Comments on: Ladies: Please Get A Clue http://billcammack.com/2010/03/20/ladies-please-get-a-clue/ Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:09:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2010/03/20/ladies-please-get-a-clue/#comment-44470 Bill Cammack Mon, 06 Jun 2011 02:33:41 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=7899#comment-44470 Hey Heather. :) Thanks for the comment. You're absolutely right about that. Some guys want monogamous relationships fresh out the box. Other guys get tired of the games and decide they want to 'settle down'. The point I was trying to make was that *IF* a dude cheats, it's not because of some supernatural occurrence.. It's becasue he. felt. like. it. and he hooked up with some other chick. There's nothing more scientific about the situation. As far as your very last question.. It really depends on the particular individuals involved, but there are several possibilities, including the ones you brought up. He might have had no intention of being monogamous, but for him, sex and love aren't connected, at all. To him, he might be able to hook up with other chicks while he simultaneously loves and wants to stay with his current girlfriend/fiancee/wife/whatever. The thing is that some people.. Well.. A Lot of people add "fidelity" or "faithfulness" into the definition of love. When you think that way, if someone "cheats" on you, you automatically believe they don't love you, which is the problem with that way of thinking. Look at your boy, Arnold Schwarzenegger. He had four kids with his wife during their 20 year marriage..... except he *ALSO* had one kid with their housekeeper.... WHOOPSIE! :D People will try to say in hindsight that he was faking being in love with his wife. In fact, the case could easily be made that he loved his wife all along and he loves her now, except he felt like screwing at least one other chick on the side. It all depends on what YOU actually believe about love, sex & monogamy. If you follow what the masses say, that might not be the right answer for YOU in particular. In the best case scenario, when both people commit to a relationship, they *BOTH* want to give each other the relationship they were looking for. If you tell him that one of your requirements for a relationship is monogamy, he should WANT to give you that and want to uphold his end of the bargain and keep his word to you to not hook up with other women. I think that ultimately, it comes down to HONESTLY getting to know someone BEFORE entering a so-called "relatonship" with them. Too many people jump in first and figure out who they're in a relationship with after the fact. That's really bad policy and one of the reasons why so many relationships fail. Take the time to get to know a guy to the point where you BELIEVE y'all are on the same page, and you'll most likely be alright. :) Good Luck, Heather! :D Hey Heather. :) Thanks for the comment.

You’re absolutely right about that. Some guys want monogamous relationships fresh out the box. Other guys get tired of the games and decide they want to ‘settle down’.

The point I was trying to make was that *IF* a dude cheats, it’s not because of some supernatural occurrence.. It’s becasue he. felt. like. it. and he hooked up with some other chick. There’s nothing more scientific about the situation.

As far as your very last question.. It really depends on the particular individuals involved, but there are several possibilities, including the ones you brought up. He might have had no intention of being monogamous, but for him, sex and love aren’t connected, at all. To him, he might be able to hook up with other chicks while he simultaneously loves and wants to stay with his current girlfriend/fiancee/wife/whatever.

The thing is that some people.. Well.. A Lot of people add “fidelity” or “faithfulness” into the definition of love. When you think that way, if someone “cheats” on you, you automatically believe they don’t love you, which is the problem with that way of thinking.

Look at your boy, Arnold Schwarzenegger. He had four kids with his wife during their 20 year marriage….. except he *ALSO* had one kid with their housekeeper…. WHOOPSIE! :D

People will try to say in hindsight that he was faking being in love with his wife. In fact, the case could easily be made that he loved his wife all along and he loves her now, except he felt like screwing at least one other chick on the side.

It all depends on what YOU actually believe about love, sex & monogamy. If you follow what the masses say, that might not be the right answer for YOU in particular.

In the best case scenario, when both people commit to a relationship, they *BOTH* want to give each other the relationship they were looking for. If you tell him that one of your requirements for a relationship is monogamy, he should WANT to give you that and want to uphold his end of the bargain and keep his word to you to not hook up with other women.

I think that ultimately, it comes down to HONESTLY getting to know someone BEFORE entering a so-called “relatonship” with them. Too many people jump in first and figure out who they’re in a relationship with after the fact. That’s really bad policy and one of the reasons why so many relationships fail.

Take the time to get to know a guy to the point where you BELIEVE y’all are on the same page, and you’ll most likely be alright. :)

Good Luck, Heather! :D

]]> By: Heather http://billcammack.com/2010/03/20/ladies-please-get-a-clue/#comment-44459 Heather Fri, 03 Jun 2011 22:43:58 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=7899#comment-44459 I'm sorry, but isnt't at all possible that guys actually do want monogymous relationships? Like one day, when they can no longer get laid every week by different women? I'm just saying, having one person is easy. U don't have to try to hook up with them, you go home and say you're horny. Don't get me wrong, i love polygomy. I'm 19 and am in no way ready for exclusivity, but one day i would want to fall in love, and if i'm in love with someone, why would i want to cheat on them? It's wrong and hurtful. SO if a guy cheats, does that mean he really just didn't want to be monogymous, but did want to be with that girl long term, or that he just didn't love her at all? I’m sorry, but isnt’t at all possible that guys actually do want monogymous relationships? Like one day, when they can no longer get laid every week by different women? I’m just saying, having one person is easy. U don’t have to try to hook up with them, you go home and say you’re horny. Don’t get me wrong, i love polygomy. I’m 19 and am in no way ready for exclusivity, but one day i would want to fall in love, and if i’m in love with someone, why would i want to cheat on them? It’s wrong and hurtful. SO if a guy cheats, does that mean he really just didn’t want to be monogymous, but did want to be with that girl long term, or that he just didn’t love her at all?

