One of the funny things to me about the dating game is that people generally fail to measure themselves against their competition.
It’s like they believe they’re dating in a vacuum, where they’re the only person the other person is dating, *AND* as if the person they started dating ceases to meet new people after them.
I mean, it’s really stupid. :)
I get questions from grown-ass women, wondering how their “relationship” is going to some dude, and then when I’m like “When was the last time you hooked up with him? o_O”, they’re like “OH!.. WE HAVEN’T HAD SEX YET!! :O”
That’s when I inform them that a) they’re not involved in a relationship unless they’re having sex with the dude, and b) the first chick that gives him some will automatically usurp their position on the totem pole, and they’ll side down or completely OFF of his dating radar.
This is 2012, not 1912.
All that “Courtship Of Eddie’s Father” ish has been over for decades.
Women’s current competition for dates include every legal chick within striking distance, as well as every jilted and/or divorced chick that’s back on the market.
Unfortunately for women, the dating pool for guys is always increasing, while the dating opportunities for women are constantly decreasing.
For some reason, women tend to revert to high school strategies for dating, even after they graduated HS 20 years ago and have 2-3 kids by now.
It just isn’t the same game… How are you going to start all over and try to get a boyfriend when you’ve already done the whole marriage/kids thing already? o_O
How about progressively moving forward with your life and getting new goals, such as fun, recreation, companionship, sharing, enjoyment…
All that boyfriend stuff is for kids. How are you going to have a 50-year-old boyfriend? haha C’MON SUNN! :D
Meanwhile.. Even though the deck is stacked in the favor of the guys, a lot of them go overboard and let themselves lapse into all kinds of pathetic states of disrepair, and then think that they’re offering so much to women that they should be able to put them in deep check with a couple of dinner dates and maybe one orgasm per month.
Unfortunately for you, the women that are still looking fly in their old age are realizing that they can get some from younger dudes that are tired of ditzy young chicks and wouldn’t mind tappin’ a non-spring-chicken.
How did KRS say? o_O “The girls look soooo good, but their brain is not ready… I don’t knowwwww… I’d rather talk to a woman, ’cause her mind is so steady.. So here we gooooo!!!” >:D
So, your competition is NOT a bunch of old dudes like yourself, but *ANY* dude that’s willing to buy “your woman” a drink and chat her up at the bar.
This is at least doubly true if she has her own money and isn’t looking for a guy to make her life worth living, other than in the sack.
The upside to this is that so long as you do the least that you can do to maintain your physique and overall appearance, you can bag as many chicks your age as you can afford.
It’s like in the movies, when they ask someone to volunteer, and everybody steps backwards, except for one dude… He never volunteered, but he gets the job by default.
Dudes are visually falling off like Humpty Dumpty.
All you have to do is stay fly and you’ve got it made.
You look better every year, merely by not looking worse.
The height of arrogance is believing that you have whomever you’re dating in deep check. :)
Your best bet, if you aspire to keeping a relationship is to make yourself useful every time you’re around that other person.
As soon as you take the other person for granted, you ‘might could’ get datejacked by somebody who’s a little more interested in tappin’ that than you are.. or a little more interested in looking good than you are.. or a little more interested in attentively listening than you are.. or a little more interested in acting out that scene from 9 1/2 Weeks than you are…..
So don’t get comfortable and lazy, physically or mentally.