Bill Cammack

I don’t talk about myself much in my blog posts because most people would neither believe nor understand what I had to say.

Meanwhile, lots of people that actually know me as a person and have hung out with me in the trenches have seen The Kid in action, anywhere from hooking up with chicks that they know damned well I only became aware of for the first time in life a couple of hours before, all the way to making out with bona fide butch-type lesbians. Read the rest of this entry »

As horrible as Oxygen Channel’s “Bad Girls Club” was, I still watched it because it was a T&A-fest.

Now, they’ve spun the series off into this lame Flavor-Flav ripoff called “Love Games”, where they have three chicks that ~20 guys are trying to hook up with. As retarded as that premise is, it’s STILL not as useless as putting eight chicks in a house so they can drink alcohol, get undressed most of the time, bitch at each other and then go clubbing together and rub up on each other as if they’re supposed to be lesbians with no storyline and no criteria for ejection from the show. I swear I don’t know how these shows get funded. :/ Read the rest of this entry »

Now.. I hate to pub BET (Black Entertainment Television) *AT* *ALL*, because it’s straight GARBAGE and a complete waste of immense potential as far as giving “minorities” light on a basically National televison stage… but there’s a lesson here for the ladies, so I’ll let it slide for now.

So, I’m minding my business the other day and all of these people are Twittering about the BET Awards that were going on right that minute. Stuff about how Soldier Boy (or however he misspelled it) should have been restricted to lip sync, because he can’t hit his notes, and how the censors missed cutting the audio when someone said “Dancin’ and ****”.

So, I decide to tune in to this disaster, and I see a very classy performance by Maxwell followed by some raunchy rap garbage that basically had every third word cut out by the censor, who, at that point was probably fearful of losing his/her job (and VERY rightfully so) to close out the show. Hopefully, the programming director got fired along with the censor for having NO TASTE WHATSOEVER… but that’s not the point. :D

I had the DVR running, so, as usual, I was Fast-Forwarding all of the commercials. However, there was one commercial that they kept running and eventually, I decided to back up and watch it. It was for this upcoming BET show called “Tiny & Toya”.

So, it’s not relevant *WHY* I decided to finally watch this commercial, hahaha ;) but I did. So you see a couple of typical BET-looking chicks on the screen and then they start talking in sound bites…. Actually, someone uploaded the video to YouTube, so watch it for yourself: Read the rest of this entry »

Here are five quick tips on how to avoid getting your girl pregnant:

1) Don’t hit it… evAr

Yes. I know. This tip is useless, because you were only talking to her in the first place so you could have sex with her. I know. I know….

2) Time her cycle [Edit: Extended discussion/explanation @ "Don't Try The Rhythm Method". Basically, *ANY* technique for avoiding pregnancy that involves getting *ANY* liquid on a chick other than your saliva is *COMPLETELY* *RETARDED*!]

Relatively, there’s only a small window of time during which you can accidentally get your girl pregnant… I mean, ACTUALLY get your girl pregnant. According to
The American Pregnancy Association:

“During the time of ovulation, an egg is available to be fertilized for only about 12-24 hours. But since sperm can live in the body for 3-5 days and then the egg is available for one day, your most fertile time is considered to be about 5-7 days.”

Even if we stretch that to 10 days, you have another 20 days each month that you can do what you say, say what you mean and one thing won’t lead to another!

YOUR assignment, if you choose to accept it, is to figure out which week out of each month you need to regularly have one whole hell of a lot of headaches and late nights at the office! :D

3) No Glove… No Love

Condoms don’t fail because the factory made them poorly. They fail because YOU didn’t put them on correctly. Make sure the condom fits. Make sure you leave space at the top for your… Happy Ending.

Here’s a tip. If the sex starts feeling “too good”, the condom probably broke or rolled off. STOP &#@$%G RIGHT NOW! and go get another condom.

4) Only screw chicks with career aspirations

Make sure you talk about careers early in your relationship with your girlfriend. If her chosen career path dictates that she can’t afford to take time off for maternity leave, you’re IN THERE! :D

Just don’t bungle the position by a) making her fall in love with you so she no longer cares about careers or money, or b) getting that big promotion that makes her feel like starting a family off of YOUR paycheck.

5) Hit it during her period [Edit: Revised. I didn't express myself properly here. I should have said "Hit it on THE FIRST DAY of her period" See the comments below or read "Don't Try The Rhythm Method" for clarification. Thanks to Kenya for bringing it up in the comments and thanks to other friends of mine for bringing it up IRL in the time since I initially made this post. :) ]

Hey…. What goes up…. Must come down! :D

DatingGenius

I had an interesting conversation last night with a few of the ladies @ this party I went to. It jumped off, because one of them said she should hire a stylist (which is going to be The Kid’s new venture, right after I finish writing this post). Unfortunately for her, she had mentioned earlier in conversation that she had a boyfriend. So I immediately replied:

“Your boyfriend’s supposed to be your stylist.”

She immediately dropped back into this “what’chu talkin’ ’bout, Willis?” pose and was looking at me with this funny expression, so I was like AWWWWW HEEEEERE WE *GO*!!! :D

Her general position was that guys can’t dress girls. I was like “of course they can, because we know what looks good on you and what doesn’t”, to which she replied:

“Men know what looks good on women, but they don’t know WHY it looks good.”

So I stood there for a few seconds, waiting for her to say something that made sense.

…….

That didn’t happen. :)

Here’s the problem with her statement… Looking good is not OBjective, it’s SUBjective. You feel a certain way when you see something that looks good. A painting, a chick, architecture, whatever. Also, what looks good to one person doesn’t necessarily look good to someone else. So… The fact THAT something looks good is way more important than the reason WHY it looks good.

Stephanie Frasco & Bill Cammack

I’m sure you could ask a guy WHY some article of clothing looks good on a chick. You probably won’t get a response for a while, because auxiliary power has been switched to 1) looking, 2) thinking about what he’s looking at and 3) continuing to stand up straight instead of falling over. After that, he may or may not be able to give you a technical description of WHY that item looks good on her, but the fact remains that “WHY” doesn’t matter. All that matters is that he receives the proper physical stimulus from checking her out. :)

So anyway, I tried to inform her that she didn’t know what she was talking about. I think the next thing I asked was:

“So your man doesn’t buy clothes for you?”

Same “what’chu talkin’ ’bout, Willis?” pose + weirdo stare. :) That’s when The Kid realized he wasn’t going to get anywhere with this as a one-on-one conversation and opened the floor to some nearby females. At least there was a range of responses. One said that her man bought clothes for her, but then equated that to him being domineering and posessive. Another one agreed with the first one, that men can’t buy clothes for women. A third one said that she had been with a guy who would buy her clothes sporadically. Needless to say, this had ZERO effect on the original gal’s perspective, which is why, as of today, I am now a personal shopper…. or shopping assistant….. or whatever the title is of people that get paid to tell people what to wear, hahaha :D

As my first oficial act of … hmm. I guess this makes me ShoppingGenius! :D

As my first official act as ShoppingGenius, I will now inform the fellaz on how to dress your girlfriends…..

