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		<description><![CDATA[Unfortunately, the nature of relationships dictates that people ACT AS IF they're equals, even if it's clear that they aren't.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div name="googleone_share_1" style="position:relative;z-index:5;clear:right; float: right; margin-right: 10px; margin-top:10px;"><g:plusone size="tall" count="1" href="http://billcammack.com/2012/04/04/unequal-relationships/"></g:plusone></div><p>I&#8217;m not aware of many equal relationships.  Most of them consist of one person that was sweating another person, and then the sweatee agreed to date the sweater.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s not to say that equal relationships don&#8217;t exist.  I&#8217;m sure there are lots of them.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m just saying that in most cases, one person has more power in the relationship than the other one does, regardless of whether the &#8220;stronger&#8221; person utilizes that power against the &#8220;weaker&#8221; one or not. <span id="more-10916"></span></p>
<h3>Roles</h3>
<p>It&#8217;s imperative that you understand your position in your relationship.</p>
<p>If you&#8217;re the sweater, make sure that you remember that you&#8217;re lucky to be in this relationship, because the sweatee didn&#8217;t forget it and will not fail to remind you if you overstep your boundaries.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s like sometimes people work in the same office, so they&#8217;re coworkers&#8230; Except one person is the boss and the other person is the employee.  They&#8217;re in the same place, but they don&#8217;t have the same amount of power in their relationship.</p>
<p>Now.. If the boss elects not to ensure that the employee takes exactly one hour or less to eat lunch, the boss has that right, and the employee can do whatever he or she wants.</p>
<p>However.. If the employee demands an hour and a half for lunch, because they got all comfortable with the boss not &#8220;bossing&#8221;, not only don&#8217;t they have any power to enact that policy without getting their pay docked every day for 30 minutes worth of time that they wasted when they were supposed to be working, but they &#8216;might could&#8217; get fired.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, the nature of relationships dictates that people ACT AS IF they&#8217;re equals, even if it&#8217;s clear that they aren&#8217;t.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t know that that&#8217;s such a good idea.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not saying the leader in the relationship should act like a jerk or assert their power over the follower, but when followers start &#8216;feeling themselves&#8217; and encroaching on the decision-making territory of the leader, it&#8217;s probably a good idea to subtly and graciously remind them what time it is before they get themselves fired.</p>
<h3>Shot-Callers</h3>
<p>I&#8217;m sure some people are thinking &#8220;Why would someone date someone they didn&#8217;t consider their equal?&#8221;</p>
<p>That would be because people want what they want from relationships, and equality might be irrelevant to them.. especially compared to sayyyyyy&#8230; looks, money, sex, food, shelter, status, trickin&#8217; and takin&#8217; them skiing in The Aspens.</p>
<p>Swimmin&#8217; in Women wit&#8217; they own Condominiums. It&#8217;s all about the Benjamins. What? o_O</p>
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<p>Anyway, there are lots of reasons why people hook up with and date people they don&#8217;t consider to be anywhere near their equals in life.</p>
<p>Since people don&#8217;t usually say &#8220;You know I&#8217;m better than you, right? :D&#8221; and still have a relationship left, they tend to keep it under the hat until the follower goes overboard with the rights they think they have because they saw a movie about relationships one time, or they heard something from a friend about the way their relationship &#8220;should&#8221; be, and they believed the hype and fell for the okey-doke.</p>
<p>I would hope that the lucky party would retain a sense of their place in the relationship and not put themselves in the awkward position of having to be reminded, but that&#8217;s not always the case.</p>
<p>I would also hope that when they cause the leader to reprimand them, they recognize that an admonishment is a vote of confidence in them which says that they can return to their rightful place and continue this relationship&#8230; It could have been worse, with the leader ejecting, and then the follower&#8217;s back to square one, looking for love on <a href="http://www.pof.com/" rel="nofollow">Plenty Of Fish</a> and <a href="http://www.okcupid.com/" rel="nofollow">ok Cupid</a>.</p>
