Bill Cammack

Here’s the deal. There are two things going on right now.. There’s:

a) What’s happening, and

b) How you feel about what’s happening.

If you’re not able to separate the two, you’re screwed, because your perception doesn’t necessarily match up with anyone else’s reality. Read the rest of this entry »

I’m not aware of many equal relationships. Most of them consist of one person that was sweating another person, and then the sweatee agreed to date the sweater.

That’s not to say that equal relationships don’t exist. I’m sure there are lots of them.

I’m just saying that in most cases, one person has more power in the relationship than the other one does, regardless of whether the “stronger” person utilizes that power against the “weaker” one or not. Read the rest of this entry »

I tend to take a lot of pictures with a lot of different women.

One of the funny side effects of that is that guys assume that the women are random.

In fact, I’m in very few pictures with women I don’t personally know.

I just happen to know a lot of women.

This is what happens when you have 2,800 Facebook Friends… Statistically, that means that there are approximately 1,400 women that count as actual friends of mine, acquaintances, women I’ve spent time with, women I was introduced to by mutual friends, and women that are fans of mine. Read the rest of this entry »

Mel Gibson has done it again. :)

Once again, his PR team has to go into crisis management / damage control mode because he was running his mouth while he thought he wasn’t being recorded.

Amongst the myriad things to be learned from this, according to examiner.com, Mel dropped this gem on his ex-girlfriend, Oksana Grigorieva:

“Look what you did to me… look what you are… look what every part of you is… f**king fake… f**king fake. You are the most synthetic person… who the f*** are you?”

Now, hahahaha Being that I don’t know her at all and never even heard of her before this story broke the other day, I don’t know exactly what Mel’s referencing… Read the rest of this entry »

Jay Smooth pointed out to me that JIll Scott had this to say in Essence Magazine:

“My new friend is handsome, African-American, intelligent and seemingly wealthy. He is an athlete, loves his momma, and is happily married to a White woman. I admit when I saw his wedding ring, I privately hoped. But something in me just knew he didn’t marry a sister. Although my guess hit the mark, when my friend told me his wife was indeed Caucasian, I felt my spirit…wince.” [Read more of Jill's article...]

For more context, here’s a video of what she had to say on CNN:

Now, I was going to let this topic slide because I don’t care. However.. Sensing that we’re going to have some more fake Sex Addict claims in the near future, I may as well break up my ongoing coverage of that topic with something else.

Disclaimers

First of all, let me say that I understand what Jill’s saying and I understand from reading what she wrote and listening to her in the video clip I posted above why she feels hurt about the situation. Read the rest of this entry »

You know?….. It’s actually completely amazing to me how differently men and women’s minds work when it comes to relationships. Most of the time, I can’t even believe it. I’m like “Are you serious? :/”.

Let’s think about the concept of being “unable” to remain faithful or screwing a bunch of chicks behind your wife or girlfriend’s back because you were too WEAK to do otherwise… That. Is. The. Most. Retarded. ****. I’ve. Ever. Heard. and it persists. It’s like no matter how much evidence women receive, they refuse to believe that dudes just basically aren’t interested in monogamy. Read the rest of this entry »

I’m not a fan of labeling relationships because the label doesn’t indicate or describe the functionality of the relationship. Similarly, the LACK of a label doesn’t indicate a lack of functionality between individuals. Therefore, the label itself is almost entirely useless.

I was watching this movie the other day, and this guy’s trying to get to know this new chick. He explains something about himself to her and she says “Oh.. You’re one of those [X] guys”. His response is “I don’t really, uh, subscribe to any label”.

When I heard that, I realized that that’s what I should have been saying all along. I mean, I’ve BEEN saying that forever, but I haven’t stressed it enough, since I’ve been attempting to inform the average Joe/Josephine about what my life is like. It’s just not as easy as I thought it would be. Things that make perfect sense to me don’t make sense to other people. Things that work for me don’t work for other people. I’ve attempted to explain something that I’ve now decided I just can’t explain. I just have to be thankful for the situation and keep it movin’. :D

Labels

Labels are only as relevant as the people that are willing to adhere to them.. meaning that basically, they’re completely useless. Read the rest of this entry »

Bill & Frank’s audio podcast derived from the DatingGenius dating advice blog.

