Teens are BORED. Teens have nothing to do with their time. GIVE your kids something to do, or they will FIND something to do. Enroll them in Karate or Piano Lessons or a Dance Company.
Make them play Football or Softball or SOMETHING! This way, they’re having fun, they’re spending their time learning things and achieving goals and hopefully, at the end of the day, they’ll be too tired from all that physical and mental exercise to have sex! Read the rest of this entry »
I guess it is easier to keep in mind why guys do what they do when this whole “wanting to get laid” thing is part of your own agenda.
Hey Fishingrod.
“Wanting to get laid” isn’t part of the agenda. Wanting to get laid is *THE* agenda.
Of course this isn’t true for all guys, and it’s not why ALL guys get into relationships.
My point in bringing this up over and over is that exactly what you’re saying is what keeps women from understanding what happened to them in a lot of situations. I don’t know *ANYBODY* that has ANY choice in the matter whatsoever who’s dating a chick that he doesn’t find physically attractive.
I don’t know ANYBODY that has deliberately kicked it to (introduced themselves to with the intent of beginning dating) a chick where he said “Damn… That chick is REALLY UNATTRACTIVE… I’ve GOT to meet her!”.
Granted, you have guys that don’t have any visual taste in women, so they end up dating chicks that *YOU* think are ugly, haha but that doesn’t mean that THEY aren’t attracted to her. Also, they might be attracted to her body and are letting her grill slide, because they like having sex with her. In that case, while they themselves would call their girlfriend “ugly”, they’re cool with that. Then you have the guys that got into a relationship and then their chick sat around with the remote control and the bon bons until she no longer looked the way she did when he was initially attracted to her. Now, these guys are looking for ways to avoid having sex with their ‘busted’ girlfriends.
Obviously, there are myriad permutations, however, it’s a high-percentage chance in the currently-active dating game that the basic, underlying reason that a guy is talking to a gal is because he’s physically attracted to her and wants to have some format of sex with her…. Actually, let me roll that back and just say generally that he finds something STIMULATING or AROUSING about her, which is his impetus for meeting her in the first place. Read the rest of this entry »
According to Webster’s, “Celibacy” is either 1) the state of not being married, or 2) abstention from sexual intercourse (read: not having sex).
I don’t know what works in the sticks, but here in NYC, people avoid sex by buying dogs. The dog becomes the central figure in the relationship and as long as HE pets the dog and then SHE pets the dog, the “love” is transferred throughout the entire “family” without him actually having to waste time having sex with her when he could be working on his startup.
So here are some of the advantages of celibacy:
Kung Fu Proficiency
Regardless of how long you study the I-Ching Manual, you’ll never attain the highest level of kung fu proficiency unless you’re celibate.
You can get close, but if someone’s received the same training you have, yet has kept himself “pure”, he’s always going to be the stronger of the two of you when it comes down to that all-important last fight in the movie.
Many men with aspirations to take over the world (or, at least China) have been thwarted by this lack of dedication to kung fu and wanton disregard for its rules. Don’t let this happen to you. Be a champion! Lay off the chicks!
Say WHAT?
Until they invent airborne STDs, remaining celibate will protect you from viruses… like buying a Mac. Read the rest of this entry »
Purplecar called my attention last night to a post on CNN.com by Wendy Atterberry called “Why women shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ first”. There were some decent points in the post, in the typical advice column fashion:
Wendy: “But an ‘I love you’ uttered too soon, before the man has processed his feelings and reached the same level of adoration could end a relationship that just as easily could have had an eternal shelf life. As soon as those words are said, they change the dynamic. If a man isn’t feeling the love quite yet, he may suddenly feel pressure to manifest that emotion. And if the woman doesn’t get the response she expected, it could damage her confidence enough to derail the whole relationship entirely.”
I’m sure that this scenario plays itself out every single day, all around the world. I think the advice is valid for the way people approach “Love”. The problem is that lots of people have a retarded idea of what “Love” actually is.