<p>Of course, followers can improve their station through loyalty, functionality, putting their best foot forward, looking good, staying in shape, paying attention to what the leader likes, cooking good food, being intelligent and witty, and generally endearing themselves to the leader.</p>
<p>However, since they weren&#8217;t TOLD that they&#8217;re the follower, they&#8217;re not likely to do their best to stay in the game.</p>
<p>None of this actually comes to light so long as both parties play their positions.  It only becomes an issue when the person without say in the relationship attempts to assert himself or herself.</p>
<h3>Power</h3>
<p>Often, it&#8217;s not so much that one person has power over the other one, but that one person has *NO* power over the other one.  This happens when one or more of the parties is autonomous.</p>
<blockquote><p><a href="http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/autonomy" rel="nofollow">merriam-webster.com/dictionary/autonomy</a></p>
<p>1: the quality or state of being self-governing; especially : the right of self-government<br />
<strong>2: self-directing freedom and especially moral independence</strong><br />
3: a self-governing state</p></blockquote>
<p>See.. If someone self-directs their freedom, there&#8217;s nothing you can do to control them, or really even to influence them.</p>
<p>All you can do is inspire them to do you favors though your own actions and ways of being towards them.</p>
<p>Anything they do for you isn&#8217;t because you compelled them to, but because out of the goodness of their hearts, they felt you deserved it.</p>
<p>You can&#8217;t make any power moves against them, because that would require&#8230; power.. which you don&#8217;t have.</p>
<p>Some people don&#8217;t react well to realizing they&#8217;re second-class citizens in their own relationship.  Everybody wants to believe they&#8217;re on top of their game, but that&#8217;s clearly impossible.</p>
<p>If that were the case, everybody would be hooked up, and nobody would be <a href="http://billcammack.com/2008/12/08/its-all-in-the-game-online-dating/">online dating</a>.</p>
<p>However, these people often don&#8217;t bounce, because they don&#8217;t feel like starting all over, and they believe that they&#8217;re the leader&#8217;s equal anyway, so they think they can work their way &#8220;back&#8221; into a position of authority, which, in fact, they never held.</p>
<p>This continues until the follower feels once again that he or she can make demands, and then they find out that nothing&#8217;s different from the last time they tried this.</p>
<h3>Jeeves</h3>
<p>The three landing positions for this situation are that the follower stops being annoying, the leader dumps the follower, or the follower ejects to attempt to find a relationship with someone that considers them an equal or better.</p>
<p>There&#8217;s no point in the leader informing the follower of his/her position in the relationship, so long as everything the follower wants to do is the exact same thing the leader would have suggested anyway.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s like successful back-seat driving.</p>
<p>When people think of back-seat drivers, they think of someone that doesn&#8217;t have their hands on the wheel, so whatever they say doesn&#8217;t really matter.  The driver&#8217;s going to do whatever he/she wants to do, regardless.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a little different when the driver is the chauffeur.<br />
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		<description><![CDATA[Women tend to overestimate their position on the totem pole relative to other aspects of men’s lives, such as their cars, friends and pets.]]></description>
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<p>Women tend to overestimate their position on the totem pole relative to other aspects of men&#8217;s lives, such as their cars, friends and pets.</p>
<p>Think about it.. If a dude has had a dog for like 20 years and then a gal shows up and tries to regulate, talkin&#8217; &#8217;bout he has to get rid of the dog, she might find her bags packed and waiting for her at the door after he hits it one last time.</p>
<p>Speaking of which, if dude hasn&#8217;t hit it yet, she has no pull, whatsoever.  He can get a new woman that he <em>ISN&#8217;T</em> having sex with, immediately.  He can&#8217;t get a new beloved pet, so she might have to take a long walk on a short plank. <span id="more-10856"></span></p>
<h3>Ultimatums</h3>
