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How To Approach Women

Bill Cammack — Tue, 15 May 2012 09:51:54 +0000

Reader “Grace” asked me what my technique was for approaching women. I gave her the short answer to her question, but wasn’t able to elaborate, because I was responding on my Facebook page and not my blog, where I can go on and on about this stuff, ad infinitum.

Who Made Who?

Life is different for guys that women actually like and/or are attracted to.

This is why my blog posts about dating describe general circumstances that occur for and to common people.

It wouldn’t do you any good for me to tell you my technique for doing something, because it only works for me and people similar to me… It’s not something I’m doing, it’s the medium or environment surrounding me that makes anything work or not work for me.

For example, I’m highly educated (alum.MIT.edu/www/billcammack), so even if I know what the current slang words mean, they sound completely different when I’m saying them, compared to someone that actually lives life “in the street”.

This automatically works to my advantage or disadvantage, depending on what turns the chick on.

If she’s used to regular “around the way” guys, I will be weighed, measured and found wanting (“A Knight’s Tale” -> imdb.com/title/tt0183790/quotes?qt=qt0439577).

LL: “Around The Way Girls” -> youtu.be/hdzU3tXXd8Q

If she’s *TIRED* of “around the way” guys, I automatically skyrocket in value to her, simply by saying “Excuse me, :) Could you pass me the mustard?”, because my vibe and the way I naturally relate to her, even if I’ve never met her before in life, is completely different from what she’s used to.

(Which doesn’t mean better or worse… Just different.)

So it isn’t what I said that attracted her, but rather WHO I AM, which is a representation of the sum of my personal experiences in dating in particular and relating to people in general.

I can’t say, as a valid technique to get girls “Say ‘Excuse me, :) Could you pass me the mustard?’ instead of ‘Yo.. Lemme get that? o_O’”, because you’re still the same person, saying different words. All that’s going to do is make you look inauthentic and like you’re trying too hard.

Sure, you should be courteous, but only if you actually *FEEL* courteous.

Also, like I said above.. Depending on the female, saying “Yo.. Lemme get that? o_O” might be your Golden Ticket to pulling her! :D hahaha

Presentation

So, to respond fully to Grace’s question..

I meet new women IRL every week… Which is part of the “problem” with retiring from the game, but I’ll get to that later.

I don’t have a “technique” for kickin’ it to them, other than being a guy they want to hook up with, or hang out with, or talk to, or meet, or whatever they want.

So, my “game” starts before I walk out the door.

Every time I’m in public, my appearance expresses something about how I feel about myself and/or how I feel about the people I’m going to be around.

This is why I advocate to chicks to stop going outside looking like bums -> billcammack.com/2010/06/28/bill-dating-tips-women-part-01/.

Nobody wants to kick it to a chick that doesn’t care about her own personal appearance, whether that’s the clothes she selects or her physical state of disrepair.

Similarly, for guys, we win or lose the rap *BEFORE* we see the woman we want to kick it to, or, more accurately, before SHE sees US.

My job is to make sure I’m in good physical shape, and my presentation is proper for how I currently feel, so that when she sees me, she feels something that piques her interest in me.

So, Similar to my vernacular, this is a “hit or miss” proposition.

If I’m heading to see a punk rock band and run into a chick that likes country club type dudes, I’m pretty much short.

If I’m heading to a NYC Nightlife event, and run into a chick that likes grungy dudes, I’m pretty much short.

So, That’s the long way of explaining to Grace that I don’t use a technique to rap to women, in the direct sense of the term… I don’t use gimmicks and lines… I decide on my presentation, based on how I feel, then I gauge women’s reactions to being around me.

The ones that I receive the “I’d like to meet you” vibe and/or eye contact from receive returned eye contact, a nod, and maybe a smile, depending on how I’m feeling about myself that day. haha I might not be in a smileish mood.

First Impressions

The point is that I don’t run around in the street chasing women, because I don’t have to.

Other guys make things very simple for me by chronically FAILING to maintain their looks and physiques.

By the time I roll up, there’s a selection of women that are like “Who’s That? >:D”, and I decide which one(s) I want to meet from the pool of the women who are already interested in me before I say word 1 to them.

