I live in Manhattan, NYC, USA, the center of the Universe. 😀
I don’t think people honestly grasp how many women are on this island at any given time. 😀
According to nyc.gov/site/planning/planning-level/nyc-population/current-future-populations.page, as of last year, Manhattan had 1,628,701 residents.
That’s just Manhattan, mind you, the island you see in the movies. Including the other four boroughs, Brooklyn, Queens, The Bronx, and Staten Island, there are 8 million residents in New York City.
New York County [meaning Manhattan by itself] is the United States’ second-smallest county by land area (larger only than Kalawao County, Hawaii), and is also the most densely populated U.S. county. It is also one of the most densely populated areas in the world, with a census-estimated 2017 population of 1,664,727 living in a land area of 22.83 square miles (59.13 km2), or 72,918 residents per square mile (28,154/km2), higher than the density of any individual U.S. city. On business days, the influx of commuters increases this number to over 3.9 million, or more than 170,000 people per square mile (65,600/km2).
That comes to around 70,000 residents per square mile.
A vertical (North-to-South) mile in NYC is 20 blocks.
Manhattan is approximately 2 miles wide (East-to-West) at the widest point, so let’s assume that was a constant when it isn’t.
This means that within 20 blocks on either the East or West side of the city, there are 70,000 people.
Let’s assume half of those are women. o_O
Now we have 35,000 women between say West 60th street and West 80th street, from 5th avenue to the Hudson River.
If we add up the percentages from baruch.cuny.edu/nycdata/population-geography/age_distribution.htm between 20-24 years old and 45-49 years old, assuming that’s a viable dating range, we get 50.2%
( We’re skipping the part about how there are approximately 100,000 more women than men here. 😀 )
So now we have 17,500 women within one square mile in Manhattan between the ages of 20 and 49.
Since 17k is near the number of 20 blocks for a mile, let’s say that you could walk on one block from the center of Manhattan to either edge of the island and there are hypothetically 875 women in that age range.
Let’s say there are 7 avenues on the West side and also on the East side.. That makes 125 women per block.. or more accurately, 125 women ON a block between one avenue and the next.
Except Manhattan doesn’t work that way. Most of the action is on the avenues because that’s where the stores are, so people from the blocks arrive on the avenues and walk up and down.
Let’s drop that number to account for women that aren’t viable for whatever reason and land on a guesstimate of 50 women per block in Manhattan in the proper age range and viable for dating YOU.
I’ll go outside and measure it later today (it’s currently 5:55am) but I will guess that walking from one avenue to the next on a single block is a distance of 300 paces (steps), which means hypothetically if they were all standing in the street for some odd reason, you would pass a new woman every 6 steps.
Again.. Manhattan doesn’t work that way, and there are areas where people congregate, but you see what my point is.
You can go to a bar that has 30 women in it, leave that bar and walk across the street to a different bar with a different 30 women in it. o_O
Or you can go to a wine bar that’s like 99% women, but that’s a different topic.
I wanted to make the situation plain so people might be able to understand the difference between living here and dating in the sticks.
We have high-rises here with HUNDREDS of women in one single building.
In the sticks, there MIGHT be 100 viable women within 50 MILES of where you live.
I personally can’t even go outside without seeing a woman I’ve never seen before in my entire life.
Linda Sue & ‘Em
Because of all this, I have a laissez-faire demeanor towards women because it doesn’t matter what they do.
All they’re doing is adding elements to their résumé.
This chick likes to do this. That chick doesn’t like to do that. Got it. zzzzzzzzzz
It isn’t my job to reform women or suggest that they live differently than they currently are.
In fact it would be a colossal waste of my time.
Nobody Cares. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
If there’s an overlap in what we both like to do, excellent.. let’s do that sometime or often or never.
It doesn’t matter.
I’m going to enjoy myself REGARDLESS. The only question here is whether YOU are going to be involved and enjoy yourself too.
I don’t think people understand how long it takes to change an individual human being into what you want them to be.
It’s way more efficient to spend your time meeting people so you can find the ones who are ALREADY what you want.
This isn’t necessarily viable in the sticks because there are only 30 more women besides Linda Sue that you might be able to marry and have a family with (which is what people do in the sticks), but with our guesstimate of 50 women per block and 14 horizontal divisions and more than 200 vertical divisions for Manhattan, not even including women that have to commute here for work and tourists visiting here from the most exotic locations on this planet, there’s no point in wasting time attempting to reconfigure 20-50 years of a gal’s current mental programming.
