Illusion of Equality

In our current “race to the bottom”-oriented society, people strive to protect other people’s feelings and boost their self-esteem by telling them they’re not losers even when they lose, and attempting to convince them that everyone’s equal.

In fact, we are *not* equals, and attempting to convince people that we are is hindering them more than it’s helping them. Continue reading “Illusion of Equality”

Step Backward to Move Forward (Selective Neglect)

Whether you’re a 9-5’er or a freelancer, you want to have time set aside to learn new things.

I always advise people to leave themselves time for self-improvement.

What I mean by this is that whether you’re a 9-5’er or a freelancer, you want to have time set aside to learn new things.

This is because if your skills remain the same while your industry improves, you get left behind.

It’s also because you can’t change directions if all of your time is spent going in your current direction.

If you find yourself in a situation where you feel stagnant, or if not that, you feel like your current situation is hindering your ability to move forward, the solution may be to step backward instead of trying to maintain what you currently have going on and add to it. Continue reading “Step Backward to Move Forward (Selective Neglect)”

Responsibilities in Relationships

Single Life

Just two days ago, I was out to brunch with a friend and somehow, the topic of video games came up. I think I was explaining to her what I felt the value was of being yourself from the giddyap instead of doing what other people wanted you to do so they’d be willing to hang out with you. Continue reading “Responsibilities in Relationships”

Time, Part 02

Continued from “Time, Business & Handouts [Time, Part 1]”

In the very beginning of 2009, after I had aired my grievances with 2008 and was feeling, mentally, so fresh and so clean [clean], I ended up in a f2f conversation with a client one evening.

The reason I mention that it was evening is that I do my best work in the morning. By the time it gets to 7pm on any given day, I don’t give a flying &$#% about YOU or your project (even if I’m still working on it, hehe). The only think I’m thinking about by then are BREWS and CHICKS.

It’s nothing personal. I’m the same way about my own projects. The same thing that sounds like a FANTASTIC idea in the morning, that I can dedicate all sorts of TIME and ENERGY to, by the time it hits evening, I don’t care about my own ideas. I’ve learned this about myself and when I’m “eeh” about something that I think up in the evening, I shelf it until the morning to see what I REALLY think about it.

So that’s the state I was in when I happened to be f2f (face-to-face, IRL, in real life) with this client and I was nowhere NEAR in the mood to discuss ANY business other than what we were there to discuss at that moment. Here’s how the conversation went:

Him: So, what’s your schedule for [such-and-such-a-day]?

Actually, I have to stop there. 🙂 When he asked me that, first of all, I tried to mentally access the day he was talking about to see if I was booked for any work on that day. He was talking about the week ahead of the day we were talking, and I realized after a few seconds that I didn’t have anything booked for that entire week. Once I figured that out, I shut my brain back down and went back to thinking about brews & chicks.

So, this is how it went:

Him: “So, what’s your schedule for [such-and-such-a-day]?”
Me: [mentally accessing] “…………………………..” *shrug*
Him: [looks at me funny]
Him: “ok, So what’s your schedule for [such-and-such-a-day+1]?”
Me: [now knowing I had nothing booked that day either] *shrug*
Him: [looks at me funny]
Him: “So, what do you do?”
Me: [stopping thinking about chicks… AGAIN, and accessing]
Me: “…………………. Well… The other day, a friend of mine couldn’t get her powerpoint presentation to go to video properly, so I had her send me her files and I made the video for her and output it to several formats she wanted and gave her the links to download them………………….. I also spend a lot of time maintaining my internet presence……………”
Him: [looking at me like I’m stupid] “Nah. I mean, What do you do FOR MONEY?”
Me: [looking at him like he wasn’t listening] “That’s what I’m talking about.”

Continue reading “Time, Part 02”