What You Call It vs. What It Is

I got to spend some time with some CLOSE friends the other night. It was a very grounding experience for me. I’d like to talk about something very simple.

Calling something a particular thing doesn’t make that thing what you called it.

Not calling something anything doesn’t make it less than what it actually is. Continue reading “What You Call It vs. What It Is”

Looking Desperate

A reader recently asked me a question about looking desperate. It was the basic situation of not wanting to overdo it or under-do it when contacting someone you want to kick it to.

If you contact them too much, you look desperate. If you contact them too little, you look disinterested. If you look disinterested, they might turn off to you. If you look desperate, they might think you’re a Herb or a psycho stalker. Continue reading “Looking Desperate”

Did your man call out another woman’s name?

Ladies… Don’t you just hate it when your man calls out another woman’s name when y’all are doin’ the do? Well, before you start throwing tantrums and throwing keys and cell phones out of Lamborghini windows, let’s think about why this might be ALL. YOUR. FAULT! 😀

Did you dye your hair?

WomenYour man gets used to certain things about you. He’s used to your body type, because that’s what prompted him to talk to you in the first place. He’s used to your demeanor, how you like to dress, etc.

Now, if you recently dyed your hair, depending on what you were doing to him at the time………. Your man could have made a PERFECTLY HONEST MISTAKE in calling you some other woman’s name. 😀

I’m just sayin’… Guys aren’t that smart. You have to keep things consistent. If you were already dying your hair red when he met you, keep doing that throughout the relationship in order to avoid situations like this.

Same thing goes with length. If your hair was long the whole time, don’t suddenly cut it short and risk reminding him of that secretary at his job he fantasizes about tapping every chance he gets.

FELLAZ!!!.. The easy way around this is to only date one chick of each hair color/length. If one of them changes up on you, hold off on the sex until you can draw up a new chart. Writing all of their names/hair colors on the inside of your wrist is risky, but, you know… do what you gotta do. Continue reading “Did your man call out another woman’s name?”