First of all, the most important thing is knowing how SHE likes to dress in the first place. This is important because you want her to WEAR what you buy for her. If she likes to dress like a dude, don’t pick up a sun dress for her. If she likes to dress like Little House on the Prarie, don’t buy her modern clothing. You have to find out what your parameters are, and then select appealing gear inside that range.

Second, you have to know her size. This is important because you want her to be ABLE TO WEAR what you buy for her. :) Being that she’s your girlfriend, at some point in time, you should have access to her clothes when they’re not attached to her body. Write down her measurements, or twitter them to yourself. Make sure you do this while she’s asleep or in the shower. You know how chicks get with hallucinating about their actual size, or at least lying TO YOU about what it is. This is why you’re not going to ASK HER what her sizes are. She’ll give you the sizes she wishes she was, and not the sizes of clothes she can actually fit in. This reminds me… use your judgement. If your girl loves to stuff herself in jeans, creating unnecessary Muffin-Tops, make sure you increase the value of the sizes you retrieved from her gear.

Also, buying clothes for chicks is seasonal. If you go out with one for an entire year, you’ll notice they tend to get more and less “liquid”. This is, of course, unless they actually diligently monitor their physical condition, which is optimal! :D Anyway, you have to know where your girl currently is with her volume fluctuation. VOLUME is the key thing here, not weight, which is why it’s so funny that chicks always talk about “I need to lose 5 pounds” “I need to lose 10 pounds”, when who cares how much you weigh, when you don’t LOOK any better? So make sure you err on the high side of her volume, or else she’ll only be able to wear the gear in like three month cycles.

Now, you might be wondering… “Why in the hell would *I* want to dress my chick?” :) Well… Why did you buy that fancy car? Why do you work your ass off all day to get some money? Why did you go to the gym to work off all that beer that you drank? The same way you’re hooking YOURSELF up, you should be hooking YOUR GIRL up. There are a few reasons for this…

Women tend to confuse “a clothing item which looks cute” with “a clothing item which looks cute ON THEM”. How many times have you seen/heard women compliment another woman that looks absolutely HORRENDOUS in some gear that doesn’t fit her? It’s not that they’re being polite. They actually believe it looks good, I guess because of the colors or the fabric? \o/ … If your girl has this problem, you need to help her out with her clothing selection.

Did you ever notice how Presidential candidates are always married? This is because (amongst OTHER reasons, hahahahaha) guys are judged by their chicks. If you Pair Bond with a chick, you’re saying “this is the best I can do”. Having your chick look better, rather than worse, is ALWAYS in your best interest.

On a personal note, you want your girl to look good because she should ALWAYS catalyze you to think/feel “Yes, Yes… Yes Sir… Cain’t wait to tap that, sunnnnnnn :D “. If you let your girl walk around like a slovenly hippie bum, she’s not going to inspire you… causing you to interact with her more platonically than you’re supposed to and your entire physical relationship to her is less efficient/effective than it should be. The better SHE looks, the more into her YOU’RE going to be, and the more SHE’S going to be into how into her YOU are.

One more thing is, you don’t want to overdo it hahaha :) You’re buying her clothes to go out in the street in, not to model for you in your own crib (which is another issue, entirely). You want her to look good, but not like a professional hooker. Actually… if SHE tends to overdo her gear, buy her some conservative clothing that still looks hawt on her. The first benefit here is that if your girl looks too good, drunk dudes tend to act like AssHats and you might get in a beef over it. Second, you don’t want to tip the “fail scale” and go from “damn… his girl looks HAWT!” to “I know he’s paying her” (as in, he’s a customer). Third, you want it to be gear that she’s comfortable wearing, and some chicks just aren’t comfortable with how attractive they really are.

So now you’re ready. Sneak her measurements. Add at least +2 to all of them. Hit stores that are along the lines of gear she likes to wear, except buy GOOD-LOOKING ish. Surprise her with her presents, then go sport your new & improved chick around town.

PS – You do NOT want to tell her HOW you were able to buy clothes for her that fit perfectly. Make up something romantic like “baby, I’ve held you so many times, I just knew…. :D ”

So go out there and make it happen. Remember…

DiY, or your girl’s going to pay me YOUR MONEY to do your job for you. :D

ShoppingGenius

 

 

Relatively often, I hear some sob story from some chick about how she doesn’t appreciate the way a guy stepped to her or talked to her. I don’t mean random guys on the street that don’t even know the women they’re talking to. I’m talking about when a guy’s already built some kind of rapport with a gal, and she just can’t believe what this guy said or did today.

As usual, women try to figure out what role THEY played in the scenario… when most of the time, they’re merely catalysts. If a guy kicks it to them while they’re wearing sweats, they go “but I wasn’t dressed sexy!”. If a guy invites himself to their house, they go “but I wasn’t acting like I wanted him to come over” or “but I didn’t TELL HIM I wanted company”.

Ladies, do yourselves a favor… Stop thinking about *YOURSELVES* for once, and think about the guy. Think about what his motivations are… Even for TALKING TO YOU in the first place. If you focus on his motivations without trying to turn it into a function of YOUR importance, you’ll be able to see clearly.

The first thing you should consider is that there’s a possibility that he doesn’t care what you say or think, AT. ALL. Of course, this is tough to fathom, because you’re assuming that because a guy is talking to you that he’s having an intellectual, meaningful conversation with you. Unfortunately for you, guys happen to know that women require conversation in order to get to the good part. This means that there’s a good probability that he’s only talking to you so he can stay in the game long enough for you to decide that you feel like giving him some.

Now… If you can step away from the trees so you can visualize the forest… Lots of your interactions with guys is pure game… tactics. By the time a guy meets you, he’s bringing to the table the sum of his experiences with girls and women up to the present day. Depending on whom he’s been dating / having sex with / spending time with before meeting you, he may or may *not* be mentally prepared to deal with YOU properly. This can lead to communication breakdowns / scenes / arguments that are entirely his fault, because you’re mentally out of his league.

There are two reasons for this… Getting On… and Socialization.

Guys will basically develop themselves, game-wise, to be able to function at the lowest possible level which allows them to have sex with women they’re attracted to.

Now… Depending on the type of chicks they like, that might not be much mental development at all. :D If he likes to sit on couches after 2am hoping that a chick is drunk enough at that point to give him some, no questions asked… If that works for him, he’s not going to develop his game past there. If a guy just has a look that women like, and he can pull different chicks every day… He’s not going to put any effort into mental development. If a guy has gimmicks and tricks that work every time, or chicks like his Porsche or whatever, again, no development.