So.. The trick to approaching women is being the type of guy they’d like to meet.

Women only take a few seconds to decide whether they’d like to hook up with you or not.. physically.. I mean it’s a physical, chemical reaction to you that they experience… How long it takes them to actually give it up is an entirely different story! :D haha

But my point is that they know off that bat whether they want to give you some or not. All this talking and pickup lines and taking them out to dinner and other nonsense only has a small percentage effect on her behavior, compared to her first impression of you, and whether she feels a spark of energy or not.

If she’s not feelin’ you and you take her to dinner and the movies, you’re still not getting any! :D

If she *IS* feelin’ you, and you *DON’T* take her to dinner and the movies, you can still get on.

At least in a major city like NYC, it’s a waste of your time to try to convince some chick that isn’t sexually attracted to you to hook up with you.

There are too many women here. Keep it movin’, and kick it to a chick that already likes what you’re offering.

It’s much faster to find a new chick than to change the current one’s mind.

Even if you successfully woo her, it’s only a temporary fix. You’re still better off finding a chick that likes you for who you already are than trying to maintain a relationship with some gal you have to continually persuade to be interested in you.

So, Anyway… Approach women *BEFORE* you approach women.

You’ll be assessed practically instantaneously when she first becomes aware of you.

If you don’t see her seeing you for the first time, you’ll miss critically important information that should dictate how you interact with her, going forward.

Dating Instinct [Hunters, Part 16]

Bill Cammack — Tue, 31 May 2011 13:42:07 +0000

I tend to take a lot of pictures with a lot of different women.

One of the funny side effects of that is that guys assume that the women are random.

In fact, I’m in very few pictures with women I don’t personally know.

I just happen to know a lot of women.

This is what happens when you have 2,800 Facebook Friends… Statistically, that means that there are approximately 1,400 women that count as actual friends of mine, acquaintances, women I’ve spent time with, women I was introduced to by mutual friends, and women that are fans of mine.

There Go Some Chicks! :D

What’s funny about this misperception is that every once in a while, some guy I know will say something to the effect of “There go five girls over there.. Go take pictures with them! :D”

Now.. That’s not impossible for The Kid, but it all depends on whether the chicks are feelin’ me or not (or, at least one of them is).

I can tell this immediately, because my dating instinct is on-point and most guys don’t have it like that.

That’s one of the reasons they call hooking up with a chick “Getting Lucky”. It’s luck. They don’t know how they did it. Most of the time, they didn’t DO anything at all. They were in the right place at the right time and she was drunk enough so she made out with him.

For most guys, that counts as luck. For me, once I’m around a gal a few times, I know instinctively what state she’s in.

She might walk in the door in “I don’t give a damn about Bill” state, but several drinks from now, she’s going to be in “Feel Bill Up” state or “Hook up with any available guy she happens to be attracted to” state.

That’s not luck. It’s knowledge, timing and accuracy.

So, it’s always funny to me when dudes point chicks out to me and think that I can do magic tricks. haha It honestly ain’t that type-a party. :D

If I look over and determine in a few seconds that I have an “in”, I might go over there. Otherwise, I won’t be taking any action, because kickin’ it to chicks that aren’t interested in you isn’t worth your time unless she has an incredible ass.

Basically, when it comes to dating, there are only three types of women:

She’s not attracted to you.
She’s attracted to you and trying to hide that from you.
She’s attracted to you and down with the program.

The only question is whether you can detect that or not so you know how to efficiently interact with her.

Efficiency

If she’s already sweating you, it’s your game to lose. You really don’t have to do anything other than NOT be a jerk and you’ll eventually get on.. In most cases, sooner, rather than later.

If she’s trying to front like she doesn’t like you, that’s cool too. She probably has some kind of “protect my heart” reasons for not telling you what you already know about her. In those situations, your goal in life is to figure out WHY she’s frontin’ on the Jimmy, so you can help her get over it and y’all can get down to the nitty-gritty.

If she’s not attracted to you, that’s the only time you actually have to put in real work to get on. In most cases, it’s not worth the effort, because attractive gals in this town get offered male attention all day, every day, and if she’s not already paying you any attention, there probably isn’t much you can do to get her interested in you without investing major time, effort, and perhaps money.

