Bill Cammack

Single Life

Just two days ago, I was out to brunch with a friend and somehow, the topic of video games came up. I think I was explaining to her what I felt the value was of being yourself from the giddyap instead of doing what other people wanted you to do so they’d be willing to hang out with you. Read the rest of this entry »

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One of my most popular posts is 2008′s “How To Break Up With Your Girl”. It seems like every single day, somebody wants to know how to break up with a girl….

***** SPOILER ALERT for Real World: DC ***** If you don’t want to know what happened last night, stop reading now! :D

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Being a professional at getting rid of chicks while maximizing their potential to feel good about it, I was sitting there like :O watching Josh dump his girlfriend on RW:DC last night. It was horrific. It was brutal.

I know how brutal it was because I did just about the exact same thing back in the day. Read the rest of this entry »

One of the reasons I really enjoyed MTV’s “Jersey Shore” is that they finally showed the lifestyle of what I call “Hunters”. Pauly & Mike were hunters, at least at the time that show was taped. They were down for the game. Fresh (new) chicks every night. They had a couple of repeat chicks, but for the most part, they were struggling to see what they could do every day and that’s what hunting’s all about.

Hunting isn’t for everybody. A lot of guys are looking to land the best chick they can get and retire. That’s what Ronnie did. He definitely COULD have hunted if he wanted to, but he didn’t want to. :D He sold out for the guaranteed daily lay with a chick that floated his boat and there’s nothing wrong with THAT! :D ‘Matter of fact, it looked like Mike was hating himself for having his hands on Sammi first and blowing it by pulling more random chicks to hop in the hot tub and make out. Had he realized his error earlier, it might have been “The Situation” that sold out and Ronnie & Pauly hunting. Read the rest of this entry »

Social Media Responsibility and Ethics

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So the other day, I took some pictures (so what’s new?), except one of the chicks we were hanging out with wasn’t feeling confident about her looks.

There were some general shots that she happened to be in, but then when she was asked to specifically be in a pic (not with me, haha so let’s not start with the “Maybe it was YOU?” :D ), she declined, saying that she wasn’t photogenic.

* This actually happened to be incorrect, but that’s an image and self-esteem topic, having nothing to do with ethics…. *

Sharing

So I had told the group I was going to share the pictures with them. When I reviewed the set the next day, I realized that there were a couple of pictures that the non-photogenic chick (I guess I’ll call her NPC) hadn’t “signed off” on. Read the rest of this entry »

Michael Arrington is the founder of TechCrunch, a leading “tech blog”. This morning, he wrote “Some Things Need To Change”, in which he describes being at the DLD Conference in Munich, Germany and having someone approach him, spit on him and walk away in a crowd of people.

Michael: Yesterday as I was leaving the DLD Conference in Munich, Germany someone walked up to me and quite deliberately spat in my face. Before I even understood what was happening, he veered off into the crowd, just another dark head in a dark suit. People around me stared, then looked away and continued their conversation.

* Normally, I wouldn’t Ambulance-Chase something like this, but comments were turned off on the actual post, so I’m writing about it here.

Of course, there’s lots of speculation about WHY this occurred. Most of the blogs I’ve read so far label the guy (I assume, being that it was a tech conference, and as far as I can tell from the pics from these things, females are few and far between) as someone who was upset with TechCrunch’s coverage or LACK OF COVERAGE of their startup. Of course, we’ll never know ANYTHING about the perp until someone takes responsibility for spitting on him.

I think we can safely assume that the guy knew who he was spitting on, assuming this happened inside the conference and not outside. According to this post, Arrington is 6’4″ (six feet, four inches tall), so he must be pretty easy to spot in a crowd.

Michael: “Yesterday I was battling the flu, jetlag and little sleep, and had been battered for three days straight with product pitches from entrepreneurs desperate for press. The event was over and I was on my way back to my hotel. The last thing I wanted was another product pitch as I hurried to the car that would drive me to Davos for the next event. So when I saw this person approach me out of the corner of my eye, I turned away slightly and avoided eye contact. Sometimes that works. But in this case all it did was make me vulnerable to the last thing I expected.”

So, again, we can assume this was a guy, because it wasn’t stated otherwise. We can assume he knew who he was spitting on and we can assume that he wasn’t concerned about consequences & repercussions, because he apparently blended in with the crowd instead of running away. One person running would have been easy to spot.