So then he meets you, and you consider yourself sophisticated and intelligent. He wants to get on with you too, except alcohol, his looks, his gimmicks and his car aren’t making it happen for him. :) This means he actually has to TALK to you. This is how we end up in the scenario I started with. This guy who really has nothing to say to you and doesn’t care what you have to say either is at a loss for tactics so all he can do is stall until he can figure out the winning play. This is why guys get defensive or try to talk over you or leave a conversation when you’re winning it. They didn’t want to talk to you in the first place, MUCH LESS lose an argument to some chick! :D Also, if they kept talking, it was going to become obvious to you that you’re smarter than they are, and then the jig is up!

Socialization, or lack thereof, with intelligent and/or classy women is also a major factor in how a guy’s going to be able to interact with you in a dating scenario. It’s very easy for guys to dress up in suits and put on shiny shoes and pay for tables in the right bars. All you need for that is MONEY. What they can’t buy is CLASS. Class is achieved through fraternization and socialization with classy people. When someone does something that you admire, you may absorb that trait and carry it with you, going forward. Similarly, the only way to learn how to carry yourself around classy women is to BE AROUND classy women. It’s on-the-job training.

Unfortunately, not all guys get the opportunity to have extensive amounts of genuine authentic interaction with women of high calibre. This makes sense, because the top women are striving to spend time with the top men. This creates, basically, an ‘underclass’ of men who can dress themselves appropriately and have the right jobs and acquaintances and houses and bank accounts…. but they don’t have the slightest clue about how to interact with a woman who carries herself regally and exudes an air of respectability.

So here you are… wondering why your boyfriend (or at least a potential suitor) says and does such STUPID things, when the reason is that you’re BETTER THAN HIM and your man is quite literally a fish out of water in your presence. So, Stop thinking about what YOU’RE doing wrong or what you’re doing to bring about this situation, and consider that your man just MIGHT NOT be mentally and/or socially equipped to step his game up to the level you request, expect and demand.

I intended to do this list about a week ago, but it turned into “Why Are You Hiding Your Significant Other?”. This time, I’m actually going to get to the list. :D

Richard Blakeley wrote a post for Boinkology.com called 5 Reasons New York City Is The Neverland Of Dating. I thought I’d add a few reasons why NYC is an especially good environment for guys.

1) Too many good-looking girls

There are too many attractive women in NYC. There’s too much selection. There’s no reason to choose one, because there’s no particular benefit of one over the other…. Actually, it’s more accurate to say there’s no reason to select ONLY one, because while there are lots of great women here, that doesn’t mean that one trumps the entire rest of the set. The cream rises to the top, of course, so there certainly are women that distinguish themselves as unique and worthwhile, but in the meantime… game on! :D

NYC doesn’t have too many good looking girls per capita… it’s merely by population density. As I mentioned in the women’s guide to NYC dating, NYC happens to be THE PLACE TO BE with an excess of females to the tune of 210,820 more single women than men! And that’s only those that declared themselves single. We’ll get to that later.

So let’s say that out of 200,000 extra women, there are maybe 40,000 that are physically attractive. Obviously, if you were fast enough to pull one new chick every single day, that would only be 365 chicks in a year, so on full tilt, there’s no way you would ever run through the entire selection of excess NYC females. Not even pulling two or THREE a day. And that’s only if the population remained static. We’ll get to that later.

Basically, the effect of this is that every time you go to an event in New York City, you will encounter at least one attractive woman you’ve never seen before. If you take mass transit, you won’t even make it to the event. There are women in the subways, women walking on the street, women in restaurants, eating… It’s not like this is the sticks, where there are a finite number of attractive chicks, and your goal in life is to select the best one and have kids with her.

This is why the only way for women to distinguish themselves is via PERSONALITY. Be interesting and unique and you have a chance to catch the eye of someone who’s looking for a special lady. Other than that… as hot as you might be, you’re also absolutely expendable. Go hang out outside a club if you don’t believe me. :) If you want to find out how hot you’re NOT… go stand next to chicks that are absolutely on top of their game, looks-wise.

This brings us to reason #2…

2) Too many women with low self esteem

Being one of an extra 210,000 women isn’t a strong starting position. It’s even worse if you aren’t one of the (speculated unprofessionally by DatingGenius) 40,000 stunning women. This means that you get to go out to bars and buy your own drinks while all the guys trip over each other trying to buy drinks for the hotter chicks. This means that guys stand right next to you, plotting and scheming with each other on how they’re going to pull OTHER chicks, as if you’re not even there… or as if you’re one of the fellaz. This is a consistent blow to the self-esteem of these otherwise-viable chicks. Take the same women and drop them in Kansas or someplace, and they’d be the top dogs.

Unfortunately for them, NYC is graded on a curve. It’s not how good you look… It’s how good you look RELATIVE to the rest of the women in the room you’re currently in. This is why some chicks adopt the tactic of only hanging out with women that are less attractive than they are. They bring along their own posse to make them look better.

This is a great thing for guys in NYC, because it’s like you get a discount on perfectly attractive women that get bombarded daily with the fact that they’re less attractive than the top echelon. You don’t have to try as hard as, say, a guy in Los Angeles where there are fewer women to begin with and they’re generally better looking so you get more souped-up chicks that make you work to get a rap.

3) Turnover – Always more chicks

NYC does not have a static population. There’s crazy, crazy turnover. :D There are always chicks moving in and chicks moving out. Chicks changing neighborhoods. Chicks getting new jobs. Chicks being temporarily relocated for jobs. Even if the fellaz were stuck with our ~40,000 stunning chicks, we’d be cool, but there are always more being added. Chicks returning from college. Chicks that work in stores in the city where you have access to them. Chicks that start taking the subway instead of driving. Chicks that try the bar you frequent on a whim.

DatingGenius had this situation occur a couple of months ago where this chick brought around this other chick who was very attractive, and perfectly expendable. At some point, the expendable chick tried to convince me that I cared what she thought about me. I calmly and rationally explained to her that while I thought she was hot and I liked her as a person and had respect for her and her accomplishments, I couldn’t POSSIBLY give a DAMN what she thought about me, and I told her why.

In my existence, she was simply a SINGLE INSTANCE of a recurring situation. Including our three-hour knock-down, drag-out conversation, I had been introduced to her that very day, hung out with her for probably a total of five hours, then she was gone. Never to be seen or heard from again. That’s how we live. Turnover. I knew she wasn’t going to exist anymore later on that very day. Why in the world would I care what someone thinks that doesn’t exist? :) I told her to her face what was going to happen after our conversation was over, and that’s exactly what happened. I never spoke to her again and never heard another story about her. Gone.