This is where instinct comes in. You’re better off kickin’ it to the slightly-less-attractive chick that’s sweating you than the slightly-better-looking gal that doesn’t give a damn that you’re standing 10 feet away from her at the bar or apartment party. If you can’t tell which is which, you end up wasting a bunch of time, barking up the wrong tree.

The way you can tell what she’s thinking/feeling is that she gets an extra energy when you’re around her or talking to her. If you can naturally perceive that or you know what that looks like, it’s pretty obvious. Someone may as well have painted her bright orange.

She gets nervous or she laughs too much at your stupid jokes that you know damned well aren’t anywhere near that funny, or she keeps hanging around after you stupidly let the conversation lull because you don’t know what the **** you’re doing.

Perfect Practice Makes Perfect

So.. Besides making your strategy list of the order in which you’re going to approach women based on their physical attractiveness, you need to simultaneously create a list based on how interested each gal seems to be in you before you even step to her.

If you can’t detect this type of stuff, your rap game is basically a shot in the dark.. a LUCK SHOT in the dark, at that.

If you don’t already have it, the only way you’ll develop it is by trial & error… Decide whether you think a woman is interested in you or not and then go introduce yourself to her and see what happens.

Eventually, you should start making more educated guesses at your chances.

In the sticks, introducing yourself to women that aren’t already sweating you might be a high-percentage play, but not in NYC… Women are basically worn out by the number of times guys try to hook up with them in stores, in the street, on public transportation, at work, at parties, in bars… Even though there are too many women in this town, which makes it tough for them to get boyfriends, there are also too many dudes in this town that they don’t want to hook up with that are trying to bag them.

So.. In the interest of energy conservation, you should start practicing and honing your skills ASAP… The Dating Game is much more fun when you only kick it to bright orange chicks! >:D

Unless, of course, she happens to be from New Jersey, and that’s just her spray-tan. :/
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Speed, Primetime, & Downtime [Hunters, Part 15]

Bill Cammack — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 12:34:13 +0000

A reader recently left this comment on my blog:

I only had a problem with one thing you said:

“I’m not famous. I can pull chicks just by walking into a party. I can go +4 or +5 on Facebook (exchange contact information) in less than an hour.”

YEAH RIGHT Bill.

Now.. Obviously, this was written by someone that doesn’t actually know me. >:D

I don’t have 2,687 Facebook Friends because I meet people one at a time.

Also, I didn’t make that statement to say something about myself.

I don’t have to talk about myself. I already know what I can do and what I’ve already done.

I was making the point that it’s literally impossible that the guys on Jersey Shore are pulling FEWER chicks now than they pulled last year, when they were absolute nobodies.

MTV turned Jersey Shore into a chick-flick, so they’re hiding the action by editing out all the scenes where the guys get on.

Anyway.. The commenter brings up a valid point, so let me explain what I’m talking about…

Trial & Error

Back in the day… I mean WAAAAAAY back in the day, I used to use the same style that everybody else uses. You go to a party, figure out the order of chicks you’d like to kick it to, and then throw your hat in the ring from the top down.

That part is still in effect. What’s NOT in effect is that once I got a rap to a gal as I was cascading down the list, I’d hang on to that rap for dear life! :D haha

You’ve seen those guys… Every time you see them, they’re *STILL* talking to the same chick that they just met, as if they had come to the party together. Back in the day, I would have said that guy was getting a successful rap. Now, I would say he’s putting all his eggs in one basket and minimizing his chances of having a good night… His entire productivity for the evening is dependent on that one girl feeling like hooking up with him.

I think this started to change for me once I realized that there was a flow to parties… The “make a list” style only works when *ALL* the women show up at the same time. The worst thing on the planet is when you’re entrenched in talking to one chick and you’re focusing on her like you want to hook up with her tonight, and then a better chick arrives late to the party, and you’re like “DAMN!!! :/ .. How do I get out of talking to this one?” because the new gal ranks higher than the one you’re currently kickin’ it with.

After having that happen a few times, it was time to go back to the drawing board and figure out a new plan… I needed to have a way for my rap to be flexible, so I could bounce from chick to chick as the situation dictated.

