Thanks to Charlie Sheen, we’ve been hearing a lot about Winning, lately.
We’ve also been hearing a lot of sour grapes about what he’s had to say about himself.
American society is “funny” like that. It’s pretty much cool for someone to WIN, unless they TELL YOU they’re winning. o_O
It’s also cool for other people to declare that you’re a winner, but you’re not allowed to say so yourself without people HATING the fact that you informed them that you’re winning. 😀 haha They don’t even hate that you’re winning, only that you essentially rubbed it in their faces.
The problem here is the exact same one as with Political Sex Scandals. Guys are elected to political office because they’re more efficient than you are at getting what they want, regardless of what the other team thinks… Then, these same guys are expected NOT to hook up with whatever females they want, regardless of what their wives think.
Those two mentalities don’t mesh. People need to stop being surprised when someone is born, raised, trained and groomed to WIN, and then, that winning lifestyle results in them doing or saying something INDICATIVE OF their actual lives, such as cheating on wives that they only married in the first place so they could rise in the ranks of politics (no such thing as a “single” President since the 1800s), or saying “I’m rich as **** and make millions of dollars PER WEEK, so I can afford as many hawt girls as I want, and there’s nothing you can do about it other than watch me and my family on televison and in films and keep paying us our royalties, beyotch! >:D”.
Meanwhile, if some drone on Entertainment Tonight says “Charlie Sheen reportedly receives 1.8 MILLION DOLLARS to appear in a single sitcom episode”, you go “Damn! haha What a lucky guy! I wish I were him! :D”
Personally, I’m addicted to winning.
I was born to win. I was born TO WINNERS. I was raised to win. I was trained to win. I love to win. I hate to lose. I never go anywhere or do anything without the full intention of WINNING. I intend to get the most I can get out of a situation. I intend to be the best I can be at whatever I’m doing.
Does this mean I never lose? Hellz naw. I lose all the time. I lose every day. This is because my sights are set so high that anything else than the win I envisioned is a LOSS to me.
I never lose when I’m working. I’m the closer. I’m the go-to guy. I’m the guy that will put in 16 hours a day on your project for three days in a row, to make sure your project’s completed properly and on time, and then you’re gonna owe me a whole hell of a lot of money for my time and attention to YOUR problem.
I can’t afford to lose when I’m editing. There’s no such thing as MOST of a television show. o_O You either complete it or you don’t. 1 or 0. Win or Lose. I intend and expect to win. Every Time.
I can’t afford it. My clients can’t afford it. If I don’t KNOW I’m going to win a situation, there’s no point in my accepting the job.
I’ve been teaching myself audio engineering for nearly a year now. I used to engineer for my friends Doc & Orlando at their studio “Sample Kings” back in the day, but today’s technology is a completely different beast, and there was a lot for me to learn.
The internet has made it insanely easy for me to find and absorb information. Back in the day, I used to have to go to the music library down at Lincoln Center, because they had all the magazines, like Mix, where I could learn about new hardware and mixing boards, and read interviews with the people who were actually makin’ it happen.
This meant that A LOT OF TIME WAS WASTED, traveling back and forth to the library, and I could only get new information at the rate that the magazines were published, and only about what they elected to discuss that month.
It also meant that I received a completely biased viewpoint. The only things published in magazines are FAVORABLE to what they’re advertising or showcasing. How many times have you seen negative testimonials? o_O How many times have you seen a commercial on television for a film that included anything but “WOW!.. STELLAR!!.. FUN FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY!!! :D”?
Now, learning is instantaneous. I want to know something, and I drop in to http://www.gearslutz.com/board/ or http://www.ultimatemetal.com/forum/andy-sneap-151/, and not only is the information there about the technology or techniques, but there are lively, informative discussions, pro AND con, amongst people that have actually already done what I’m thinking about doing.
The reason I bring this up in this article is.. I’m not learning mixing / engineering so I can be Good or OK at making records.. I’m learning it so I can be THE BEST at making records. Nothing else makes any sense to me or is worth anything to me at all.
Does that mean I’m actually going TO BE the best at it? Definitely not. I’m not the best at video editing, either.
What I’m saying is that my VISION is being the best. My actual goal is to be as good as I want to be, which for me, amounts to “I made it as far as I wanted to, and I can do anything I want with music, to my personal satisfaction. I’m the best I can be right now for the amount of effort and focus I put into this”.
However, the Drive comes from the Vision. Video Editing and Music aren’t the best fields to use for this example, because they’re so subjective.. They’re really actually art. You can’t really say one artist is better than another one without defining certain parameters. Without those parameters, a stick figure drawing could be better than an elaborate oil painting because it gets the point across or expresses the artist’s emotion more accurately or acutely.
Having said that.. When I become aware of someone who’s great at a skill that I’m currently striving to add to my personal repertoire, I’m not built to feel that I want to be OK at what they do. I’m not built to want to be as good as they are. I’m built to want to be BETTER than they are.. RIGHT NOW. IMMEDIATELY. >:D It actually bothers me that I’m NOT better than they are, which is what sends me back to the drawing board to put in another 16 hours of learning and improving myself.
When I feel like I’m as good as I want to be, that’s when I relax. That’s when I’m content, and I can enjoy my newly-developed skillz. Until that time, it’s GAME ON!!! >:D
If I give someone the short version of that information, and say “I’m studying to be a mix engineer”, they will be entirely, 100% in my corner. They’re going to cheer and pat me on the back and say “Way to go! :D” and wish me luck and ask me what they can do to help me.