This one goes out to the one I love
This one goes out to the one I’ve left behind
A simple prop…to occupy my time
This one goes out to the one I love
Fire

4) Girls don’t go out with guys they’re attracted to, they go out with guys that will have them

So the first three points dealt with women that declared themselves as single. So what about the rest of them? What about the women that said they have boyfriends or whatever. First of all, due to Serial Monogamy, chicks are becoming available every single day. Relationships end in a split second, so the chick that had a boyfriend last week is single and available this week and is involved in a new Pair Bond next week. It’s a goof. If you catch a chick at the right time, she’s available. Period.

However, during the time that they’re Pair-Bonded (PBed), they’re still potentially available. It all depends on why they claim to be “spoken for” in the first place. In general, women in this town aren’t aware of how poor their odds are of exclusively hooking up with a guy they really want. Eventually, they begin to cascade through the levels…. there are too many good-looking women in this town… how does she match up to them?… how’s she going to get what she wants?… lower self-esteem… lower standards… selection of a boyfriend out of what she can get vs what she really wanted in the first place.

The result of this is that there are a lot of women who will tell you they have boyfriends for the purpose of a survey, but they’re simultaneously disgruntled and unsatisfied in their relationships. They don’t stop wanting what they wanted just because they settled for less. This is the grand opportunity for guys in NYC to borrow other guy’s women. It’s actually EASIER than pulling single women because the single chicks have announced themselves as available and have suitors coming out of the woodwork. “Spoken For” women have restricted themselves to some herb and actively block other guys from hooking up with them. It’s like being in the desert and refusing water when it’s offered to them.

Which brings us to reason #5…

5) Guys don’t know how to handle chicks

For the most part, guys have no idea why their women are with them. They pulled the chicks by luck to begin with (or because the chick cascaded into settling), and then they watch the television news for tips on what to buy her for valentine’s day. It’s not like these guys have any pull over their girls other than the fact that they verbally agreed with each other to be “in a relationship”.

This is another reason why the number of available women in NYC is higher than you’re going to find out from a suvey. Even if they’re in a relationship, they’re thinking for themselves and ready to trade up. I’m sure that every single day here, some guy’s girl breaks up with him out of the blue, and he has no idea why. Chicks are like that. They hold on to whatever they have until they’re certain they have something else, then they bounce. :)

So since none of these guys are working on improving their game AND their chicks probably weren’t physically attracted to them in the first place when they agreed to PB with them, we can add these non-enthralled chicks to the NYC dating pool.

6) Vacation Location

NYC is a vacation location. We all know “how women do” when they’re on vacation! ;) That’s a post of its own… We have tourists coming to this town every single day = more turnover. They’re looking for fun and exciting things to do. They want to be out on the town and enjoying their time here. They want to mingle with and meet NYC people. Women come here strictly to shop. Women come here to go see Broadway plays. Women come here for business meetings and conferences.

So, on top of our extra 210,000 chicks, there’s an endless stream being imported/exported daily. There’s tons of mass transportation, so they’re easily accessible. The tourist spots remain packed from the mornings well into the evenings. Lots of non-American women to boot…. which is ALSO its own post. :)

So, including Richard’s five, now you have 11 reasons why New York City is the Neverland of Dating (for the fellaz) :D There’s no reason to select one chick AT ALL unless she completely rocks your world and you’d rather spend time with her day in and day out over the other 210,000+ available women in this town.

DatingGenius

Lindsay Campbell asks in this episode of MobLogic whether women are less willing to speak their minds:

Lindsay gave some good (and typical) examples of women NOT speaking up for themselves. I think that for the population she sampled, her results were accurate.

In general, women are not trained from birth to be leaders. The training they receive is how to be useful to men. The toys, clothes and education they receive early on prepares them to raise children (baby dolls), prepare food (ovens), keep the house clean (dining room sets, vacuum cleaners), be docile and lady-like (clothes, etiquette training).

Meanwhile, boys are trained from day 1 to take what they want out of life. We get footballs (football is the replacement for war), other sports equipment (impose your will on the other players/team), boxing lessons (defend the family), action figures (expand your mind, take over the universe)… Basically, we’re trained to be aggressive right out of the gate. We have to be better than the next guy to pull the girls. We have to be better than the next guy to get the jobs. Our whole existence is geared towards being the best we can be and taking stuff from other people.

So, women in general aren’t trained to be aggressive. The reason I brought up the population that Lindsay sampled is that it’s not like she was at a BlogHer conference and asking women who make major decisions every single day what their opinions were about things they actually think about and can discuss intelligently. She was asking random women, walking down the street thinking about…… whatever women think as they’re walking down the street to weigh in on topics which require thought and most importantly, the ability and desire to make a stand.

As I mentioned, the average woman isn’t trained to “make stands”… not in being interviewed on the street and not in dating. How many times have you asked “where do you want to go?” and heard “Oh.. I don’t know… You choose!”? How many times have YOU have to make the decision on where to eat? How many times have YOU had to approach a female that was obviously sweating you but was scared to approach you and let you know what she wants? It’s all the same thing.

Of course, you can see in the video that it gets worse when women pair bond. NOW, they not only don’t want to take a stand for themselves, but they don’t want to make their man look stupid, so they defer to him and let him speak for “the family”.

Another problem with getting women to speak (or rap to you when they know they WANT to) is fear of rejection. Women just HAAAATE to be rejected. :D Taking a stand is a setup for rejection. As long as they don’t state a position, nobody can judge them because of it. Similarly, if they don’t approach you in a bar, but instead wait for you to walk over to them, if the rap doesn’t work out, they convince themselves that YOU lost out instead of them. You could see by the way the indoor chick freaked out that she had no intention of taking a stand, which was going to open her up to criticism, judgement and potentially rejection. When Lindsay said the video wasn’t going to television, but to the internet, the chick practically sprinted away, saying “Oh! That’s even WORSE! :O” hahahaha

If you want to interview average-jane women walking around the streets of Manhattan in the daytime when they SHOULD be at work, grindin’, making major decisions and bringing added value to their companies… ask them about something they’re likely to know about and be comfortable talking about… fashion… shopping… vacation locations… restaurants… raising kids….. well, maybe not raising kids, since there are so many nannies in Manhattan, hahaha :D

OH! Ask them about pets! Women in NYC always have pets. Ask them about dogs or cats. They can talk about that… or Häagen-Dazs ice cream!

So, if Moblogic insists on talking to women about politics, they’re going to have to step their game up and go where there are women that actually contemplate that stuff and are willing to share their opinions and stand by what they said. It’s no problem to get guys to talk about stuff, because that’s what guys do all day… make stands and defend positions. Startups, stock market trading, professional sports, all this stuff is imposing your will on other people and holding the line. You want people to buy from YOU instead of the next man. You want YOUR team to be world champions instead of the next guy’s team. You have an opinion about things, and you’re prepared to express that to the world and debate your point because you’ve thought about it and you believe in it.