This is why I understand what the commenter wrote. It could have been a female, but I doubt it, so I’ll say that “he” read my statement in the context of how the Average Joe tries to get girls, in which case, the concept of meeting and “booking” (getting contact information for) several chicks within one hour seems like a ridiculous statement.

Primetime

Returning to the lab.. I was wondering how in the hell I was going to maintain intensity, yet add flexibility to my rap. The answer arrived not in analyzing what I was saying or doing, but in noticing how I was treating time the same way, when it’s actually different.

I was treating time at a party the same way as I was treating time that I was working or time that I was eating dinner, which is absolutely wrong… There aren’t a bunch of chicks around when I’m working, eating or sleeping, so my style needed to be different under different circumstances.

Same thing with the actual day and time that it happened to be… Most people work between 9am and 5pm from Monday to Friday. I’m a freelancer, so I don’t have to worry about that, however, the difference it makes is that Friday night and Saturday night are the times when *EVERYONE* tries their best to party, because it fits into their work schedules.

This means that for both reasons, scheduling and female population density, Friday night and Saturday night are both PRIMETIME. Primetime needs to be treated differently from any other time, because there’s so much more opportunity present… At this point, Thursday night is also Primetime, to a degree, because lots of us are bored with the crowds and the noise from the weekends.

So the days of the week had to be split up. Thursday, Friday & Saturday became Primetime. This is the time when you meet women, and NOT the time when you pull women… The difference being that your goal is to maximize your efficiency by meeting as many women as possible during Primetime and sorting them out during the rest of the week.

Once I understood this, what I needed to change about my rap became obvious, and my efficiency skyrocketed. My goal during Primetime is to meet chicks, let them know who I am, find out who they are, get contact information (or not), tell them it was nice to meet them, and *BOUNCE* ASAP! >:D

It’s easy to get out of a conversation with a gal if you haven’t been pumping “I want to hook up with you tonight” to her. It’s also easy to hook up with her in the near future if you have contact information for her. Primetime is for meeting as many gals as you can in the shortest amount of time, *NOT* meeting one gal and working on her for hours to see if you can get on.

Downtime

Sunday, Monday, Tuesday & Wednesday are Downtime. That’s the time you can waste putting in extra work on chicks. Nothing better’s going on anyway, so you may as well follow-up on the women you met during Primetime.

Same thing goes for the morning and afternoon hours on Thursday, Friday & Saturday. If you need to put in some “get to know you” time, make sure it’s during Downtime, so you can get it in gear to put in work later on that evening.

What’s going to happen is that chicks are going to want to do Downtime activities during Primetime. Veto that and give her a raincheck for some other Downtime period.

Of course, there are exceptions to all this. >:D .. If you meet a gal that you really believe is exceptional, go ahead and waste all your Primetime on her. Give her all the Downtime too, while you’re at it… If you end up dating her, that’s what your life is going to be like anyway, so there’s no time like the present to get started living that lifestyle.

Since this discussion is about speed, however, stick to the program.. Primetime is for meeting women and Downtime is for cultivating your relationships to them & hooking up.

Speed

So your speed in a rap is derived from your understanding that you only came to the party to meet as many attractive women as you can before the situation is over… Get in, say what you have to say, figure out if she liked it, exchange contact information, bounce.

If it takes you more than 15 minutes to inform a chick why she should remain in contact with you, you need to improve your skillz. 15 minutes per gal = 4 gals per hour. This is why I said The Kid can go +4 or +5 on Facebook in less than an hour.

That’s nothing, really. That doesn’t even approach being impressive.

I can’t even remember the last time I spent 15 minutes talking to the same chick during Primetime, unless I didn’t have anything better to do… meaning that I had my eye on the room, and there weren’t any OTHER chicks I wanted to talk to, so I may as well keep kickin’ it with this one.

Either way, the style is built for immediate ejection (haha, not to be confused with premature ejaculation o_O), so that *IF* I spot a new target, I can excuse myself ASAP and get on the case.

Now that I mention that, your successful and quick ejection is facilitated by getting her contact information SOONER rather than LATER.

