Bill Cammack

Women are better liars than men. This is because, in general, women can immerse themselves in fantasies way better than men can.

If women want to start to feel turned on, what do they do?… That’s right… READ A BOOK!!! :O .. Some words.. In a little paperback novel with one picture of Fabio on the cover holding some chick that they project to be them. Suddenly!!!… A Puerto Rican gal sitting on her fire escape in Harlem, NYC is ACTUALLY a southern belle, dressed like the woman on the cover, riding in a Horse & Buggy with her Fabioesque lover whom she imagines is only having sex with her until 100 pages later where she reads that TMZ reported that her man has been ******* every maid and nanny that they’ve ever hired since their relationship began. Read the rest of this entry »

Ladies… If you really want to learn about your man’s personality, hang around him when he’s playing video games.

All of y’all that are dating gamers know I’m telling the truth.

The way he plays his games is the exact same way he’s going to interact with YOU….. um… assuming that he cares as much about YOU as he does his VIDEO GAMES….. which isn’t likely. Read the rest of this entry »

Facebook Username availability may affect the popularity of using one’s Twitter handle (like @BillCammack as identification.

Bill & Jody

I never used @BillCammack as identification because Twitter is a tool, not a home. The only reason for someone to go to my Twitter page is to click “Follow”. After that, they’ll be following me in whatever app they choose, so my Twitter handle is now worthless to me as a “home base”.

Personally, I tell people to Google Bill, because I’m me. That probably won’t work for you, so we’ll skip on past that one. :D

If you’re branding yourself properly, your screen names will be redundant across networks. This is because when something new shows up, Twitter, Jaiku, Pownce, ustream, livestream, blogtv, whatever.. People that know who you are and what you do are going to look for you as the same name you used in the previous social site. Therefore, your lineup should look like this:

Website: http://BillCammack.com
Twitter: http://twitter.com/BillCammack
Facebook: http://facebook.com/BillCammack
Ustream: http://ustream.tv/BillCammack
etc, etc, etc…..

So, even if you couldn’t just Google me, you would be able to find out what I’m doing by using the username you already know me as on the next new popular site.

The question, then… is now that you have the opportunity to easily identify yourself as:

a) Your own website,
b) Your twitter handle, or
c) Your facebook page,

Which one will you gravitate towards to represent you in your social media interactions, and why?

~ Bill Cammack

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The other day, reader “Fishingrod” made a post suggestion:

“… In exchange for the new things to consider, maybe you could do me a favour some day and explain in one of your articles the benefit of having sex with almost complete strangers.”

I’m going to get around to that, and I’ve been thinking about that post ever since I read that request. In the meantime, I went out last night, and upon reflection, I think the situation’s actually worse than “just” wanting to have sex with almost complete strangers.

Tactical Observations

As we’ve discussed before, there are literally hundreds of thousands of women on the NYC dating scene. You can’t “throw a rock” without hitting a chick you might like to hook up with or that you might be ABLE to hook up with. Optimally, you’ll end up in a location where you like some chick and she likes you and y’all can mutually agree to have a good time together. If that’s not the case, then the likely scenario is that you see chicks that you’re physically attracted to that either aren’t interested in you or may actually actively dislike you as a person or at least dislike your presentation or what you’re bringing to the table. This is where “worse” comes in. :)

Lots of people would think that “She doesn’t like me as a person” or “She’s not physically attracted to me” would be a deterrent to guys. It’s actually merely a tactical observation. The goal remains the same… to “get on”. You’re not trying to make friends… You’re trying to get laid.

The reason I’m calling this “worse” than what Fishingrod was asking about is that in the scenario of meeting someone and messing with them within hours of ever seeing them in life, at least you can say that there was some kind of lust or mutual attraction that fueled the situation. If the chick’s not into you and you’re still interested in having sex with her, the motivation’s clearly one-sided desire-fulfillment.

Who Cares?

There’s nothing wrong with that in and of itself, however, as I think about it right now… I’m SURE that there are lasting psychological effects to consistently interacting with women that don’t like you. There’s a “So what?” mentality that one develops, in regards to what women think. She doesn’t like you? “So what?”. She doesn’t want to have sex with you? “So what?”. She likes somebody else? “So what?”. She says she’s a lesbian? “So what?”. The only thing that matters is whether she’s gonna give you some or she isn’t. Read the rest of this entry »

Relatively often, I hear some sob story from some chick about how she doesn’t appreciate the way a guy stepped to her or talked to her. I don’t mean random guys on the street that don’t even know the women they’re talking to. I’m talking about when a guy’s already built some kind of rapport with a gal, and she just can’t believe what this guy said or did today.