Even that “Darth Vader / Puppies” idiot at the end of the show… He BELIEVES in what he’s saying. He’s willing to express his idea to Lindsay and the cameraperson and the MobLogic viewership because as ridiculous as it sounds, he’s prepared to debate and defend his position, win or lose….. well… Besides the fact that he probably was enjoying kicking it with Lindsay and was just saying anything he could so she wouldn’t go away, hahahaha :D

Somehow, I ended up seeing this article by Richard Florida about the singles scene and it had this really interesting map on it, which got me thinking about supply & demand:

Fortunately for meeeeee, NYC happens to be THE PLACE TO BE with an excess of females to the tune of 210,820 more single women than men! :D

Sucks to be YOU if you live in Los Angeles, where the map indicates there are 89,459 more single men than women. Ah well… C’est La Vie! :D

This is one of the reasons why the stuff I talk about doesn’t apply to everyone. Life just isn’t fair! :D You can’t throw a rock in NYC without… well… you know what I mean… with numbers like that, there are literally tens of thousands of surplus GOOD-LOOKING chicks in this town. And that’s only the women that IDENTIFIED THEMSELVES as single.

So the supply of men here is short, so the demand by women is higher… Or, to think about that another way, there are too many women here for them to gain any leverage. This means that guys in New York get to “act the fool”, and for every woman that decides she’s not going to date you, there are like 3 more within eyeshot that are waiting to meet you as soon as this chick gets out of their way. :D

So… What can the ladies do to improve their chances at scoring a date in NYC?

1) Be a nice person. This isn’t Los Angeles. You’re not in demand. WE are! :D There’s no reason to play the stuck up role or try to ignore a brotha like he just asked you for change so he can get something to eat. If his presentation is proper, and he steps to you respectfully, consider at least acknowledging his presence. Yes… We know he’s trying to have sex with you regardless of what he says, but at least give the guy some credit for being a gentleman about it.

2) Have interesting things to say. A lot of women skate through life on their looks and are never required to be decent people or have a charming, intelligent personality. Separate yourself from the crowd by knowing something about something USEFUL… like football! :D Know something about the stock market or motorcycles or tech gadgets. Come up with SOMETHING so the guy sees you as someone cool and interesting and not just a target. Women are always complaining about being seen as “sex objects”. You know how to avoid that? Show him there’s more he can do with you or talk to you about than sex.

3) Eat when you go out to a restaurant. You know what I mean, too. Not just a salad when you’re sitting there staring at my cheeseburger, “hungry than a mug”. What you eat right now is NOT going to make you look any different. You’re not going to look slimmer with a piece of lettuce at the end of your fork or holding a stalk of celery. It’s already apparent that you like to “get your eat on”, so DO YOU! Go for what you know! Order more than your date does and scarf it down. Get that napkin, tap the corners of your lips and ask him what’s for dessert!

We know damned well that AS SOON AS y’all leave us, you scramble to the nearest restaurant to stuff your faces, so you’re better off keeping it REAL. He’ll respect you for that.

4) Be athletic. Yes, there are lots of guys that like women with no muscle tone. There are also guys that like athletic women. Why is that? Because you can actually DO THINGS WITH THEM! You know why you don’t get invited to the batting cages?… Because YOU CAN’T BAT! Same thing for the Jiu-Jitsu class and when he goes to play roller hockey or ultimate frisbee in the park. This isn’t the 1930′s, with the guys all on the football field and the ladies sitting together in a bunch on a bench under a tree fixing cold cut sandwiches for lunch. Nope. Pick up that football and step on the field. Go for that 5-and-across and burn your date for the winning touchdown! :D Let him know what time it is. Trust me. His friends will buy YOU more beers than they’ll buy for HIM after the game!

5) Last, but certainly not least… Actually, probably the most important…

LOOK GOOD!

Look good. You would be surprised, out of our NYC surplus of 210,820 women, HOW MANY OF THEM schlep around town in an appalling state of disrepair. :( Somebody lied to y’all and told you that you could look like anything and still get raps. Nope. Not THIS day and time, my sistah! If you want to look bad and still get attention, move to L.A. or anywhere with one of those large BLUE dots. NYC isn’t for you. In fact, according to that map, there’s no place for you on the entire Eastern Seaboard. You’d better go visit Prince in Minneapolis! See if he’ll sing you a song or something, ’cause you’re done around these parts.

Don’t worry about whether a guy’s going to buy you a drink at the club… YOU have to worry about GETTING IN the club to begin with. Paying off the bouncer might work… Anyway… Stop being lazy. Accentuate the positive & play down the negative. Stop dressing like a beatnik and carry yourself like the successful businesswoman you are. Stop getting haircuts because you saw it in a magazine if it doesn’t work with YOUR face. Hit that gym on a regular basis. Do whatever you have to do to catch a guy’s eye, because if you don’t…..

There are 210,819 women ready to steal YOUR man. :D

DatingGenius

If you have a boring personality, you can go out with any chick, and it’s cool. It’s not so easy for edgy guys that like to do fun & interesting stuff on the spur of the moment. It’s easy for your natural persona to clash with hers instead of combining with hers in a way that both of you have a fantastic time. There are obvious limitations to some chicks’ abilities to go with the flow. She might not be into taking pictures, for instance. If that’s a way that you express yourself and inform your friends and family of what you’re doing with your one life that we’re going to get, then that’s a clash. In order for that to be a win-win, you have to either NOT hang out with her or NOT take pictures of her when you’re hanging out.

Another example is PDA (Public Displays of Affection). You might be into it, and she isn’t. The only win-win is a compromise between each of your comfort levels, which normally means NO PDA whatsoever. Then again, if your point in spending time with her is to “Display Affection” ;), you just don’t take her out in public from the giddyap.

PDA… Personal Digital Assistant? :D

Anyway… Chicks tend to go out with boring guys. This is because boring guys are stable… Easily controlled… Less likely to cheat, either because they’re “not that type” or they’re too busted or weird to get another girl anyway. Chicks like stuff like that for some reason. They’d rather mess with a guy they know they’re not going to lose anytime soon than a guy they know they’re really physically attracted to but don’t have a snowball’s chance in Hell of controlling >:D

So they THINK their guys are edgy, but they’re really not… Not by a longshot. Unfortunately, they expect YOU to be just like the boring dudes. “Guilt by Association” rears its ugly head! :D You have to make sure you distinguish yourself as separate from that pack. Otherwise, when you’re chilling at a birthday party, drinking and flirting with her @ the karaoke bar and eventually, you pull up to her bumper, she’s like “WHAT THE #&*$ WAS THAT??? :O” as if something strange is happening.

