Archive for the ‘For Women’ Category
Some online dating sites ask people a lot of questions. I know this because I have a couple of fake accounts so I can check out the local talent.
I can’t actually be involved in online dating, because I can’t get into a chick based on some unverified information she typed about herself and a couple of close-cropped pictures of her, spanning from her collarbone to the top of her head.. I actually have to be around a chick to know what I want to do with her.
One of the questions I haven’t seen is “Are You Lonely?”
I didn’t think about it at the time that I was making my accounts, but I was having yet another of the recurring conversation I have with women who can’t understand why guys are trying to touch them and kiss them and get laid when they go on dates with them.
The obvious answer, which hasn’t changed since the beginning of time, is “The only reason he agreed to going on a date with you is that he’s already determined he wants to tap that OR he wants more information to decide WHETHER he wants to hook up with you or not.”
For Context.. I explained 4 years ago, back in 2009, that I don’t “date”. I hang out -> “Dating vs. Hanging Out”. This is for the very reason I just stated. If I go on a date with a chick, it’s because I’m trying to get on.
If I hang out with a chick, it’s because I enjoy her company, and there’s no guarantee that she’s going to get lucky… Although she easily “might could” >;D
This is because I’m not lonely.
I have 3,725 Facebook Friends, several hundred of which live close enough for me to hop on the bus or the subway and see them within an hour or two (depending on how far away they live, and how the trains are running. Sundays are KRAY-ZAY), and several thousand followers on Twitter, Google+, etc.
If I decide to spend time with somebody, it isn’t because I don’t have anything better to do. :) It’s because I’ve decided that out of the list of good things I COULD BE doing, I’ve elected to spend my time with them.
Similarly.. If I were to go on a date, it’s because I’m trying to hook up with that chick, and for NO. OTHER. REASON.
This is what I feel has been the disconnect in these conversations I keep having.
I would not go on a date to have someone to talk to.
I would not go on a date to have someone else sitting next to me at the bar because I don’t feel like going out by myself.
I would not go on a date looking to solidify my relationship to someone I intend to play board games or cards with (I don’t play board games or cards ANYWAY, but I’m just SAYIN’)
The only reason to go on a date is to see what you can do about hooking up with the chick.
Other than that, you’re hanging out.
So I was thinking about this the other day, and I realized that dating situations could be improved if mismatches were avoided.
Women who are LONELY, and don’t have anybody to go for drinks with or to walk in the park with or to play cards with should be hooked up by the dating computer with men who are also LONELY, as both of them would cherish that opportunity to spend platonic time with another human being.
The ‘problem’ occurs when the lonely woman is matched with a non-lonely man who only arrived at the date for the potential of action. Read the rest of this entry »
One thing I find funny (read: pathetic) about dating is how some grown-ass women retain their childhood brainwashing so well that they can be over a quarter-century old and still give themselves credit because they *DIDN’T* have sex with somebody.
Sure, we all know the societal benefits of saturating girls and young women with “Good girls don’t” and “You’re a ho if you spread your legs” blah blah blah, but once y’all become adults, you need to assess life from the present and future, not the past.
The current dating system, even today, in 2012, is based on the old dating system, which was actually property management. Read the rest of this entry »
Reader “J” asked me an interesting question, which was “What happens when men ‘catch feelings’ before women? o_O”
Catching Feelings (Catchin’ Feelin’s) is a slang term that basically amounts to you can’t just let a good, fun, mutually-beneficial, probably-sexual relationship be what it naturally is, and you feel the need to add ish into the game that wasn’t originally a part of it, and all of a sudden, you turn into a Klingon (see what I did there?.. Cling-On? >:D) and start overplaying your position, trying to put labels on the situation, and campaigning for exclusivity when nobody offered you that in the first place. Read the rest of this entry »