate that as depressing as my blog must be for them that they’re willing to open their minds and consider unpleasant alternative scenarios. If you don’t see it, you can’t do anything about it. What you don’t know WILL hurt you. :)

Personally, I would have *LOVED* for there to have been a female blog breaking down the stuff they do to guys when I was trying to figure women out. It’s a drag when a situation plays out right in front of your face, IRL, and you’re like “What the **** am I supposed to do with THIS situation?” :D

A while back, I’m hanging out with a friend and we go to a party where I’m trying to meet up with this chick. We get to the party and I can’t find her, so my friend and I lean back in the cut, chatting. Lo and behold, the chick doesn’t see me, walks up holding hands with some dude, stops literally six feet away from me and starts making out with him.

I moved in for a closer look to make sure it was her, went back over to my friend with the confirmation, let her finish her action and go about her business then met up with her 10 minutes later as if we had just arrived at the party. Business as usual. Don’t mean Nuthin’. :D

No need to panic. No need to speculate about whether she’s “taken” or “spoken for”. It is what it is. He’s going to stop kissing her or he isn’t. He’s going to take her away from the party when he’s finished or he isn’t. Whatever happens is going to determine what I’m gonna do. It’ll be something or it’ll be nothing. I’ll tally up the score at the end of the evening.

I had to learn this through trial & error of being in situations where there was more than one guy rapping to the girl I wanted or there was more than one girl rapping to me at the same party or I retardedly invited two girls I was kickin’ it to to the same event since I was sure that the one I wanted more wasn’t going to show up.. and of course, she did. :/

I would have LOVED for there to have been a female blog where I could have gone to get alternative perspectives. I might not have agreed that they were pertinent to my particular situations, but they would have come in handy in a few pivotal moments where I could have made a better decision than I did in the trenches and I could have had a better day or a better relationship because of it.

I think this is one of the down sides to writing a straight blunt honest dating blog. it is often contradictory to the fairy tale nature of our current mental picture of the situation. Also the true value of these posts is always in the comments its the only place were bill and other guys can give you male perspective on your situation.