Most guys wait until they’re about to leave a gal’s presence before they attempt to “get her number”. This doesn’t work, because when you see that next chick, you might only have a few seconds before some other guy starts chatting her up for the rest of the evening, hoping to score.

You have to be able to drop an exit line, like “Oh.. I see a friend of mine.. Let me catch up with you later.” and BOUNCE immediately. You don’t want to go through the contact information drill *AFTER* you become aware of the new chick. On top of wasting your time, if the next one sees you ‘getting the digits’ from the previous one, that might sabotage your next rap from the giddyap. :D

Another thing that makes speed easy to achieve is that females rarely do anything by themselves. Most of the time you see women, they’re in packs or groups. All you have to do is meet one of them and you get to meet all of them… unless, of course, she’s sweating you and decides to keep you for herself, haha :D

Preparation

The first part of your preparation is “energy”. You have to be in the right frame of mind to put in Primetime-quality work, or it isn’t worth attending the event at all.

I’ve been to parties where I knew 80 people that were in the same venue with me. 30 is typical for me. What that means is that I’m constantly catching up with friends, meeting new people, and changing direction in conversations. The entire evening is basically one continuous blur until we end up in a diner at 4am, winding down. I know how that feels and I know what it takes to rawk a situation like that successfully, so I make sure I build my energy properly beforehand, and if I know I didn’t make it, I don’t go.

The second part is “looking the part”. If I’m going to hang out in Hipster-Brooklyn, I dress differently than if I had been planning to hang out in Manhattan. I still don’t “blend” with hipsters, haha I mean they can all tell I’m not down with their subculture, but at least I’m not showing up like “MANHATTAN, SUNNN!!! AND WHAAAAAA??? >:D”

The third part is “team selection”. You want to either attend the event with guys that are going to make the crew look good and not act like desperados, or girls that are going to befriend other chicks and introduce you to them instead of cockblocking you.

This is a critical aspect as far as speed, because your team serves as your home base, your opportunity for multitasking, and your excuse for quickly exiting a conversation with a gal you’re chatting up… The home base aspect keeps your energy high because you’re relaxed and having a good time, even if you don’t meet anybody new. All you really needed when you came to the party was the person or people you brought. As long as the guy(s) in your group can get girls on their own and you don’t have to babysit them, you might notice that they’re chatting up several chicks across the room while you’re doing nothing of import, and you get to hustle over there and get introduced.

Girls are *ALWAYS* willing to meet new girls… in fact, women are often TOO EFFECTIVE in introducing you to new chicks, to the point that you end up bogged down in conversations you didn’t even plan to have while you were still assessing the room or scheming on how you were going to meet the next gal you were up to on your list. This is partially a by-product of the act-like-we’re-lesbians-to-get-attention-from-guys fad that started over a decade ago. What you need to do in the case of an overly-effective female is inform her where the threshold is of chicks that are “your type”, so she knows not to introduce you if a gal doesn’t make the grade. If you decide to make an exception, you can either text her or walk over and insert yourself into their conversation.

Meanwhile, your teammates need to not be nuisances. Do not get so drunk that I have to spend my time making sure you don’t fall off your bar stool. Do not act belligerently towards people that would otherwise have gone about their business, causing unnecessary arguments, tension & stress. Do not cockblock. Do not act like you’re desperate for chicks (even if you are) and make The Kid look desperate for standing next to you. If you don’t have anything GOOD to say to a female, don’t say anything at all… It’s better FOR ME if you look like an idiot or antisocial than if you look like a JERK, which is going to make it tougher for me to get raps.

Your team is also your excuse for ejecting from a rap. Everybody understands “I’m being rude to my friends, so I should get back to them. :D”. This is way better than saying “I’ve put in enough work with you now, and I just noticed several better-looking chicks that I want to meet, so PEACEBEYOTCH!!! >:D”

Implementation

I had a couple of funny experiences happen, I believe on the same night, when I was hanging out with a reader. I mean, they weren’t funny TO ME, but it was funny, seeing his reaction to what had happened.

The first situation was that I had been hanging out with him at the bar, talking about “this and that, from sneakers to hats”, and out of the blue, this chick walks up to me, introduces herself, chats me up for a few, gives me her number, kisses me on the cheek and leaves.

