I wrote “Ladies: Why He Won’t Call You His Girlfriend” almost exactly two years ago, on September 29, 2008.
On September 02, 2010, a commenter on that post said:
You need an article on “Why She won’t call you her Boyfriend”. It’s 2010, you actually have strong independent women with options now honey. Until you prove you stand out in the crowd and DESERVE me… why would you have rights to claim me?
This is a BRILLIANT idea! 😀 I think I’ll talk about this right now.
Why Didn’t *I* Think Of This?
The first thing I thought when I read that comment was “HAHAHA What a FUNNY title for a post! :D”.
The second thing I thought was “How come *I* never thought of writing this article? o_O”
I thought about it for quite a few seconds.. Nowhere near an actual full minute, but for me, it was a LOOOONG TIME that I tried to figure out why I never wrote this article. I ended up not figuring anything out that I didn’t already know… I didn’t write this article because
NOBODY ******* CARES WHAT YOU CALL US!
I never thought to write this because nobody’s going to read it. Guys don’t give a flying **** about what women SAY.. It’s what women DO that makes it clear to us where we stand in our relationships.
I’m going to go straight to the top of the Google search for “Why She Won’t Call You Her Boyfriend”, because I don’t think this has ever been written about in the entirety of human history! 😀
Roses & Names
You know that saying: “You can call me anything you want.. Just don’t call me late for dinner”? That applies DIRECTLY to relationships. Titles are a female thing. Guys are interested in FUNCTIONALITY.
Let’s look at some examples:
Let’s say a girl calls you her boyfriend and then you hang out with her and she doesn’t have sex with you. That wasn’t very useful, was it? :/
Now.. Let’s say a girl DOESN’T call you her boyfriend (or anything else) and every time you hang out with her, you have a grand ole time! 😀 .. WHY IN THE HELL would you commiserate with your homeboys about a) the fact that she DIDN’T call you some useless title, and b) finding out ways from them that you could possibly GET HER to call you “Boyfriend”? hahaha It doesn’t make any natural sense. Nobody Cares!!! 😀
This is actually what I keep trying to tell women. A guy doesn’t expend any energy calling you “Girlfriend” and it doesn’t mean anything either. If a guy’s smart, he’ll keep calling you “Girlfriend” to your face in order to maintain your maximum functionality.
The only reason a guy would give a damn about a gal calling him her Boyfriend is if he intended to keep her indefinitely, like to get married to her or start a family with her.
Actually, another reason would be for his own benefit so he could look good to his homeboys or look successful to his co-workers. It’s always a feather in a guy’s cap that he bagged a particularly attractive female… Of course, this backfires on less-attractive women because it’s better for guys to keep it under the hat that they ‘settled’ for her.
I’m trying to think of a third reason, but I don’t think one exists. There really isn’t any value in what a female calls you because your title doesn’t determine her functionality. I’ve never been married, but I’ve damned sure gotten laid. Meanwhile, there are lots of guys that are married right now that can’t even get sex from their own wives.. What’s the point of THAT? \o/
How To Get Her To Call You Her Boyfriend
Hit it properly.
Lies, Lies, Lies, YEAH!!!
Another reason guys don’t care what y’all call us is that if it’s necessary, we’re just going to lie about it anyway to get our props. “See her over there?… I’m tappin’ that. :D”.
That’s pretty much all we have to do. Everybody knows that you’re societally pressured to deny ever having sex with ANY guy that hasn’t publicly claimed you exclusively, so as not to look like a ho, so even when you deny it, nobody’s going to believe you.
They’re going to act like they believe you and then pat the dude on the back and ask him how it was and if he’s finished with you yet so they can try to get on.
The commenter also mentioned Independent Women. She was absolutely right. There are way more successful, self-sufficient women now than there were before, and their numbers are increasing each year.
A guy would have to really be on top of his game to “prove that he stands out in the crowd and DESERVES her”.
The only guys that care how much money a gal has are guys that need to use a gal for her money. o_O
I mean, you don’t want her to be BROKE (destitute), but other than being able to afford her 1/2 of the bar tab, who cares? \o/
Guys aren’t worried about meeting women with money because we’re trained from day 1 to GET JOBS and GET MONEY. Guys are not trained to specifically seek out women that can financially support them for dating purposes.
Similarly, guys are not concerned with dating women that are taller, stronger or more dangerous than they are because we’re trained from day 1 to handle our own security.
So, is it ADMIRABLE that a woman is independent & successful? HELLZ YEAH!!! 😀
Does it matter? No.
Rich Woman that doesn’t want to hook up with you = 🙁
Poor Woman that wants to hook up with you = 😀