More Episodes: http://billcammack.com/category/datinggenius/streetgame/

Bill & Frank’s audio podcast derived from the DatingGenius dating advice blog.

More Episodes: http://billcammack.com/category/datinggenius/streetgame/

Listen / Download => Street Game 03: Trust & Truth in Relationships [18:46]

Bill & Frank’s audio podcast derived from the DatingGenius dating advice blog.

More Episodes: http://billcammack.com/category/datinggenius/streetgame/

This is a reply to a comment that reader JS left on “Why Women Have To Be Attractive And Men Don’t”. I thought he had some interesting points and complaints and wanted to make this its own post:

Excellent write-up, JS. Thank you for the detailed comment. :)

I’m going to try to list your points so I can respond. Please let me know if I misunderstand what you’re saying:

1. Men don’t have any power in “the dating game”, because women have the power to reject AND choose.
2. Women go for men they find facially attractive, so if you have that, you’re golden.. Otherwise, you’re “short”.
3. Women say raunchy things about men and wanting to give it up to the guys they think are visually attractive.
4. When women get older, they start to lose their sexiness and therefore lose the only power they had over men in the first place.
5. Men are at a severe disadvantage, from youth through middle age if they’re not handsome.

ok… As far as men being at a disadvantage, EVERYONE’S at a disadvantage if they’re less physically or visually attractive than the next person. I discussed this over a year ago, in February 2008, in “Life Isn’t Fair”. You’re saying that guys are at a disadvantage when it comes to women in general. I’m saying guys have a disadvantage when it comes to other guys and gals have a disadvantage when it comes to other gals. Life is just BETTER for attractive people. It’ll never be different. Read the rest of this entry »

A couple of my wildly popular posts are “Women’s Guide to NYC Dating” and “Do Women Outnumber Men in NYC?”. Once again, we have challengers to my eye-witness, on-the-ground, in-the-trenches observation that there are literally HOARDS of women ambling around aimlessly in the streets of New York City with nothing better to do with their lives than eat Haagen-Dazs and order Netflix.

I received two comments recently that I’d like to address at the same time, because they’re on the same topic. They’re both saying that the number of single women has been inflated, but one comment brings up the issue of the AGE of the single women in NYC and the other brings up the QUALITY of the single women in NYC.

I’ll start with age, then get to quality:

ManAboutTown: “Surplus women? What’s the average ‘age’ of those extra women? 70 something? Due to more male children being born and men dying younger there’s actually a shortage of women in the younger age groups and shortage of men in older age groups. So unless you’ve got a granny fetish those extra women don’t mean much. Aggregate numbers are meaningless unless you do an age breakdown.”

Of course, ManAboutTown is right that they didn’t bother to break the list down by ages. He’s probably also right that a high percentage of the reported 210,820 extra single females in NYC are too old for a guy to want to kick it to…. whatever that means for each individual. For some guys, 35 is too old. For some guys, 55 is too old. Either way, he has good points about this.

So, let’s knock off 110,820 women from that survey result because they’re “overage”… “over-age”? “over age”?. :) Let’s say there are only 100,000 extra single females in NYC. That’s a SURPLUS, by the way… Meaning that for every single guy in NYC, there’s a single gal… PLUS 100,000 MORE CHICKS!!!

But wait! There’s more!… He’s also saying that more male children are being born, but they’re dying faster/sooner. He’s saying that until whatever that death age is, men outnumber women the entire time…. So, let’s split the difference. I’ll give away that last 100,000 and we’ll delete the “overpopulation of males” bonus and make it even.

So let’s say there’s one single girl for every one single guy in NYC…. Now, on to the quality issues: Read the rest of this entry »