When she walked away, I picked up my conversation with my friend where we had left off, and he was wondering why I didn’t kick it to her or chase her or try to leave with her. I definitely found her attractive, and I was definitely physically interested in her, but it was Primetime and not Downtime. We had already exchanged contact information. I could have called or texted her later that night, the next day, or I could call her right now, because I still have her number.

Her kickin’ it to me didn’t change Primetime into Downtime, so I was still focused on a) hanging out with my friend and chillin’, and b) meeting any other chicks that might have been interested in me before we left that spot.

The second situation was that the same reader and I went to a different party that this other chick had invited me to, and when I got there, she was making out with some other dude.

I waited for her to get her groove on, eventually approached her as if I had just recently arrived, acted like I didn’t see what I saw, chatted her up, introduced her to my friend, thanked her for the invite and left the party (having already assessed the group and deciding that there weren’t any other chicks there that I had had a good percentage chance of getting a rap to).

That’s how Primetime works. It’s all about the action.. Speed.. Making connections. All that other chick-stuff you can do after 4am or before 8pm.

This is why I understand and appreciate the newjack reader’s comment that he didn’t believe I can get contact information from 4-5 chicks in 60 minutes. If I were still doing things the way I used to do them, I’d be incredulous as well.

In fact, if I see that a chick’s sweating me, and I like her too, the very first thing I say to her might be “Are you on Facebook? >:D”. If she goes for that, I go +1 in one minute and I have another 55 minutes (one hour, less chatting her up for another 4 minutes after we exchange information) to pull the next 3-4 chicks and make my quota.

Also.. This only works if you’re an actually interesting person. I’m not saying I do magic tricks on women and they become hypnotized and give me their numbers. :D I’m saying they can see what I look like, they get to hear what I’m about and there’s enough information on Google (http://www.google.com/#q=Bill – I’m #18) for her to decide whether she wants to hang out with me or not, so I don’t have to waste a lot of time talking to the same chick.

It’s even easier if we happen to be into the same things, like social media, video creation or music production:

Bill Cammack – “Neo vs. Morpheus” by Bill Cammack
Direct Download Link (.mp3) => “Neo vs. Morpheus”

So.. No. I wasn’t kidding. I also wasn’t bragging. I was merely stating basic facts.

I’m glad this came up, though. I haven’t penned an episode of “Hunters” in more than three months, and I’ve enjoyed getting back to the series. >:D
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Teach Me How To Study!!!

Bill Cammack — Fri, 12 Nov 2010 20:28:22 +0000

I love this! haha :D

Teach me how to study!
Can you teach me how to study?
All my teachers love me!
You ain’t messin’ with my STUDY!!! >:D

“Teach me how to Dougie” Remixed by 8th grade students @ Celerity Nascent Charter School located in the heart of Los Angeles.

Concept.. Shot.. Directed.. and Edited by their technology teacher, Mr. Cee (Erik Conley)

YouTube link => http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qZY5Y8Dg5RU

Well Done, Y’all! :D
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Team Selection [Hunters, Part 12]

Bill Cammack — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 16:12:08 +0000

I touched on this briefly in “Wingman Responsibilities [Hunters, Part 01]“, but if you’re putting together a crew of dudes to pull chicks or even just working with one other guy, Team Selection is CRITICAL.

Sometimes, the reason you don’t get on is that you doomed yourself from the beginning by selecting the wrong team for the job.

Everybody’s not effective in all situations.

Just like Mission: Impossible, you have to figure out where you’re going, what the atmosphere is, what kind of women go there, which of your wingmen are effective with that particular demographic, and then who amongst that subset of your cronies is most likely to add value to the situation and least likely to fumble.

Jersey Shore

I felt like talking about this today because the ‘Jersey Shore’ dudes have this weirdo style of team-rapping. Every time you see them pull chicks, it’s in pairs. It’s really weird. :D

The problem with always picking up multiple chicks is that you’re multiplying your likelihood of failure. Instead of only having ONE female whose mood you have to regulate, you now have TWO. That’s bad enough to begin with, but then, similar to the Bechdel Test, they’re actually talking to each other, which is just about the worst thing that can happen. :(

So the question becomes “Did you pull the girls from the club because you wanted to mess with them or because you wanted to enjoy some kind of weirdo event with your homeboy where you hook up and he watches you and your girl from 15 feet away while he’s eating a sandwich?”.