I know this is going to be hard for you to process, because it so complex, but bear with me for a minute… you ready?… The reality of the situation is:
You Love Who You Love
That’s it. There’s nothing more that matters in that sentence. Everything else is on the fringe… window dressing. There are only two states. You love someone or you don’t. Period. There may be REASONS why you love this person, but that has nothing to do with the STATE of feeling love or being in love. Read the rest of this entry »
Narcissism is a pattern of traits and behaviors which signify infatuation and obsession with one’s self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one’s gratification, dominance and ambition.
Now… I don’t know anyone like that,
but since it was so much fun writing “Dating for Misanthropes”, I thought I’d explain to the ladies what they can expect from dating a Narcissist.
First of all, let’s make the distinction… A misanthrope doesn’t like you… because you’re wack. period. No way around that. A narcissist, OTOH, probably likes you. He may very well even love you, like, he’s not just saying that to get you to lay down. The problem for YOU is that regardless of how much he loves you, he loves himself WAY MORE, always has and always will.
Probably the largest hurdle for women in dating narcissists is attempting to gain any form of CONTROL in the relationship. You can’t have any control, because nobody cares what you think. I don’t, and neither do I. Basically, you can’t create any leverage for yourself with a narcissist, because he can “take you or leave you”. He still has himself, so who cares if you’re around or not?
On top of that, other chicks want him anyway, so if you vacate your spot, you just make an opportunity for the next gal. C’est La Vie. Bon Voyage!… SSSSSSSSSSSSEEEYA! “Don’t let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya!”. “I don’t need em, I let the WELFARE feed em”….
Being that you never achieve leverage, you don’t really have any executive say in what a narcissist does. He listens to your requests and decides whether to grant them or not. If you’re going to a dinner party with your boring-ass girlfriends and their dates, you’re most likely going BY YOURSELF, unless you get some other guy to go with you. There’s no reason for the narcissist to be bored out of his mind for hours on end. There’s also no incentive for him to go to the dinner party in the first place. If he wanted to meet your girlfriends, he’d be dating THEM instead of YOU.
Basically, anything you come up with, if it’s not better than what he already had planned, you’re “short”. You want to go to the opera when the game’s on? Bring me back a program. Peace!
Pretty much, you’re an accessory to Mr. NPD. This is one of the reasons he’s going to stay on top of how you dress. First of all, if you don’t look good to him, he’s not going to spend time with you AT.ALL. He doesn’t actually NEED you, so your purpose is to be visually, mentally and sensually stimulating to him. Basically, hanging out WITH YOU has to be better than hanging out WITH HIMSELF, which is ALWAYS a good time, so you need to make sure you stay jiggy fresh, so he’s inclined to invite you to chill with him evAr again.
Second, the fact that he’s spending time with you is an indication of his taste in women. If he’s embarrassed to be seen with you, he’s either going to stop hanging out with you, or just make sure he’s never seen with you in public.
So, it’s in your best interest to look as HAWT as possible for your narcissist at all times… especially considering that looking good and having sex are the only things you’re required to do, I figure you can AT LEAST handle that much.
Now, it’s not all downsides to dating Mr. NPD…. For one thing, the narcissist believes he’s the bomb-diggity when it comes to sex, so he’s not going to be satisfied until YOU’RE satisfied. He’s highly invested in his personal belief that he can RAWK you, so if you do yourself the favor of not faking orgasms, he’s going to keep trying different stuff until he hits that spot. “Regular” dudes have no such interest in your completion, so… you get what you get, hahahaha.
Also, if the narcissist actually agrees to spend time with you, that means he really WANTS TO. This means that as long as you look good and are fun to spend time with, he’s going to show you the best time he can possibly figure out. “Regular” guys, you know how THEY do…. They go wherever their women TELL THEM, but then they sit around like bumps on the proverbial logs, because they didn’t want to be there in the first place, but were to pussy to say so.
Third, the fact that the narcissist spends time with you indicates that he really likes you (not as much as himself, but whaddaya want?). This means that he’ll be happy to introduce you to people and happy to take you anywhere he’s invited. Also, everyone else who knows how self-absorbed he is will be impressed that he chose you.
