Taking Responsibility For Other People’s Predictable Futures

Decisions, Decisions… To tell people about themselves or not…

Sometimes, you can see other people’s personal roadblocks more easily and objectively than they can.

The question is what to *DO* with that information.

Do you tell the person about themselves and help them strive to improve their lives, or do you let them remain in their rut and keep your information & theories to yourself? Continue reading “Taking Responsibility For Other People’s Predictable Futures”

How Long Should You Date Someone You Can’t Stand?

The question for today is how long you think you should continue to date someone you don’t like as a person.

I’ve had this interaction many times in conversations with dudes:

Dude: “My girl gets on my last nerve.”

Me: “Dump her.”

Dude: “…………………………….. Nah.”

I’ve had *THIS* interaction many times in conversations with chicks:

Chick: “I broke up with my boyfriend because I didn’t like XYZ that he said/did.”

Me: “……….. Oh.”

So the question for today is how long you think you should continue to date someone you can’t stand. Continue reading “How Long Should You Date Someone You Can’t Stand?”

How You Feel Doesn’t Matter

Let’s say I tell you the grass is green, and you don’t like the fact that the grass is green… Your NOT LIKING the fact that the grass is green doesn’t change the color of the grass.

Here’s the deal. There are two things going on right now.. There’s:

a) What’s happening, and

b) How you feel about what’s happening.

If you’re not able to separate the two, you’re screwed, because your perception doesn’t necessarily match up with anyone else’s reality. Continue reading “How You Feel Doesn’t Matter”

Unequal Relationships

Unfortunately, the nature of relationships dictates that people ACT AS IF they’re equals, even if it’s clear that they aren’t.

I’m not aware of many equal relationships. Most of them consist of one person that was sweating another person, and then the sweatee agreed to date the sweater.

That’s not to say that equal relationships don’t exist. I’m sure there are lots of them.

I’m just saying that in most cases, one person has more power in the relationship than the other one does, regardless of whether the “stronger” person utilizes that power against the “weaker” one or not. Continue reading “Unequal Relationships”

Dating Instinct [Hunters, Part 16]

BC & LCI tend to take a lot of pictures with a lot of different women.

One of the funny side effects of that is that guys assume that the women are random.

In fact, I’m in very few pictures with women I don’t personally know.

I just happen to know a lot of women.

This is what happens when you have 2,800 Facebook Friends… Statistically, that means that there are approximately 1,400 women that count as actual friends of mine, acquaintances, women I’ve spent time with, women I was introduced to by mutual friends, and women that are fans of mine. Continue reading “Dating Instinct [Hunters, Part 16]”

Synthetic People (Mel Gibson Has A Point…)

Mel Gibson & Oksana GrigorievaMel Gibson has done it again. 🙂

Once again, his PR team has to go into crisis management / damage control mode because he was running his mouth while he thought he wasn’t being recorded.

Amongst the myriad things to be learned from this, according to examiner.com, Mel dropped this gem on his ex-girlfriend, Oksana Grigorieva:

“Look what you did to me… look what you are… look what every part of you is… f**king fake… f**king fake. You are the most synthetic person… who the f*** are you?”

Now, hahahaha Being that I don’t know her at all and never even heard of her before this story broke the other day, I don’t know exactly what Mel’s referencing… Continue reading “Synthetic People (Mel Gibson Has A Point…)”

re: Jill Scott in Essence Magazine

Jay Smooth pointed out to me that JIll Scott had this to say in Essence Magazine:

“My new friend is handsome, African-American, intelligent and seemingly wealthy. He is an athlete, loves his momma, and is happily married to a White woman. I admit when I saw his wedding ring, I privately hoped. But something in me just knew he didn’t marry a sister. Although my guess hit the mark, when my friend told me his wife was indeed Caucasian, I felt my spirit…wince.” [Read more of Jill’s article…]

For more context, here’s a video of what she had to say on CNN:

Now, I was going to let this topic slide because I don’t care. However.. Sensing that we’re going to have some more fake Sex Addict claims in the near future, I may as well break up my ongoing coverage of that topic with something else.

Disclaimers

First of all, let me say that I understand what Jill’s saying and I understand from reading what she wrote and listening to her in the video clip I posted above why she feels hurt about the situation. Continue reading “re: Jill Scott in Essence Magazine”

Ladies: Please Get A Clue

You know?….. It’s actually completely amazing to me how differently men and women’s minds work when it comes to relationships. Most of the time, I can’t even believe it. I’m like “Are you serious? :/”.

Let’s think about the concept of being “unable” to remain faithful or screwing a bunch of chicks behind your wife or girlfriend’s back because you were too WEAK to do otherwise… That. Is. The. Most. Retarded. ****. I’ve. Ever. Heard. and it persists. It’s like no matter how much evidence women receive, they refuse to believe that dudes just basically aren’t interested in monogamy. Continue reading “Ladies: Please Get A Clue”

Normal Relationships & Labels

Bill CammackI’m not a fan of labeling relationships because the label doesn’t indicate or describe the functionality of the relationship. Similarly, the LACK of a label doesn’t indicate a lack of functionality between individuals. Therefore, the label itself is almost entirely useless.

I was watching this movie the other day, and this guy’s trying to get to know this new chick. He explains something about himself to her and she says “Oh.. You’re one of those [X] guys”. His response is “I don’t really, uh, subscribe to any label”.

When I heard that, I realized that that’s what I should have been saying all along. I mean, I’ve BEEN saying that forever, but I haven’t stressed it enough, since I’ve been attempting to inform the average Joe/Josephine about what my life is like. It’s just not as easy as I thought it would be. Things that make perfect sense to me don’t make sense to other people. Things that work for me don’t work for other people. I’ve attempted to explain something that I’ve now decided I just can’t explain. I just have to be thankful for the situation and keep it movin’. 😀

Labels

Labels are only as relevant as the people that are willing to adhere to them.. meaning that basically, they’re completely useless. Continue reading “Normal Relationships & Labels”

Street Game 05: Who Should Pay For The Date?

Bill & Frank’s audio podcast derived from the DatingGenius dating advice blog.

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