As a side note, Vinny deserves props for salvaging his HORRIBLE RAP to Ramona. She seems to be having a very good time with Vinny now, so kudos to him on that! :D

Who Is He?

The first thing you need to know is WHO your wingman is, or perhaps what station he currently occupies in life. This is important because y’all might not be seeing chicks the same way, which could lead to disastrous results.

Let’s say, for instance, that you’re a single dude and you’re hanging out with a dude that’s married (and happens not to cheat on his wife). He’s not seeing any of the girls in your vicinity as potential targets, so he’s liable to do and say some REEEEEEEEEALLY STUPID THINGS.

What difference does it make to him if he alienates the chicks? That has no effect whatsoever on his wife giving him some when he goes home. What difference does it make if he makes himself (and you, by association) look like a JERK?.. None.

No matter what he does, his ability to get laid is insulated. This makes him dangerous and a potential liability to your rap at any stage of the game.

This week, on ‘Jersey Shore’, Pauly pulls these two chicks and they come back to the crib with him and Mike and when they get there, it turns out that Mike’s girl for the night isn’t DTF.

Instead of doing THE RIGHT THING and taking this extra chick to the kitchen or wherever so Pauly can get laid, Mike starts “calling a ho a ho”, which is NEVER good policy.

The LAST THING YOU WANT TO DO is tell a chick that you know she’s easy. Even hoes want to feel like they’re hard to get. YOUR goal in life is to let them believe that long enough for you to hook up with them.

So, not only does Mike call the chick a ho, but he informs her directly (and in front of the OTHER ho) that because she’s not going to perform, she has to get out of his bed right now and chill in the living room. :D HAHAHA Not only did he simultaneously destroy Pauly’s rap by pointing out his girl for the night’s station in life, but what sense did it make for him to kick the other chick out of the room and remain in the room HIMSELF, spectating Pauly’s action?

Actually, this brings me to the next section..

How Desperate Is He?

Desperation is a good trait in a wingman.. to a degree. You want your teammate to be rather interested in pulling new chicks for tonight because that’s what the game’s all about. If you teamed up with the married dude, he might not be hungry enough to be effective, AND will probably end up being a liability as I mentioned earlier.

OTOH.. You don’t want dude to be so desperate that he loses his mind and forgets what the goal of the evening is. The goal is not for the two of youse as a TEAM to get laid. After you extract the chicks from the club, it’s every man for himself. If your girl fronts, it’s your job to keep her from cockblocking your boy, because that’s what you want him to do for you on that night that will be coming up soon where your girl is DTF and his isn’t.

If you look at Mike’s behavior, it’s just stupid. What did he suspect was going to happen when he told the chick essentially “If you’re not giving it up, get out of my bed AND get out of my room, because the only reason I invited you over was to **** you”? :D haha Did he think she was going to go “Oh.. Damn.. You’re right about that.. My Bad! :/” and lay down and give it up?

That’s absolutely ridiculous, so in dissing her by telling her that her only value to him was the late-night hookup, all he did was simultaneously destroy Pauly’s rap too. If you’re calling the chick that WOULDN’T hook up with you a ho and kicking her out of bed, what does that make her homegirl feel like that’s still laying down with Pauly? o_O

So you want your wingman to be desperate enough to put in good work, but you DON’T want him to be so desperate that he catches feelings for not getting laid and ruins the night for YOU in the process.

What’s His Style?

If you’re going to Brooklyn, bring a hipster with you. If you’re going to an upscale Manhattan club, bring a dude in a suit that has class & style and won’t be intimidated by quality women. If you’re going to a ghetto party or social club, bring a ghetto dude.

“Styles Make Fights”. You have to select the proper team member(s) for each mission. Bringing the ghetto dude to the hipster party does you no good. Bringing the hipster to the Manhattan party does you no good.

