Conflation and False Societies

Conflation occurs when the identities of two or more individuals, concepts, or places, sharing some characteristics of one another, seem to be a single identity — the differences appear to become lost.

In other words, when you look at two people and assume they’re part of the same society but they actually aren’t, you make mistakes in dealing with those people.


Spike Lee just did a movie based on the play Lysistrata, which is, literally and without exaggeration… THOUSANDS. OF. YEARS. OLD.

If you think it didn’t represent the modern day horror story that is the slums of Chicago, Illinois, USA, you’re absolutely right.

Here’s what the play was about:

Lysistrata (/laɪˈsɪstrətə/ or /ˌlɪsəˈstrɑːtə/; Attic Greek: Λυσιστράτη, “Army Disbander”) is a comedy by Aristophanes. Originally performed in classical Athens in 411 BC, it is a comic account of one woman’s extraordinary mission to end the Peloponnesian War. Lysistrata persuades the women of Greece to withhold sexual privileges from their husbands and lovers as a means of forcing the men to negotiate peace—a strategy, however, that inflames the battle between the sexes. The play is notable for being an early exposé of sexual relations in a male-dominated society.

Sound familiar? 😀

This is an interesting concept.. Women being able to stop men from going to war.

If women could stop men from warring, WOMEN would be the warriors.

(Not that there aren’t any female warriors.

More importantly, however, the entire idea depends upon a misguided belief in societies that don’t actually exist.

There’s no such thing as “The Female Society”. There is no annual meeting where all women sit down and decide what all women are going to do as a collective.

Therefore, the concept of all women stopping giving it up at the same time doesn’t make any sense, though it makes for good theater. 😀

Global Sex Embargo

Here’s what would *actually* happen if all women decided as a collective that they aren’t going to participate in men’s sexual satisfaction…

The first thing that would happen is scores of women would become homeless.

Lots of women, whether they currently understand this or not, are only kept around because the dude is having sex with them that he enjoys. If that were to cease, she would merely be taking up space in his house and messing up his opportunity to hook up with other women, so she has to go.

She’d better hope he still wants her for cooking, cleaning, and whatever else he “hired” her for, or she’s out the door.

This is assuming that he’s the breadwinner and she isn’t.

If she’s the breadwinner, the guy’s going to stay put. 😀 hahaha

So now you have millions of homeless women who are turning to “The Female Collective” to house them and whatever random kids of theirs they happened to have gotten kicked out on the street with.

If the collective had been intelligent, they would have anticipated this and set it up so there was a network of homes where homeless women could go when they got kicked out of their boyfriends’ or husbands’ houses for being sexually useless.

Obviously, this wouldn’t actually happen because there are lots of homeless women RIGHT NOW with kids living in shelters and I don’t see any prosperous females inviting these families to come live in their homes.

So when these homeless women have the choice between living in squalor or ******* and sucking, they’re going to fold.

There goes your sex embargo down the drain.


Supply & Demand

Even before the homeless women joined the newly-formed class of sex workers, guys would have been getting laid the whole time anyway.

All you’re going to do by telling a bunch of women to stop having sex with men is increase the value of the women that still ARE having sex with men.

It’s the same thing as Prohibition. It’s a stupid idea.

All they did by outlawing alcohol was make it more valuable so that bootleggers got richer more quickly.

The same thing happened with desegregation. Desegregation destroyed a lot of black businesses because all of a sudden, blacks could spend money in white businesses.

Before that, blacks had to spend money in BLACK businesses and the cash circulated around the community, causing everyone involved in commerce to be prosperous.

As soon as you make it so people aren’t restricted to spending their money with 13% of the population, that money exits the community to the other 87% of the population and never comes back.

As soon as prohibition is over, bootleggers go out of business. (Unless they already parlayed their illegal money into legitimate businesses)

As soon as they legalize weed/pot/whatever throughout the USA, drug dealers will go out of business because they aren’t smart enough to purchase dispensaries and whatever legal licenses are required to own them.

So if the nonexistent “Female Society” decides to outlaw sex, a high percentage of women are going to stop giving it up and a low percentage of women are going to get very very very very rich. 😀

In fact, life already works that way. There are lots of women who are currently the cause of sexual satisfaction for multiple men, married or otherwise.

