Rethinking Dating Apps

Dating Apps might be the car that a lot of people are driving now instead of the horse & buggy of actually hitting the streets and taking your chances meeting new people IRL.

I read a “disturbing” article the other day. šŸ˜€ haha I should have bookmarked it, but at the time, I didn’t think I was going to write about dating apps so I didn’t and now I can’t find it so I’m going to have to freestyle this without that reference.

Basically, what the article was saying was that people were using dating apps like Tinder *WHILE* they were already out for the evening at a bar.

I hadn’t considered this before.

What made sense to me is that people would have used Tinder ahead of time to decide which person they were going to spend time with WHEN they went out and then meet that person and see what happens.

I didn’t imagine that chicks might be sitting AT THE BAR on their phones swiping through potential dates for the evening even though there were guys right there, IRL (in real life) that they could have met, talked to, and/or hooked up with at the bar. Continue reading “Rethinking Dating Apps”

People Have To Know Who You Are

I just became aware of the latest scandal involving an internet bigwig. Some people who used to hang out with this dude ALL THE TIME are now saying “I knew he was a creep for a long time” and/or “I heard horrific rumors about him for a long time”.

I find this situation funny, yet educational, for a few reasons. One of them is that the people that “heard rumors” didn’t say JACK **** until this dude was publicly called out for his rumored behavior, way after the fact of when the situations actually occured, and with, so far, zero evidence of anything occurring at all, other than the word of this guy’s ex-girlfriend, who happens to be his accuser.

What’s funny about that is that by speaking up NOW, you highlight that you FAILED TO or REFUSED to speak up between when you heard these rumors and when the public allegations surfaced = not fly. Continue reading “People Have To Know Who You Are”

Email. Not Facebook. Not Twitter. Not Phone. Not IRL…

In this time of social media, we have a lot of ways to communicate with each other.

Each one can be considered a level, or a gate, with one requiring more of a personā€™s time, energy, and focus than another.

Admission to the higher levels of interaction requires that you first prove yourself on one or more of the lower levels.

In this time of social media, we have a lot of ways to communicate with each other.

Each one can be considered a level, or a gate, with one requiring more of a person’s time, energy, and focus than another.

Admission to the higher levels of interaction requires that you first prove yourself on one or more of the lower levels. Continue reading “Email. Not Facebook. Not Twitter. Not Phone. Not IRL…”

Deleting People From Facebook

Bill CammackBeing connected with people on social networks like Facebook, Twitter & Foursquare has taken on a new importance in people’s lives in 2010 AD.

It used to be a frivolous decision whether to add someone as a “friend” or not. It used to be similarly unimportant whether you deleted someone after becoming friends with them. Those days are over. šŸ™‚ Friending and unfriending people is serious business now, as people’s IRL lives spill over into their online presence and “art” begins to imitate life… Continue reading “Deleting People From Facebook”

E-Stalking [Part 4]

Bill Cammack GSX-R NYC Night, by Jay BatistaI dropped my e-Stalking series in 2008.

At the time, I was talking about asynchronously getting to know someone by reading their blog posts, listening to their podcasts, watching their videos & live streams and coming to your own conclusion about who they are, what they’re like and what they like to do without them ever knowing that you exist.

e-Stalking makes perfect sense because people tend to share what they care about online to the degree that they’re willing to be judged by what they wrote. Trust Me.. You can learn way more about someone in 20 minutes of consuming their media than you can during 20 minutes of banter with them and three other people standing around at an IRL social function. Continue reading “E-Stalking [Part 4]”