<p>While we&#8217;re on the subject, the same thing goes for women that he knows.</p>
<p>It will never cease to amaze me that women watch these Lifetime cable channel movies and chick flicks and then believe that they can tell a grown-ass man whom he can and can&#8217;t spend time with. :D</p>
<p>If he feels like appeasing you, he&#8217;ll tell you yeah yeah yeah and then keep doing what he always did before he met you.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s amazing that some women actually believe that now that they&#8217;re hooking up with a guy, that gives them some kind of authority to regulate his life.  It&#8217;s even MORE AMAZING that their grown-ass-woman homegirls commiserate with them and tell them that they&#8217;re right for trying to control the dude and he&#8217;s wrong for not accepting her control.</p>
<p>You would swear that Little House On The Prarie was real. It was FICTION, ladies! :D hahaha A STORY! :D</p>
<p>On top of that, LHotP was hypothetically located&#8230;. wait for it&#8230;. ON. THE. PRARIE! :D haha Not in some metropolitan area where you can just get another chick if one of them becomes more of a hassle than she&#8217;s worth.</p>
<p>If there&#8217;s something that&#8217;s bothering her, OF COURSE she should bring it up and debate it and put her foot down about things she doesn&#8217;t like and things she&#8217;s not going to stand for&#8230; However.. When she does that, she needs to be prepared in case he says &#8220;You&#8217;re right.  That&#8217;s not fair.  Bounce.  I&#8217;ll date some other chick.&#8221;</p>
<p>See, that&#8217;s what happens with ultimatums.  They don&#8217;t always go the way the person making the threat wants them to go.  This is why it&#8217;s important to focus on reality, as opposed to movie-based and tupperware-party-supported fantasies about how relationships work.</p>
<p>Unless she knows she has something that he does NOT want to live without, an ultimatum merely forces a guy to make a choice.. A choice between two VALID options.  Select &#8220;Her&#8221; or &#8220;Not-Her&#8221;.</p>
<p>If the choice is between a woman he&#8217;s been dating for 3 months and a woman he&#8217;s known and appreciated for 3 years, the girlfriend might find herself singing &#8220;Yo Ho Ho And A Bottle Of Rum&#8221; while she takes that long walk on that short plank.</p>
<h3>Control</h3>
<p>On top of that.. If a woman can control her man, so can anybody else. o_O</p>
<p>There&#8217;s nothing in particular about her brand of control that supersedes anyone else&#8217;s version, so if she forbids him to go to the strip club, and he&#8217;s like &#8220;ok&#8221;, and then his boys say let&#8217;s go the strip club, he&#8217;ll say &#8220;ok&#8221;, then the stripper will ask him if he wants a lap dance in the champagne room, and he&#8217;ll say &#8220;ok&#8221;.</p>
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<p>So either you&#8217;re controlling someone who&#8217;s easily controllable, or he&#8217;s faking you out by pretending to follow your orders and then living his life as usual.</p>
<p>This is why women are surprised when they find out &#8220;their man&#8221; is still screwing his ex.  They think they&#8217;ve exerted some kind of control over him that requires him to tell the truth.  They think that something they&#8217;ve done has made him disinterested in having sex with other women.. including their cousins, sisters and mothers.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s just not true.</p>
<p>In most cases, guys will ELECT not to pursue hookups with other women, because they respect the relationship they&#8217;re in, or they&#8217;re already doing everything sexual they want to do with their current girlfriend/wife/FWB/whatever, or they&#8217;re not the type of person to go back on their word, or &#8220;cheat&#8221;.  That&#8217;s a CHOICE they&#8217;re making, though.  It&#8217;s not some kind of natural state that they&#8217;re forced into by some gal they&#8217;re dating.</p>
<p>Some guys are naturally monogamous and want to be.  If that&#8217;s the case, AGAIN, it has nothing to do with the woman.  She didn&#8217;t MAKE him monogamous, she just happened to find and date a man that already was.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s why I always shake my head when women ask &#8220;How do I get him to _____&#8221;.  You don&#8217;t have any actual control over him.  Your best bet is to be the best woman you can towards him, let him know what YOU&#8217;RE interested in as far as the relationship, and hope that a) he gives a damn what you want, and b) he&#8217;s willing and able to do that for you.</p>
<h3>Sharing</h3>