A ‘quick and dirty’ way to distinguish yourself to chicks is to apply a form of shock therapy. Scare the living daylights out of them, as far as relationships go. Make sure they’re aware that you’re capable of ANY-THING at ANY-TIME. :D Make them wary of leaving their little sisters OR their mothers around you. This does THEM the favor of opening their minds to the potentials of life, interaction and fun, while doing YOU the favor of clearing the path so that when you DO do something edgy with her, she’s just relieved that it’s not any of the WORSE things that she already imagined you doing to her. :)

Strangely enough, I started thinking about this because of this tech video. Watch the first 1:30:

So I’m watching this, and I realized that the same thing he does to potential employees… I do that to chicks. :) Sure, you want to be friendly with them and all that… However, if they’re looking to get past friendship, you really want to scare the BEJESUS out of them, or else, similar to janky website design, your relationship’s going to be *BROKEN* practically immediately.

I had to watch it again. I use *EXACTLY* the same style. First of all, don’t try to hook me up unless you KNOW me. This is similar to the part where he says “I interview every single person that comes to work for me” and “It really leads to some problems in the company, like if I’m on a trip for 5 days and we need to bring somebody in and say, you know what? If they sit with me, and I can look them in the eye…” That’s the whole thing. You can tell when you look her in the eye whether she understands who she’s looking at or not. It’s a form of concentrated attention, the way she focuses on you and pays attention to what you’re saying… It’s like she’s fascinated by you, yet afraid to turn her back on you at the same time.

This is another reason you need to use shock therapy on chicks. When they’re talking about you to their girlfriends (and they ALWAYS talk about you to their girlfriends), you want them saying THE RIGHT THINGS that bring their girls to the table ready for battle. You don’t want all this “oh, he’s a nice guy” and “oh, he’s so educated and cute and smart” because then, their girls meet you with visions of kids, dogs and Volvos in their heads, so now you have to do DOUBLE the work, to deconstruct them mentally and then REconstruct them and THEN see if they’re compatible with you now that they know what the real deal is.

So in the case of hiring someone, you want your employees to know the drill when it comes to working for your company. In the case of hookups, you want your ground troops traveling with the right information so the chicks they bring back either love you or hate you. Still, hookups suck unless the chick involved really understands what you’re about, so it’s best to “interview every single person that comes to work for you” and “look them in the eye” and hit ‘em with the worst-case scenario. You can see her demeanor change, right on the spot. She’ll either think “I’d never go out with him” or “Oh, he thinks he’s a bad-ass… He doesn’t know who *I* AM!”, which will help you to decide to move forward with the interview or change the subject / bail out entirely.

Actually, there’s a third potential reaction, this kind of simpleton stare like she doesn’t understand what you just said. Depending on what you like in chicks you mess with, that’s either FANTASTIC or horrible. :D

So when you’re hitting her with the worst-case scenarios, it’s not actually important what she says. What’s important is HOW SHE LOOKS as soon as her brain comprehends what you just told her hahahaha :D The stages go like this after you finish speaking:

1) She hasn’t received all of the data yet
2) She has all the words, but she’s composing it into what it actually means
3) She realizes what you said and subconsciously reacts to it
4) She starts thinking about how she feels about what you said
5) She formulates her response
6) She delivers her response

The main thing you’re looking for is her subconscious reaction. IME, it’s usually “He’s kidding”, “Maybe I didn’t hear him correctly”, “That’s crazy”, “Life doesn’t work like that”, “There’s no way that works”, “Who’d fall for THAT?”, “Do guys really think that way?”, “That’s funny”, “I’d love to see him do that in real life”, etc etc etc. This is way more important than her eventual statement. She can say all she wants that what you said was messed up, but you already saw that gleam in her eye that she thought it was funny when she initially GOT what you were saying. She can say all she wants that she doesn’t care or what you said didn’t affect her, but you saw her get that “oh my God!” realization in her eyes of who she’s looking at. It’s like you mentally see her get up and walk away, but she physically sits there anyway to keep up appearances. But you can clearly feel her “leave you”.

So, yeah… If you’re an edgy guy, make sure you interview chicks like a business. Gauge their ability to hang with you by their reactions to your throwing the kitchen sink at them. If they pass, you know you can fight with them and still love them and vice versa. If they FAIL![EPIC], they might still be useful as friends, except *only* when you’re layin’ back in the cut NOT “doin’ you”. Same rules apply. Some people, you do business with. Some people, you have drinks with. Some people, you can do both with. Put her through the shock and watch her eyes, body language and breathing patterns. Turn up the heat level after level and when you’re convinced of her character and fortitude, turn it off. Let her be. She’s earned your respect and progressed to the next level.

Props are awarded. It’s “Miller Time”… Cheers! :D

When she’s ready… She’ll look like this:

Mentally Tested, Battle-Ready Female: 2008 Edition
DatingGenius

Reader Helene writes (in response to Tip for the ladies: He doesn’t care!)

Let’s talk about this, from DatingGenius:

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Yadda Yadda Yadda Blah Blah Blah EVERY.SINGLE.EFFIN’.DAY, some chick is confused about why a guy keeps trying to kick it to her. It’s very simple. He’s kicking it to you because HE.WANTS.TO.GET.WITH.YOU, *PERIOD*! He’s not interested in what you think about it. He’s not interested in what you have to say about it.
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I feel that. He doesn’t care if he wants sex. I’m going to look on DatingGenius to see if there is a guide on how to tell if a man wants sex or a relationship. I think the man that wants a relationship cares what the woman thinks, right?

There are a lot of interesting points here, Helene…. First of all, that post was written specifically to address the situation of women being clueless as to why a guy doesn’t stop kicking it to them when she indicates disinterest or even disgust. :D The fact of the matter is that he’s not approaching you to get your opinion on things or to discuss politics. He finds you physically attractive or there’s something else about you that he likes (you have money, good child-bearing hips, whatever…) that he’s approaching you for. What you think about it is of no consequence whatsoever. The bottom line is desire-fulfillment… HIS, not YOURS. :)

As an example, I was walking with a blabbermouth friend of mine the other week, and in the process of making a point to her, I mentioned that her homegirl was attractive. I wasn’t telling her that so she could go blab it to her girl like she BLABS everything else. I was trying to make a general point based on a specific situation my friend was privy to. Before I got to say what I really wanted to say, she goes “Oh… She wouldn’t hook up with you. You’re not her type.” :D Now…. First of all, I didn’t ask my friend what she thought about my ‘chances’ of hooking up with her girl. Second, all she knows about her girl’s “type” is what her girl is willing to TELL HER, so her idea of what her girl’s going to do and what she’s not going to do is completely irrelevant. Third, people are functions of combinations, meaning that how a chick reacts to me has *nothing* to do with how she reacts to anyone else on the planet, so until I kick my game and get on or not, speculation is worthless.

