In a perfect world, women would feel like hooking up with you without your having to trick them into it.
If you don’t live in that world, gimmicks come in handy.
The trick is to not overdo it, and knowing when to STOP using gimmicks and start being yourself.
A gimmick could be something of low-level importance, such as pretending to give a flying **** about what she has to say.
A gimmick could be something of high-level importance (to her), such as not telling her you’re also hooking up with her sister / mother / both.
The point of the gimmick is to get you IN the game.. Not to BE the game.
When you let the gimmick become the game, you’ve lost your own battle because you’re literally playing chess against yourself.
At the end of the day, whether she gave you some or not, what you have to show for yourself is your list of gimmicks and whether they helped you get what you wanted, didn’t seem to affect her at all, made it take LONGER for you to get on, or shut down your chances entirely.
To a lot of guys, what I just wrote is worth the day’s attempt, so for them, keep doing that! 😀 haha Just realize when / if a changeover occurs and you notice that some gimmicks are so simple that they’re no longer fun to prove / execute.
For instance.. If your gimmick is hanging out at the bar until some chick gets drunk enough to climb up on you, that’s too easy. Depending on where you live and how many chicks you have simultaneous access to, the success rate of this approaches 100%
Now.. For the guys that aren’t already aware of this, the bar seems like a gold mine! 😀
The bar is definitely a gold mine, but one can get tired of that particular type of gold, as it’s easily replicated.
You can do that trick in any city in any country in the world that has a) available women, and b) alcoholic beverages.
So when that ceases to be of particular interest, you might start trying your hand at hooking up with SOBER women.
That’s usually more of a challenge, and the good part is that if you try it earlier in the day and your gimmicks (like pretending to care what she has to say) don’t work on her, eventually she’ll be drunk and you’ll be back at your familiar square 1….. Except you’ll already be several hours mentally fatigued from preventing your mind from absorbing drivel.
You Don’t Say! o_O
Another way that guys avoid Drivel Fatigue is to pay for sex. Again, this is boring and high-percentage, however, it’s described by some as not paying her to have sex, but instead paying her to go away afterwards.
I guess we’ll throw pornography in there too, as it achieves essentially the same result, as far as chatter suppression.
Assuming, however, that one is interested in pulling unpaid women, you might have to use some gimmicks, such as clapping when the television shows that the candidate from the opposite political party won the election.
Also, in a situation like that, it’s easier to feign disinterest in politics altogether than to pretend to be someone who actually thinks the way she does.
Looking like o_O and every now and then going “oh, really?” works well in these situations, as she’ll enjoy the fact that she’s teaching you something, and her mind will begin to wander to what she can teach you later tonight! 😀
Anyway… Blah Blah Blah Gimmicks.. You have to figure out when to stop this stuff.
Two things are going to occur. You’re going to get tired of faking reactions, and you’re going to be too much acting and too little ENJOYING.
At some point, the situation needs to hit Cruise Control. Sooner rather than later. Hopefully immediately.
This is the problem. When you take advice from guys that don’t know any chicks, you get advice from guys that don’t know any chicks.
Think about it… 😀 Let’s say you hooked up with a chick and the sex was wack… Would you send that chick to some virgin to learn some better techniques or receive a pep talk? 😀 HAHAHA Pep talk in what? How to NOT give it up?
When & How
There’s nothing wrong with gimmicks. 🙂 I love gimmicks. They’re fun. 🙂 What I’m saying is that there’s a difference between a guy that’s good at utilizing high-percentage tactics to get laid and a guy that women actually *LIKE* as a person.
And when I say “like”, that could be in a positive way or a negative way.
I know women that “like” me because they think the things I tell them to their faces is outlandish and unusual….. And then they “like” me even more in the future when what I told them and they didn’t believe plays out in their own lives (like when they chatter for 30 minutes while their boyfriend says “uh huh. oh, really?” and then they ask that guy what they just finished saying and he can’t tell them because nobody cares) and they realize that while they WERE entertained, I wasn’t ATTEMPTING to entertain them, but rather to educate them.
I know women that “like” me because I’ll tell them directly what I intend to do to them and then I’ll attempt to do it. This is a luxury I have from living in a city with 4 million women in it. (That’s 4,000,000 women, or four thousand sets of one thousand women). As far as hooking up goes, I don’t have time to waste on disinterested chicks. I’d be better off bouncing and starting a conversation with 6 OTHER chicks than trying to convince the first one.
So even though she may not like what you do and/or say, the bottom line is whether she enjoys your personality. That could be because you make her feel comfortable. That could be because you make her feel uncomfortable. That could be because she wants to take you to meet her family. That could be because THE LAST THING SHE WOULD WANT HER FAMILY TO KNOWWWW!!! :O is that she spends time with YOU! 😀 hahaha
That’s where you have to get.. Where she “purchases” or doesn’t “purchase” whatever it is that you naturally have to offer her.
That’s when you get to stop acting and start enjoying.
Like I said, if you enjoy ACTING, haha More power to ya! 😀
In general, however, you have to learn when to stop and how to stop.