<p>We already went over this in <a href="http://billcammack.com/2011/03/18/the-roster-multiple-girlfriends/">&#8220;The Roster (Multiple Girlfriends)&#8221;</a>, but basically, it&#8217;s easy for women to get ON the roster.  It&#8217;s tougher for women to make it to THE TOP of the roster.  It&#8217;s a major accomplishment to actually REMOVE OTHER WOMEN from the roster and achieve an exclusive relationship with a sought-after guy.</p>
<p>This is because there is a plateau of achievement.  There&#8217;s no actual peak, until and unless the cream rises to the top and a dude is just blown away by his experiences with a gal.. or, as I said earlier, he&#8217;s naturally the type of person that only wants one girlfriend and is currently auditioning and hoping to settle soon.</p>
<p>Women, who like to believe what they watch in movies, and the stories they hear from their mothers and older women (who, of course, were TOLD, regardless of the reality of the situation, that they were in an exclusive relationship, or else dude would never have had the sex that produced this daughter in the first place), think the process goes from dating to exclusive girlfriend to fiancée to wife.</p>
<p>In fact, they&#8217;ve skipped a step.</p>
<p>It goes dating -> one of my girlfriends -> my only girlfriend -> fiancée -> wife.</p>
<p>This is what&#8217;s confusing to women, when they make it to the &#8220;one of my girlfriends&#8221; stage that they don&#8217;t believe exists.</p>
<p>They wonder why dude is treating them like a girlfriend, but he&#8217;s not trying to verbally declare them exclusive.</p>
<p>This is where women screw themselves, because instead of easing back and sharing him with the other women until dude makes up his mind (assuming he plans to EVAR make up his mind) and selects her of his own free will, they start wondering how they can MAKE HIM dump the other chicks, or his friends, or his pets, or his job, or his dreams&#8230;.</p>
<p>So, right when women are in position to MAAAAAYBE make it to the next phase, they make a nuisance of themselves and get bounced off the roster.</p>
<h3>Supplements</h3>
<p>The women you can have a good and enjoyable time with, stay.<br />
The women that try to get you to trade them something in order for them to act the way they&#8217;re supposed to act in the first place, go.</p>
<p>Stay in the pocket.  Make yourself useful.  Be a cheerful person.  Make sure you always look good.  Be the type of woman that he wants to wake up to in the morning, and you &#8220;might could&#8221; get the Golden Ticket.</p>
<p>Once you try to overpower or outsmart a grown-ass man into restricting his personal options in the one life he&#8217;s going to have to live, so that you can feel better about yourself because you feel like you have control over someone, you&#8217;re starting yourself on that long walk, and the only question is how short the plank is.</p>
<p>If you try to come between a dude and his dog, you may just find out that regardless of what he told you while he was trying to get laid, the dog&#8217;s more important than you are.</p>
<p>Guys don&#8217;t have to lie to dogs.  Dogs don&#8217;t understand English.  We lie to women.</p>
<p>We lie to women to increase y&#8217;all&#8217;s functionality and usefulness.</p>
<p>One of those lies might be &#8220;You&#8217;re more important than my dog.&#8221;</p>
<p>Another lie might be &#8220;I only go to my ex&#8217;s house so I can see my dog.&#8221;</p>
<p>I guess the point is that women need to see themselves as supplements to the happiness in men&#8217;s lives, not replacements for our happiness.</p>
<p>You don&#8217;t get to suck everything good out of our lives so you can feel better about your own.  Ain&#8217;t that type-a party.</p>
<p>If there&#8217;s something you don&#8217;t like about your relationship, talk about it.. discuss it, have a debate about it, make demands if you feel you&#8217;ve got it like that.  If you don&#8217;t like what you hear, try again some other time, or bounce from the relationship.  You most DEFINITELY shouldn&#8217;t remain in a relationship that you&#8217;re not enjoying, or where you feel you could do better for yourself.</p>
<p>What I&#8217;m saying is, don&#8217;t fall for your own okey-doke that dude will <em>definitely</em> forsake his beloved dog, cat, snake, owl, or lizard for you.</p>
<p>If you decide to make an argument out of it, while dogs don&#8217;t know English, they know the vocal tones that usually lead to &#8220;Welp.. I won&#8217;t be seeing THIS CHICK around here, anymore! :D haha Don&#8217;t let the door HIT&#8217;CHA where the Good Lord SPLIT&#8217;CHA! :D&#8221;</p>