All these things ran through my mind in a split second, and I replied just about right when she finished speaking, “That doesn’t matter”. She looked at me surprised, and tried to protest, but I covered that up with another “That doesn’t matter”. We then went off on the tangent of how “what her girl wants” doesn’t factor in AT ALL to my initial attraction to her. Forget about the fact that she IS NOT her girl, so she has NO IDEA what her girl does behind closed doors. Even if she knew for sure that her girl didn’t like me for whatever reason, it’s of no consequence, because I’m talking about what motivates *ME*. I’m talking about what propels me to focus on HER and interact with HER instead of someone else.

This is why chicks would be better off if they recognized WHY a guy is talking to them in the first place. Without that knowledge, you’re grasping at straws when you try to figure out anything else about your relationship to that guy.

As another example, I was waiting for a bus with a crowd of people. This girl walks past at least eight other breathing, standing human beings to come up to me and ask me if I knew what time it was. I told her that I didn’t, and showed her that I don’t wear a watch, which I don’t, because I don’t *care* what time it is. :D The next thing that happened was…… She stayed right there and continued talking to me. Now… What happened to her desire to find out what time it was? *POOF* Gone, into thin air. Had she actually been interested in the time, she would have A) stopped at the FIRST person she saw to ask what time it was, and then made her way down the line, or B) if she DID walk all the way past them to ask me, she would have asked someone else right after I demonstrated the inability to tell her what time it was. She did neither, so the obvious inference is that she wanted to talk to me and used “Do you know what time it is” as the ice-breaker.

Now, let’s apply this to the club! :D When that guy buys you that drink, what do you think he’s trying to do? Do you think he thought you looked thirsty? Do you think he thought you looked *BROKE*, and he likes to hand out charity by buying drinks for destitute women? Did he buy any GUYS a drink? How about any UNATTRACTIVE WOMEN? ‘:) There are two reasons he’s offering to buy you a drink. He wants you to get more drunk than you already are, AND (drumroll) he’s trying to get on.

You can THINK whatever you want… He’s a nice guy. He’s generous. He respects you. He’s interested in what you have to say or what you think. He likes the same music you do… He doesn’t like the same music you do, he dresses poorly, he’s a creep, he can’t spell, he doesn’t pronounce consonants when he speaks, he’s a Cro-Mag……… NONE of that matters, pro or con. It matters as far as how tough or easy it is for him to get on, but your opinion of him is irrelevant and worthless when it comes to what he’s trying to do at that point.

As a matter of fact, a good rule of thumb is “If he didn’t ask you, he doesn’t care.”

Which brings us to your actual question, “Does the man who wants a relationship care what you think?”

The simple answer is YES, which is basically addressed in Only Date People Better Than YOU!. See the section on “Dummies”.

The guy who wants a relationship had better care what his woman thinks. However, first of all, he’d better care that she thinks AT ALL. There are lots of guys and gals running around this planet with ZERO common sense, or at least little enough common sense to land them on the Maury Povich show having paternity tests done on several guys. Considering that there are only about 10 days in a month when you can actually get a girl pregnant, and you can count backwards to the month she became pregnant, that means that every single guy she has on stage with her tapped it within a 10-day period. Considering some chicks’ in-da-club behaviors, if those 10 days spanned two weekends, we could expect four guys to be sitting on the stage, Friday Night (day 1), Saturday Night (day 2), Friday Night (day 8 ) and Saturday Night (day 9). Now, that’s bad enough, but if there are more than four guys on the stage…. smh.

This is why the guy who wants a relationship is hoping that his potential girlfrend/wife’s brain works at all. There’s *NOTHING* wrong with a chick getting her groove on as much as she wants to with whomever she wants to. :) However, if you’re going to be in a ‘committed’ relationship with her, you would like to believe that any kids that appear during that relationship are in fact… yours.

You also want to be able to take her places. When they have those couples get-togethers or business dinners, you want to be able to walk in with her on your arm and have people as impressed with her personality and mental faculties as with her looks. If you accept her without intelligence, you could be sabotaging your own career advancement while she talks some ignant ghetto ish to your COO. :/ Your girl is a reflection of YOU, so if you’re going for a relationship, aim as HIGH (mentally) as you possibly CAN! :D

Also, in a relationship situation, a guy needs to know what his girl thinks so he can strive to make HER happy while he makes HIMSELF happy. You would hope that’s a goal of his in hooking up with her long-term.

Having said that… Like I said above, if he doesn’t ask you, he doesn’t care. If he’s minding his business, like he loves to do, and watching the game or something, and you come in blabbing about gossip from the job, he might listen to you as a FAVOR to you or to make sure he can get on later this evening, but no, he doesn’t CARE about that. :D If he did, he would have said “How was work today, dear? Was that chick still gossiping?” This is a totally different issue, so I won’t get into it here, but basically, you should get a checklist of the things he actually CARES about so that if you want to talk to him about something and have him actually interested and ENGAGED in the conversation, you know the parameters. :)

How To Tell if he wants sex or a relationship? Well… First of all, it’s not *OR*. It’s *AND*. He either wants sex and for you to break north… or he wants sex and for you to stay around and hang out with him. The SEX part is a given, otherwise, similar to the girl that asked me for the time, he’d be kicking it with someone OTHER THAN YOU! :D

Think about it. The way relationships in the USA are set up, being BF/GF / Engaged / Married implies that you’re not having sex with anyone except your SO. Why in the world would someone attach themselves to someone they didn’t intend to have sex with? On top of that, lots of guys want to have kids. Sure they could go the test tube or adoption route, but MOST OF THE TIME, they’re going to want to have their kids the old fashioned way…
By mistake.

Anyway…

If it’s possible at all, I would say the way to tell that he wants a relationship is by how much he focuses on your PERSONALITY. How interested is he in getting to know YOU? What you’re about… What makes you tick… What makes you happy… What you don’t like… The intelligent guy is going to want to know A LOT about a chick he intends to make his S.O.

The problem with this personality-based theory is that, like Omar says, “It’s all in the game”. Guys already know what women are looking out for as cues that they’re interested in more than sex. Knowing the cues makes it easy to “Fake it ’till you make it”. :D

So… the best thing women can hope for is to meet guys through trusted friends that are willing to vouch for their character and keep your fingers crossed! :D

DatingGenius

ok… So that’s a wack title. :D

I decided not to let figuring out a title bog me down during my productive time, which is the morning. I just wanted to make a note to document facts and give some propers where they’re due.

I’ve been virtually lampin’ with Liz Burr for quite some time now. I believe “lamping”, which I first heard from Public Enemy‘s Flavor Flav has its origins in the fact that in NYC, we have a lot of lamp-posts, so if you’re hanging out, especially at night, you’re very likely to be near one, which would make you “posted up” at the lamp, and therefore “lamping”. If you’re doing something A LOT or to an extreme point, the term “cold” is added, which would mean if you’re chillin’ HARD, you’re “cold lampin’”.