Basically, you want your team to blend into the surroundings but simultaneously have an edge over other squads that are trying to pull the same girls. At the end of the day, women are women, or, how do they say?.. “All cats are grey in the dark”. Regardless of whatever your wingman’s style of dress or demeanor is, if he doesn’t know how to deal with women in general, you’re pretty much screwed. You might actually do better by bringing the ghetto guy that knows his way around women to the hipster party than bringing a dude that looks the part but isn’t contributing JACK-**** to the team getting on.

How Does He Pull Girls?

It’s very important to know what it is about a potential teammate that the ladies like. It’s also important to know what skillz he’s bringing to the table that help him to bypass roadblocks.

For instance.. Mike gets girls because of his stomach. No chick has ever called him handsome in the history of ‘Jersey Shore’. No chick has ever complimented him on his gift of gab. Every time you see girls around him in the club, it’s because he’s lifting his shirt and letting them touch his stomach. In the entire.. what?.. 22 episodes over two seasons of ‘Jersey Shore’, I’ve never seen Mike salvage a rap by talking the chick into hooking up with him. If she’s not DTF because of his body and/or because he’s a reality television star, it seems like he can’t pull a non-grenade to save his life.

There’s nothing wrong with that, but you have to recognize that that’s what he’s bringing to the table as a wingman. It’s like the strong guy on Mission: Impossible. You didn’t hire him to program any computers. You didn’t hire him to do any good acting. You hired him to lift things and beat people up. That was his job, because that’s what he was good for.

Similarly.. If you’re going to a club where girls give it up because a guy works out a lot, bring Mike. If you’re going to a hotel bar to meet women that expect intelligent & stimulating conversation, DO NOT bring Mike. :D

In fact, this is what confused me about the entire second season of ‘Jersey Shore’. The name of the show is…. JERSEY… SHORE… How in the **** are you going to film a season in Miami? Their style doesn’t even play well in Miami. It only works at Seaside Heights, New Jersey, and MAAAAAAYBE out on Long Island. That’s like making a show called “Harlem World” and filming the second season in the Lower East Side, or Kansas for that matter. It doesn’t make any sense.

Of course, they probably ended up calling it ‘Jersey Shore’ because all the other names they wanted to use for the show got rejected. \o/

Anyway.. If you’re going out with intelligent women, don’t bring a ditzy bodybuilding dude to back you up. If you’re going out with girls that are looking for “Gorilla Juice-Heads”, don’t bring a scrawny, artsy, intellectual dude with no physique.

It’s your job to bring dudes with you that the women you’re trying to hook up with are going to like just as much as it’s your job to find chicks that your boys are going to want to try to bring back to the hot tub.

Two Strikes, And You’re Out!

I’ve paid my dues. I’ve put in my *HOURS* of sitting around, chatting up chicks I didn’t give a flying **** about so my boy could screw her girlfriend in another room.

That’s probably why I don’t have any sympathy for these lame situations. It’s very simple. The goal is for everyone on the team to have a “good night”. If it works out that one dude pulls a DTF chick and someone else doesn’t, rally ’round the ******* FLAG and help your boy do what he’s trying to do.

One of these days, YOU’RE gonna be the only guy that pulled a viable chick and you’re going to appreciate your comrades assisting your efforts to reach The Dragon’s Lair.

Pretty much, a dude should be allowed to jack up your rap TWICE, maximum. The first time is when you didn’t know he was so stupid as to say or do what he did that made the girls scowl and scamper away instead of handing out contact information. The second time is after you TELL HIM WHAT HE DID WRONG and tell him how to fix it and inform him that you don’t intend to be cockblocked by his ridiculous antics ever again.

If he screws it up after that, don’t invite him on missions anymore. If he shows up by accident, distance yourself from him so you don’t suffer from guilt by association.

As much hard work as you put into crafting your image and demeanor, if you don’t surround yourself with the correct teammates, it’s all for naught because someone else is going to kick a hole in the boat and sink your rap for you.

If you don’t know what someone’s going to do or you suspect he’s going to do the wrong thing, you’re probably better off going solo and hannlin’ yo bidnezz on your own… You know what they say… “If you want something done right….” >:D
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