<p>Then again, of course, you might be successful! :D hehe You might actually strongarm him into choosing you over his pet.  Congratulations to you, and good luck with that! :D</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[A side-piece is a gal that may or may not think she’s your main girlfriend, but she most definitely is not.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div name="googleone_share_1" style="position:relative;z-index:5;clear:right; float: right; margin-right: 10px; margin-top:10px;"><g:plusone size="tall" count="1" href="http://billcammack.com/2012/02/13/happy-side-piece-day/"></g:plusone></div><p>I was chatting with reader &#8220;Eric&#8221; earlier today, and he reminded me that today is Side-Piece Day.</p>
<p>So.. Happy Side-Piece Day, Ladies! :D *waves*</p>
<h3>Side-Piece Maintenance</h3>
<p>A side-piece is a gal that may or may not think she&#8217;s your main girlfriend, but she most definitely is not. <span id="more-10789"></span></p>
<p>For instance.. On &#8220;The Sopranos&#8221;, Tony&#8217;s wife was his wife, and his girlfriends were his side-pieces, get it? :)</p>
<p>However.. Since some guys don&#8217;t like to make it clear to the SP that she is what she is, they often pretend that she&#8217;s their best girlfriend, their main girlfriend, or, in extreme cases, their *ONLY* girlfriend.</p>
<p>This works very well, except for special occasions that pop up during the year.</p>
<p>To keep it simple.. Let&#8217;s say you only have two girlfriends, right?&#8230;</p>
<p>It&#8217;s not likely that they were born on the same day.</p>
<p>This means that you can celebrate both of your girlfriends&#8217; birthdays with them as if the other one doesn&#8217;t even exist.  No loss of propers for you.</p>
<p>Even if they share a birthday, since you only have two of them, it&#8217;s easy to split them by celebrating one on the weekend BEFORE their birthday, and one on the weekend AFTER their birthday.</p>
<p>Of course, during those years where their co-birthday falls on a Saturday or something, you&#8217;re kinda screwed. \o/</p>
<p>The next day is Christmas.  That one&#8217;s not tough to play off if we&#8217;re still assuming you&#8217;re only dating two gals simultaneously.  You can see one for Christmas Eve, and you can see one for Christmas Day.</p>
<p>New Year&#8217;s Eve is a REALLY tough one.</p>
<p>So you&#8217;re getting the point that eventually, the rubber meets the road, and you have to decide which one of your girlfriends is going to get the ACTUAL holiday, and which one is going to have to settle for something NEAR the actual holiday, preferably the day before or the day after.</p>
<h3>Side-Piece Day</h3>
<p>The absolute *WORST* day for guys with multiple girlfriends is Valentine&#8217;s Day.</p>
<p>Your best bet is to skip work altogether, and schedule one for breakfast, one for lunch, one for dinner, and one for late drinks.</p>
<p>Of course, this assumes you have only four girlfriends and a lot of credit.</p>
<p>If you can&#8217;t do that, and you HAVE TO go out with only one gal on Valentine&#8217;s day, it&#8217;s going to be your best girlfriend.  No doubt.  Valentine&#8217;s day will set the tone for the next 365, so you have to make sure you make it the best for your best girl so she makes the rest of your year the best for you! :D</p>
<p>This brings us to today.. Which is the day BEFORE Valentine&#8217;s day, or&#8230; Wait for it! :D &#8230;.. SIDE-PIECE DAY! :D</p>
<p>If this is handled carefully and not overdone, you can keep getting away with taking women out on side-piece Day and they never get hip to the game.</p>
<p>What you have to do is alternate side-pieces every other holiday.</p>
<p>So, you spend Thanksgiving with Chick A, and the day before Thanksgiving with Chick B&#8230; Next, You spend Christmas Day with Chick B and Christmas Eve with Chick A&#8230; This way, when they tell their girlfriend that you took them out on side-piece day, and she tries to cockblock you, your girlfriend stands up for you, because you spent Thanksgiving with her and her family, and you took her out the day before Valentine&#8217;s Day, because you had an important deadline for this project you&#8217;re finishing at work that was going to take you all day to complete and present, so there was no point in her trying to call or text you on V-Day, because you were going to be fully absorbed in your work, and you&#8217;d get back to her as soon as you could, which was probably going to be the entirely next day, because you were going to have to go out with your coworkers for drinks afterwards to celebrate your successful presentation and after so much drinking (and working), you were going to want to go right to sleep after that, so don&#8217;t call us, we&#8217;ll call you.</p>