So there are some of the pros and cons of dating a narcissist. There’s a good writeup on MayoClinic.com about Narcissistic Personality Disorder that gives you technical information that you can use to determine whether you’re dating one, so you can decide whether you want to cease & desist or continue dating him. Symptoms include:
Believing that you’re better than others
Fantasizing about power, success and attractiveness
Exaggerating your achievements or talents
Expecting constant praise and admiration
Believing that you’re special
Failing to recognize other people’s emotions and feelings
Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans
Taking advantage of others
Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior
I woke up @ 5 am this morning and I really intended to write about a conversation I had with a new friend I made last night. She questioned WHY I get to write the Women’s Guide to NYC Dating and she tried to low-rate me when I replied “No” to her question “Are you in a relationship?”. I realize this morning, that I should actually have said “Yes. Several”, and that will be my response, going forward. I have LOTS of girlfriends, but since I don’t pride myself on choosing ONE, because I don’t HAVE TO, I don’t fall under the traditional category of “being in a relationship”.
I’m a renter, not a buyer. I’m not interested in hanging out with the same chick every day or doing the same thing every day. Everything I do is on the fly. I meet chicks every time I go outside. It’s a daily operation. I’m polyamorous. I’m not in love with ONE chick. I’m in love with several. Simultaneously. I’m extremely blessed that I get to spend so much time with so many women whose company I REALLY enjoy!
However, I’m currently disinterested in qualifying why I know what I know about women. I’d rather talk about a conversation that I had ABOUT that conversation that I just mentioned. To paraphrase, I was asked “How come you’re so hard on chicks?”.
I’m hard on chicks because chicks need to be harder on THEMSELVES. WAKE. UP! I don’t write this stuff for no reason. I write it becase EVERY. SINGLE. DAY I have the SAME conversations with women over and over and over and they just don’t get it. They take the same shorts every day. They get cheated on the same ways every day. They don’t understand why guys catcall or that alcohol isn’t an excuse for cheating or abusive behavior. They keep letting guys do pull-out method on them, thinking they’re not going to get pregnant. They keep wondering how to tell if a guy has a girlfriend or not. They keep acting like they’re hot properties in a town where there are reportedly 210,820 more single women than men!
I’m sorry. SOMEBODY’S got to be the voice of reason. You don’t think that’s me? Write YOUR OWN blog and let’s hear YOUR take on the dating/relationships scene. You don’t think I’m qualified to write the women’s guide to whatever? YOU write it and send me the link. I’ll read it!
Every close girlfriend of mine knows that if she tells me some BULLSHIT I’m gonna jump up and down on her logic to see if it stands up. They also know that I do it because I CARE and I want them to be better human beings. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t waste my time trying to help them see reality.
The fact of the matter is… The only way out.. is through. If you can’t see the possibilities, you can’t fully understand the playing field. It’s like trying to defend against a wide receiver and he jukes right, breaks left, puts his hand up in the air and physically DISAPPEARS! How are you supposed to defend against that? The problem is that he didn’t disappear. He stepped into a blind spot in YOUR understanding. The quarterback could still see him clearly, threw him the ball and he scored. So then, you sit around with your girls who have the exact same blind spots and commiserate about what happened to your relationship. None of them can tell you what happened, because they don’t understand the game.
Unfortunately, when you try to EXPLAIN the game, a lot of women get upset! hahaha That’s fine by me as long as they learn something and expand their minds. They don’t have to like ME, because I’m not going to date them anyway! As long as they learn something that helps them deal better the next time something happens that they don’t understand, I’ve done my part for females around the world.
IMO, it doesn’t help women to patronize them and tell them to cut all their hair off or buy a new dress and try again in the morning. It doesn’t help women to tell them “Don’t bother working out and getting in shape! We’re going to sell maternity dresses to ALL OF Y’ALL so you don’t have to worry about Muffin-Tops”. What if guys started doing that? What if guys started wearing pants where their beltline was right under their chests? Women would SCREAM. BLOODY. MURDER because everybody’d be walking around looking like Pee Wee Herman. So, Yeah… The Kid’s gonna suggest that you put down the maternity dresses and start buying clothes that fit YOUR physique and look good on YOU, not on the mannequin. If you don’t want your man to dress you, learn how to dress yourself instead of falling off the cliff with the rest of the lemmings and doing what you’re told.
