One thing I find funny (read: pathetic) about dating is how some grown-ass women retain their childhood brainwashing so well that they can be over a quarter-century old and still give themselves credit because they *DIDN’T* have sex with somebody.
Sure, we all know the societal benefits of saturating girls and young women with “Good girls don’t” and “You’re a ho if you spread your legs” blah blah blah, but once y’all become adults, you need to assess life from the present and future, not the past.
The current dating system, even today, in 2012, is based on the old dating system, which was actually property management.
A chick belonged to her father until she belonged to her husband, property-wise, which is why the female’s last name changes and the male’s does not.
He was assuming responsibility for the sustenance of her life, removing the responsibility from her father, being that men were the only ones allowed to work, vote, own property, etc.
All women had to do in life was look good, learn how to dress themselves, walk gracefully, cook, clean, host dinner parties for their future husband’s business colleagues, sex their man properly, and bear & raise children.
That was the entirety of her job description.
In exchange for all these life-benefits (cooking, cleaning, a HAWT chick available for sex 24/7, arm candy, genetically attractive kids, free daycare…) the guy’s job was to financially support / maintain / create HER life.
** Side Note ** Tyson Beckford just got talked about for a minute for revealing that he created his girlfriend:
I helped place her with the right people, get her teeth cleaned, her body toned up.
Everything changed and now everyone wants a piece of her.
I hear people say, ‘You can do better than Tyson.’
I’m like, ‘Really? Really?! I created her!’”
~ Tyson Beckford
But that’s an issue for a different day… >;D
So the point is that in the old-school version of dating, the chick had to prove that she was attractive enough for him to want to hook up with her in the first place, and competent enough to raise his… er.. their kids to be fine young women and men.
If the chick wasn’t hawt enough, she didn’t get the date, or the dance, or the conversation at the party, or anything, really.
If the dude wasn’t proving he could financially support the chick in the manner she expected / desired, as well as provide her with the primitive basics of a stable household and protection for her and her offspring, *HE* didn’t get any chicks, being that he basically couldn’t afford to buy her offa her father.
Therefore.. Besides attempting to avoid young women ending up on episodes of MTV’s Teen Mom, it’s a good idea for Republicans to go on national television and tell women they should hold aspirin between their knees in order to not get pregnant, because..
YouTube Link => youtu.be/ZM6ifRq_SNg
.. if the chick gets pregnant, no guy, other than potentially the babyfava is going to purchase her from her father.
That amounts to Theft Of Service.. Basically.. “You break it? You bought it.”
So the ability for a woman who was currently eligible for marriage to NOT have sex with a dude (actually, to not GET PREGNANT by him) was heralded and got her credit, cookies, and a pat on her back for retaining her resale value.
Besides that.. There’s the issue of maternity / paternity.
You always know who the mother is. Without DNA, you can only GUESS who the father is. o_O
Therefore, shaming women into either not recognizing, not accepting, or not following their own natural sexual desires is beneficial to guys who want to be sure that they’re raising kids that are genetically theirs.
Instead of doing what they’re SUPPOSED TO DO in the bedroom, guys would rather make women feel guilty for wanting to have sex with the next man.
Stay Fly and keep her mentally, emotionally, and sexually entertained, and she “might could” only have sex with you because SHE FEELS LIKE IT, not because she feels like she needs to get drunk and pretend that she didn’t know what she was doing when she hooked up with that dude she met at the bar, so she can try to live with the guilt that’s been placed on her about wanting what she wants and acting on her natural, instinctive impulses.
So those are the reasons why females are brainwashed that women that enjoy sex are evildoers.
Unfortunately, even though the system has changed, the programming has not.
Stimulus & Response
Grown-Ass Women, and I’m talking some Non-Spring-Chickens are running around acting like someone’s going to give them a cookie for not having sex with a guy they want to have sex with.
Who is that, actually? o_O … Who’s going to reward you for deliberately living a life that you enjoy less?
Is it your misery-loves-company homegirls who don’t have a man to begin with?
Is it your kids?… Do you normally come home and give them a SitRep (situation report) about how it went down at the bar last night? :D
“Listen, Katie… This guy tried to make out with me at the bar, but your mom stuck to her guns and let him kiss her on the cheek, instead!!! :D .. Let this be a lesson to you, blah blah blah”
Is it your moms?… After you had been married for 5-10 years and your husband hit it six ways ’til Sunday and knocked it every which way but loose.. After your divorce, did you convince her that you became a virgin again and you intend to never hook up again until some dude walks you down the aisle again and “makes you an honest woman”? :D
I’m not talking about when you DON’T like the dude. I’m talking about when you DO.
I’m aware that you’re trying to avoid being dumped after sex. I get that. That’s a legitimate concern, being that the only reason he’s talking to you is for sex to begin with.
I also get that you’re trying to live into “Who’s going to buy the cow when the milk is free?”
The problem with that theory is you can’t stop *ME* from getting laid. You can only stop *YOURSELF*.
Unless you’re Laura Ingalls, and we live in the sticks and I don’t have a horse and carriage to take me to the city, you’re not the only game in town.
The point being that nobody has to buy the cow, whether you give up the milk or not.
The other point being that if you WANT TO give up the milk, you need to mentally examine your reasons for NOT doing what you want to do, in this one life that you’re going to have.
Also.. Everybody knows that you’re frontin’. (attempting to feign sexual disinterest)
There’s an obvious difference between a chick that doesn’t want to hook up with you and a chick that doesn’t want to hook up with you before receiving something from you in exchange.
In fact, this is 2012 AD… That bartering system is over.
That “Old Maid” system is over.
Women have their own jobs, their own money, their own apartments, their own clothes, go on THEIR OWN VACATIONS to Europe, get pregnant while ballin’ kray-zay in business..
Women are doing whatever they want in life now, and you’re smiling and proud that you *DIDN’T* do what YOU WANTED TO DO?? :D