<h3>Are You A Side-Piece? o_O</h3>
<p>Now.. Just because your man took you out on side-piece Day doesn&#8217;t mean that you *ARE* the/a side-piece, or even that he&#8217;s dating anyone other than you.  You may very well be the only one, and he very well might have to work on Thanksgiving, Christmas, 4th of July, Presidents&#8217; Day, and every single 3-day weekend American workers get during the year.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s possible. :)</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not going to go back over how you can tell whether you&#8217;re a side-piece or not, because that&#8217;s 4-year-old information => <a href="http://billcammack.com/2008/08/03/ladies-how-to-tell-he-has-a-girlfriend/">http://billcammack.com/2008/08/03/ladies-how-to-tell-he-has-a-girlfriend/</a>.  Go read it if you like.</p>
<p>If you determine that you *ARE* the SP, you have two options, bounce from the relationship, or step your game up so he chooses you over the rest of his girlfriends.</p>
<p>If you decide you&#8217;re going to stay, make a list of the positive features of being his side-piece, like how you only have to provide 1/2 to 1/4 of his sexual gratification.</p>
<p>Anyway&#8230;</p>
<p>If you have a date tonight.. The night *BEFORE* Valentine&#8217;s Day.. With &#8220;your&#8221; boyfriend.. And he already told you he&#8217;s going to be out of commission all day, tomorrow&#8230; HAPPY SIDE-PIECE DAY! :D<br />
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		<title>Your Girlfriend Is A Ho</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[This season’s premiere episode of Jersey Shore was only interesting for one reason.. MTV decided to surprise the cast by bringing the people they care about together for a surprise party.

That would have been all well &#038; good, except for Nicole’s various sexual hookups with guys and girls that were invited to the same party. :D]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div name="googleone_share_1" style="position:relative;z-index:5;clear:right; float: right; margin-right: 10px; margin-top:10px;"><g:plusone size="tall" count="1" href="http://billcammack.com/2012/01/13/your-girlfriend-is-a-ho/"></g:plusone></div><p>This season&#8217;s premiere episode of <a href="http://billcammack.com/category/datinggenius/jersey-shore/">Jersey Shore</a> was only interesting for one reason.. MTV decided to surprise the cast by bringing the people they care about together for a surprise party.</p>
<p>That would have been all well &#038; good, except for Nicole&#8217;s various sexual hookups with guys and girls that were invited to the same party. :D <span id="more-10760"></span></p>
<h3>Witnesses For The Prosecution</h3>
<p><a href="http://billcammack.com/category/datinggenius/jersey-shore/">As I&#8217;ve previously stated, over the last couple of seasons</a>, Nicole has hooked up with housemates Mike, Vinny, and Deena.  The latest episodes between her and Vinny and her and Deena occurred while she was in Italy last season, which means it was during the time she was dating her current (according to the timeline of the released episodes) boyfriend.  This is all on videotape. :D  There&#8217;s no denying any of that.</p>
<p>What ISN&#8217;T on videotape is that Mike said Nicole blew him recently, which was also after the time that Nicole had claimed to her boyfriend that she was sexually committed to him&#8230; Well.. Mike&#8217;s SAYING IT is on tape.. The actual activity is not on tape, which led Nicole to initially attempt to deny it, rather unsuccessfully.</p>
<p>This is what made this surprise reunion interesting.  There are only two eye-witnesses to Nicole blowing Mike.  That would be Mike&#8217;s homeboy and Nicole&#8217;s homegirl, who were hooking up with each other at the time that Nicole did her thing with Mike.</p>
<p>Unfortunately for Nicole, both of these witnesses were invited to the party, so she was now outnumbered 3-1, as far as people who were going to claim that she never blew Mike.</p>
<p>I say this because Mike&#8217;s boy was DYING to tell what he knew, and Nicole&#8217;s girl was shutting the **** up. :D .. Had there been any question, or, rather, had it actually been a lie that Nicole did what Mike said she did, Nicole would have felt brave, because she had one more person to tell the truth for her, and Mike had one more person to lie for him, and the truth would have easily won out, or at least, there would have been sufficient reasonable doubt to have people remain undecided about what actually happened.</p>