So feel free to get mad at me and scoff at me and turn your noses up and claim I don’t know what I’m talking about. The only reason I even bother TALKING to you is because I love you.
*MUAHZ*
DatingGenius: Channeling What Women Want!
(Tag line credit goes FULLY to B. Wilson!)
Here are five quick tips on how to avoid getting your girl pregnant:
1) Don’t hit it… evAr
Yes. I know. This tip is useless, because you were only talking to her in the first place so you could have sex with her. I know. I know….
2) Time her cycle[Edit: Extended discussion/explanation @ "Don't Try The Rhythm Method". Basically, *ANY* technique for avoiding pregnancy that involves getting *ANY* liquid on a chick other than your saliva is *COMPLETELY* *RETARDED*!]
Relatively, there’s only a small window of time during which you can accidentally get your girl pregnant… I mean, ACTUALLY get your girl pregnant. According to The American Pregnancy Association:
“During the time of ovulation, an egg is available to be fertilized for only about 12-24 hours. But since sperm can live in the body for 3-5 days and then the egg is available for one day, your most fertile time is considered to be about 5-7 days.”
Even if we stretch that to 10 days, you have another 20 days each month that you can do what you say, say what you mean and one thing won’t lead to another!
YOUR assignment, if you choose to accept it, is to figure out which week out of each month you need to regularly have one whole hell of a lot of headaches and late nights at the office!
3) No Glove… No Love
Condoms don’t fail because the factory made them poorly. They fail because YOU didn’t put them on correctly. Make sure the condom fits. Make sure you leave space at the top for your… Happy Ending.
Here’s a tip. If the sex starts feeling “too good”, the condom probably broke or rolled off. STOP &#@$%G RIGHT NOW! and go get another condom.
4) Only screw chicks with career aspirations
Make sure you talk about careers early in your relationship with your girlfriend. If her chosen career path dictates that she can’t afford to take time off for maternity leave, you’re IN THERE!
Just don’t bungle the position by a) making her fall in love with you so she no longer cares about careers or money, or b) getting that big promotion that makes her feel like starting a family off of YOUR paycheck.
5) Hit it during her period[Edit: Revised. I didn't express myself properly here. I should have said "Hit it on THE FIRST DAY of her period" See the comments below or read "Don't Try The Rhythm Method" for clarification. Thanks to Kenya for bringing it up in the comments and thanks to other friends of mine for bringing it up IRL in the time since I initially made this post. ]
I’ve decided that I’m going to get married… Please have any attractive female billionaires with SOCOM skillz contact Bill Cammack regarding the tryout schedule.
A friend of mine once told me “The best way to cheat….. is NOT to cheat!”
This is true. In a perfect world, people would be monogamous and their word could be trusted when they say things like “I love you” and “You’re the only one I’m dating”. However, as you can read yourself in the New York Times, the buzz this week is about how Client 9 got caught cheating on his wife.
Now, I find this to be one of the “funny” things about this society. Guys are trained to go out there and get what they want. Make more money. Initiate Mergers & Acquisitions. Run for office. Play professional sports. Sell your startup… Guys are trained from birth to be the best and take what they want, and then they’re not supposed to apply that to women. Guys are expected to have just one chick and be satisfied with that, when they’re not expected to have just one company or play just one sport. Meanwhile, the more successful you are, the easier it gets for you to acquire and maintain chicks. I mean, think about it…. Why bother becoming Tony Soprano if you can’t enjoy it? What’s the point of acquiring wealth and power without the ability to do what *YOU* want with it?
Granted, the argument is “If you want to live the single lifestyle… BE single!” Again, this is true. However…. This doesn’t work for everyone. James Buchanan was the *ONLY* unmarried American President. In some professions, your opportunities for advancement are SEVERELY limited if you don’t have a wife. Similar to getting green cards, being married is just… necessary. It’s a part of the job description. Is this fair to the wife? No. Some know what they’re cosigning and some do not.