If I tell someone “I’ve never mixed a record that sold one single copy ever in life, however, I’m in the process of becoming the best mix engineer on this planet”, people are going to HATE and talk behind my back and say that I’m arrogant and delusional and blah blah blah and they’re going to hope and pray that I don’t succeed.
Same exact information. Different delivery. Different result. Love vs Hate.
To make matters worse, if AAAAAAAANYONE ELSE says “Bill’s ******* GOOD at mixing! :O”, I will receive my propers. I will receive accolades and pats on the back and I will be publicized through people’s Facebook and Twitter accounts to no foreseeable end.
Another recent fad has been the focus on bullying, which is basically the same thing as bragging that you’re a winner, but taking it to physically or psychologically abusive levels.
It will be interesting to see if all these vigils and rallies and protests have any effect whatsoever on basic human nature, especially amongst kids.
American society teaches us “Win, if you can.”
Everything you ever experience, growing up as a kid here is “The USA is better than everyone else on the entire ******* planet”.
Dave Chappelle: “U.N.? You have a problem with that? Know what you should do? You should sanction me.. Sanction me with your army….. OH!! WAIT A MINUTE!.. You don’t HAVE an army! 😀 .. I guess that means you need to shut the **** up! :D”
Our whole entire lives are BASED on bullying. Like ‘Ashy Larry’ said in the video, “Word to everything we LOVE, we’re coming to see y’all, SUNN!” Might makes right. Majority rules. To the victor belong the spoils.
In the politics of the United States, a spoil system (also known as a patronage system) is a practice where a political party, after winning an election, gives government jobs to its voters as a reward for working toward victory, and as an incentive to keep working for the party—as opposed to a system of awarding offices on the basis of some measure of merit independent of political activity.
The term was derived from the phrase “‘to the victor belong the spoils” by New York Senator William L. Marcy, referring to the victory of the Jackson Democrats in the election of 1828.
We’re not trained to treat people fairly. The worst sports player gets picked last, if at all. The hawter-looking girls get more dates. The guy with the nice car can attract girls’ attention more easily… The only way around this is for PARENTS to teach their kids from day 01 to be nice to other kids and be fair to them, even if it’s clear that their child has a CLEAR advantage over someone else. Even then, the absorption of that code of ethics will come down to the kid’s actual personality, not how hard the parents strive to instill that belief system in them.
The USA is better than everybody. New York is better than all the other states. New York City is better than everywhere else in New York State. Manhattan is better than Brooklyn, Queens, The Bronx, or Staten Island (If you’ve never heard of those places, there are actually 5 boroughs that make up New York City, even though every time you see us on television, they only show Manhattan). Upper West Side is better than Harlem (Neighborhoods on Manhattan island). West End Avenue is better than Broadway (Streets within the Upper West Side). It never stops. There will always be reasons why people feel they’re better than someone else. All you can really hope to do about it is change how people process that information and react to people they naturally consider inferior.
Having said all that.. I think it’s a valuable quest for people to combat bullying. I’m saying that holding hands like The Grinch Who Stole Christmas and singing songs together isn’t gonna cut it.
You’re dealing with something that’s way more ingrained than “Is it fair for you to do this to someone?”. It’s like telling a dude “You always spend time with attractive women.. You should date a few busted chicks so they have a chance to have a good time, too.” hahaha It doesn’t work like that.. Ain’t that type-a party. >:D
In fact, the qualities of a bully are the same as the qualities of a winner and the qualities of a politician. All three are programmed to WIN!!!.. It’s just that bullies “use their powers for evil” instead of for good. It’s not the people themselves that are the problem, but what they elect to do with their position in the pecking order.
My problem with Political Correctness is that it doesn’t change how anyone FEELS about anything. It’s merely a set of guidelines about what you’re allowed to say without being scrutinized or considered to be “different” by “the masses”.
Basically, if you’re a winner, so long as you don’t SAY you’re a winner, people sweat you and cheer you on. If you’re a bully, but don’t TELL PEOPLE you’re a bully, or you don’t bully anyone they know personally, that will tell them the story, people sweat you and cheer you on. If you’re a politician and you don’t INFORM ANYONE… well.. other than the pimps that you have to call on your government-issued cell phone in order to have them send you a girl on credit because you still haven’t paid them for the last hooker you ordered… that you’re cheating on your wife that you already have four kids with and she still looks hawt enough that you should be tappin’ THAT and keeping your political career intact, people sweat you and cheer you on.
If a dude is rich, famous and has eight (8) porno chicks on his payroll that he’s currently screwing on a regular basis, I want to hear about that. 😀 I don’t want him to hide his version of the American Dream. Nobody wins from that. Nobody wins if everybody acts like they’re living the same life. If I drink beer every day and someone else can afford champagne every day and someone else can only afford to drink tap water every day, I want to hear about BOTH of those stories.
If a gal figures out how to get a guy to marry her within 3 months of meeting him, I want to hear about that story, so I can avoid it happening to The Kid! >:D
hahaha That’s another thing. I just reminded myself. What’s up with all the HATING when people refer to themselves in 3rd Person??? 😀
Like, suddenly, we’re supposed to be narcissists or something? haha Please! 😀
It’s nice to try to protect people’s feelings and make sure nobody says anything that makes anyone else feel poorly, but what about The News? o_O
If people are so concerned about everyone’s mental stability, how come The News reports nothing but depressing negativity all day and all night? Who’s regulating that? Who’s telling The News they can only report on shiny, happy things from now on?
Nobody. Because television stations are getting pIZaid, is why. So the show must go on, and business is business. If you don’t like it, sanction them.. Sanction them with your army.
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