<p>At first, it seemed like Nicole was up for the confrontation, because she was talking all kinds of yang to Mike&#8217;s friend that has the information on her.. However, in a previous episode, she had been talking all kinds of yang to ACTUAL POLICEMEN that were escorting her drunk ass off the boardwalk to a waiting police car, so we know she completely loses her mind when she drinks.</p>
<p>The most telling aspect of this situation is that the next day, when Nicole was sober, Mike stepped to her and told her she should apologize to his boy for saying mean things about him&#8230;. She actually did it.</p>
<p>She did it because she knew she had to do it or else dude was going to spill the beans, and a) her homegirl wasn&#8217;t going to back her &#8220;I didn&#8217;t do it&#8221; play, and b) she was the only person with something to lose in that situation, because her boyfriend was the only one that didn&#8217;t know the story.</p>
<h3>Situational Amnesia</h3>
<p>Another interesting aspect of that party was that as much as Nicole&#8217;s boyfriend DOESN&#8217;T know about Nicole&#8217;s various sexual escapades, there&#8217;s one thing that he knew for sure, since Nicole admitted it to him.  He knew damned well that Vinny had ****** his girl. :D</p>
<p>We know he knows, because after Nicole tells him over the phone she hooked up with Vinny (and this was edited, so who knows how the actual conversation actually happened), her boyfriend replied &#8220;Tell Vinny he&#8217;s dead!&#8221;</p>
<p>I understand that that was an emotional reaction.  I imagine that guys are going to feel upset and temporarily irrational when their girlfriend calls them up and informs them that within the 48 hours (probably 24 hours) that she had an argument with him, she spread her legs for the next man.</p>
<p>I understand that he didn&#8217;t mean dead dead.. He meant to say &#8220;I&#8217;m really upset with Vinny for ******* you&#8221;.  In fact, it&#8217;s not Vinny&#8217;s problem.  Dude should only be upset with his girl for giving up the ass, because he had a deal with HER, and not Vinny.</p>
<p>The funny part about all this is that Vinny had been ******* Nicole way way way before she even met this dude she&#8217;s dating now, so he really has nothing to be upset about.  He started dating a girl that was already consistently ******* some other guy.  It&#8217;s too bad for him that she didn&#8217;t say that.  It&#8217;s too bad for him that she didn&#8217;t tell him that as soon as she gets drunk/horny, she throws sex at just about anything that moves.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t get mad at the next man because he accepts the easy sex from <em>&#8220;your&#8221;</em> girl.  Tighten your game up, playah. >:D</p>
<p>Anyway&#8230; This was very interesting, because the boyfriend ends up in the same room with the guy that ****** his girl.. The same guy that he claimed was &#8220;dead&#8221; (meaning he was upset with him), and according to MTV&#8217;s edit, he never had AAAAAAAAAANY kind of conversation with Vinny. o_O</p>
<p>Apparently, there was no escalation of the beef, no squashing of the beef, and no discussion of the beef, whatsoever.</p>
<p>Nothing. \o/</p>
<p>Dude seemed to have completely forgotten, or completely gotten over the fact that Vinny had rather recently dicked his girlfriend down.</p>
<p>I mean, it was like nothing had ever happened.  Dude was all lovey-dovey to Nicole, kissing on her and asking her if she was feeling ok..</p>
<p>Seriously, fellaz.. If you know damned well that you&#8217;re going to develop amnesia after your girl steps to the left and gets some from the next man, skip making a major scene about it on the telephone, in person, or EVER, in fact.</p>
<p>Just don&#8217;t bring it up.  Let it slide.  Recognize that you&#8217;re the type of guy that&#8217;s going to stay with your girl regardless of how many other guys are screwing her.</p>
<p>There&#8217;s nothing wrong with that.  It&#8217;s ok.  You don&#8217;t have to act like you care so that people think you&#8217;re normal.</p>
<p>Take it like any other information. &#8220;How was your night?&#8230; oh.. You drank until you fell down for no apparent reason, because you were standing still when you buss your ass? o_O .. oh.. You made out with some chick you just met at the bar? o_O .. oh.. You hopped in bed with your male roommate and gave him a Happy Ending because you and I had an argument several hours before that? o_O .. Glad you had fun, dear.  Talk to you tomorrow.&#8221;<br />
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		<description><![CDATA[I was in Brooklyn Friday night. That means that I wasn’t in, say.. Zimbabwe, Africa.

If someone hires Gloria Allred to say “Bill Cammack was in Zimbabwe Friday night! :O”, I’ll probably ignore it completely.