Anyway… If you juuuuust can’t help it, and you want to know how to cheat “right”, watch “The Sopranos”.
Yes. I’m aware “The Sopranos” is fiction! However, if Client 9 had used his time to watch the series instead of scrambling from ATM to ATM to “get his funds up”….. um….. Well, FIRST OF ALL, he wouldn’t have been scrambling from ATM to ATM to get his funds up!
Let’s see what else he wouldn’t have done, had he attended the Tony Soprano school for cheating:
“It was after 9 on the night before Valentine’s Day when she finally arrived, a young…”
WRONG! Actually… this is DOUBLE-WRONG, hahaha First of all, if you’re gonna cheat, you’re gonna have to pay some dues… such as being around the family at the right times, Christmas, Thanksgiving, Valentine’s Day. Now, you may be thinking “but, it was the day before!”. The day before VD (hehe, ever notice that? The abbreviation for Valentine’s Day is VD? hehehe) is when you get to make your points by celebrating with your woman EARLY! Capisce? Let those other chumps start their celebrations ON Valentine’s Day. That’s actually *late*, especially if your woman works, because she’s sitting there all day, WONDERING if she’s got a nice surprise waiting for her when she gets home instead of BEAMING about what you already did for her the night before, and that morning. SO… “the night before a special event is NOT the time to rent a chick”.
This is ALSO wrong because Valentine’s Day in particular is when you’re supposed to be affectionate to chicks. This is going to be tough to do after you hook up with some chick you’re actually hot for, then, a couple of hours after that, you’re supposed to be all “Happy Valentine’s Day! ” to your wife. SO… The correct order is to celebrate with your wife the night before and the morning *of* VD, then “get called away for business” later that evening.
“This was at the Mayflower, one of Washington’s choicer hotels…”
WRONG! If you’re ballin’ like that, that you’re spending thousands of dollars to see one chick… you want to have an APARTMENT out of the way somewhere. You do NOT want to go to a hotel with CAMERAS, WORKERS and myriad OTHER PEOPLE that just might happen to be there. Also, it’s much easier to explain what you’re doing in an apartment complex than it is to explain what you’re doing by yourself on the eighth floor of a hotel with a big SMILE on your face.
“….an online prostitution ring, the affidavit said…”
ummmmmmm……. Online?…. Prostitution?……..
Was there a bar when you walked in? Did the chick suggest that you pour her a drink while she goes in another room and changes?
“There’s something that I need you need to know… I’m Chris Hanson….”
WHAAAAAAAT? :O Online Prostitution? wow. :/ Forget all that. What you want is a goomah, which is essentially an extra girlfriend.
This is where the apartment comes in handy. You also get to avoid scrambling to the ATM to get more money, avoid cell phone calls between a hooker, her boss and her boss’ boss, avoid getting a call from some agency during “family time” and probably MOST IMPORTANTLY, you get to avoid ordering chicks online.
“In a prior conversation, Client 9 had already told her that he had booked a room and had paid for it in his own name; now he asked who was coming…”
I realized after I began this post that commenting on this ONE article could easily take me a full month, so I’m going to stop here.
Obviously, again, having a goomah enables you to AVOID conversations with hookers’ bosses. You also happen to know which girl you’re paying $,$$$ for. Being that I’m not a “trick” (a guy who pays chicks to have sex with him), I don’t know how that stuff works. I would assume you’d pick a particular chick and set up a time to see her instead of whatever chick happens to be available at the time? \o/ Maybe he was trying out different ones? Perhaps there was a special on certain chicks this month? Dunno. Anway…..
In the end, we circle back to the beginning. As you can see, “The best way to cheat….. is NOT to cheat!” …. Not because it’s “the right thing to do”, but because you’d either have to be a tactical genius or fictional television character to pull it off. If you’re considering cheating, mentally project yourself into the future of your getting caught. Then, look from there back into the past (which hasn’t happened yet), and ask yourself…..
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Yadda Yadda Yadda Blah Blah Blah EVERY.SINGLE.EFFIN’.DAY, some chick is confused about why a guy keeps trying to kick it to her. It’s very simple. He’s kicking it to you because HE.WANTS.TO.GET.WITH.YOU, *PERIOD*! He’s not interested in what you think about it. He’s not interested in what you have to say about it.