Anyway…..

So I’ve been virtually lampin’ with Liz Burr for quite a while, and more recently, Tyme White. These ladies are both hardcode internetters, which I thought *I* was until now. :D

Now, there’s tons of stuff for me to learn and find out about on the net, and lots of people to interact with remotely, so that’s why I stay connected. However, I don’t give a damn how it actually works. I don’t care why my iChat can connect to your AIM. I don’t care if my website “knows” your website. Actually, I didn’t even know that it COULD know your website. :/ As long as I can do what I WANT to do, fine.

So here comes Tyme… All in the business [like she loves to be ;)] talkin’ ’bout “Why is your media all over the place?”. I went to explain it to her, not ‘defend’ my reasoning, just tell her about it… and I realized that I didn’t have an answer to that question. With a little more introspection, I realized that my internet strategy was based on how I used to think and not how I currently think. I was using a shotgun approach of being everywhere and on everyone else’s blog, whilst having nothing to say on my own blog. :) That was fine with me, because I DIDN’T have anything to say on my own blog. It’s a cycle…..

Without viewers/readers, you’re tossing media into the air by posting it to the internet. You’re talking to nobody, or you’re talking to everybody or anybody. Putting something on your blog assumes other people are going to read it, unless it’s a collection for yourself, so you can go back and read about and watch the stuff you’ve been doing over the years. Some people blog that way, like putting their diaries online. Since that’s not interesting to me, I was rather cool with posting on other people’s sites and being a part of THEIR conversations with THEIR readers/viewers instead of posting things for MY viewers that don’t necessarily care what I have to say about somebody else.

Now, that’s all well and good until someone wants to know about Bill, BillCammack or Bill Cammack. What I was doing with *my* site was giving people the information I wanted them to have, instead of congregating information about myself and letting THEM choose what they wanted to check out. At the time, over a year ago, that made sense to me. Everything in its own compartment… However, I hadn’t reevaluated my own goals for internet positioning, even though I advise OTHER PEOPLE how to position themselves on the net. :D

Consolidation didn’t matter to me because I broadcast what I’m doing anyway on twitter, pownce, jaiku, facebook, rarely myspace, email, iChat, whatever every time I do something. This is because whomever happens to be “listening” to me right now can choose whether to click on the link or not. So if I twitter one site this morning and a different site this afternoon, it doesn’t matter, first of all because they’re turned into tinyurls in the first place, and second, a click is a click. I’m bringing my offsite posts even MORE off-site by masking them twice more. 1) tinyurl, 2) twitter, 3) offsite post.

I’m not going to go through the myriad points that Tyme made, but a major one for me was when she said that people are less likely to join some other site that requires membership in order to respond to your posts. I had had experience with that JUST THIS WEEK when I had posted something offsite to a group that just locked down their site so people have to have an account with them in order to post. My friend skyped me and informed me that she had something to say about my post, but she wasn’t going to join that site and give away her personal information just to comment. I was glad enough to chat with her about it over skype, but I see now how that’s a loss all the way around. I WIN because I get her reaction to my post, but everyone else loses, because nobody gets to hear it but me. Then I lose, because I don’t get anyone’s reaction to HER reaction. Then SHE loses, because nobody reads the brilliant things she has to say. Then I lose because I don’t get to respond in text to her text response…… So this big CASCADE is all because I posted to a walled garden instead of to a site which lets you input your name and other information right on that page and speak your piece.

Besides the excellent and relevant points, it became a drag for me to scoot around from site to site to find posts that I had made on different topics. So… In the vein of ReelSolid.TV‘s 3rd season, aptly entitled “Delusions of Grandeur”, this is now the Bill Cammack fansite! :D

That’s right. :D This is now my own fansite. All Bill, All the time. :D MuuuuHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA!!!

So if you want to know what Bill has to say today, (which I don’t know why you would, but DoG affords me the ability to not care at all one way or the other! :D) come on through. I’m still planning on my Final Cut Pro and Final Cut Studio screencast series, but other than that, I’m ditching the “show” format. You get what you get. It’s your fault for clicking on the bookmark! :D You might get “Bachelor Cooking Show”. You might get “Girlfriend Auditions”. You might get a birthday party in a quiet-ass bar.

You might get interviews. You might get bike riding. You might get a turtle on the floor.

Whatever you get, that’s what I had for you. :D Enjoy it! (or not, hahaha)

Getting back to the point…

Once I had the concept of doing things differently, I needed the implementation of that. This is where I learned the umpteenth lesson of this week. Remember how I mentioned that I don’t care how things work? Well Liz Burr and Tyme White care, and at first, I tried to keep up with and absorb their suggestions. Unfortunately, A) there were too many suggestions, and B) each suggestion was only the tip of the iceberg when it came to understanding how they came to that understanding in the first place. Very soon, I found myself spending more time googling ish than changing my site, so I dropped that and just did what they said to do and added what they said to add. Sure, I had to be happy with their layout suggestions, because it’s *my* site, and I’m the one that has to look at it and feel proud that it represents ME, but if it weren’t for them, on the technical/infrastructure side, my site would look exactly like it did last week, and I’d still be researching templates and fantasizing about what my new site is going to look like… eventually.

What I learned from this is WHY.PEOPLE.NEED.CONSULTANTS! Seriously.

Since I do everything myself, filming, music, “acting”, editing, color correction, compositing, compression, site design, uploading, blogging, tagging, advertising….. I never need consultants. Other people come to The Kid when they want their videos done in a quality fashion. This time, *I* was the one completely in the dark, and I’m fully aware of how NOWHERE I would be in this process if I didn’t have someone who already knew their way around and knew the WHYs and WHY NOTs about the infrastructure of building sites. Admittedly, it’s not a good feeling AT ALL to admit you can’t do something, even if the fact of the matter is that I’ve applied myself to learning other skills during the time they’ve applied themselves to what THEY know. It’s like the more they talk, the more you realize you’re actually standing in a deep hole, in the dark, when you thought you were at ground level in Times Square at lunchtime.

So, amongst many other things, that was my takeaway from this situation. As a consultant who doesn’t need consultants, I got a glimpse from the other side. I got to be the producer that sits behind me on the couch, wondering what’s going on on those multiple screens that keep changing and then somehow, magically, what you said you wanted happens on the television screen. I got to experience myself through experiencing Tyme & Liz doing their thing. It’ll help me choose what I do and don’t want to do as projects. It’ll help me understand who appreciates how much time they’re saving and how much better their productions are by calling in the pros….

Props to the ladies. Welcome to my new fansite… Let The GAMES Begin!!! :D