I think these points indicate arrogant behavior, so I wouldn’t be surprised if someone stepped forward to take responsibility for this within the next couple of days before it all blows over on Google Blog Search.

I also find this to be an extremely bold move because I would assume that a conference like that would have lots of Social Media people there with cameras snapping and video cameras rolling. What are the odds that NOBODY caught this on tape? Also, the crowd appeared to be observant, yet disinterested. It seems like nobody pointed out the perp as he calmly walked away. I don’t know “how they do” in Munich, so it may be a common practice for people to spit on each other, so, to them, it was no big deal.

On top of that, you have to wonder what made the perp think he was going to get away with this scot-free. It doesn’t sound like a good plan to walk up to a guy who’s 6’4″ and spit in his face. It’s an ESPECIALLY BAD PLAN when that guy’s in a crowd and you don’t know who he’s with. So, it seems to me that whomever did this won’t be able to contain themselves and should be blabbing to their friends soon enough… Either that, or maybe someone DID catch it on tape…….

~Bill Cammack

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Are you trapped in your relationship? :) Do you have like ZERO options other than your current girlfriend/wife as far as kickin’ it with chicks? :) If this is the case, then PLEEEEEEEASE don’t try *ANYTHING* I post to this blog as far as techniques on how to get women or how to treat women or how to carry yourself around women, hahaha :D Read this blog for entertainment purposes or if you’d like to fantasize about living life the way you actually imagined it, but DO *NOT* try any of this stuff with a chick that you’re stuck with. You’re just asking for trouble. :D

If you’ve got like eight (8) kids with one chick or you live in the sticks and you’re dating the Sheriff’s daughter or you’re a bum and you have a Sugar Momma or you’re actually in love with some chick and you’re not gonna leave her regardless of what she says or does to you or any other trapped-ass situation… then do yourself a favor and don’t try to carry yourself like single guys do. Leave the fun stuff to the guys livin’ that life, and you do what YOU have to do to maintain your existence as-is.

Make no mistake, I’m not knocking getting married and having kids. If that’s what honestly floats your boat, more power to ya, and I’m happy for ya. :D What I’m saying is that if being stuck with one chick was NOT your plan for your life, but it turned out that way… play it where it lays. Recognize what the right thing to do is for YOU at this point in time and live your life properly, where you feel like when it’s all over, you did the best thing for yourself and everyone else involved with you. Don’t bother trying to be what you wanted to be when you’re stuck being what you HAVE to be.

I’ve been thinking about this for a few reasons. Reader “Frank” made this comment on “Ladies: How To Tell He Has A Girlfriend”:

Frank: Asabi: yes I have a GF and I actually do joke around with her about things. I have actually walked away from convos with her friends by saying ‘sweety, you getting played’! If any guys are reading and taking notes about the simple pimp move of buying everyone the same perfume, thats all good because you too just read it. Growing up is what many of us have done which is why we can joke about this stuff at this point in life. Yes, I did the buy 4 girls the same keychain from VS once just for the hell of it, but no, I would not do so now! Having done it or been around people who did/do it still, gives me an insight that I have no problem sharing. Buying two chicks the same perfume – Gangsta! hearing “Uh, no honey I haven’t worn it around you yet, why do you smell like that”? – PRICELESS! :D

I do think woman need to listen to the playas in the crowd and ake notes. How ever disgusted you may be, archive what you just heard, it will probably come in handy for you or a friend later.
I don’t mind giving up some of the basic secrets since im not on the prowl.

Besides the sage advice for guys of buying the same perfume for different chicks, hahaha and the excellent advice for women to take notes when guys that are used to running circles around chicks are talking… The point Frank makes is that while he still HAS his game in mind, he doesn’t utilize it because he’s with someone that he really enjoys, cares about, whatever… and he feels INSPIRED to be focused on HER. I think that’s fantastic. It’s extremely important for a guy to have a proper view of what’s going on in his life so he doesn’t try some playboy ish he read in a blog and jack up a good thing.

