The Rings Of Conversational Hades

Some people just can’t stay quiet long enough for you to tell them the information they’re supposed to be commenting on.

I know people whose brains work in a strange way where they love to… In fact, I think they CAN NOT HELP nitpicking your sentences because their worldview is more important to…. Because their worldview naturally overrides in their brain what you’re trying to tell them.

They just can’t listen and STFU until you get your entire point across.

This means that you either have to keep stopping your sentence to accommodate their worldview to their satisfaction, or you just ignore what they said and keep talking about what you wanted to tell them.

Keeping stopping is annoying and worthless and the constant interruptions are badgering and mental.

Ignoring them causes them to get mad that you’re ignoring them and keep asking you about the same nonsense until you don’t want to talk to them at all and don’t give a damn about offering them the education they would have gotten if they knew how to have a damned conversation. Continue reading “The Rings Of Conversational Hades”

Considering The Concept Of “Toxic Masculinity”

Whether masculinity is “toxic” or not does not depend on one’s innate strength of character, but rather the vector upon which it is applied.

Readers Charles & Kimbell recently pointed out the concept of “Toxic Masculinity” to me.

I had heard the term before, but didn’t bother to research it because I figured it was just another one of these dumb things people make up attempting to explain situations they don’t understand.

I was right. 😀

According to en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toxic_masculinity:

The concept of toxic masculinity is used in the social sciences to describe traditional norms of behavior among men in contemporary American and European society that are associated with detrimental social and psychological effects. Such “toxic” masculine norms include dominance, devaluation of women, extreme self-reliance, and the suppression of emotions.

Conformity with certain traits viewed as traditionally male…

ok. 😀 We’re going to stop the definition right there.

This is the problem with the concept of Toxic Masculinity.

It only applies to people who are “conforming with certain traits viewed as traditionally male”.

What I mean by that is that if you have to act like a man, that means you aren’t one. o_O

Does that make sense?… If you have to act tough, that means you aren’t tough.

Dogs that bark a lot are often trying to scare you away because they don’t actually want to fight you.

Meanwhile, actual tough guys aren’t going to tell you what’s going to happen to you, you’re just going to get your block knocked off and get left there bleeding in the street.

So if you have to CONFORM with certain traits, that means you don’t naturally possess those traits and you are in fact an actor. Continue reading “Considering The Concept Of “Toxic Masculinity””

Alpha Status Is Absolute, Not Relative

Claiming top dog status amongst nobodies doesn’t make you somebody.

I’m watching this video the other day that was recorded by a bunch of Herbs.

A “Herb”, basically, is a nobody. A chump. A male but not a man. Not meaning a boy, which could still be a young man, but a male who just isn’t effective for anything useful so he’s generally disregarded whether he’s told so or not.

So I’m clear that there are a bunch of Herbs on the screen, and then one of them says “There are too many Alphas in this room! :D” and they all get happy and start smiling about themselves.

Meanwhile, I’m like what? o_O There are *ZERO* Alphas in that room. Continue reading “Alpha Status Is Absolute, Not Relative”

Regarding The Casting Couch

It doesn’t matter how many people are in the building if they all know that the wolf eats rabbits.

Here’s the thing. At the end of the day, dudes want to get laid. We all have different processes for making that happen.

Some of us are simply attractive dudes, so that’s the end of that story. No magic or special techniques involved. Chicks just like us. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Other guys pay for sex. Other guys barter for sex. Other guys attempt NLP. Other guys utilize influence and/or coercion. Other guys write songs. Other guys use drugs & alcohol. Other guys offer marriage…

Regardless of the technique, the bottom line is that attractive women need to remain vigilant because any guy that wants them is scheming to get them regardless of what they think or feel. Continue reading “Regarding The Casting Couch”

Privilege & Responsibility

What ethical responsibility do we have to consider problems that are not our own?

I love this story so much I’ve told it a thousand times 😀 but I was sitting at a bar in a restaurant in midtown Manhattan, NYC, USA, with my excellent homegirl, sipping drinks that cost a gazillion dollars, and explaining to her something about how I was trying to understand how it feels to be an assembly line worker whose only skill as far as earning potential was putting a door on a car.

Obviously I wasn’t trying at that very second! 😀 but I meant that mentally, philosophically, emotionally, I was attempting to access the same set of feelings I might have had in a circumstance like that.

I originally started thinking about this mainly from seeing the documentary Roger & Me:

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