There are lots of women that are currently getting paid to be side chicks. Dudes are paying for their apartments, travel to foreign countries, clothing, food, physical and visual upkeep, you name it.

These same chicks would just pick up more clients if women as a collective were to render themselves sexually useless in an attempt to blackmail men into doing something they don’t naturally feel like doing.


As much as women don’t want to believe this in the 16th year of the 3rd millennium, if sex all of a sudden became unavailable across the board, including actual hookers, a season of aggression versus women would begin that would entirely blow their minds.

The entire concept of Lysistrata assumes that men who are currently warring with men wouldn’t suddenly start warring with women.

Since there’s no indication that the “Female Society” would have any good ideas for self-defense, the situation would be untenable.

The only way they would be able to get males to defend them is to offer them sex, which defeats the purpose of the embargo.

Horny Chicks

On top of all that, the concept of a global sex embargo assumes that none of the women personally enjoy getting ****** down. 😀 hahaha

This is the fatal flaw. Some women just plain can’t get off from masturbation.

Even if they all agreed on day 01 to a sex embargo, it would be over in less than a week, whether they admitted it to their superiors in the “Female Society” or not.

So just like people went to speakeasies to get bootleg liquor during prohibition, chicks would be sneaking to get bootleg ****.

This would be profitable for those of us who know how to keep it quiet when we hook up with a chick.

So imagine you were screwing Gloria Allred. 😀 She wouldn’t be able to explain that while she’s running around getting paid from feminist lawsuits. This means that your discretion would be worth money. 😀

Call me. On the line. Call me.. Call me.. Any.. Anytime. 😀 But I digress…

Anyway… There IS NO “Female Society” so there won’t be any collective decision to do anything, much less stop hooking up with dudes.

Similarly, there are lots of other societies that don’t exist at all and never did, but people make careers out of getting paid by exploiting people that believe in those communities.

Meanwhile, there are REAL societies that exist that you don’t even know about because you weren’t chosen to be a part of that society.

There are real alliances and real decisions being made by people whose word actually means something and who actually do what they say they’re going to do or else they don’t bother saying it.

This is why false societies would be laughable if they weren’t entirely pathetic.

People who speak and then act don’t respect people who speak without acting.

People who act without speaking don’t respect people who speak without acting.


Strive to avoid conflation. Strive to avoid thinking that you know what one person’s going to do because you think he or she is similar to another person that you’ve interacted with.

Groups are created and alliances are solidified via real life experiences. People can say whatever they want and then when the rubber hits the road, their word is worthless.

In fact, it’s less than worthless because if you believe what they say and then act upon your belief, you’ll be in for a rude awakening when you realize that they were merely speculating or even just running their mouths to hear themselves talk when you thought they were discussing a concept that they could bring forth into actual reality.

People are individuals. Individuals value different things. People with similar values band together, either temporarily or permanently.

Find people with values similar to yours and form lasting alliances via real life experiences.

Recognize that we are now living in the world of Social Media, where people want credit for SAYING without actually DOING.

Recognize that any society includes subgroups, and that those subgroups aren’t necessarily friendly towards each other, don’t necessarily respect or like each other, and may very well be actively working against each other’s stated goals.

Conflation is an error. Recognize and respect (or disrespect) individuals for their particular statements and/or deeds.

The societies you think exist probably don’t. The societies you aren’t aware of definitely do.

If you can’t explain WHY you’re a part of a particular society, you probably aren’t a part of that society.

I’m an American. I can’t explain to you why I’m Chinese.

I’m a New Yorker. I can’t explain to you why I’m a Californian.

I’m 5’9″. I can’t explain to you why I’m 6’2″.

Make sure you aren’t claiming to be a member of a society that you aren’t actually a member of and which probably never even existed in the first place.

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  1. ahhh jajajajajajaj good to be back drinking in your incisiveness and humor!
    “The only way they would be able to get males to defend them is to offer them sex, which defeats the purpose of the embargo.”
    You are brilliant, Dating Genius and all of those other monikers I note.
    Thank you for sharing.
    Let’s put together a book of your wisdom as we discussed in 2010! Are you going to visit San Miguel de Allende, MX? Here’s your invite!
    Your pal for life,

    1. lol 🙂 Love you too, Christine! 😀 <3

      The books are definitely happening in 2016.

      I’m back in action.. Stay Tuned and Hold On To Your Hat!!! 😀 hahaha

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