Another reason I was thinking about this is I watched this movie, well, the movie was garbage, so I actually FFed through it, but this guy had a girlfriend who got mad at him for some reason they chose not to develop properly in the script. So she storms out of the house, talking all this yang, and you don’t see her for I don’t know how long, because I was fast forwarding haha. So the next time you see her, she’s all gleeful and runs up on the guy she stormed out on and jumps into his arms and kisses him and he’s all happy to see her. :D

Now, I know this was a movie, but guys go out like this all the time IRL. I’m thinking, looking at this garbage… Where are the “Consequences & Repercussions” from her catching an attitude, acting like an asshole and breaking north with no delay? Where’s the conversation about her behavior? According to the script, dude gladly accepted her back as if everything was regular. There are at least two problems with this:

1) By accepting her weird-ass behavior, you’re labeling her a PSYCHO and admitting that you don’t care about that. It’s basically like, regardless of how retarded you are, I’m still gonna hit it. That has to do WONDERS for your own self-esteem and completely enables her to continue being a JERK.

2) By taking her back without conversation & resolution, you’re admitting that you didn’t have JACK better to do than to wait for her to come around. Witness your leverage plummet to sub-zero. The next time she feels like acting out, you’re going to be the victim *AGAIN*, and you’re going to keep grinning about it, too.

So I’m thinking to myself… “What were the script-writers thinking when they figured out this scenario?”. It’s got to be that the guy either CAN’T GET a better girl or DOESN’T WANT a different girl. There’s nothing wrong with either scenario, but if that describes YOUR LIFE… then Act As If and Act Like You Know! :D

If you’re not gonna leave her, REGARDLESS, then don’t act like a decision-maker. Don’t act like you’re “wearing the pants in the family”. Play your position and do what you gotta do. Make that weekly trip to her Grandmother’s house to spend the ENTIRE DAY with her extended family and not doing ANYTHING that *YOU* wanted to do the whole time. Hit that mall with her on Saturdays so you can hold her bags and sit with other dudes on the benches, looking like lost kids at the security booth waiting for their parents to pick them up. Take your five (5) kids to the zoo while you dream about being at the strip club. Watch one of the myriad dumb-ass reality shows they have on television now about dancing or talent or whatnot instead of checking out the latest MMA fights. Buy that SUV or minivan that everyone can fit into instead of that Corvette or Porsche or bike.

A good friend of mine… we’ll call him “Hal”… messed up and got this chick pregnant that he was kickin’ it with. I can still see his pained face… exactly… right this second. I hope I never forget it, because it was REAL. I was looking at the face of a guy whose life was about to go TOTALLY not how he planned it, and it was killing him. :( … OTOH… It was clear from our conversation that it would have killed him MORE to not be a father to his child. The kid wasn’t even “out yet”, and already he was devastated, yet prepared to “do the right thing” as he saw it and live into his responsibilities. I’m SO grateful that “Hal” shared that with me when he was in the midst of that angst. For me, it was an unique experience. I know lots of other guys that have had accidental kids, but if they had emotions other than ANGER or feeling STUPID, they never let me know about it. “Hal” was honestly devastated and was obviously really hurt by the change in his life’s direction. Within his devastation, though, was HONOR… His pain was the pain of sacrifice that one person honorably makes for another, as firemen do and as soldiers do in wars. HIs focus was shifting, and he didn’t like it, but he was gonna carry that weight.

A few years later, I was in contact with “Hal”, and his son was his best friend. He had completely grown into his new life, accepted it and was making a GREAT life out of it, so props to him! :D

Another reason I wanted to write this is that about 70% of my hits come from Google Searches. People that search Google for dating advice receive information completely out of context. Anybody who actually knows The Kid can tell you that as nice of a guy as I am, I’m completely selfish and self-centered. It’s all about *ME*. Love it or Leave it. :D If YOU aren’t the type of guy to think “This chick is a JERK, and I can do a hell of a lot better than HER!”, then this blog isn’t for you. :) If you’ve got your mind or heart set on one chick, or circumstances have trapped you into a relationship you’re gonna be in until you croak, then get some laughs from my posts, tell your homeboys about it while you’re all sitting on those benches in the malls, holding your wives’ shopping bags and purses, dream about a different life, live vicariously, do whatever you have to do to make living life worthwhile…

Just don’t try some acrobatic ish you read on a blog in a relationship you actually care about or NEED. Leave the playboy ish to the players. Enjoy what YOU have and the way YOUR life’s going. The single life is *NOT* for the faint of heart.

Ya HEARD???? :D

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