One of the most annoying things in life is when the only thing of any potential value a chick presents to potential suitors is T&A, and then she cries about it when dudes hit it and quit it. :D
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Ladies.. Please pay attention to what you’re selling.
I know you want respect, except, guess what? o_O … Respect is… Wait for it!!!…..
Now that you’re aware of that, think back to what it is that you said or did that promped that guy that just dumped you after sex to feel respect for you…
oh… Nothing? o_O … Well, there it is, isn’t it? :D
Think about it this way.. Did you graduate from High School without passing any tests?.. No.
Did someone just hand you a diploma? No. You had to work for it. You had to pass tests. You had to do homework. You had to give oral presentations. You had to *PROVE* that you were worthy of the title “High School Graduate”.
So.. If you can’t PROVE why some dude you’re dating has respect for you, it’s possible that he doesn’t have any at all.
* SIDE NOTE: Even if he respects you, he might step to the left after he hits it, but that isn’t the point *
If all dude knows about you is how your body looks, and maybe you’re cute (which isn’t relevant for a lot of guys), because that’s all you show people on Facebook and Twitter is pictures that somehow display your ass and face at the same time, preferably with your hands against a wall, as if you’re under arrest, don’t expect him to treat you differently from a common stripper.
Speaking of which…
Back in the day… My boys bought me a lapdance at this strip joint, right? haha It was partially because it was my birthday, and partially because they thought it would be funny because they know I never pay chicks to rub their asses on me.
So the chick they bought was FOYINE, right? hehe So I sit down and she starts doing her lapdance thing, and it’s all lovely for like 6 seconds, right?.. But then, she starts ROLE-PLAYING being a stripper.
So that blew my immersion, immediately, because now I’m thinking “You don’t have to PRETEND to be a stripper… You *ARE* a stripper, you ******* IDIOT! :/”
If she would have just STFU, it would have been a nice experience, but ohhh nooooo, that couldn’t possibly have been what happened.
So my boys had already paid for it, so I let this imbecile complete her duties and go about her business after a few minutes.
The relevance of that story to this conversation is that if you’re an attractive female, that’s already obvious to guys… like OBVIOUS.
There’s no need to oversell the T&A
If you have a nice ass, we can already see that. There’s no need for you to strive to purchase the shortest shorts ever created, which are at least two sizes too small for your particular ass.
Also.. If you *DO* pay for and exit the store with those shorts, don’t bother crying about it when dudes are checking out your ass.
Why did you buy them? Because you enjoy how they’re so tight that they restrict you from being able to walk like a regular person? :D
No. You bought them for attention.
That’s the weird thing… Women want guys to sweat them and then cry about it when guys sweat them. Does that make any sense? o_O
Your ass would look just as nice in a fashionable skirt-suit.
You would get the same amount of attention, except dudes might believe you have a job.
Wait.. Dudes might believe you have a CAREER.. McDonald’s is a job.
All of my best girlfriends, I remember the day I met them in person.
It just so happens that ALL OF THOSE SITUATIONS involved events with alcoholic beverages, but that’s neither here nor there. >:D
The point is that when I met them, when I was around them for the first time.. There was something different about my life.. Something BETTER about my life. Something that I wanted to experience over and over, and I’ve been fortunate enough to spend time with all of them to this day.
What y’all females want to focus on is a) what impact did you make on the guy you met, and b) how is that impact *DIFFERENT* from the next woman, or the next 10 women, or the next 100 or 1,000 women?
I understand why, if you’re still reading this, you feel confused right now.
This is because the dating game is a major bait & switch.
The entire system is a throwback to when women couldn’t do jack-**** with their lives, because they couldn’t vote, they couldn’t own property, and they couldn’t get jobs.
At that point in time, women’s only job in life was to look good and know how to cook, clean, have exciting sex, and raise kids.
That meant that it was the guy’s job to pay for everything and CONVINCE. THE. WOMAN. that her life would be good if she hooked up with him.
That’s over now.. It’s 2012. Women have jobs, apartments, cars, licenses, careers, inheritances, divorce settlements… At this point, women don’t need men for anything more than men need women.
Unfortunately for y’all, that means that your looks aren’t going to land you a monogamous boyfriend/fiance/husband.
NOW, Y’all are in competition with female CEOs of companies, Executive Vice Presidents, Models, Sports Superstars, and War Veterans, but for some reason, the game hasn’t changed… For some reason, every woman is gassed up about her self-worth, even though there are 40 other women in the same subway car with the same amount of intelligence, good looks, accomplishments, and the proper waist-hip ratio.
That “ditzy blonde” game is over… If you want your propers, you’re going to have to earn them… If you’ve earned them, you can readily recall *HOW* you earned them.. If you can’t recall how you earned them, the guy you’re dating probably can’t recall it either.
Fortunately for dudes, the fact that women assume that they’re respected offa General Principle causes women to never ask men what it is about them that they respect. :D
This makes it easy to appear as if you’re buying women when you’re actually renting.
Women never find out the truth until it’s too late.
This is because, due to the antiquated, throwback system, it’s always the men that have to prove themselves worthy, for the reasons I stated earlier.
If she makes $100,000/year, you have to make $200,000/year to prove you’re worthy.. of…… what, again? o_O
If she’s going to hook up with you, you have to prove that you have no intention of ever screwing anyone but her until you croak.. for what reason, again? o_O
Everybody knows this, which is why guys fake it ’till they make it, and then bounce after they get what they want.
The way for women to avoid this is to demonstrate some sort of VALUE to him, other than sex, before he hits it.
The way to NOT avoid this is to attempt to hook guys with physical attractiveness, then hope and pray he finds something unique about your mind that keeps you in the running to make it to girlfriend/fiancee/wife status.
Now.. I’m not saying that women should present themselves as nerds or librarians.. It’s important for y’all to look good, or else nobody’s going to want to talk to you.
What I’m saying is don’t overdo it.
Don’t go past Attractive and Hawt to Desperate.
Don’t try so hard to look good. Just be natural with it. The harder you try, the worse you look.
If you don’t know how to walk in heels, wear flats.
It’s better for you to be a couple of inches shorter than to buss your azz because you zigged when you should have zagged.
If you have something interesting, fascinating, or intelligent to talk about, talk about it. Don’t wait for him to bring up relevant conversation. Let him know what makes you different.. What makes you special…
If you play sports, invite him to a game… If you’re a stock trader, let him know what fantastic moves you made in your chosen profession… EARN your respect, so he thinks of you as more than a target, or temporary recreation.
Whatever you do.. Avoid looking like you’re selling ass.