Taking Responsibility For Other People’s Predictable Futures

Decisions, Decisions… To tell people about themselves or not…

Sometimes, you can see other people’s personal roadblocks more easily and objectively than they can.

The question is what to *DO* with that information.

Do you tell the person about themselves and help them strive to improve their lives, or do you let them remain in their rut and keep your information & theories to yourself? Continue reading “Taking Responsibility For Other People’s Predictable Futures”

How Long Should You Date Someone You Can’t Stand?

The question for today is how long you think you should continue to date someone you don’t like as a person.

I’ve had this interaction many times in conversations with dudes:

Dude: “My girl gets on my last nerve.”

Me: “Dump her.”

Dude: “…………………………….. Nah.”

I’ve had *THIS* interaction many times in conversations with chicks:

Chick: “I broke up with my boyfriend because I didn’t like XYZ that he said/did.”

Me: “……….. Oh.”

So the question for today is how long you think you should continue to date someone you can’t stand. Continue reading “How Long Should You Date Someone You Can’t Stand?”

How You Feel Doesn’t Matter

Let’s say I tell you the grass is green, and you don’t like the fact that the grass is green… Your NOT LIKING the fact that the grass is green doesn’t change the color of the grass.

Here’s the deal. There are two things going on right now.. There’s:

a) What’s happening, and

b) How you feel about what’s happening.

If you’re not able to separate the two, you’re screwed, because your perception doesn’t necessarily match up with anyone else’s reality. Continue reading “How You Feel Doesn’t Matter”

Unequal Relationships

Unfortunately, the nature of relationships dictates that people ACT AS IF they’re equals, even if it’s clear that they aren’t.

I’m not aware of many equal relationships. Most of them consist of one person that was sweating another person, and then the sweatee agreed to date the sweater.

That’s not to say that equal relationships don’t exist. I’m sure there are lots of them.

I’m just saying that in most cases, one person has more power in the relationship than the other one does, regardless of whether the “stronger” person utilizes that power against the “weaker” one or not. Continue reading “Unequal Relationships”

Dating Instinct [Hunters, Part 16]

BC & LCI tend to take a lot of pictures with a lot of different women.

One of the funny side effects of that is that guys assume that the women are random.

In fact, I’m in very few pictures with women I don’t personally know.

I just happen to know a lot of women.

This is what happens when you have 2,800 Facebook Friends… Statistically, that means that there are approximately 1,400 women that count as actual friends of mine, acquaintances, women I’ve spent time with, women I was introduced to by mutual friends, and women that are fans of mine. Continue reading “Dating Instinct [Hunters, Part 16]”