Figure out what she’s into. If you’re into it also, great. If not, great. It doesn’t matter.
Law & Order
Unfortunately, a lot of people enter “relationships” as if they’re going to lay down some laws. 😀
Again, that doesn’t make sense in Manhattan, but I understand the motivation.
People watch movies and think that they’re so individually important that someone else is going to change their style of living so they won’t leave them.
In some cases, that’s true.
In most cases, people just lie to you until they get caught.
People have an M.O. … a Modus Operandi (a particular way or method of doing something, especially one that is characteristic or well-established).
Especially when it comes to “relationships”, people are pattern-based. They’re easy to figure out. zzzzzzzz
They like people who look this way. They like people who act this way. They like a certain type of sexual interaction. They like to initiate or they like to be passive. They like intrigue or they like consistency. They like people like their parents or they hate people like their parents. Patterns.
If a person acts a certain way, it’s for a reason.
It isn’t because they’ve been waiting for YOU to come along and reform them into their proper way of living life.
Nobody Cares what you think but they’re willing to pretend to.
You were not hired to change the situation.
That isn’t in your job description.
You are a supplement.
Your job is to make life better, not worse.
Nobody needs you to be a nuisance. Unless that’s a physical turn-on to them and they enjoy grudge-*******.
Nobody was waiting for you to change their lives.
They were already living their lives when you met them.
I’ve heard about this quite a bit where someone was like well they used to be like this but they’re different with me. 😀
Yes. ok. But you didn’t consult the person before you who said the exact same thing and got what they received, which is what you’re looking at and saying it isn’t going to happen to you too.
How arrogant is it to figure that YOU are better at taming people than X number of people before you who tried and failed? 😀
Unless someone met you on a “help me change my life” website, Nobody Cares what your opinion is.
In fact, people don’t even SAY what their lifestyle is when they go on dating sites! 😀
You say what you say to them and then they take notes and they know what to hide from you.
The most frequent attempted procurement is fidelity.
Someone meets someone who enjoys having random sex with random people and then they think they’re going to convert that person into enjoying having repetitive sex with the same person.
Do you have a magic wand? 😀 How are you going to make that happen?
How are you going to change what turns them on and gets them off, which may actually be biological and not mental?
Do you have a degree in Psychology? 😀
Do you know ANYTHING about controlling people? 😀 Or is access to your body supposed to be the Golden Ticket?
While YOU’RE thinking that, the other 50 women on the same block with you are thinking the same thing.
The other 30 women in the same bar with you are thinking the same thing.
The other 20 women in the same subway car with you are thinking the same thing.
The other 10 women who work with you are thinking the same thing.
Chunk Up to view the forest instead of only your own personal tree.
You’re all offering the exact same thing except in slightly different flavors.
If a dude is willing to be coerced by you, he’s either desperate or lying.
Tuesday Payments & Hamburgers
Guys try to do this to women too but that also doesn’t work AT ALL.
They offer incentives other than her actual physical attraction and devotion to them for her to not mess with other guys. 😀
Go watch the movies. Life imitates Art or vice versa.
What’s the excuse every time a woman “cheats” in a film?
She felt like it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Her “heart” told her it’s right to have sex with this man although she’s married to someone else.
Her “heart” wasn’t really in her relationship, but she stayed for the financial comfort and perks.
She’s never felt this way before…
She hasn’t felt this way in years…
It’s always the same thing. 😀
You CAN NOT corral a woman by bribing her with goods & services.
She has to FEEL devoted to you and then what you’re providing for her is either irrelevant or a fringe benefit.
She either heats up when you press up on her or she doesn’t.
If she doesn’t, she’s easily borrowed regardless of how much money you throw at her in an attempt to purchase her fidelity.
Today is Friday.
At some point I will walk outside and see women I’ve never seen before in my entire life.
There’s a 99% chance that nothing will happen with them and a 1% chance that something will happen with them.
That’s on me. I have to make sure my presentation is up to par and I’m in a sociable mood. Everything else is up to the women.
I don’t go outside TO meet women.. That’s just a byproduct of living in the center of the Universe.
In fact, with 5,000 Facebook Friends, I know literally THOUSANDS of women, more than 100 of which live in NYC, so I don’t even have to leave my house to meet women. I just have to invite them over and they have to want to come.
It isn’t my job to change who they are and it isn’t their job to change who I am.
Our jobs are to spend time with each other and decide what we like about each other and then take it from there.