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I feel that. He doesn’t care if he wants sex. I’m going to look on DatingGenius to see if there is a guide on how to tell if a man wants sex or a relationship. I think the man that wants a relationship cares what the woman thinks, right?
There are a lot of interesting points here, Helene…. First of all, that post was written specifically to address the situation of women being clueless as to why a guy doesn’t stop kicking it to them when she indicates disinterest or even disgust. The fact of the matter is that he’s not approaching you to get your opinion on things or to discuss politics. He finds you physically attractive or there’s something else about you that he likes (you have money, good child-bearing hips, whatever…) that he’s approaching you for. What you think about it is of no consequence whatsoever. The bottom line is desire-fulfillment… HIS, not YOURS.
As an example, I was walking with a blabbermouth friend of mine the other week, and in the process of making a point to her, I mentioned that her homegirl was attractive. I wasn’t telling her that so she could go blab it to her girl like she BLABS everything else. I was trying to make a general point based on a specific situation my friend was privy to. Before I got to say what I really wanted to say, she goes “Oh… She wouldn’t hook up with you. You’re not her type.” Now…. First of all, I didn’t ask my friend what she thought about my ‘chances’ of hooking up with her girl. Second, all she knows about her girl’s “type” is what her girl is willing to TELL HER, so her idea of what her girl’s going to do and what she’s not going to do is completely irrelevant. Third, people are functions of combinations, meaning that how a chick reacts to me has *nothing* to do with how she reacts to anyone else on the planet, so until I kick my game and get on or not, speculation is worthless.
All these things ran through my mind in a split second, and I replied just about right when she finished speaking, “That doesn’t matter”. She looked at me surprised, and tried to protest, but I covered that up with another “That doesn’t matter”. We then went off on the tangent of how “what her girl wants” doesn’t factor in AT ALL to my initial attraction to her. Forget about the fact that she IS NOT her girl, so she has NO IDEA what her girl does behind closed doors. Even if she knew for sure that her girl didn’t like me for whatever reason, it’s of no consequence, because I’m talking about what motivates *ME*. I’m talking about what propels me to focus on HER and interact with HER instead of someone else.
This is why chicks would be better off if they recognized WHY a guy is talking to them in the first place. Without that knowledge, you’re grasping at straws when you try to figure out anything else about your relationship to that guy.
As another example, I was waiting for a bus with a crowd of people. This girl walks past at least eight other breathing, standing human beings to come up to me and ask me if I knew what time it was. I told her that I didn’t, and showed her that I don’t wear a watch, which I don’t, because I don’t *care* what time it is. The next thing that happened was…… She stayed right there and continued talking to me. Now… What happened to her desire to find out what time it was? *POOF* Gone, into thin air. Had she actually been interested in the time, she would have A) stopped at the FIRST person she saw to ask what time it was, and then made her way down the line, or B) if she DID walk all the way past them to ask me, she would have asked someone else right after I demonstrated the inability to tell her what time it was. She did neither, so the obvious inference is that she wanted to talk to me and used “Do you know what time it is” as the ice-breaker.
Now, let’s apply this to the club! When that guy buys you that drink, what do you think he’s trying to do? Do you think he thought you looked thirsty? Do you think he thought you looked *BROKE*, and he likes to hand out charity by buying drinks for destitute women? Did he buy any GUYS a drink? How about any UNATTRACTIVE WOMEN? ‘:) There are two reasons he’s offering to buy you a drink. He wants you to get more drunk than you already are, AND (drumroll) he’s trying to get on.
You can THINK whatever you want… He’s a nice guy. He’s generous. He respects you. He’s interested in what you have to say or what you think. He likes the same music you do… He doesn’t like the same music you do, he dresses poorly, he’s a creep, he can’t spell, he doesn’t pronounce consonants when he speaks, he’s a Cro-Mag……… NONE of that matters, pro or con. It matters as far as how tough or easy it is for him to get on, but your opinion of him is irrelevant and worthless when it comes to what he’s trying to do at that point.
