Comments on: Who’s Going To Give You The Cookie? o_O

By: Bill Cammack

Bill Cammack — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 12:10:54 +0000

Thanks for the compliment, Sala. :) Glad you’re enjoying the posts.

You have a quasi-typical situation, because you’re aware of what’s happening in your mind and your body.

The typical situation is that the woman believes what she watched in the movies and is completely surprised when she finally wakes up into reality.

Guys pulling back is a tricky issue. You can argue that hooking up with him caused him to pull back, but you can also argue that NOT hooking up with him for so long BEFORE deciding to hook up with him gave him a different perspective on what happened. Nobody actually knows which one it is, so all we can do is spend our time with people wisely.

I’m not understanding from what you wrote “what you’re waiting for”… Meaning I understand what you wrote, but I can’t decipher what change would have occurred in that dude that would have caused you to feel like having sex with him.

I know you said you weren’t ready. What would have made you ready? \o/

I ask because if you don’t know the signs that make you ready, maybe there aren’t any, and you’ll never be ready.

Also, on a different topic, your NYE story brings up something I’ve always said.. which is that it’s way easier to get laid when the chick doesn’t perceive you as Prince Charming. >:D

By: Sala

Sala — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 02:50:45 +0000

I’m having great fun reading these articles, Bill, found via Google. I appreciate your frank males’ perspective. That said, I didn’t have sex for a year because I was getting a string of bad boys who talked a good game, and I blame myself for letting myself be picked up by certain types: musicians, specifically. I’m aware that band guys do want girlfriends, despite having a constant stream of choices, but they want girlfriends that trust unconditionally and leap right into blind commitment with no hesitation, and who are also less attractive than they are- that was never me, so I “lost” those games. I’m also aware that “band guy” is just like any guy that enjoys the sexual privilege of status, looks, money or talent and not in a band. But I digress. I needed to start doing the picking, or at least meeting men through work or friends and not at bars and shows, and to think about who I was when I wasn’t caught up in a manchild’s lies and drama and consider my patterns and vulnerabilities. Sex is a weakness to me. I’m enormously sensual and take pride in my bedroom skills. And though I never go looking for “true love” or “more than sex,” I fall for lines about love that come with orgasms in a way an adult woman shouldn’t, and I fall hard, and don’t recover easily, and don’t walk when I should (ie. I continue giving it up and hoping for more.) I still don’t think I’m ready for sex. I found myself in a 6 month crush and was able to continue to hold out, but it still messed with my mind as if I had had sex with him, anyway, because not having sex, thinking about it, thinking about doing it with this person I liked, started to obsess me the more we flirted and the more the tension built. One blowjob later, and a lot more feelings on my end that I refuse to express, I am sensing his emotionally unavailability. Whether I’d put out or not early on, I am certain he would have been pulling back from me soon after, no matter what. It’s possible he’s faking being cool, too, but in any case, I’m glad we did not have sex, because despite my year long fast, I was not ready for it- with him. I had sex with a different, good enough guy on NYE, but it’s just not the same when it’s an honest fwb situation like that was when there’s no romance and tension. Romance and tension take time, and I (like most women) need that to be able to get my rocks off! Some of us just aren’t wired to be satisfied by casual sex, yet going without doesn’t seem to work either…

By: Bill Cammack

Bill Cammack — Mon, 10 Sep 2012 03:18:04 +0000

lolol Avis! :)

That’s good for you, that you’ve been living the life YOU want to live, instead of making sure you adhere to the guidelines someone else set up for you. :)

By: Avis

Avis — Thu, 06 Sep 2012 05:20:04 +0000

Who are these women denying themselves? Most of my friends indulge shamelessly! LOL..I think the only times I didn’t have sex with someone I really liked is because the location or timing was bad. This felt like a weakness to me but now that I’ve entered a celibate phase I want to be weak again.

By: Bill Cammack

Bill Cammack — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 03:41:33 +0000

Yes.. Let it be televised, Edie!! :D hehe

Let me stand in the courtyard like Furious Styles / Laurence Fishburne, yelling

WAAAAAAAKE UUUUUUUPPPPPPPPPPPP!!! :O