Every time I see a picture of this gal I know, she’s someplace new.
Not just new, as in “I haven’t seen a picture of her in that place before”, but new as in “I’VE NEVER HEARD OF THAT CITY OR COUNTRY EVER BEFORE IN MY LIFE!” new.
It’s pretty annoying. :) [yet, simultaneously fun and interesting]
I mean, I’ll click on her picture and it’ll say the location is West Mxyzptlkstan or some nonsense, and I’m like “not again! :/”
I was thinking about her the other day and started considering the difference in difficulty levels in kickin’ it to women.. or perhaps, not kickin’ it, because anybody can just start running their mouths and hope something good happens, but rather difficulty levels in IMPRESSING women, or at least remaining in the pocket and not getting blitzed out of the game. Read the rest of this entry »
Hey People! :)
I was just offered my Google+ Vanity Plate, and changed my URL from whatever number it was to:
Way more convenient.
Stay on the lookout for Google to offer you your vanity plate! :)
At some point, I accepted the responsibility on an internet site to babysit a group of grown-ass men.
That isn’t what it started out as, but that’s what it turned into.
This is because the population changed from a group of guys and gals that had similar interests and a singular focus, as more and more people arrived just to be able to talk to somebody and not feel lonely anymore.
Also, a lot of these people came from another internet site, where the culture is to not say what your name is and then talk all kinds of trash about people because you know there won’t be any repercussions.
Those environments breed people into being negative creatures. They lose their sense of camaraderie. They lose their ability to gain pleasure from positive interaction. So long as they’re attempting to make someone else feel bad, they’re happy with themselves and snickering in their basements, or under whichever bridge their computer is located.
I wanted to mention that scenario because I learned something from it today.
Just like dudes can be whiny, annoying bitches, there are lots of women whose personalities just plain *SUCK*.
Generally, guys can ignore gals’ personalities, and I’m one of the very best at doing that. :)
There’s definitely a tipping point, however. There is a limit to being able to tolerate interacting with people who just plain suck as human beings.
Growing up, I always had my cliques and crews. I was just discussing this last week with a good friend of mine from elementary school.
From my earliest memories of being in social situations, basically kindergarten, I’ve only socialized with the people I wanted to socialize with. People that were annoying weren’t allowed to hang out with us if I had any say in the matter, and if I didn’t, then I would be the one to bounce, rather than spend time around people that get on my nerves.
If you just have to have to have to interact with annoying people, you should make sure you have balance.. A way to create a reset and/or take a vacation from the idiots.
I personally achieve this by having my go-to inner circle of guys and gals who see reality properly and restore my faith in humanity juuuuuust enough for me to get back out in the trenches! :D
I had been wondering why I had been feeling rather drained recently. It’s because of the excessive, abusive amounts of male bitchassedness that I’ve had to witness over the past couple of months.
I have reasons why I don’t just quit and relieve myself from remembering that certain people exist.
One of those reasons is that there are way more worthwhile people than annoying people.
The funny thing.. Actually, the tragic thing is that even crabby, negative people are in relationships.
As I said, guys are good at ignoring this.
I was having a conversation with an excellent female that I spend time with where she ended up asking me (about another gal I know) “How come she gets a ‘get out of jail free’ card and I don’t?”
I had to think about it for a while, but the answer was “Because you’re a better person than she is.”
Essentially, my point was that as much as I like / love / am obsessed with that other chick, spending time with her is no mental vacation. It isn’t any different, better, or worse than taking my chances and meeting an entirely new chick for the first time and talking to her. What I value about her and the enjoyment I receive from spending time with her gives her many “passes” and “get out of jail free” cards because I neither expect nor require proper behavior from her.
That’s a little off-topic, because she’s *NEVER* crabby or nasty, but it serves as a bridge to my point.
A lot of people are stuck dating one person, so they don’t have the luxury of spending quality time with totally different people as a reset/vacation from their “significant other”.
What they don’t realize is that the person they’re dating is making it hard for them to date them. o_O
The person they’re dating is busy sabotaging and poisoning their relationship and they keep taking this mental, verbal, or physical abuse and “trying to save the relationship”.
You’re the only one trying to save it. The other person is busy being an asshat and enjoying your misery.
Unfortunately, people are so scared of being “single”, which for some odd reason is referred to as being ALONE, even when you live in a city with 8 million people in it, that they’d rather stay in the pocket and suffer through the abuse than just bounce from the relationship and either be happy by themselves or open the door to potentially get involved with someone that actually wants to make them happy instead of stealing their happiness.
I’m telling you that it’s a drain to constantly be around crabby people. :)
If you want to do a test without actually breaking up with them, make it so you have ZERO CONTACT with them for an entire week, and then see if you feel BETTER or WORSE! :D
If you feel better after not talking, texting, Facebooking, hanging out, messing around, whatever it is that you normally do with your SO for a full week, you know you have a problem.
If you feel worse shortly after reinstating contact with them, you should be even more convinced that you have a problem.
If you can’t even stand to not be around your SO for 24 hours :/ then you can just ask yourself questions about the balance of the relationship.
Do you always fix their problems, but they never fix yours (or probably even ASK if you have any)?
Do you spend a lot of time cheering them up instead of them coming to the hangout ready to have a good time AND show you a good time?
Do you tell your friends “We stay together for the kids’ sake”?
Do you go to Happy Hour at the bar so you can extend the amount of time you get to spend away from your SO, even after working 8 to 10 hours that day?
Basically.. If you didn’t HAVE TO interact with this person, would you do it at all? :D
It’s a tough thing to think about… Tallying the pros and cons of your relationship, and then deciding what you’re going to do about it, if anything at all.
You might decide that the pros outweigh the cons and you’re willing to live with an amount of misery in order to receive the benefits from your relationship.
That’s all well & good and I wish you Good Luck with that. :D
I also suggest that you find ways to occasionally recalibrate your life.. Perhaps by spending quality time with people that are uplifting and fun instead of draining.
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