As a matter of fact, a good rule of thumb is “If he didn’t ask you, he doesn’t care.”
Which brings us to your actual question, “Does the man who wants a relationship care what you think?”
The guy who wants a relationship had better care what his woman thinks. However, first of all, he’d better care that she thinks AT ALL. There are lots of guys and gals running around this planet with ZERO common sense, or at least little enough common sense to land them on the Maury Povich show having paternity tests done on several guys. Considering that there are only about 10 days in a month when you can actually get a girl pregnant, and you can count backwards to the month she became pregnant, that means that every single guy she has on stage with her tapped it within a 10-day period. Considering some chicks’ in-da-club behaviors, if those 10 days spanned two weekends, we could expect four guys to be sitting on the stage, Friday Night (day 1), Saturday Night (day 2), Friday Night (day 8 ) and Saturday Night (day 9). Now, that’s bad enough, but if there are more than four guys on the stage…. smh.
This is why the guy who wants a relationship is hoping that his potential girlfrend/wife’s brain works at all. There’s *NOTHING* wrong with a chick getting her groove on as much as she wants to with whomever she wants to. However, if you’re going to be in a ‘committed’ relationship with her, you would like to believe that any kids that appear during that relationship are in fact… yours.
You also want to be able to take her places. When they have those couples get-togethers or business dinners, you want to be able to walk in with her on your arm and have people as impressed with her personality and mental faculties as with her looks. If you accept her without intelligence, you could be sabotaging your own career advancement while she talks some ignant ghetto ish to your COO. :/ Your girl is a reflection of YOU, so if you’re going for a relationship, aim as HIGH (mentally) as you possibly CAN!
Also, in a relationship situation, a guy needs to know what his girl thinks so he can strive to make HER happy while he makes HIMSELF happy. You would hope that’s a goal of his in hooking up with her long-term.
Having said that… Like I said above, if he doesn’t ask you, he doesn’t care. If he’s minding his business, like he loves to do, and watching the game or something, and you come in blabbing about gossip from the job, he might listen to you as a FAVOR to you or to make sure he can get on later this evening, but no, he doesn’t CARE about that. If he did, he would have said “How was work today, dear? Was that chick still gossiping?” This is a totally different issue, so I won’t get into it here, but basically, you should get a checklist of the things he actually CARES about so that if you want to talk to him about something and have him actually interested and ENGAGED in the conversation, you know the parameters.
How To Tell if he wants sex or a relationship? Well… First of all, it’s not *OR*. It’s *AND*. He either wants sex and for you to break north… or he wants sex and for you to stay around and hang out with him. The SEX part is a given, otherwise, similar to the girl that asked me for the time, he’d be kicking it with someone OTHER THAN YOU!
Think about it. The way relationships in the USA are set up, being BF/GF / Engaged / Married implies that you’re not having sex with anyone except your SO. Why in the world would someone attach themselves to someone they didn’t intend to have sex with? On top of that, lots of guys want to have kids. Sure they could go the test tube or adoption route, but MOST OF THE TIME, they’re going to want to have their kids the old fashioned way…
By mistake.
Anyway…
If it’s possible at all, I would say the way to tell that he wants a relationship is by how much he focuses on your PERSONALITY. How interested is he in getting to know YOU? What you’re about… What makes you tick… What makes you happy… What you don’t like… The intelligent guy is going to want to know A LOT about a chick he intends to make his S.O.
The problem with this personality-based theory is that, like Omar says, “It’s all in the game”. Guys already know what women are looking out for as cues that they’re interested in more than sex. Knowing the cues makes it easy to “Fake it ’till you make it”.
So… the best thing women can hope for is to meet guys through trusted friends that are willing to vouch for their character and keep your fingers crossed!
Teens are BORED. Teens have nothing to do with their time. GIVE your kids something to do, or they will FIND something to do. Enroll them in Karate or Piano Lessons or a Dance Company.
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Regardless of how long you study the I-Ching Manual, you’ll never attain the highest level of kung fu proficiency unless you’re celibate.
Actually… this is DOUBLE-WRONG, hahaha 
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