If I elect to speak on it, I’m going to say “No.. In fact, I was not in Zimbabwe Friday night.”, and that’s going to be the end of it.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div name="googleone_share_1" style="position:relative;z-index:5;clear:right; float: right; margin-right: 10px; margin-top:10px;"><g:plusone size="tall" count="1" href="http://billcammack.com/2011/12/05/how-to-deny-allegations/"></g:plusone></div><p>I was in Brooklyn Friday night.  That means that I wasn&#8217;t in, say.. Zimbabwe, Africa.</p>
<p><img src="http://www1.pictures.zimbio.com/gi/Jodie+Fisher+Gloria+Allred+Sighting+New+York+0LCRsBwfzvRl.jpg" width="200" style="float:left">If someone hires Gloria Allred to say &#8220;<a href="http://billcammack.com/">Bill Cammack</a> was in Zimbabwe Friday night! :O&#8221;, I&#8217;ll probably ignore it completely.</p>
<p>If I elect to speak on it, I&#8217;m going to say &#8220;No.. In fact, I was not in Zimbabwe Friday night.&#8221;, and that&#8217;s going to be the end of it.</p>
<p>The truth of the matter is my &#8220;defense&#8221;.  I don&#8217;t have to get personal about it. <span id="more-10649"></span></p>
<p>I don&#8217;t have to say &#8220;THAT ***** IS A LYING-ASS *****!!! :O&#8221; and talk about her finances, her relationship status, or anything else about the accuser.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t have to make elaborate gestures, like producing passports that aren&#8217;t stamped &#8220;Zimbabwe&#8221;.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t have to hire Africans to say that they&#8217;ve never seen me in Africa in their entire lives.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t have to do anything, in fact, because I wasn&#8217;t *in* Zimbabwe, and for someone to say that I was, it&#8217;s a waste of their time.</p>
<p>So, The proper reply to &#8220;<a href="http://billcammack.com/">Bill</a> was in Zimbabwe&#8221; is &#8220;No, I was not&#8221;.</p>
<p>The *IMPROPER* reply to &#8220;You were in Zimbabwe&#8221; is &#8220;You can&#8217;t <strong>PROVE</strong> that I was in Zimbabwe! :O&#8221;</p>
<p>Does that make sense?</p>
<p>OBVIOUSLY, there&#8217;s no proof that I was in Zimbabwe, because I&#8217;ve never been to Africa AT ALL in my entire life.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve barely even watched television shows about Africa.</p>
<p>Why would I bring up the fact that you can&#8217;t prove something that I know you can&#8217;t prove, because it never happened? o_O</p>
<p>Why would I say &#8220;The chick that says I was in Zimbabwe last night is broke and can&#8217;t pay her bills&#8221;?</p>
<p>Why would I say &#8220;The chick that says I was in Zimbabwe last night filed sexual harassment charges at her other job, too&#8221;?</p>
<p>Why would I ask a reporter &#8220;Have *YOU* ever been accused of being in Zimbabwe? o_O&#8221;?</p>
<p>These are things that you say when there&#8217;s actually A POSSIBILITY that the story is true.&#8221;</p>
<p>So, if you&#8217;re going to call a press conference and mention things that people claim you said or did, all you have to do is call them &#8220;False Allegations&#8221;.  If you also call them &#8220;Unproven Allegations&#8221;, you&#8217;re leaving the door open that they MIGHT have been proven, if, say.. there weren&#8217;t legally-binding restrictions on the women telling their side of the story to the press, or if you know that the last time you tapped your side-piece&#8217;s ass was several months ago and she&#8217;s not currently pregnant, so there&#8217;s no proof that you ever hit it during your 13-year, extramarital friendship with her.</p>
<p>As a bonus tip.. It doesn&#8217;t matter who snitched on you.</p>
<p>If people believe you were in Zimbabwe, accusing a competitor of spreading the rumor isn&#8217;t going to make your denial any more credible.</p>
<p>So.. Again.. The way to deny allegations is to deny them.</p>
<p>Just say it isn&#8217;t true and keep steppin&#8217;.</p>
<p>If you keep yammering about proof and snitches and conspiracies, you appear unnecessarily defensive, which makes you look MORE GUILTY, not less.<br />
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