]]> By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2010/03/20/ladies-please-get-a-clue/#comment-40929 Bill Cammack Fri, 04 Feb 2011 07:30:55 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=7899#comment-40929 lol, That's because that story is SOP (Standard Operating Procedure). Women are programmed to want exclusive sexual access to guys AND not to think of themselves as "homewreckers", so guys help y'all give it up by saying their current sex lives are trash. His wife could easily be givin' it up smooth every single night, and he just feels like hooking up with a different chick, so a couple of well-placed lies act as a form of social lubricant... lol, That’s because that story is SOP (Standard Operating Procedure).

Women are programmed to want exclusive sexual access to guys AND not to think of themselves as “homewreckers”, so guys help y’all give it up by saying their current sex lives are trash.

His wife could easily be givin’ it up smooth every single night, and he just feels like hooking up with a different chick, so a couple of well-placed lies act as a form of social lubricant…

]]> By: Christine http://billcammack.com/2010/03/20/ladies-please-get-a-clue/#comment-40768 Christine Mon, 31 Jan 2011 00:54:09 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=7899#comment-40768 Hey Kay, It is such a small world. That exact same guy just hit on me with the SAME STORY. Must be him, no way it could be so COMMON!! BTW I'm in New Orleans and you and Bill need to find me in the French Quarter!! xoxo Hey Kay,
It is such a small world. That exact same guy just hit on me with the SAME STORY. Must be him, no way it could be so COMMON!! BTW I’m in New Orleans and you and Bill need to find me in the French Quarter!! xoxo

]]> By: Bill Cammack http://billcammack.com/2010/03/20/ladies-please-get-a-clue/#comment-34830 Bill Cammack Sat, 04 Dec 2010 17:23:36 +0000 http://billcammack.com/?p=7899#comment-34830 Women are DEFINITELY better liars than men => http://billcammack.com/2009/12/08/why-women-are-better-liars-than-men/ Just a couple of weeks ago, this chick told me she hooked up with this guy who was GOING TO leave his wife. :/ Jeez! haha in the year 2010 AD, chicks are still falling for "We're divorced, but haven't moved out yet" and all the other permutations of the lie that needs to be told to get women to lay down. As far as that dude you mentioned, haha I'm sure he was LIVID at the idea that his wife would be getting hers behind his back. :D That's good for him! :D While there are definitely a lot of stupid guys, I'd chalk a situation like this up to believing he already put her in Deep Check and if she wasn't getting it from him, she wasn't getting it from anybody... except maybe BOB. <em><font size="1">Battery-Operated Boyfriend</font></em> You're bringing up some interesting points. I'm starting to wonder why guys think it's so easy (and in many cases, it IS) to lock a chick down and then do whatever they want, sexually, while she just stays at home, raises the kids and never gets her boat floated. Maybe it's because guys think we're the only ones capable of having a highly-active sex drive. I can see that as being the case, since guys have to get chicks in the mood, etc. I can see them thinking "Well.. If *I* don't turn her on, she's not going to start feeling turned on by herself, so I don't have to worry about her stepping out behind my back." \o/ http://billcammack.com/2008/12/22/sexless-marriage-awww-hellls-naw/ Women are DEFINITELY better liars than men => http://billcammack.com/2009/12/08/why-women-are-better-liars-than-men/

Just a couple of weeks ago, this chick told me she hooked up with this guy who was GOING TO leave his wife. :/ Jeez! haha in the year 2010 AD, chicks are still falling for “We’re divorced, but haven’t moved out yet” and all the other permutations of the lie that needs to be told to get women to lay down.

As far as that dude you mentioned, haha I’m sure he was LIVID at the idea that his wife would be getting hers behind his back. :D That’s good for him! :D

While there are definitely a lot of stupid guys, I’d chalk a situation like this up to believing he already put her in Deep Check and if she wasn’t getting it from him, she wasn’t getting it from anybody… except maybe BOB.

Battery-Operated Boyfriend

You’re bringing up some interesting points. I’m starting to wonder why guys think it’s so easy (and in many cases, it IS) to lock a chick down and then do whatever they want, sexually, while she just stays at home, raises the kids and never gets her boat floated.

Maybe it’s because guys think we’re the only ones capable of having a highly-active sex drive. I can see that as being the case, since guys have to get chicks in the mood, etc. I can see them thinking “Well.. If *I* don’t turn her on, she’s not going to start feeling turned on by herself, so I don’t have to worry about her stepping out behind my back.” \o/

http://billcammack.com/2008/12/22/sexless-marriage-awww-hellls-naw/

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