People Have To Know Who You Are

I just became aware of the latest scandal involving an internet bigwig. Some people who used to hang out with this dude ALL THE TIME are now saying “I knew he was a creep for a long time” and/or “I heard horrific rumors about him for a long time”.

I find this situation funny, yet educational, for a few reasons. One of them is that the people that “heard rumors” didn’t say JACK **** until this dude was publicly called out for his rumored behavior, way after the fact of when the situations actually occured, and with, so far, zero evidence of anything occurring at all, other than the word of this guy’s ex-girlfriend, who happens to be his accuser.

What’s funny about that is that by speaking up NOW, you highlight that you FAILED TO or REFUSED to speak up between when you heard these rumors and when the public allegations surfaced = not fly. Continue reading “People Have To Know Who You Are”

How You Feel Doesn’t Matter

Let’s say I tell you the grass is green, and you don’t like the fact that the grass is green… Your NOT LIKING the fact that the grass is green doesn’t change the color of the grass.

Here’s the deal. There are two things going on right now.. There’s:

a) What’s happening, and

b) How you feel about what’s happening.

If you’re not able to separate the two, you’re screwed, because your perception doesn’t necessarily match up with anyone else’s reality. Continue reading “How You Feel Doesn’t Matter”

Who’s Harsher, Who’s Harsh?

A reader told me yesterday that she felt a a post of mine was harsh.

In a way, I agreed with her.

In a way, I didn’t.

Dream On

Unfortunately, in life, sometimes the facts of the matter are jarring, hard to hear, and/or unpleasant to consider. This doesn’t make any of these facts less true. What you feel about them doesn’t matter at all. It doesn’t change the situation. Continue reading “Who’s Harsher, Who’s Harsh?”

Shocking Dating Advice!

A friend of mine told me my dating posts are sometimes shocking to her. 😀

This is a good thing… You can either feel shocked now or feel shocked later when/if something happens to you in the future. Continue reading “Shocking Dating Advice!”