As usual, women try to figure out what role THEY played in the scenario… when most of the time, they’re merely catalysts. If a guy kicks it to them while they’re wearing sweats, they go “but I wasn’t dressed sexy!”. If a guy invites himself to their house, they go “but I wasn’t acting like I wanted him to come over” or “but I didn’t TELL HIM I wanted company”.

Ladies, do yourselves a favor… Stop thinking about *YOURSELVES* for once, and think about the guy. Think about what his motivations are… Even for TALKING TO YOU in the first place. If you focus on his motivations without trying to turn it into a function of YOUR importance, you’ll be able to see clearly.

The first thing you should consider is that there’s a possibility that he doesn’t care what you say or think, AT. ALL. Of course, this is tough to fathom, because you’re assuming that because a guy is talking to you that he’s having an intellectual, meaningful conversation with you. Unfortunately for you, guys happen to know that women require conversation in order to get to the good part. This means that there’s a good probability that he’s only talking to you so he can stay in the game long enough for you to decide that you feel like giving him some.

Now… If you can step away from the trees so you can visualize the forest… Lots of your interactions with guys is pure game… tactics. By the time a guy meets you, he’s bringing to the table the sum of his experiences with girls and women up to the present day. Depending on whom he’s been dating / having sex with / spending time with before meeting you, he may or may *not* be mentally prepared to deal with YOU properly. This can lead to communication breakdowns / scenes / arguments that are entirely his fault, because you’re mentally out of his league.

There are two reasons for this… Getting On… and Socialization.

Guys will basically develop themselves, game-wise, to be able to function at the lowest possible level which allows them to have sex with women they’re attracted to.

Now… Depending on the type of chicks they like, that might not be much mental development at all. :D If he likes to sit on couches after 2am hoping that a chick is drunk enough at that point to give him some, no questions asked… If that works for him, he’s not going to develop his game past there. If a guy just has a look that women like, and he can pull different chicks every day… He’s not going to put any effort into mental development. If a guy has gimmicks and tricks that work every time, or chicks like his Porsche or whatever, again, no development.

So then he meets you, and you consider yourself sophisticated and intelligent. He wants to get on with you too, except alcohol, his looks, his gimmicks and his car aren’t making it happen for him. :) This means he actually has to TALK to you. This is how we end up in the scenario I started with. This guy who really has nothing to say to you and doesn’t care what you have to say either is at a loss for tactics so all he can do is stall until he can figure out the winning play. This is why guys get defensive or try to talk over you or leave a conversation when you’re winning it. They didn’t want to talk to you in the first place, MUCH LESS lose an argument to some chick! :D Also, if they kept talking, it was going to become obvious to you that you’re smarter than they are, and then the jig is up!

Socialization, or lack thereof, with intelligent and/or classy women is also a major factor in how a guy’s going to be able to interact with you in a dating scenario. It’s very easy for guys to dress up in suits and put on shiny shoes and pay for tables in the right bars. All you need for that is MONEY. What they can’t buy is CLASS. Class is achieved through fraternization and socialization with classy people. When someone does something that you admire, you may absorb that trait and carry it with you, going forward. Similarly, the only way to learn how to carry yourself around classy women is to BE AROUND classy women. It’s on-the-job training.

Unfortunately, not all guys get the opportunity to have extensive amounts of genuine authentic interaction with women of high calibre. This makes sense, because the top women are striving to spend time with the top men. This creates, basically, an ‘underclass’ of men who can dress themselves appropriately and have the right jobs and acquaintances and houses and bank accounts…. but they don’t have the slightest clue about how to interact with a woman who carries herself regally and exudes an air of respectability.

So here you are… wondering why your boyfriend (or at least a potential suitor) says and does such STUPID things, when the reason is that you’re BETTER THAN HIM and your man is quite literally a fish out of water in your presence. So, Stop thinking about what YOU’RE doing wrong or what you’re doing to bring about this situation, and consider that your man just MIGHT NOT be mentally and/or socially equipped to step his game up to the level you request, expect and demand.